Noticing people in heels

[maninboots]

I tend to spend nearly all of my time looking and taking notice of what people are wearing on their feet, if a woman is wearing a nice pair of heels and particularly boots i will spot them from 50 yards, if a man passes me in a pair of heels or boots i would definitely spot them from 100 yards, so why does nobody ever take any notice of what I’m wearing, I’m a man in public wearing high heels boots and nobody bats an eye lid, i don’t try to hide them, if people sit near to me i deliberately position my feet so they can’t help but see them but still no reaction what so ever, does any body else experience this and are you as frustrated with it as i am, would welcome your thoughts 

[Shyheels]

Why do you want people to notice? Or react? Isn’t the fact that you are apparently accepted without demur a good thing? Or are you wearing heels to be noticed? 

 

[maninboots]

8 minutes ago, Shyheels said:

Why do you want people to notice? Or react? Isn’t the fact that you are apparently accepted without demur a good thing? Or are you wearing heels to be noticed? 

 

Yeah good point, the fact nobody is taking any notice is a sign of acceptance which can only be good, but if i get my hair cut then people usually comment that it looks nice or at least acknowledge that I’ve had it cut so if you’ve brought some nice new boots it would be nice sometimes if someone gave a comment of some sort 

[Shyheels]

Friends might comment on something like that, but not many strangers would. You might look and notice what people wear, but do you often then follow up - accost strangers and pass compliments on their footwear?  

I cannot recall ever having a stranger come up and remark either on my haircut or any of my clothes. I have had compliments - occasionally, from aficionados - about my bicycles, but never about anything I am wearing.

[Cali]

I wore my Manji heels, 5 inch heels while shopping the women's shoe section at Macy's last week. The women working the boots section didn't even notice that I was in heels. Just went to the open air fruit market and nobody really noticed.  Just get use to it and enjoy your heels.

[Pierre1961]

I got my first congratulations 3 days ago, from 2 African women,in the elevator in CDG Paris airport. " oh! You are wearing heels! That's nice! 

In general or people don't notice,or notice and have only a short glance,or do notice and probably think I am crazy. The worst attitude comes  from middle age,not sexy at all ,baggy dressed women when they are with their husband.Or from men ,obviously narrow minded,also middle age.The ones you would hate to have as a neighbor.

I am not searching to be noticed .I just feel good in my heels and feeling as being inside my own bubble. 

As Maninboots,I can notice a woman in heels from 50 meters.Never had the chance to see any guy in heels.

Some women are naturally walking so nicely that I am sure they are wearing heels,but ,what a disappointment : ugly sneakers on their feet ! That doesn't happen so often. 

 

[maninboots]

These are good points you are making and yes you are all right, now i come to think about it I’ve never gone up to a stranger and complimented them on their clothes so why should i expect people to do that to me, i do enjoy engaging in conversation about men wearing heels and boots but realistically have to expect that random people aren’t going to do that, I’ll keep on enjoying what I’m doing though 

[Shyheels]

Yes, wear what you like because you like to wear it, not for others - purely for yourself. 

[MackyHeels]

1 hour ago, maninboots said:

I tend to spend nearly all of my time looking and taking notice of what people are wearing on their feet, if a woman is wearing a nice pair of heels and particularly boots i will spot them from 50 yards, if a man passes me in a pair of heels or boots i would definitely spot them from 100 yards, so why does nobody ever take any notice of what I’m wearing, I’m a man in public wearing high heels boots and nobody bats an eye lid, i don’t try to hide them, if people sit near to me i deliberately position my feet so they can’t help but see them but still no reaction what so ever, does any body else experience this and are you as frustrated with it as i am, would welcome your thoughts 

Do the exact same, in fact i recognize people better by their shoes rather than the face.  Suppose because i look down a lot so the first things i look upon is there feet and unique shoes people wear.  Rarely do i see the exact same shoe worn by people colour style etc..

Do have the same thoughts or beef why others aren't initially staring upon my heels. There two thoughts that come to mind, happens to woman as well. If your outfitted to be seen very outlandish, maybe what some may describe as overly dressed for the location, then people tend to ignore your fashion style. In their mind  believing you want attention and don't know how to dress for the situation, so they rather not give you the satisfaction ignoring what your wearing. Have that happen to me even overheard females discussing that i want people to look upon me that's the reason he wears this or that or showing off. So there mindset is anger hating me, thinking best not to give him the satisfaction and just maybe he will stop wearing whatever  it is.

Second thought is people find it impolite to stare so they subtly initially look but do themselves a favour not to take a double take. Thinking whatever he is wearing is completely wrong and embarrassing for him to be seen in public. So best keep your eyes off him so they won't laugh out loud creating a scene or making obvious judgement to there negative opinion. People don't want to look at gruesome images of someone they believe isn't in there taste of fashion sense. So they look away thinking he looks horrible frightened that he may be insane. If people glance upon him giving off mixed signals, he may interpret it as open door to befriend whomever is looking. People want to be left alone not cause confusion to strangers that could be potentially crazy not respecting people privacy or space.

Believe me woman in particular notice ever aspect to my style even though i don't observe them staring. Often need to see someone with open mouth stares gawking looking at me to be satisfied that they clearly recognized my outfit or body. While that rarely happens woman notice me quicker then i see them before i know it, they made clear head to toe scan what i'm wearing.

Good example is when i'm on the nude beach. When i see a woman 100 yards away she clearly notices me as well. It's easier to stare upon someone at a distance without feeling they know your focused only on them. See clothed woman taken aback when strolling along the beach from a distance observing me. Once they get closer in passing they have there head down or look in entire different direction away from me. Amusing to observe this phenomena because clearly i seen the woman react upon my nude body while  i was standing by the shallow water from a great distance. 

Edited October 7, 2018 by MackyHeels

[p1ng74]

Yes, noticing someone’s shoes and opening up to strangers to talk about them may be two different things.  People notice my cowboy boots and it leaves a memorable impression, even in Texas.  You don’t initially realize how much people make a mental note but say nothing, until you see someone for the second time and they say “I remember you, you are the guy who wears cowboy boots.”  Or a person talks to someone else and says “I met this guy today, and he was wearing cowboy boots.”  

Conversations with strangers about my shoes are not as frequent, but still relatively regular, happening around once a week.  I’m not sure if it is due to where I live, or even something about the way I make eye contact with strangers that indicates that I might be open to conversation.  These are beyond canned “nice boots” compliments. I get comments like “Wow those boots look really comfortable” or “I can’t believe you are wearing boots when it is this hot outside” which are hooks for deeper discussions about boots that can lead to stories about how you found them, etc.  

And all this is just from wearing cowboy boots with a 2” heel.  It would be safe to say that high heels get noticed, even if no one says anything.  In my opinion, the more comfortable you get with your fashion choices, the more open you look to talking about them through subtle expressions and eye contact, and the conversations might come.  

[pebblesf]

19 hours ago, maninboots said:

I tend to spend nearly all of my time looking and taking notice of what people are wearing on their feet, if a woman is wearing a nice pair of heels and particularly boots i will spot them from 50 yards, if a man passes me in a pair of heels or boots i would definitely spot them from 100 yards, so why does nobody ever take any notice of what I’m wearing, I’m a man in public wearing high heels boots and nobody bats an eye lid, i don’t try to hide them, if people sit near to me i deliberately position my feet so they can’t help but see them but still no reaction what so ever, does any body else experience this and are you as frustrated with it as i am, would welcome your thoughts 

Same here buddy, I usually notice people from the boots up....I'm just wired that way I guess.  I'm not afraid to admit that I crave positive affirmation a bit also.  Yes, feeling good about the way I look in boots should be enough, but I think we all hope others will appreciate our foot wear choices as well.  Please know that others do notice your boots, but usually won't comment for all the reasons mentioned here.  Men will notice also, but are much less likely to say anything for all the silly reasons society tries to impose on us.  And, I feel the loudest criticisms usually are shielding jealousy and frustration.  Females might be envious because you look so good, men are frustrated because they just don't have the guts to wear the boots they most secretly admire/desire to wear. 

I have been getting a bit more bold about wearing my boots around my coworkers on layovers.  I was working with a young guy on my last trip, he eagerly admitted he loved my Frye cowgirl booties when we went out for dinner the other night, that made me feel good.  I did not say much except the usual "thankyou", we were with other crewmembers and I did not feel he really wanted to engage in a boot discussion.  Secretly, I wished he was my same shoe size, would have offered to let him try out my boots. 

[Cali]

I notice shoes now more than ever. Since I wear heels constantly I need to be aware of where I place my foot. If I see a woman with nice shoes I will simply say "nice heels" or "nice boots" as I pass. No effort to engage them in shoe talk, just a simple acknowledgement that I like their footwear.

When I see a woman who obviously is looking at my heels I will sometimes ask "Do you like them as I pass?" I did this on Thursday, and the women responded, "very much so." 

I am also very surprise how many men in the past six weeks that have told me they like my heels or boots as well.  This has really surprise me.

[Heelster]

This is all a bit funny - - - I just walked around a casino in East Chicago - - - - and I don't think anyone noticed. Not that I was blatant about the visuals, but to a trained eye, it was obvious.

That was boring - !!

 

 

[pebblesf]

4 hours ago, Cali said:

I notice shoes now more than ever. Since I wear heels constantly I need to be aware of where I place my foot. If I see a woman with nice shoes I will simply say "nice heels" or "nice boots" as I pass. No effort to engage them in shoe talk, just a simple acknowledgement that I like their footwear.

When I see a woman who obviously is looking at my heels I will sometimes ask "Do you like them as I pass?" I did this on Thursday, and the women responded, "very much so." 

I am also very surprise how many men in the past six weeks that have told me they like my heels or boots as well.  This has really surprise me.

Yeah, most guys notice for sure....Cali is helping to slowly "normalize" the trend of men in heels, thanks buddy!

[Cali]

If you walk and act like nothing is different, then many people don't even notice your heels even when they are 5 inches. Can't say the same when I wear a pair of my knee high suede boots and shorts.

[jetheelsfan]

Some look at the eyes first as they notice someone; others look at the middle body parts while my first look is usually at the foot-ware.  That has been part of me since kindergarten when I was embarrassed not to know the difference between black patent and black shoes.  

[pebblesf]

12 hours ago, Cali said:

If you walk and act like nothing is different, then many people don't even notice your heels even when they are 5 inches. Can't say the same when I wear a pair of my knee high suede boots and shorts.

Well, I don't know if they don't notice, but surely confidence is the key to success for sure!  Most of us here (and like minded folks outside of HHP)  key in on a person's footwear and always notice.  Our mistake is to "assume" that others focus on heels the way that we do!  Most folks are too busy to notice (usually buried in cell phones), or they are focusing on other things that concern them at the time.... 

9 hours ago, jetheelsfan said:

Some look at the eyes first as they notice someone; others look at the middle body parts while my first look is usually at the foot-ware.  That has been part of me since kindergarten when I was embarrassed not to know the difference between black patent and black shoes.  

Seems like we are "wired" alike!

[jeremy1986]

I cant comment on people noticing MY heels, since I have never ventured out....

but I pretty much ALWAYS notice womens shoes, and can generally guess a woman is wearing heel by her gait, and sometimes even guess the heels correctly

 

[subtle]

2 hours ago, jeremy1986 said:

but I pretty much ALWAYS notice womens shoes, and can generally guess a woman is wearing heel by her gait, and sometimes even guess the heels correctly

Right, sometimes sound, calve shape, or even upper body posture.

 

[Pierre1961]

Gait for the eyes. Sound for the ears. 

[jeremy1986]

17 hours ago, subtle said:

Right, sometimes sound, calve shape, or even upper body posture.

 

exactly. Usually the posture and leg movement

[HappyinHeels]

maninboots,

The fact you are wearing the footwear of your choice without fanfare or tangible signs of negative interaction is your best evidence you are making the world accept you on your terms and not theirs.  I have talked about this before. Much of the reason many of us came here was to interact with like-minded others who like wearing heels even though they are probably men. It doesn't mean you are in the fast lane to sexual reassignment surgery as some may erroneously conclude rather you just want to express yourself with the same latitude as the women do. You notice other heels because you are conditioned to look for them whereas most other people are distracted with other things like talking to whomever they are with or playing with their phone. I think Shyheels made a good point that you are accomplishing what you want without any ill effects. That's really what you wanted!! You are not wearing your heels for attention rather for your own enjoyment. One thing I would conclude about a man, or woman, who wear particularly tall heels is that each of them is a supremely confident person who is not to be messed with. I have also talked before about the need to exude confidence which the world does notice and does respect. Keep doing what you are doing and that confidence will become a virtually inexhaustible fuel source the rest of your life. Confidence is only gained by doing and not by thinking about doing. I salute you on your progress! HappyinHeels

[pebblesf]

9 hours ago, HappyinHeels said:

maninboots,

The fact you are wearing the footwear of your choice without fanfare or tangible signs of negative interaction is your best evidence you are making the world accept you on your terms and not theirs.  I have talked about this before. Much of the reason many of us came here was to interact with like-minded others who like wearing heels even though they are probably men. It doesn't mean you are in the fast lane to sexual reassignment surgery as some may erroneously conclude rather you just want to express yourself with the same latitude as the women do. You notice other heels because you are conditioned to look for them whereas most other people are distracted with other things like talking to whomever they are with or playing with their phone. I think Shyheels made a good point that you are accomplishing what you want without any ill effects. That's really what you wanted!! You are not wearing your heels for attention rather for your own enjoyment. One thing I would conclude about a man, or woman, who wear particularly tall heels is that each of them is a supremely confident person who is not to be messed with. I have also talked before about the need to exude confidence which the world does notice and does respect. Keep doing what you are doing and that confidence will become a virtually inexhaustible fuel source the rest of your life. Confidence is only gained by doing and not by thinking about doing. I salute you on your progress! HappyinHeels

Well said indeed....

[HappyinHeels]

Thanks pebblesf, I appreciate that. HinH

[MackyHeels]

Today went to do errands. Went to Costco wearing skinny crop jeans and leather black sneakers and jacket. Thought many woman wouldn’t be wearing anything special least any heels. Go figure lot of booties not very high clunky heels two inches at the most. One female in leggings with a long coat but four or five inch block heel. 

Went home to drop off some groceries and make another stop elsewhere.. Decided to change into my block suede booties and suede camel moto jacket. Standing in line at my first stop behind me was Dad and his older teenage daughter. They definitely noticed my outfit few chuckles behind my back but they behaved themselves. While my other stop at a clothing outlet I was looking through woman’s section for designer leather denim leggings disappointed at my sizing they  didn’t have sold out, While noticing few females taken aback at my outfit felt I looked trendy casual with great fit and shape. Felt confident enough then older woman were browsing near me and were talking in euro language I didn’t understand. They couldn’t see me initially because of the clothing racks but began to  chackle unrealated to me I thought. Maybe because I was shopping in the ladies section they found it odd and funny. As they came around back of me I could tell of the tone of there chatter I must of been discussed. As one to the other chatted they could clearly see me from my bootie heels all the way up. Then the laughter of the woman became more prominent versus the other. Believe each had a turn noticing my outfit at different times. Ordinarily it would of bothered me, looking back at them. For whatever reason I knew I looked great only I couldn’t say that to anyone I observed in the store shopping. While those 50 plus year old euro woman seemed  close minded, knew the type. Probably never seen a man in female clothes before or ever. While nothing exciting to purchase I began to walk out the door with the chackle laughter behind my back. Thought to myself these hags don’t know how to fashion themselves or know the difference between designer clothes or discount items. Let them have at it seemingly buying ugly clothes on some bad backward thinking woman.  Yet I left not fazed or thinking about them at all or burden  on my shoulders to carry on thinking about it on my next stop, quite contrary let it slide without any grief. Think it’s my first time not caring about what these hags or anyone were laughing upon what I was wearing. 

Just letting others know woman can act child like. Yet I don’t care how they view me wearing my outfit today. Only glanced upon the woman as they moved around me initially very bland styled indeed. If there was anyone to laugh should of been me knowing these euro females desperately seeking some style. Yet something told me with sly smile on my face they need a lot of luck... I’m positive a younger trendier female would winch upon these loud vocal euro hags.

Just didn’t surprise me when I was hearing there loud chatter walking into my section. Knew  euro females like them are traditional so having an reaction upon looking at my heels legging jeans was to be expected.  

Anyone else feel the same way when you observe others chatting away stereotype assuming there reaction to your outfit heels and all. 

Edited October 14, 2018 by MackyHeels

[Pumped]

Macky, I was wearing a pair of western styled ankle boots at a party and one women practically shouted, "what are those boots you are wearing!" everyone got quiet and she made another comment which I have forgotten, but it was clear she did not like my choice of footwear. I just gave her a "look" and mentioned that I don't normally take fashion advice from some one wearing sweat pants, sweatshirt and trainers bought at Walmart, which is what she was wearing, typical lazy woman's fashion. I got a chuckle from a few people that were watching this unfold and that was the end of it.

[Shyheels]

Nice reply. 

I cannot imagine being that rude to anybody no matter what they were wearing. It simply isn't my business. 

[MackyHeels]

Sometimes there are woman that voice what they are thinking. Although uncomfortable to hear such negative query and opinion of ones outfit. It can be said there completely honest rather the silent types who have a sour puss expression and mocking laugh from a distance. Yet whenever your friendly or in there space they ignore you or keep a safe distance. 

Easy to find negative attributes on someone that dislikes you. Guess it’s a defence mechanism we need to feel better of ourself after negative comments. We always can find negative opinions about someone who dislikes us for what we wear. 

What would you do when your in vicinity of attractive woman looking great. Yet she is initially oblivious to what your wearing, busy thanking people upon their compliments of her style, body so into herself self absorbed trying to look perfect.  Then someone from her group points you out in negative manner in comparison. Then you see there visible reaction because of your outfit how unaccepting and judgemental they view you. How do you deal with that? 

Take the pictures of the fit woman Shaunna for example. 

Ever have experience difficulty to shake off when female for example sake like Shaunna below shows disgust for your outfit then snubs you because of it. Or her group of friends bold, drunk, forward and intrigued ask me  why are you wearing such and such heels or those leggings? Your a man right? Gay? no,   have a girlfriend, no,  so  help us understand, then give off a salty expression from whatever your trying to explain. Or others in the group tell them why your wasting time talking  to him for, he’s a freak get away from him join us. 

Yet you notice from a distance the same group gathered about likely talking about me but  Shaunna having this stoic stiff expression not wanting to look in any direction  not wanting by accident noticing me, Explains to her fan group she is frightened to look noticing him because she may fall sick to her stomach to the laughter of others. While others agree at her comments describing her it's bad, yet many giggle laughing in agreement with Shaunna then do the comparison her to me. While others offer humour to the discussion telling Shaunna that his legs or tan may look better appearing less muscular and same as  hers. Asking her to offer training advice to him so he can look better in sarcastic manner. While she finds the comments troubling wanting to change the topic, uncomfortable being compared to male wearing female attire. While others gleefully mocking her sharing information, he's single and would be great potential boyfriend for Shaunna because she can be sharing same clothes and heels out on dates,  you both can be doubling your wardrobe it's a win win like having twin sister, to her dismay reaction, and laughter of her female admiring group.

Often woman like Shaunna type want the attention solely on her. While in truth what i wear often is something woman would want to own themselves. Just in a group mentality the overwhelming negative vibe persists that whatever male wears that is feminine is bad, disgusting silly, wrong. Yet take the same item leggings, jacket, heels on the woman she be applauded complimented how much they love it.

 

 

Always cause for concern when women gather around initially seeing some male like me dressed in feminine fashions heels, leggings etc.. Once they repeatedly notice me time after time they begin to change their tune individually. Often takes time but they find something about me that they see as attractive and enjoy observing without there peers talking into their ear on how unacceptable it is for male to wear. In fact they compliment me or wish to look wearing as good as me. Believe most women get passed the initial gender binary rules of conceding that i won't change my style for traditional masculine appearance. Then notice the positive side of people and compliment them even expect it from me to wear feminine styles, even discuss their opinions what they want to wear or purchase.

Only in the workplace i find woman have to be more accepting to what i wear. If they speak in negative light they can be fired for comments made. Funny how i kept silent talking little to the woman listening to their opinions, making up a character profile of each one  etc.. Then as i slowly introduced female attire they realized what i was wearing and become more friendly then initially appeared in male attire. I felt amused at there clear wall they built with me earlier thinking because i was quite i was weird. Now they see what i wear they know that i have particular taste in my style that lines up to feminine traits. Heard male co-worker question how some woman knows exactly what someone wears he couldn't do that. All the females subtly eyeball my outfit at work from the very fashion conscious females so amusing to observe being scanned head to toe or being followed from the back when walking. Yet i feel they are amused seeing a male wear clothes they desire and have made judgement of me which lets down the wall they built up. Knowing some of the woman they probably think i'm gay which they feel comfortable to become more friendlier towards me. Little do they know there assumptions are wrong but i'm not complaining seeing i 'm now accepted more friendlier manner in there group. Either that or there loving my clothes feeling friendlier bond because what i wear. Nice to be noticed.

Edited October 14, 2018 by MackyHeels
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[bambam]

Who is this Marie? Why do you have so many pics of her?

[MackyHeels]

53 minutes ago, bambam said:

Who is this Marie? Why do you have so many pics of her?

Sorry i meant shaunna marie npc bikini athlete and fitness coach.

Edited October 14, 2018 by MackyHeels