kneehighs Posted June 11, 2011 Author Posted June 11, 2011 Insights on women who support men in heels. In my experiences dating, there are two types of woman that I've found that are more open to dating a guy in heels than your average girl. This presupposes basic social skills and basic hygiene, clean clothes, no body odor (yes, there are guys from here I've met with body odor). 1. Swedish women. I think it's their culture of equality. Rich and poor. class distinctions are less pronounced than in the States, let alone NYC. Gender equality is more readily accepted. Sex equality is more pronounced in Sweden than in the States. Again, this is my personal experience, so I can't speak for others here. Of all the Swedish women I've ever met, they've all been supportive of my wearing heels. 2. Girls that grew up without mothers. When the role model from which the stereotypical association that heels are only for women isn't present in early childhood or died while the girl was still young, these girls have generally encouraged me to wear heels. I'm not saying you should run out and join a Swedish dating site looking for a girl who grew up without her mother, but they are interesting patterns nonetheless. Perhaps another trip to Stockholm this August is in the works though... Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
kneehighs Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 Finally! I did it! A first date in shorts and heels! Black leather shorts, linen blue women's blazer, green v neck t, black 3.5" oxford heels. Kissing already on Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Steve63130 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 What about the legs? Not bare and hairy, I hope! Green tights to match the t-shirt? Or black to match the shoes? Tell us! Steve
kneehighs Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 What about the legs? Not bare and hairy, I hope! Green tights to match the t-shirt? Or black to match the shoes? Tell us! Steve Ah I shaved my legs, so I was beautifully bare legged. They were so slippery I could've done 100 mph on one of those slip-n-slide backyard water sport things. I'm surprised I didn't slide right off the seats in the bar and cab. She loved my outfit, especially the blazer with shorts. She tried to take an iPhone pic of my heels and said in 2 separate parts of the convo how she loved how I paired a blazer with shorts and later tried to take an iPhone photo of my heels. Her remarks about my shoes were limited to "I love how you wear heels". I left the talk about heels to that. I find it very unnecessary anymore trying to talk about heels either for the personal buzz it used to give me or to "convert" others. It's a personal milestone for me for sure and something I need to work out of my system before I move into committed/exclusive territory. Ultimately though, wearing heels with shorts on a first date was anti-climactic as is heel wearing in general for me nowadays. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Shafted Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Ah I shaved my legs, so I was beautifully bare legged. They were so slippery I could've done 100 mph on one of those slip-n-slide backyard water sport things. I'm surprised I didn't slide right off the seats in the bar and cab. I kind of figured this would be the look. I really couldn't picture you in green tights kneehighs. Shafted, the boots that is! View my gallery here http://www.hhplace.o...afteds-gallery/ or view my heeling thread here http://www.hhplace.org/topic/3850-new-pair-of-boots-starts-me-serious-street-heeling/ - Pm me if you want fashion advice or just need someone to talk to.
kneehighs Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 erm, colored tights is a bit too Peter Pan for me, but it was a fair and sincere question. The experience last night actually brought about additional personal insight for me. No matter how I choose to wear my heels, whether it's pumps with skinny jeans or shorts and heels, the effect on me is conclusively anti-climactic. It's just such a complete non-event that making a big deal about a good event (which includes writing about it here) is incongruous with my inner experience. This insight will be important when it comes to final selection of a life mate for myself. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
roniheels Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Kneehighs, Congrats on your venture in shorts and high heels. I have preached to the masses to wear what you want and boldly go out in public in one's outfit and high heels. But I must confess that the only times I have worn high heels with shorts in public is when I tried on some high heels in stores while I was wearing shorts. Not too long ago I wore my thighboots on the outside of my jeans in public and journeyed to several different places in that attire. Maybe I will take a deep breath and go out in shorts and high heels. Time will tell. Thanks again for your update.
danielp6406 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Finally! I did it! A first date in shorts and heels! Black leather shorts, linen blue women's blazer, green v neck t, black 3.5" oxford heels. Kissing already on Leather shorts and heels ? Wow ! I always wear heels with jeans or trouser. Never tried to wear short and heels. ( And I think I never will since I don't have the proper leg shape LOL ) I must say you got a lot of ..... to do so. Well done !
kneehighs Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 Leather shorts and heels ? Wow ! I always wear heels with jeans or trouser. Never tried to wear short and heels. ( And I think I never will since I don't have the proper leg shape LOL ) I must say you got a lot of ..... to do so. Well done ! Thanks for the compliment. I should note that leather shorts were really popular last summer from the runways. If worn properly, project a man in touch with how he can incorporate women's fashion trends with his own style. That's attractive to a lot of women. Honestly though, I really don't represent the night to myself as a noteworthy accomplishment, which could potentially reinforce (both to myself and others) that it requires "superhuman courage" to wear heels when it really doesn't. I do give myself kudos for passing that personal milestone/achieving that goal on a 1st date. I grew. Event = I wore heels with shorts on a first date Belief about that event = I control my fears, I grow in authenticity Consequence = I feel confident and congruent Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
kneehighs Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 I'm going to make a quick post in reflection over the last few days here in Brussels. I wore my heeled oxfords out two nights now. Both times, pre-existing alpha males from witihin their own social circle were buying me drinks all night long. Tonights total liquor investment = 0 euros. And on both nights, I had no problems meeting new women. If I didn't value going to Brugge early tomorrow morning more than getting laid, I'd be sleeping with a girl who tried to pick me up tonight. Alas, I value my rare time in Belgium more than a quick lay that might "f" up my sleep schedule and possibly cost me my trip to Brugge. On the upside, I did close a date tomorrow night with one of the hottest tickets at the whole party. Despite my heels being in full view the whole time, I was able to create and sustain social status upon meeting a new group of people. I won the respect of the males and garnered attraction from multiple females. I have learned that how I respond on the inside to myself wearing heels around new people is more important than how those others may react. At the beginning, if the reaction from within my body is a rapid heart beat, then I know that's unresolved fear, and not a proportional response to the isolated external event. Even after the calm surfaces and my body feels relaxed, if I still feel like I want to go back to wearing flats, I recognize that at that point, it's my normal desire to stick with what I'm familiar with. And growing out of the comfort zone isn't a game of beating social stigma fears anymore, it's a discipline of doing what's true to my inner desires. This whole thought process starts and stops within a matter of about 1 minute. Ciao my friends, I have some sleep to get. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
roniheels Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Kneehighs, Congratulations on your last outings. I think your attitude toward wearing high heels in public is addictive and inspirational to all of us who wear high heels in public. Please keep us posted on your next adventures.
SleekHeels Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 Congrats on what sounds like a great couple of evenings kneehighs. The "anti-climactic" thing is really interesting. Trying to relate that to my experiences I feel that both the buzz and the fear do seem to be in the anticipation, while describing the actual heel-wearing part as a "non-event" is not to say it's mundane but rather that the significance of the event is in its insignificance - it's actually quite momentous to be able to express yourself in such a free and natural way. I guess maybe(?) that's what you meant when you said "something I need to work out of my system", that not being hung up about chasing the buzz or being chased by the fear gives the personality in the heels a chance to grow. The idea of going on a date in heels but being able to engage beyond the heels as people is very inspiring indeed. If you like it, wear it.
StormClaw Posted July 11, 2011 Posted July 11, 2011 Nice outing kneehighs.Makes me positive about meeting women since Im single as well.Let us know how the date goes,will you be wearing heels on the date?
kneehighs Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 Nice outing kneehighs.Makes me positive about meeting women since Im single as well.Let us know how the date goes,will you be wearing heels on the date? Man, if you can imagine succeeding with girls while wearing heels, you will succeed to whatever extent you define your success. Your body can't tell the difference between what you imagine and what you actually experience. So imagine yourself feeling confident, playful, flirty. And success with girls isn't how the girls respond to you. Success is how you respond to yourself when the girls are present. If you feel like YOU are having fun, if you feel like you are entertaining yourself, if you feel like YOU are feeling flirty and sexy, then the girls will feel that too. So ask yourself, "how can I feel fun, how can I self-entertain?" Do it for yourself, not for a reaction or response from the girls. What you feel, the girls will feel. Then you will live your dreams. In heels. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Pumps Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 1. Swedish women. I think it's their culture of equality. Rich and poor. class distinctions are less pronounced than in the States, let alone NYC. Gender equality is more readily accepted. Sex equality is more pronounced in Sweden than in the States. Again, this is my personal experience, so I can't speak for others here. Of all the Swedish women I've ever met, they've all been supportive of my wearing heels. While you are correct about swedish society being more equal that most other places on earth, I don't find swedish women very accepting of men in heels. And that's after 9 years in Sweden. Of course I can't compare with women in NY, since I have not been heeling there. And also Stockholm and the rest of Sweden are like 2 different countries, so perhaps it should be "women from Stockholm" ?
kneehighs Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 While you are correct about swedish society being more equal that most other places on earth, I don't find swedish women very accepting of men in heels. And that's after 9 years in Sweden. Of course I can't compare with women in NY, since I have not been heeling there. And also Stockholm and the rest of Sweden are like 2 different countries, so perhaps it should be "women from Stockholm" ? I respect that's how you experience it. But my experience is different from your's to the tune of my original words, "This is my personal experience, so I can't speak for others here." Good to see a post from you. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
kneehighs Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 In 1 of the only nights during fashion month in which I have time to party, I wore my 3.5" heeled oxfords out with friends. Not a peep from any of them, about 7 girls and 1 guy in the group. After a stroll down the street, the guy who happens to be gay, had to exclaim, "On my gawd, I love your shoes!!! (high volume please). Where did you get them?" "New York" I said playfully. "where in New York?" "New York City" I said playfully. "I know that, but where?" Meanwhile, this suddenly turned everyone's attention towards my shoes. Not the situation I wanted. So I just added, "That's an industry trade secret" and luckily, one of the girls who has a crush on me took my arm and hand and got between me and the guy, so he stopped trying to ask questions. #socially awkward moment Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Guest Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 oh yeah kneehighs, imbarrasing to say the least!
kneehighs Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 So I thought I'd drop in for a quick check in. My life now is such that I feel I pretty much have the choice of almost any girl I choose, regardless of where in the world they are or whether I am wearing heels or not. From meeting a girl on the street in London and taking her home (while in pumps) within 45 minutes to sleeping with girls in Stockholm (while closing the deal in heels) to having girls close me in Paris --heels are really a totally non event for the most part -- to having girls hit on me in Brussels while I was in heels....I think heels intrigue women and get them curious and the excitement and curiosity actually gets them attracted if you know how to transer it to yourself. They never really become a conversational topic in one on one settings. Occcasionally, someone in a group will bring them up, but that is the exception, not the norm. At this point in my life, I feel like I want to master attracting and sleeping with a few more women and then settle down on one special girl. Ultimately, I sincerely doubt the heels will be an issue. They are more like a type of music that I like as opposed to a deal breaker. Heels are more like a kind of music that I like, a kind of food that I like, an ethnic background etc....they are just a taste preference, like my favorite color or favorite actor, or favorite flavor of ice cream. They are just something that makes me, ME. So for now, I opt out...and check into my female friend in Vilnius, my friends in Riga, my friends in Tallinn, and my super sexy but objective friend in London. Can't wait to explore and experience! Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Puffer Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 All I can say, kneehighs, is that your restraint, chastity and modesty serves as an object lesson to us all.
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kneehighs Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 All I can say, kneehighs, is that your restraint, chastity and modesty serves as an object lesson to us all. An object lesson of what not to be. I know, I sound like I'm tooting my own horn and maybe, just maybe that's why I don't update much here. Everyone is entitled to their opinion about who I am in text, but I don't really care to be honest. I'm just authentically adventurous and ambitious and I'm not going to exchange my authenticity for approval. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
benno Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Having met Kneehighs in person, I can testify that if more people stopped bleating and started 'walking the walk', the world would wise up to men wearing better shoes far more quickly. I find his posts to be some of the most inspirational on this forum.
Gudulitooo Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Kneehighs, Weel said ! What do you mean "I sort out"? Are you tired of this fashion ? Also, did you try other activities than meeting girls and sleeping with girls in your life ? Regards
Thighbootguy Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 After following your adventures for some time... Your comment on your heels, "I think heels intrigue women and get them curious and the excitement and curiosity actually gets them attracted if you know how to transer it to yourself." sells your personality a little (a lot actually) short. I suspect you would have the same success if you were wearing flip-flops. (I never thought I would complement someone by saying they could wear flio-flops. ) I dream of a world where chickens can cross roads without having their motives questioned.
roniheels Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 An object lesson of what not to be. I know, I sound like I'm tooting my own horn and maybe, just maybe that's why I don't update much here. Everyone is entitled to their opinion about who I am in text, but I don't really care to be honest. I'm just authentically adventurous and ambitious and I'm not going to exchange my authenticity for approval. Very well said. And whether you aim to be or not, your authenticity in your posts has been an inspiration to not only myself, but others here at this site.
Gudulitooo Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Heels are more like a kind of music that I like, a kind of food that I like, an ethnic background etc....they are just a taste preference, like my favorite color or favorite actor, or favorite flavor of ice cream. After 2 months of public heeling, I found exactly the same conclusion, but only in a self perspective. It seems that it took you all these years to verify that it is also accepted this way in a girl's eye, and thus more generally in other peoples mind. Kneehighs, would you say that you were somehow bound to wearing heels in all these outings and meetings, thus supporting the "men in heels" fashion or fullfilling a kind of societal study ? Or otherwise do you think that heels have boosted your girl meeting power ? Finally, did you notice a change in your choice of male friends due to heels ? Regards.
Pumps Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 So for now, I opt out...and check into my female friend in Vilnius, my friends in Riga, my friends in Tallinn, and my super sexy but objective friend in London. Can't wait to explore and experience! I would think twice before heeling in eastern Europe. I don't think they will take it well. I never dared to do it.
kneehighs Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 I would think twice before heeling in eastern Europe. I don't think they will take it well. I never dared to do it. Thanks, I'm moderately aware of the risks involved with heeling in the Baltic States. Fortunaely, I'll be with locals in Vilnius, Riga, and Tallinn, so hopefully I should stay safe. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Steve63130 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Kneehighs, As one who has achieved much in your life so far and inspired many of us through your thoughtful and eloquent comments, you show signs of boredom with this forum. It's natural. You have risen to the top and there is nothing left for this forum to give you. BUT, please consider giving back. Consider that your experiences and posts can and do help and motivate others, especially newbies. We were all newbies once. We all experienced the nervousness and insecurity and thrill of wearing heels because of our social conditioning. You have gone way beyond that, however, and are highly qualified to be a teacher and example to others. So stick around, post more often, and do for others all that you're capable of doing here, so they in turn can rise to your level and pass on the motivation to future heelers who stumble onto this forum looking for help. We need more people like you here to contribute posts and keep this forum exciting. Don't consider bailing out now. You have so much to offer. Steve
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