kneehighs Posted June 29, 2009 Author Posted June 29, 2009 I didn't volunteer that I was wearing heels and she didn't notice until we bounced from the Thai restaurant to the Mexican restaurant. On the walk she took notice of my heels and said, "oh my god, you're wearing stilettos!". "you mean you didn't notice that earlier?"I asked. "no, I didn't" she replied. Then I held my leg out to the side and showed her that they were not stilettos, but thin heels nonetheless. Beyond that short conversation no additional inquiries were made about my heels. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Gary Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 WOW indeed! I need to go cool off: Reading this made me a little breathless!
danielp6406 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 ..."oh my god, you're wearing stilettos!". "you mean you didn't notice that earlier?"I asked. "no, I didn't" she replied.... Beyond that short conversation no additional inquiries were made about my heels. I'm impressed with her attitude. She is accepting you for who you are without asking more questions. She is open minded indeed. Good for you and well done
HappyFeat Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Love the live play-by-play so to speak! Quite impressive all the way around. And of course...WOW. Style is built from the ground up!
kneehighs Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 ^ Thanks! The transitions from post to post weren't perfectly calibrated, but whatever. One thing I forgot to mention. In my I-phone I have tons of photos that increase my value. Photos of me in Prague, Amsterdam, Barcelona, Dublin, photos of me skydiving in Argentina, parasailing in Mexico, photos of me in the New York Times talking to a model, and of course... Photos of me out with girls in heels (heels on their lap, doing shots from each others shoes, etc.). This builds "social proof" that other women accept me in heels and in the case of my photos, thoroughly enjoy them. The photos were a great way to captivate the girl's attention, made for really interesting conversation, and I deliberately sequenced through the "normal" photos first, building up solid value in her eyes. It's no coincidence that just a few minutes later, she suggested we do shots from each others shoes. Yahooooo!! Who to ask out next is the question? This girl now wants to go to South America with me. Yet, there are plenty of other 20 somethings that want to play. Ah yes, I relish the single life in New York City. (those of you who know me in real life know I have a serious side too..retirement accounts, condo, etc). Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
HappyinHeels Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Kneehighs, Just returned from a week in Peru. Business took me there but turned it into a vacation. Wonderful people, delicious food, and breathtaking scenery. Peru's Indian peoples appear conservative but are very peaceful and accepting of all others. I sometimes wore wedge sandals with fairly noticeable toe polish and clear polish on fingernails with no looks or problems at all. But nothing but very reliable tennis shoes when going up Machu Picchu! Wherever you're likely to go in South America you should enjoy it and will be welcomed everywhere whether in heels or not. Buen viaje!
vector Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Ah yes, I relish the single life in New York City. (those of you who know me in real life know I have a serious side too..retirement accounts, condo, etc). Does that (having a serious side) mean that you'll be doing those Don Equis commercials in the future!!! I think you already have the "most interesting man in the world" part sewn down!!! "...Stay thirsty my friend..." LOL
kneehighs Posted July 4, 2009 Author Posted July 4, 2009 In case anyone is curious about photos from my last adventure, the Soho lounge I go to doesn't allow picture taking, unless you are like with the NY Times or some other major media outlet. But anyhow, here is a photo of my date and a photo of what my shoes looked like from the top. Her arms are too heavy for her to be a model, but she still has great legs. In the second photo the part in her hairline is really messed up because we had traded tops really, really fast as the white top she is in is actually mine. We were having so much fun, it didn't even matter. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Bubba136 Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Now, she's looks like a really cute girl. And, judging from the impish grin on her face, a lot of fun, too. As to her arms being too big to be a model, as you know, there are other parts of a good looking woman that are used to model different thing. Hands, stockings (hose) shoes, slacks, blouses, etc....I'm sure that an "enterprising" young man like you could use your imagination and produce a portfolio that she could circulate amongst agents to find work....And, who knows, the exposure might even be enough to overcome the "heavy arms." Never forget that "heavy arms" are just fine to wrap round you when its loving time in NYC..... And while we're at it. Any time a man can walk away from a date with a smile on his face, humming a tune and thinking "we had so much fun---" Isn't that what it's all about? Congratulations on having a good time with a beautiful woman. Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public.
Thighbootguy Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Kneehighs- Thanks for posting the photos. It goes without saying (but I’ll say it anyway), you have great taste in tops. Cute girl to. I dream of a world where chickens can cross roads without having their motives questioned.
kneehighs Posted July 4, 2009 Author Posted July 4, 2009 Now, she's looks like a really cute girl. And, judging from the impish grin on her face, a lot of fun, too. As to her arms being too big to be a model, as you know, there are other parts of a good looking woman that are used to model different thing. Hands, stockings (hose) shoes, slacks, blouses, etc....I'm sure that an "enterprising" young man like you could use your imagination and produce a portfolio that she could circulate amongst agents to find work....And, who knows, the exposure might even be enough to overcome the "heavy arms." Never forget that "heavy arms" are just fine to wrap round you when its loving time in NYC..... And while we're at it. Any time a man can walk away from a date with a smile on his face, humming a tune and thinking "we had so much fun---" Isn't that what it's all about? Congratulations on having a good time with a beautiful woman. Thanks Bubba, those are some really thoughtful and kind words you wrote. As far as helping this girl goes though, such work would have to derive from a self-interest in my own career advancement as opposed to being the nice guy romantic. Frankly, she doesn't have enough connections in the circles I'm aiming to penetrate to be worth the effort really. I think the comment about her not being suitable for runway modeling derives from my sincere desire to see women as they see themselves. I doubt this girl would argue that point. It doesn't take away from my appreciation of my time with her though. I still think she's cute. A lot of guys I meet tend to put women on pedestals right from the get go. BIG mistake. That's part of the reason why they get intimidated by really beautiful women. But really beautiful women don't see themselves as many men see them. They see their insecurities about their beauty, how people are always sizing and judging their beauty, how people are critical of their flaws. Sometimes they even criticize themselves before others do. So I tend to see their flaws too, their insecurities, and their whole self. Not that people don't already know this, they just don't practice it enough. And many guys here are also WAY TOO nice to women. They emotionally overreach...going out of their way to please the girl, sometimes even compromising their own schedule, values, or friends to please the woman. Doing whatever it takes to get something may work. But applying the same actions and attitudes towards a person rarely creates pleasing results with women. Not only does this turn off women, it turns off the man from respecting himself in the long run. Yes, been there, done that. NEVER AGAIN. I totally love, love, love women, adore their company, and can't seem to get enough of them around me--really! BUT, I don't put them on a pedestal. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Dawn HH Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Kneehighs:-) Thanks for sharing the pics. She is a really cute girl and it appears that you are enjoying being in her company from time to time. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever!
Mr. X Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 She is a looker to me. I have had women ask about my shoes before. But never have I had a women ask to try something of mine on, wow!
Bubba136 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 As long as no one get's hurt in the process.....be nice, it pays off big to be genuinely nice.... Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public.
HappyFeat Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 OK, when I see hotties like that and read about all of the fun you have been having recently, it just reminds me that here in the sticks a good day for me is about 10% of that. In my neck of the wood, "heavy arms" means a candidate for gastric bypass and more often than not I may be one of only a handful of people wearing heels anyway! You keep the adventures coming and I will continue to live vicariously, deal? Style is built from the ground up!
kneehighs Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 ....In my neck of the wood, "heavy arms" means a candidate for gastric bypass.... hahaha Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Dawn HH Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Kneehighs:-) Gastric by-pass or not---I enjoy reading your stories. Keep them coming. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever!
kneehighs Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 Bwahahaha, the coolest thing happened today. Not really heel related, but gender bending related. I was walking southbound on Broadway between Houston and Prince when this slim 5'11" blonde stops me and asks if she can take a photo of me because she liked my outfit. Of course I said yes and told her I was wearing a women's Mango blazer, a women's Zara top...which she proceeded to feel flirtatiously. Sadly, I wasn't wearing heels as I was wearing Converse, with the laces redone so there's no criss crossing of the laces to form an X...just smooth parallel lines of the laces. But lots of hand touching ensued! Anyhow, it turns out she was a finalist on Americas Next Top Model...ahaha. She wrote me an email stating how I looked "super adorable" in the photos. The shet that goes down in this city never ceases to be exhilirating! EDIT: and now I've got the challenge of figuring out which girl to go out with this Saturday....somehow I think miss ANTM girl will work her way into the rotation as she told me to come in and visit her... EDIT 2: shet, looks like I have social plans on both Saturday and Sunday now...must remind self to watch the budget (a night out in NYC can easily, easily clear $250) Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
HappyFeat Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Fantastic story! However, you are not only in a great place for things like that to happen, but you have to be open to the possibilities, which you seem to have in spades. Ever vigilant and ready for a new opportunity. Wow...I am impressed. EDIT: and now I've got the challenge of figuring out which girl to go out with this Saturday....somehow I think miss ANTM girl will work her way into the rotation as she told me to come in and visit her... Nice problem to have isn't it! EDIT 2: shet, looks like I have social plans on both Saturday and Sunday now...must remind self to watch the budget (a night out in NYC can easily, easily clear $250) Ah, now I have to bash on my home again. I can go out and have a wonderful evening on $25-$50 on the weekends. But I guess you get what you pay for... Style is built from the ground up!
Bubba136 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 ..must remind self to watch the budget (a night out in NYC can easily, easily clear $250) And, thats just the cab fare......:lmao: Seriously, congratulations on getting "noticed" in NYC. Not an easy thing to do, these days. As to the girl that is competing in ANTM, is she even aware that you're one of the "industry's" most talented, fastest rising, top fashion photographers? Now, that should open access to something or other. (Not that I'd ever think you'd ever need it or "pile on" just to take advantage of a girl ) Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public.
Dawn HH Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Kneehighs:-) Some people have all of the luck and then some. Location, location, location! Congrats. My budget would be more in line with Happyfeats. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever!
kneehighs Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 You know Bubba, I shudder to think what you and your wife would drop in a night here. $400 dinner at Daniel $300 Broadway show $50 cab fares wash-rinse-repeat....get's pretty expensive when you calculate the total cost per month. And don't forget, that women use men too! While I did meet some amazing people in Stockholm, I did have one model ask me to buy her a new dress. Contextually, I had offered her a lunch (no big deal, kind gesture). But she asked about a dress? hahahaha, a laughed the whole time I was checking my pockets for my credit card. It's like if you look over at them in the middle of the night, they are rolling their head left and right, sleep talking with their hand out, "more, more...I want more" And if it's not money, it's status. A lot of girls are "social climbers"....especially during fashion week when you're working for the worlds most powerful fashion site. During fashion week, they are your best friend. Once it's over, regardless of how much you may have done for their career in the meantime, you don't exist. The street goes both ways... Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Bubba136 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 KH, my mother's family lived on the Chessepeak Bay on Maryland's upper peninsula. My Grandfather owned and operated his family's shipping business with the main office in Baltimore. His company owned an apartment in New York where he stayed when he was there on business or on holiday. We used to go to NYC every Thanksgiving, when we were living in this country, for the parade and to do our Christmas shopping. We would stay there for a week or so each year. It was a family tradition that we kept until just a few years ago when we (the company) sold the apartment because we no longer had an office near the port of new york. We (me and my wife) haven't been to New York since 2004. So, I am familiar with "life" in the big city.....and the cost of living in and around that area. And, you are right, it is expensive. As for people being "gold diggers' and using others for their own gain, I know all about that. However, these days I don't have to worry about people hitting on me for introductions or influence because, while I do know many influential people in the business, government and political world, my influence isn't what it used to be. But. I still tend to give people the benefit of the doubt --- and I didn't ever mind lending a helping hand to someone that I judged worthy of it and that sincerely appreciated my help and friendship. Still don't. But then, I've never "ran" with a crowd where you had to be particularlly "watchful of your back" or constantly evaluating someone to ascertain exactly "their purpose" in making my acquaintence. But at 53 (I'm probably almost twice your age (well, maybe not quite)) and I've ilved in many different places and traveled many miles around the world since the begining. So, while you are still trying to climb the road to fulfilling your dreams, I've reached the plateau where I am kinda happpy with what I have..... I work when I want to and don't work when I don't want to. I'll leave the "sweat work" to you younger guys. These days, there's even more windmills out there that need jousting. So, get busy! I wish you well and all of the success you desire. And, while you are doing your thing, I'll be watching the grass and my grandchildren growing.....life's good if you don't loose your prespective, Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public.
Maximilian Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Reading peoples stories and background on this site brings me to the conclusion that the high heel bug can catch people from very different backgrounds, social status etc. It makes you wonder how many "in the closet" high heeler men are out there. 250 a night? Damn! NY (Manhattan) is one expensive place. Is there anything cheap there? Rent costs a fortune (not to say buying/owning an apartment), cabs are expensive, I guess most people eat out in restaurants so that's not cheap either, shopping, going out.... I hope you receive a nice allowance from your company kneehighs for all those social evenings and dates, at least until you start earning the big bucks (if you haven't started earning 6 figures+ yet). I'm curious though, with the dating scene in Manhattan, do people actually form lasting relationships or is it an endless rush from one date to the other and a plethora of one night stands? Do you actually see yourself going out steady with one of these women who accepts your fashion style or are you still "wine tasting" lol? Personally, I'd still be tasting haha, especially if I were the one hanging out with models. What's a models shelf life these days?
Thighbootguy Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 At those prices, KneeHighs qualifies for several definitions of the phrase, "Well Heeled". I dream of a world where chickens can cross roads without having their motives questioned.
kneehighs Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 Actually, I'm just part of New York city's middle class (economically). As far as personal relations go here, people are generally free to live whatever marital status they want at any age with minimal professional or social repurcussions. It's not uncommon to meet a single 55 year old man living the dream life of a bachelor. This standard in my experience applies to women too as I've personally met more than a few single professional 40 somethings. I think individual experiences may differ. Now back to work... Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Dawn HH Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Kneehighs:-) You call that work? TEE! HEE! Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever!
kneehighs Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 .... I hope you receive a nice allowance from your company kneehighs for all those social evenings and dates, at least until you start earning the big bucks (if you haven't started earning 6 figures+ yet). .... 6 figures is barely middle class by New York Standards. Upper class here? I went on a date with a girl whose family bought her a condo on Park Avenue South. When they went to Europe, they used their private jet. Try looking up Dash Snow. That's another perfect example. That type of wealth is very common here. But finding someone with a great wealth and an equally great attitude towards others less fortunate is more rare, and a treat worth recalling. Anyhow, back to heels!! Just saying. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game.
Arctic Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 There was an interesting article in the NYT a few months ago titled "well YOU try to live on $500k in this town". It was in the midst of the bonuses scandal when AIG and a few big banks were after the bailout billions. I found it very amusing. Fact is that in Europe in many places 20kEUR makes you pretty poor, but at, say, 50kEUR lifts you into the well-off bracket. That does not include London, Zürich, Luxemburg, Switzerland, much of the Nordics and a few other pockets, but generally it holds. In the NY area though, $30k makes you pretty poor as well but $100k does not make you rich. Unless you are pocketing hundreds you won't stand out, so the spread is much wider. Steep progressive taxation in much of Europe stimulates this. The spending structure here in the NY area is totally different, and having moved around the world a few times I felt it first hand. NYC is different somehow, it is hard to pinpoint a few key causes. It is interesting that KH mentions finding someone with a great wealth and an equally great attitude towards others less fortunate is more rare as quite many New Yorkers actually have not inherited their relative wealth, but have earned it. You would expect a certain respectful attitude towards the ones who are working on it. But perspectives change. In Europe, you don't blink an eye filling up your car for $100, but paying $20 for parking would cause an outrage, while I parked off 5th ave yesterday for 2h and it set me back $45 without the tip, and it didn't make me lift an eyelid. But with rising gas prices, my car takes $50 of gas again, and man, does it make me angry! What's all the fuss about?
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