Does Your Significant Other Know You Like To Wear Heels?

[Foxyheels]

Like the rest of you on this site, I live my life the way I want to. I did not join this site to be judged by people who don't know me. If I need to lie to keep good friends or a partner then I will, they don't need to know about my private life anyway. I don't go around asking my friends what they get up to in the bedroom, then judging them for it. I am, by the way, very happy. I'm self employed, get to do most other things that I like to do eg: camping, wakeboarding, travelling, riding my motorbike, martial arts etc. Sure, I would like it of my partner accepted my heel wearing but she doesn't. I ask you, would you sell yr whole house just because it has a back door you don't like?

Yes shafted, she's very hard headed & its actually one of the things I like about her. She won't let anything get in the way of what she wants.

And bubba, ur more than welcome to leave yr judgemental comments on someone else's post, or better yet not at all. Like my mother used to say, "if you got nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all."

Thanks :-)

Nobody is judging you and as you have now made your situation absolutely clear I'm sure they will respect the way you live your life. As you say it's your choice and works for you so long may that continue.

The people making the comments are amongst the most supportive on this site and my experience on here leads me to believe they only wish to elp and support members.

Your situation works for you so that's great, I think people are just curious that's all.

[ClosetHeels]

I voted yes, approves and tolerates.She won't let me wear them out of the house when we are together, but I do wear them at home, and I have worn them when I go out alone. I wear heels driving to work most mornings. Most evenings I relax in heels, my wife neither encourages or discourages, she has accepted the fact that I wear them.

[Bubba136]

Luvnheels: first of all, I really don't give a rip about your life style or how you chose to live it. My point, based upon more than 10 years experience reading comments written by posters in exactly your situation, tend to demonstrate that relationships like yours eventually desolve when the "unapproving" party reaches the breaking point. If you really are interested, you can search back through the extensive archive on this subject maintined on this site and see for yourself. Compromises can be reached, however. And I truly hope you are able to arrive at a workable solution. And, I apologize if you took offense at my remark. No offense was intended. It was just a short, factual observation about how much happier you would be if you're partner accepted your desire to wear high heels.

[Bernheels]

My wife has finally accepted and now encourages me to wear high heel shoes and boots. She does not like to wear heels and always says that I wear the heels in this family. I have over 300 pairs of all styles of shoes and boots. We have a closet in the office that is nothing but my heels and boots. She has accepted me wearing cowboy style boots with 3 inch heels. She is awesome!

[Steve63130]

That's great to hear, Bern! Real progress has been made. My wife is the same way. Not interested herself, but not bothered by what I wear (unless it's really awful, in which case she'll wear a paper bag over her head! lol). Anyway, I'm happy for you about your wife's acceptance. I enjoyed meeting you at the heelmeet in Canton, Ohio, a couple of years ago. I hope we can meet up again and maybe include our wives. Sounds like they would get along okay! Steve

[9inchheel]

my girlfriend loves me in heels so cool

[Cuban Nicky]

My gf loves me in heels. She buys them for me and ikes it if I go out with her. I have to say that she prefers it if I am made up, she does my face for me but no other girls clothes. She wears 6 inch heels herself which is a big turn on for me and makes her as tall as me, I am a lucky guy!

[roniheels]

My female friend enjoys seeing me in high heels. She has sold me many pairs of my high heels. We periodically go out while I'm wearing high heels. She doesn't wear high heels and enjoys seeing me wearing them.

[HappyinHeels]

I've been married 27 years and my wife found out very early on and has learned to accept it because she truly loves me. I'm not about to go grocery shopping in thigh-highs but she knows about all my wardrobe. HappyinHeels

[chris100575]

I told my wife the day we met that I like to wear high heels, and it's never been a problem. I felt a bit nervous wearing them in front of her for a while, but that was down to my experiences with my ex-wife who hated it. She's interested to see what I've bought when I get a new pair, but other than that they're just shoes to her.

[ptom19]

My ex didn't mind as much as my new girlfriend. She says she's ok with it anytime, but never to sex. I don't expect the relationship to last... I'd definitely be looking for someone who is confident enough to encourage me and would hold my hand as we walk down the street, both of us in heels. Unfortunately, haven't found that right person yet, but I know I will!

[Heals4me]

Well it's a long time since I posted for reasons I will now explain.

I joined the forum after unexpectedly finding my self buying some very exotic heels. My early posts will explain it.

Then in Spring last year I came home from work to a very unpleasant experience.

My wife had used my computer to upload some photos to her facebook account while I was out. Not normally a problem. But when she started the file selection tool in F/B it went directly to the last folder used for searching. This turned out to be where my latex and high heel photos were kept and I'd recently uploaded some pictures of my pink spike heel kneeboots and latex leggings to here.

There aren't many of them but it only needed my wife to one of them to be deeply shocked.

You can imagine the conversation and shouting that went on. She went through every possible reason why I might want to wear such stuff and publish pictures on the internet. My marriage could have ended right there.

She hates everything about the very idea of me dressing like that, particularly the heels. I used to wear skinny jeans and leggings in our courting days and beyond but she never really approved of that. So my clothes weren't as much a surprise as my heels.

After sitting down and talking about "me" she realised that all the signs have been there for a long time. She'd already found a pair of my shiny black leggings at the back of the wardrobe and told me relatively recently that I couldn't wear my new ultra skinny girl fit jeans to a BBQ because people would think I was gay And she couldn't understand why when I suggested I'd like to order some ultra extreme low rise skinny jeans from an on-line specialist.

She now realises that I've always had a clothing fetish so now she knows I have a shoe fetish too.

I told her I take it all to the charity shop and that would be the end of it. After some thought she said "No" just keep it out of her sight and don't buy any more and don't go out in public dressed like "that".

She said hopefully no one else will see the photos and know who it is and she promises to keep it a secret.

Sadly she doesn't realise that I want to show everyone.

God, how I'd love to turn up at my works Christmas party in a couple of weeks and "out" myself to my colleagues wearing a black latex catsuit and 6in pink stiletto thigh boots!!

Over the last 18 months I have struggled with the new house rules and still bought some new shiny things.My last outing saw me in black 4in stiletto ankle boots and shiny cerise leggings and black pvc shirt. It's like a drug. I just love the freedom of being me

I went back to my old regular heels shop last week and saw that they have got some 6in stiletto thigh boots in my size....

[Steve63130]

Glad to see you posting again. You've had quite a harrowing experience. Thank you for posting, though. It clearly shows the dangers of trying to keep your "stash" a secret. Wives will eventually find out and you could have a serious relationship problem. It's often not just the clothes, it's the trust element. Good luck in moving forward. Steve

[Rick24]

thank god I don't have one in my life , I feel that if I have a woman in my life, then they get in your way, how can any man wear what he wants if someone else is making you look like you are a little kid,

[JSLS]

thank god I don't have one in my life , I feel that if I have a woman in my life, then they get in your way, how can any man wear what he wants if someone else is making you look like you are a little kid,

Because it doesn't get in your way if you're open about it. I have a perfectly healthy relationship with my woman. She knows all about my heels and embraces it.

[ilikekicks]

Heels4me..

I would offer my condolences but they wouldnt be worth much.

Im very recently married, less then a week, and we hide nothing from one another outside of a surprise party or something thats not ' every day ' living. As someone mentioned, TRUST is the biggest part of any relationship.

Your now in a corner of sorts where she has backed you in and its of your own decision. If you wish to wear a catsuit and heels to your party, go for it. Its just some clothing. Its not as if your committing some capitol offense.

You have a fear though that when you come home, her things will be packed and she will be gone. You have a fear that she will come out yelling and screaming.. You need to ask yourself ' is this trust? '. The answer is only for you to decide and for you to know.

I see posts like yours all the time and I ask myself ' Why do people get into relationships with people they are NOT compatible with? '.

Is it the sex? Is it a self need to be wanted? Is it for some kind of security? Is it just something to do? Is it something people expected of us?

All you wish to do is just wear some clothing, have the liberty do so something you feel you would enjoy doing. It harms nobody.. yet you are to be deprived.. by the person whom supposedly ' loves ' you.

It just makes no sense to me. How long have you been married?

thank god I don't have one in my life , I feel that if I have a woman in my life, then they get in your way, how can any man wear what he wants if someone else is making you look like you are a little kid,

There are MANY women out there that would accept you in heels. The issue at stake is are you confident enough in whom you are to present yourself as someone who says ' This is me, no bullshit, no apologies. '. There are quite a few of us ( the number is growing ) on this site that have partners/wives/husbands that dont experience what you stated.

You CAN wear whatever you want AND be supported by a spouse, a daughter, a son, friends.. You just have to present yourself as being able to demonstrate ' hey, im serious with this, I enjoy this. '. People whom care will find the means to understand you.

Because it doesn't get in your way if you're open about it. I have a perfectly healthy relationship with my woman. She knows all about my heels and embraces it.

Mine goes out and buys them for me, go figure? Its something we have in COMMON, not something to use AGAINST one another.

[mlroseplant]

I would have put "disapproves, but tolerates." It is probably most descriptive about how my wife feels. However, that was not a choice. I have always loved heels, and I finally said to myself that at the age of 44, this is just something I'm going to do. I took a deliberate and gradual approach. I started off with normal men's clogs, which is a bit unusual here in the Midwest U.S., but not noteworthy. Then I happened to see a pair of black clog-style shoes in DSW that seemed to fit the bill for the next step. They had 2 1/2 inch heels, but were still very clogg-y looking. My wife thought they were a bit femmy, but she said "OK, if that's what you want." The next pair of "heels" I bought was a step forward with the wife, as they were exactly the same heel height (2 1/2"), but she thought they were more masculine looking. I wore both of these fairly constantly for the better part of a year. Then last summer, after perusing a number of websites, I bought a pair of clog style shoes (black, of course--black can't offend anybody, right?) that looked almost identical to the pair that my wife approved of, except these had a distinct heel of 3 1/2 inches high, and about 1 inch in diameter. I think they are still pretty masculine looking (which is the look I'm after), just with a higher than normal heel. My wife was working the night shift at the time, so I had lots of time to practice and get used to them. My parents saw them long before my wife did, and they didn't particularly like them, but they have since come to be at least "neutral" about the subject. My wife's reaction was about the same at a later time. But, good woman that she is, she said, "Oh well, if that's what you want to do, it's your choice." If she's ashamed to be seen with me, she doesn't show it. We recently visited some friends who are Vietnamese (as is my wife), and naturally, you leave your shoes at the front door. My wife had also chosen to wear a clog-type shoe with a similar heel height to my shoes. Our host took a look at the shoes resting on the floor, and said, "Hmmmmmm......two high heel......which one belong to anh James, and which one belong to chị Mai?" The conversation which then ensued is best left for another thread, but the point is, my wife doesn't particularly like it, but she also seems to accept my elevated heel wearing. With one exception: We will be traveling to Hanoi, Vietnam to visit our family in February. She has already made it quite clear that I will not be bringing my heels with me, not even the 2 1/2" clogs I love so much. I can understand that. Northern Vietnam is every bit as socially conservative as the U. S. was in the 1950s. I am happy to honor that wish. It's no problem with me, or as the Vietnamese would say, "Không có vấn đề gì." I will miss my heels for about 3 weeks however. Thanks to those who made it through this rather long post.

[FreshinHeels]

She said hopefully no one else will see the photos and know who it is and she promises to keep it a secret.

Sadly she doesn't realise that I want to show everyone.

God, how I'd love to turn up at my works Christmas party in a couple of weeks and "out" myself to my colleagues wearing a black latex catsuit and 6in pink stiletto thigh boots!!

Over the last 18 months I have struggled with the new house rules and still bought some new shiny things.My last outing saw me in black 4in stiletto ankle boots and shiny cerise leggings and black pvc shirt. It's like a drug. I just love the freedom of being me

I went back to my old regular heels shop last week and saw that they have got some 6in stiletto thigh boots in my size....

I feel for you as you are indeed in a very difficult situation.

I can't give you much advice but I don't think the secret thing you are are doing now is the answer.

Im very recently married, less then a week, and we hide nothing from one another outside of a surprise party or something thats not ' every day ' living. As someone mentioned, TRUST is the biggest part of any relationship.

Your now in a corner of sorts where she has backed you in and its of your own decision. If you wish to wear a catsuit and heels to your party, go for it. Its just some clothing. Its not as if your committing some capitol offense.

You have a fear though that when you come home, her things will be packed and she will be gone. You have a fear that she will come out yelling and screaming.. You need to ask yourself ' is this trust? '. The answer is only for you to decide and for you to know.

I see posts like yours all the time and I ask myself ' Why do people get into relationships with people they are NOT compatible with? '.

Is it the sex? Is it a self need to be wanted? Is it for some kind of security? Is it just something to do? Is it something people expected of us?

All you wish to do is just wear some clothing, have the liberty do so something you feel you would enjoy doing. It harms nobody.. yet you are to be deprived.. by the person whom supposedly ' loves ' you.

It just makes no sense to me. How long have you been married?

There are MANY women out there that would accept you in heels. The issue at stake is are you confident enough in whom you are to present yourself as someone who says ' This is me, no bullshit, no apologies. '. There are quite a few of us ( the number is growing ) on this site that have partners/wives/husbands that dont experience what you stated.

You CAN wear whatever you want AND be supported by a spouse, a daughter, a son, friends.. You just have to present yourself as being able to demonstrate ' hey, im serious with this, I enjoy this. '. People whom care will find the means to understand you.

Mine goes out and buys them for me, go figure? Its something we have in COMMON, not something to use AGAINST one another.

So true ilikekicks but maby it has to do with man pushing it away for too long?

Hiding it thinking they not normal?

I would have put "disapproves, but tolerates." It is probably most descriptive about how my wife feels. However, that was not a choice. I have always loved heels, and I finally said to myself that at the age of 44, this is just something I'm going to do.

With one exception: We will be traveling to Hanoi, Vietnam to visit our family in February. She has already made it quite clear that I will not be bringing my heels with me, not even the 2 1/2" clogs I love so much. I can understand that. Northern Vietnam is every bit as socially conservative as the U. S. was in the 1950s. I am happy to honor that wish. It's no problem with me, or as the Vietnamese would say, "Không có vấn đề gì." I will miss my heels for about 3 weeks however.

Thanks to those who made it through this rather long post.

Smooth approach mlroseplant can work very good.

Unless there is a change the mrs feels she is being pushed further and further?

But not bringing heels on holiday is good compromise.

[Steve63130]

Miroseplant, That approach has worked for me as well. Take "baby steps" which push the envelope a little but which keep the missus clearly within her comfort zone. Don't go too fast or expect quick progress. She has to get used to the idea that people won't notice your heels, or if they do, they won't care. She has to be comfortable with your security (that you won't get beaten up because some mental midgets think you're gay). It took me close to 20 years to get to wear heels out in public with my wife, but she reins me in when she thinks I'm going too far. Naturally I give in so she thinks she has control and influence. We hide nothing from each other, and we talk openly of any problems or discomfort. We also joke about it (c'mon, after all, it IS an unusual hobby for guys to collect and wear women's shoes!). Just this morning we were in a coffee shop, and a woman in black low-heeled boots walked by. My wife said, "I think she would look better in a white skirt, yadda, yadda..." and I said, "I'm sorry, but I didn't notice anything about her above the boots. As soon as I saw them, with no heels, there was no need to look any higher." My wife got a big laugh out of that! Keep your sense of humor! It lightens the load. So take baby steps, but take lots of them. It's a long road. Enjoy the journey. Steve

[Heals4me]

Heels4me..

I would offer my condolences but they wouldnt be worth much.

Im very recently married, less then a week, and we hide nothing from one another outside of a surprise party or something thats not ' every day ' living. As someone mentioned, TRUST is the biggest part of any relationship.

Your now in a corner of sorts where she has backed you in and its of your own decision. If you wish to wear a catsuit and heels to your party, go for it. Its just some clothing. Its not as if your committing some capitol offense.

You have a fear though that when you come home, her things will be packed and she will be gone. You have a fear that she will come out yelling and screaming.. You need to ask yourself ' is this trust? '. The answer is only for you to decide and for you to know.

I see posts like yours all the time and I ask myself ' Why do people get into relationships with people they are NOT compatible with? '.

Is it the sex? Is it a self need to be wanted? Is it for some kind of security? Is it just something to do? Is it something people expected of us?

All you wish to do is just wear some clothing, have the liberty do so something you feel you would enjoy doing. It harms nobody.. yet you are to be deprived.. by the person whom supposedly ' loves ' you.

It just makes no sense to me. How long have you been married?

There are MANY women out there that would accept you in heels. The issue at stake is are you confident enough in whom you are to present yourself as someone who says ' This is me, no bullshit, no apologies. '. There are quite a few of us ( the number is growing ) on this site that have partners/wives/husbands that dont experience what you stated.

You CAN wear whatever you want AND be supported by a spouse, a daughter, a son, friends.. You just have to present yourself as being able to demonstrate ' hey, im serious with this, I enjoy this. '. People whom care will find the means to understand you.

Mine goes out and buys them for me, go figure? Its something we have in COMMON, not something to use AGAINST one another.

We'll have been married 25 years next year! And were together fro 5 years before that.

We have a good relationship. My clothing fetish is just a part of me.

She accepted my strange dress sense when we were younger because it wasn't quite so extreme as it is now. Also I was a young man with a fit and slim body. I actually did look good. Even male friends admired my skinny jeans and Lycra leggings. I hadn't really got a shoe fetish then.

As we got older and life got in the way, my dress sense calmed down. I only wore leggings locationally and mostly in summer or on holidays. I put some weight on in my 30's and virtually stopped wearing anything close fitting.

When I looked at myself in the mirror one day decided to get my figure back. We also got a hot tub around that time which I loved and used in the nude. I got in the habit of not getting dressed after coming in from the tub and spending my evenings at home without any clothes on.

My wife accepted this strange behaviour as did our teenage son. So completely unexpectedly I became a home nudist.

That's when I got the urge back for shiny clothes. If I was going to put clothes on I wanted them to be minimal or otherwise exhibitionist.

So that's where my story re-started. It wasn't just a return to my old ways but a very sudden evolution into something much more exotic. That wasn't in our relationship previously. I've brought something new to the table!

The shoes and boots weren't a gradual thing starting from something more main stream. I just got some 6in stiletto thigh boots!!

To be honest I think many wives would be shocked at that.

I don't know the way forward for my fetishes. Probably there is no way forward. She accepts that I like to wear these things in private and would prefer that no one else knew. Most likely I'll carry on sneaking the occasional outing in my outfits and will buy some new things for sure.

Our marriage is built on strong foundations as is demonstrated by it surviving the recent difficulties. It is also a combination of many things, not just this single issue. I just don't have the freedom to express myself that I would like.

Sorry, I've taken this thread way off topic!

[ilikekicks]

We'll have been married 25 years next year! And were together fro 5 years before that.

We have a good relationship. My clothing fetish is just a part of me.

She accepted my strange dress sense when we were younger because it wasn't quite so extreme as it is now.

Extreme? Leggings, skinny jeans and heels are ' extreme '? I think ' main stream ' would be a more appropriate term.

Also I was a young man with a fit and slim body. I actually did look good.

Didnt we all!

Even male friends admired my skinny jeans and Lycra leggings. I hadn't really got a shoe fetish then.

As we got older and life got in the way, my dress sense calmed down. I only wore leggings locationally and mostly in summer or on holidays. I put some weight on in my 30's and virtually stopped wearing anything close fitting.

When I looked at myself in the mirror one day decided to get my figure back. We also got a hot tub around that time which I loved and used in the nude. I got in the habit of not getting dressed after coming in from the tub and spending my evenings at home without any clothes on.

My wife accepted this strange behaviour as did our teenage son. So completely unexpectedly I became a home nudist.

Ok.. so you roam you house nude. A lot of people do.

That's when I got the urge back for shiny clothes. If I was going to put clothes on I wanted them to be minimal or otherwise exhibitionist.

So that's where my story re-started. It wasn't just a return to my old ways but a very sudden evolution into something much more exotic.

Exotic? How so? I mean.. wearing nothing is just being ' nude '. We ALL do that.

That wasn't in our relationship previously. I've brought something new to the table!

The shoes and boots weren't a gradual thing starting from something more main stream. I just got some 6in stiletto thigh boots!!

To be honest I think many wives would be shocked at that.

I can say, I sort of have a ' respectful ' limit.

Darian doesnt mind me wearing whatever I want.. so long as I dont look like im ' for sale ', a ' want to be porn star ', a ' drag queen ' or a ' cheap piece of garbage '.

If I went out looking like a ' streetwalker ' ( as someone else put it ), we would probably have a very civil discussion about it.

From being in conversations with the wives of my friends, most of them really wouldnt have a problem, AT ALL, NONE, if their husbands showed an interest in wearing a pair of heels. Pleaser-hookers though.. FORGET IT! Monster Platforms that scream ' I make a living on my back '.. Divorce papers would be filed.

I think a lot of the problems in gaining what some have called ' acceptance ' is people believe they can go out and look like a porn star, hooker, streetwalker ( or whatever ) and everyone is supposed to be nice to them. Everyone needs to ' tolerate ' everyone else.

The reality check is : You WILL be judged.

You will be judged by your spouse. You will be judged by family and friends. You will even be judged by others ( men ) whom might share the same desire of wearing heels.

Fact is: We earn where we stand with others. People will look at us as individuals and we need to realize just how far we can go. FuKk what written law says, we have our beliefs.

Maybe toning it down a notch for a while, ditch the thigh-hi boots and just get a pair of classic court pumps or something. Work up to what you want?

I don't know the way forward for my fetishes. Probably there is no way forward.

There is always a way forward. Figuring it all out is the longest part of it. Thats just where you are.

She accepts that I like to wear these things in private and would prefer that no one else knew.

Darian felt the same at first. The night I was to meet her family she outright asked me ' What are you wearing? '. I didnt go as a ' dirtball ', I actually wore a shirt with a collar ( cant stand the f-ing things ), Dress pants and a pair of black flats. He mother commented on my attire, her father didnt care less.

Most likely I'll carry on sneaking the occasional outing in my outfits and will buy some new things for sure.

I would let her know before hand. If you ' sneak ' and something happens.. ' what then? ' . Do your damnedest to avoid that question from happening.

Our marriage is built on strong foundations as is demonstrated by it surviving the recent difficulties. It is also a combination of many things, not just this single issue. I just don't have the freedom to express myself that I would like.

You do have the freedoms, but all freedoms come with sacrifice.

Cheers!

-Ilk

[sapoa]

Yes she is totally fine with my heel habit. She's a shoe freak herself with over 100 pairs of shoes so that may be a help things a bit.

We actually have a few identidal pairs and we've worn them together on a few occasions...She thought that was a riot.

We've been together for 20 years and my high heel thing has always been out there in our relationship.

[bluejay]

Yes she is totally fine with my heel habit. She's a shoe freak herself with over 100 pairs of shoes so that may be a help things a bit.

We actually have a few identidal pairs and we've worn them together on a few occasions...She thought that was a riot.

We've been together for 20 years and my high heel thing has always been out there in our relationship.

Like you and your wife, my wife and I have some matching pairs of shoes, that we wear out together. It's a lot of fun to do that and she is ok with my heeling as long as the shoes are not too frilly looking.(Bows and flowers etc attached to the shoes)

Happy Heeling,

bluejay

[Steve63130]

Then there was the time last summer when my wife and I met Bluejay and went to dinner at TGI Fridays restaurant. He and I had on exactly the same shoes - Naturalizer "Daquiri" sandals with 4" heels. As far as I could tell, and my wife confirms this, nobody noticed us! Amazing! We had a good time, the food and service were great, and we went shoe shopping at DSW afterward, where we did get noticed - by some guys sitting outside (just raised eyebrows), and by a young woman shopping in the store, who engaged us in conversation for 15 minutes about men in heels and telling us of her problems in fitting shoes (she was petite but with wide feet and had trouble finding shoes that fit her). That was the first time I was ever with another guy in the exact same heels! A fun evening out. Steve

[bluejay]

Steve, That was a very interesting evening for us back in July. I still think about that young woman when I go to DSW and how great she thought it was that we wore heels and had pedi's too! Happy Heeling, bluejay

[mlroseplant]

I just received a sort of compliment from my wife today. We went out Christmas shopping, and I wore my new Nine West oxfords with a 4.75" heel. After we got back home, she actually admitted that she didn't think she could hack wearing such high heels on such an excursion (she was wearing 3 inch heels). She is not thrilled with my heel wearing, but she accepts it, and I actually caught her trying on my heels when she thought I wasn't looking. Unfortunately, I'm about a size and a half bigger than her, so we can't share. Don't know what to think about that. I'll hope for a positive spin on it.

[Jimnj3]

I just received a sort of compliment from my wife today. We went out Christmas shopping, and I wore my new Nine West oxfords with a 4.75" heel. After we got back home, she actually admitted that she didn't think she could hack wearing such high heels on such an excursion (she was wearing 3 inch heels). She is not thrilled with my heel wearing, but she accepts it, and I actually caught her trying on my heels when she thought I wasn't looking. Unfortunately, I'm about a size and a half bigger than her, so we can't share. Don't know what to think about that. I'll hope for a positive spin on it.

Sounds positive to me! My wife wouldn't go out anywhere with me in heels at this time. We did many years ago with me in platform 1" and 4" heel knee boots worn under jeans but complained the whole time. She eventually threw away these boots without my knowledge. So now she see's nothing!

Makes it very hard for me to go out heeling now.

[Jkrenzer]

mlroseplant; I think this is a very positive step. Keep wearing them, once she realizes nobody really cares she'll get more comfortable. I was lucky, when I met my wife years ago I was already wearing my heels privately. I told of this immediately and she responded how hot she thought heels on men were based on rockers at the time often wearing them. I immdeiately went public and do so all the time with and without her now. Jimjn3: Sorry to hear this about your wife. Wish you good luck going foward.

[yozz]

My wife knows and feels rather normal about it. If it is what I want and I do not change because of it, she is quite happy. When I want to go out with heels that are rather high and visible, she is a bit worried that I will make a fool of myself, but if I insist, she will say: "if that is what you want..." and we go out happily together. Afterward she may say that in the restaurant there were some people behind me looking at my feet a number of times. When you sit at a table heels are always more visible. We also go shopping for shoes together. That is much more fun. Y.

[Foxyheels]

MrsF is totally comfortable with me and recently she bought me a pair of 4" stiletto boots which I have worn a few times to go grocery shopping. I don't normally go public in stilettos as I wear the down so quick but these are holding up quite well so far and on each occasion MrsF has asked to go elsewhere as well as shopping when I have worn them which is not the nom. Hopefully I will get some more heels off er Xmas day and she might expect me to wear them at the in laws (once I've finished work) if I'm guessing right.