Shafted Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 That's good to hear. I can seems to find the tools though. I do, however, feel the urge to go into the city this weekend to test the reactions. If I can find the courage. Here are some tips for you you may find useful. 1. Understanding that confidence doesn't come easy for some, make absolutely sure you are presenting yourself to the world in an aesthetically pleasing way a possible, and I know this is hard. Hard because you really have to invite the roving eye to look beyond the shoes. This is why style is so important for the well heeled man (if your unsure about your style, please let us help you out). I literally spent years working on my own personal style. It did not come easy. If a guy is going to wear high heels in public they pretty much demands that the wardrobe be taken several notches above what the average guy would wear. One of the things that I sometimes tell people is that I see myself as a living mannequin showing the world how a man in high heels can be a very positive image. 2. If at this point, the confidence isn't there, don't worry, be happy (yeah, I know its a little cliche). A smile goes a long way. 3. Make heel outings in order to carry out daily activities. Not for the sake of heeling itself. I think the rest of the world in general sees this as a bit more "normal". 4. The shoes can change you if you let them, just make sure they fit and walking over a wide variety of surfaces (yes, even the tricky ones) should be second nature. This is so important. And remember the shoes will teach you many things, some wonderful and some not so easy to swallow. Regardless they will teach you lessons that you need to learn to become successful in your heeling. My first pair of heels that I wore in public were 4" blade heel ankle boots from Candie's. When these boots are worn to tatters, I will still keep them, but not wear them. I'm sentimental like that. I owe too much to them to dispose of them. It may be hard for some to understand with my stilettos wearing. But I have a soft spot in my heart for those boots. I would feel very guilty disposing of them. Maybe it's time to see if they can do for another what they've done for me. I gotta stop this, it's literally bringing tears to my eyes. Shafted, the boots that is! View my gallery here http://www.hhplace.o...afteds-gallery/ or view my heeling thread here http://www.hhplace.org/topic/3850-new-pair-of-boots-starts-me-serious-street-heeling/ - Pm me if you want fashion advice or just need someone to talk to.
Shafted Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 In addition to personal style, remember the importance of spending time with yourself to figure out your vision for your life in general and designing your goals and future. I average about 30 minutes daily and alone visualizing the future I want for myself. The personal power and magnetism that naturally results is inevitably attractive. So true. (still recovering from my little outpouring) Shafted, the boots that is! View my gallery here http://www.hhplace.o...afteds-gallery/ or view my heeling thread here http://www.hhplace.org/topic/3850-new-pair-of-boots-starts-me-serious-street-heeling/ - Pm me if you want fashion advice or just need someone to talk to.
Pumps Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 In addition to personal style, remember the importance of spending time with yourself to figure out your vision for your life in general and designing your goals and future. I average about 30 minutes daily and alone visualizing the future I want for myself. The personal power and magnetism that naturally results is inevitably attractive. There you have it ! I'm much too old to have goals and visions. Mission aborted.
BobHH Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 You are never too old for goals and visions. They just might be different or maybe less ambitious than for someone much younger.
ilikekicks Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 This is for those whom want to get out and strut, but are having difficulties or reasons in the way.. This is why style is so important for the well heeled man (if your unsure about your style, please let us help you out). I literally spent years working on my own personal style. It did not come easy. If a guy is going to wear high heels in public they pretty much demands that the wardrobe be taken several notches above what the average guy would wear. I've waited a while and given great thought to this before responding. Maybe someone can take something out of this. I sort-of brainstormed about my own dress. Im sometimes in the ' public eye ' and it involves others. They dont really care what I wear and when its just ' us ', the guys sometimes break balls and laugh about it. One even went and bought a pair of heels just to ' try ' it. The problems I face have more to do with function over fashion. A spiked heel just wont work on most occasions. Im usually in darker colors with dark pants and some form of a t-shirt on. I dont wear any jewelry at all and cosmetics really arent my thing endless theres going to be a LOT of lights. Belts are a ' no-no '. Thus, darker colored wedges fit my routine. Cargo pants, Black jeans and even a pair of Capri's have all worked for me. I'm very ' casual ' and usually just ' blend in ' with those around me but not so well in a ' crowd '. Dr. Shoe might lynch me for saying this, but I'm also not adverse to wearing some kind of flats. Jane-type to be specific. I own and have gone out in stilettos on occasion. I have a decent collection of various boots that I wear in the winter/colder times. They are all good on certain occasions. The thing is not to ' overdress '. I say this because of a bunch of comments or statements that I have read before. Im sure we would all like to just walk out in a Pair of 3inch platformed pleasers with a micro-mini and a pair of fishnet stockings with a lacy shirt and.. and.. and.. Hold up! Take the first step. Get a bland pair of heels and wear then with longer pants. Get ' Comfortable in your own skin ' and mosey around your area, or the next town over where nobody knows you. Go to a park or somewhere and just take a casual walk. If you have a dog, take the dog for a walk, its good cover ( till a dog lover comes around ). ( BTW: If you take the dog, be a nice neighbor and take a plastic bag to clean up with you! ) Get comfortable with something outside of the floors in our own domains and work your way up to going into the ' crowds '. Some people have no fear of others and may they be blessed by all! They donned their kicks and just went to a mall on their first outing. *I* didnt do that. Didnt have the stones at the time to do it. Now? Why not? I see no issues at all with it. We might not be able to ' get away with ' what we WANT to wear. Theres some women out there whom wear tube tops and are refereed to as having the ' sausage roll effect '. Its not a nice thing to say, but its just reality. I'm a skinny twit and theres some things I just cant wear. I own these items, but they just dont ' work ' or ' look right ' for me. I WISH they would, but sadly.. they dont. I would like to TRY a skirt once a week or something. I have done it once before but the skirt I wore had a ' bell bottom ' effect. I dont have much of an arse or meat on my thighs. Sure, I could get some sponges or one of those padded-butt girdles, but then its ' not me '. All I could offer to anyone is dont be in a rush, try not to be flamboyant or ' stand out ' and relax. Enjoy the moment. REPEATEDLY ARGUMENTATIVE, INSULTING AND RUDE. BANNED FOR LIFE.
ilikekicks Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 My first pair of heels that I wore in public were 4" blade heel ankle boots from Candie's. When these boots are worn to tatters, I will still keep them, but not wear them. I'm sentimental like that. I owe too much to them to dispose of them. It may be hard for some to understand with my stilettos wearing. But I have a soft spot in my heart for those boots. I would feel very guilty disposing of them. Maybe it's time to see if they can do for another what they've done for me. I gotta stop this, it's literally bringing tears to my eyes. Taxidermist! REPEATEDLY ARGUMENTATIVE, INSULTING AND RUDE. BANNED FOR LIFE.
yozz Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 The truth is that money is not HARD to make. That's just a belief. I cover my living expenses every month now without having to work more than 15-20 minutes a day and there are loads of people who do much better than me. It's residual income. It is a good thing that not everybody is like you. If everybody would work only 15-20 minutes a day, all that money would not be worth very much. We would all starve to death. Fortunately there are still people in the world who do work. Y. Raise your voice. Put on some heels.
Shafted Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I also live on residual income, generate my own power and raise some of my own food. I also take nothing from the government but easily continue to pay my taxes and lot rent. I work an average of 10 hours a week, living within city limits. It is really easy, but it is a leap of faith. Shafted, the boots that is! View my gallery here http://www.hhplace.o...afteds-gallery/ or view my heeling thread here http://www.hhplace.org/topic/3850-new-pair-of-boots-starts-me-serious-street-heeling/ - Pm me if you want fashion advice or just need someone to talk to.
yozz Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 There seems to be more than one definition of 'residual income'. www.investopedia.com/terms/r/residualincome.asp This is the first hit that google gives me. This might become a lot clearer if you be a bit more specific because not everybody may understand exactly what you mean, the site being rather international. But I do understand that women like men with heels who do not have to work much . (just to stay on topic) Y. Raise your voice. Put on some heels.
ilikekicks Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I just called all the women listed in my phone. It was a short list, all of 13 women and Just asked them all ' Could you like a guy who wears high heeled shoes or womens footware? '. The common/immediate response from them was ' Are you and Darian breaking up or is something wrong? '. The must have initially thought I was asking if they liked me. BUT.. I rephrased the question to ' If you saw a guy walking down the street wearing womens heeled shoes, would they be eligible to being a prospect? ' They all wanted to know what else the Guy looked like.. were they tall? beard? what kind of hair? what else were they wearing? Did they have a job or steady income? Were they a sex-offender.. I had to change the question again to ' if you knew a guy who wore womens heels, would that rule them out from being eligible to dating you? ' " It depends on the rest of them! The shoes are only one thing! ". Most were at work and were frustrated and ' had to go ' by this point. REPEATEDLY ARGUMENTATIVE, INSULTING AND RUDE. BANNED FOR LIFE.
Puffer Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I just called all the women listed in my phone. It was a short list, all of 13 women and Just asked them all ' Could you like a guy who wears high heeled shoes or womens footware? '. The common/immediate response from them was ' Are you and Darian breaking up or is something wrong? '. The must have initially thought I was asking if they liked me. BUT.. I rephrased the question to ' If you saw a guy walking down the street wearing womens heeled shoes, would they be eligible to being a prospect? ' They all wanted to know what else the Guy looked like.. were they tall? beard? what kind of hair? what else were they wearing? Did they have a job or steady income? Were they a sex-offender.. I had to change the question again to ' if you knew a guy who wore womens heels, would that rule them out from being eligible to dating you? ' " It depends on the rest of them! The shoes are only one thing! ". Most were at work and were frustrated and ' had to go ' by this point. I have to say (with regret but realism) that the responses showed only too clearly that most women are incapable of giving a focussed answer to a question. Whilst I can accept that the bare 'man wearing heels' question does raise some fairly obvious supplementary queries, those concerning income, prospects etc are irrelevant at that stage. I think that the tenor of the responses suggests that the women didn't really want to give a positive answer and tried to avoid doing so. Not unexpected, alas.
Tacchi Alti Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Taxidermist! Be careful - he might practise on you... 'Come, and trip it as ye go On the light fantastic toe.' John Milton
ilikekicks Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Not knowing anything else about a girl, stereotypically those qualities that attract a girl to guy are: his wealth, his health, he knows how to get what he wants and feels good about who he is (confidence), he's challenging, he's got status among his professional and/or social peers, he knows how to act around others (social intuition), he's funny, and in some cases, the fact that other girls like the guy helps too. You might be onto something but neither you nor I can verify such. This might seem like an odd request, But.. Amanda Snake : We all know your stance on a guy in heels, but what ( in your opinion ) do women look for on that ' first impression ' in ' whatever ' setting they meet in? The reason Im asking Amanda to comment is because she will tell the gods honest truth without beating about the bush. I don't think ilikekicks' friends were trying to avoid giving a positive answer, they were positively truthfully answering his question the way most girls experience attraction. They might have thought I was ' joking ' or just playing around. I'm sorta known in my inner-circle as one whom likes to laugh and smile and play a joke once in a great while ( every day that is ). I did manage to speak to one of them this morning when they picked Darian up for work. I told her it was a serious question and she did respond that the shoes wouldnt matter endless it became a serious social ' flaw ' in larger settings but what mattered to her ( as an individual ) was if the guy had his feet ' on the ground '. Financially stable, took a bath, didnt dress like a roach/dirtbag, was polite to others.. REPEATEDLY ARGUMENTATIVE, INSULTING AND RUDE. BANNED FOR LIFE.
Rick24 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 men wearing heels are being there true self, life is short and quick, be happy in heels and have less of a care of what a female thinks, its 2012 not 1692.
Foxyheels Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I have said it before, in general women don't like men in heels but some would be open to the idea. It would be possible to change the mind of some women as they don't usually just go on physical appearance. Men wearing heels is unusual at present, so it's not unusual in our conformist world that most women would have reservations. We are of course here to educate them. High heels are the shoes I choose to put on, respect my choice as I repect yours.
newheeler Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 men wearing heels are being there true self, life is short and quick, be happy in heels and have less of a care of what a female thinks, its 2012 not 1692. I thought womens werent allowed to think back those days. Interesting...i always thought its men who dont want to see men in heels. Always had on my mind whether its our fetish or its really theirs (who dont want to see men in heels). Don't worry, be happy - in heels!
bootsmike Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 As much as I would like to have it otherwise, I voted "No". I really enjoy the open-mindedness of the people discussing over here towards men wearing high heels. As a boot-lover I did the occasional search for opinions about boots on the web and found that most people (male and female) think that even kneehigh boots are feminine. I have read a lot of dumb narrow-minded reactions that can be summarized with "Men wearing boots are fags". Keeping that in mind, I don't even dare to think what those people would think about men with heels. Sadly, also my spouse does not like the idea of me wearing high heels. So I do wear high boots, but without the heels. Ah, one out of two is not that bad, I suppose...
danielp6406 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 We should not care about what others say or think. The real questions is: Who cares what narrow-minded people think about men wearing heels ? Do what you like while you can and enjoy... Life is too short !
barbara Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I think I have replied to this before. I do think men look good in heels,especially boots. Even fairly high heels look good in boots. Guys look good in a loafer style shoe with heels.Any heels are ok I think for guys.
bluejay Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I think I have replied to this before. I do think men look good in heels,especially boots. Even fairly high heels look good in boots. Guys look good in a loafer style shoe with heels.Any heels are ok I think for guys. Barbara, Thanks for your post. I think that more women would admit that they like to see men in heels if there was not such a sterotype to their admission. I know that my wife approves of my heel wearing. We even have some matching pairs of heels that we wear out together. In fact I have bought heeled shoes that my wife liked so much on me that I had to buy her a pair in her size. I have also received many compliments from women on how nice my heels look on me. Read my posts in the For Men wearing heels, "Heeling with bluejay" Happy Heeling, bluejay
DebbiNC Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I think it's rather fun to see men break the fashion rules! Their fashion choices are so limited that I'm glad I don't have to live by such strict rules! I can go to my husband's closet and grab a shirt or tie and I'm being fashionable. If he wants to use something of mine, there are those who think that's wrong. Not so with me. If he wanted to wear heels, that's fine with me...then he can understand why I can't walk as fast as he does when I'm wearing four inch heels! It's about Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of New Shoes!
love heels Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I agree Debbie. Men's fashions are not as colorful as women's. They are way too strict. I think its fun to experiment with fashion.
Amanda Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I agree Debbie. Men's fashions are not as colorful as women's. They are way too strict. I think its fun to experiment with fashion. Men need stringent rules if you ask me.
Pumps Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Men need stringent rules if you ask me. Talk like that only makes me want to wear heels more.
Amanda Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Talk like that only makes me want to wear heels more. I dare you
crotchboots-m Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 i wear what i want to when i want to...screw what anyone else thinks
thehighheelsgirl Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I Don't see what the big deal is! If you want to wear heels and your girl thinks thats cool then great. If you don't want to wear heels and your girl thinks thats cool that's great to. I think its pretty cool my boyfriend wears heels but if you want a normal boring guy who wears normal boring guy shoes then thats up to him. If my boyfriend stopped wearing heels thats fine to. I just don't see what the big deal is. Yes, I do walk in these
meganiwish Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 From the late 80s I seemed to watch a tedious lack of flamboyance descend over the land. Now, with the exception of a few exageratedly camp performers, men seem only to wear jeans and T shirts or sportswear, or else exactly the same business suit. (Some of them believe this makes them cool. I remember when the word 'suit' was the antonym of 'cool'.) What a shame there isn't more exciting fashion and shoes designed and made exclusively for men.
ilikekicks Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 From the late 80s I seemed to watch a tedious lack of flamboyance descend over the land. Now, with the exception of a few exageratedly camp performers, men seem only to wear jeans and T shirts or sportswear, or else exactly the same business suit. (Some of them believe this makes them cool. I remember when the word 'suit' was the antonym of 'cool'.) What a shame there isn't more exciting fashion and shoes designed and made exclusively for men. Hmm.. I guess my perspective could be lent here. This is from a ' performing ' view. Some of this is embarrassing but Ive reflected on it recently and had a bunch of laughs about it. I thought to ' share ' the laughs. The 80's were all about glam. I owned more cosmetics then any of the babes I dated. I probably had more lace-endowed shirts, tight pants and jewerly as well. I think the guys I hung around with experienced PMS more then the women whom put up with us. In the early 90's, everyone went to flannel shirts and boots. I went to collared shirts and cargo pants with no make-up at all. I think its the only time I had my hair shorter then shoulder length ( until 2 weeks ago ). Most people say this was when I looked the most ' masculine ' of my years. No cosmetics at all. End of the 90's, things were just outright weird. There wasnt one specific ' style ' that I adheared to. It was usually what I rolled out of bed, off the bus, wearing in the late afternoon. I did a gig in my PJ's one time. I dont remember exactly ' why ' but nobody gave me any crap for it. People kind of expected it. I didnt really become ' concious ' of how I really looked until I met someone whom I actually liked. She set me on a forward path to actually caring how I presented myself. in the present, Im more prone to wear some kind of cargo pants or dockers that are loose fitting and a collared shirt with a T-shirt underneath. Little to no ' face paint '/cosmetics and some kind of hat. Not a ' ball cap ' but a HAT! Women always dig the Hat, they usually mention the Hat before the footware . I still say women can dig the right kind of man in heels. Depends on the guy and the kicks! REPEATEDLY ARGUMENTATIVE, INSULTING AND RUDE. BANNED FOR LIFE.
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