Wearing high heels as a man needs courage!

[VirginHeels]

2 hours ago, Puffer said:

Please quote your sources.   There are many thousands of existing residential properties in England (at least) with trees of significant height close to them.   A nearby/tall tree can affect planning consent for a new property or result in additional insurance conditions as to regular inspection. 

Without linking any legal qualification to you, Melrose, it is fair to say that few people who have a law degree will be experts in insurance law and practice (as Bubba implied), unless that is their specialism.   Conversely, those who are qualified in insurance will have studied several areas of law in depth in addition to insurance law, but will not have similarly deep knowledge of other areas with little or no relevance to insurance.

Obviously, the cover afforded by various types of insurance will vary and is often influenced by the law of the jurisdiction, as will be the relevant law of tort governing potential liability.   Household (home) insurance typically covers (a) damage to or loss of one's own property caused by specified perils (fire, storm, theft etc); and (b) liability to third parties arising from negligence etc in one's ownership or occupation of the property.   If a tree falls down and this is not immediately caused by e.g. negligent trimming or other work but results from adverse weather, damage to the house (but not the tree itself) is normally covered, because the 'fabric' of the house is so insured.   But if it damages a car, that damage would not normally be covered by the household insurance but should be covered by the relevant motor insurance, if comprehensive, as that insures the 'fabric' of the car.   In the absence of negligence, a falling tree would not impose legal liability on its owner for any resultant damage or injury.   In other words, damage/injury resulting from an 'Act of God' tree falling is usually only covered if whatever is damaged/injured is itself insured by a property (rather than liability) insurance against such damage or injury.   

Melrose: was your guest's car comprehensively insured by him?   If so, he surely should have been able to claim for its destruction?   Neither you nor your property insurer would be liable in the circumstances you outlined.

Just done a check, it looks as if the laws have changed since I checked last. I checked in 2005 last, it seems as if the law was changed in 2012. I was going on outdated/wrong information.

[mlroseplant]

On 12/25/2021 at 5:25 PM, VirginHeels said:

I suppose that’s the difference between here in the UK, apart from crown owned or land owned via certain Dukedom’s, trees cannot be within a 4meter (13ft 1inch) range of any plan of the house. Plus trees must be limited to a 6 foot (England) or 2 meter (Scotland & Wales) in height and diameter, in line with fence height. Your neighbours can sue for enforcement, but is largely a last case scenario, but is often done for right to light.

Not that you can sue a neighbor for cutting down a tree here, but most of us would rather have the shade than the light. Different climate, I suppose.

[VirginHeels]

6 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

Not that you can sue a neighbor for cutting down a tree here, but most of us would rather have the shade than the light. Different climate, I suppose.

Remember, I’m in Scotland, a country that don’t get much sun. We just got new neighbours recently who chopped down loads of trees, next summer we will get sun from about 9am to 9pm in our garden.

That's that different climate I suppose. 15C here is considered Summer here.

[Cali]

Because I live in a coastal zone with lagoons and butterfly habitats, we need permits to touch trees of certain width and wider. Even when the home owner is under court order to remove such a tree.  There is a person around here who has turned their neighbor in to the authorities. I've watched several 175 foot trees drop during a big storm.

[Pumped]

I like trees, I just like to maintain them and the problems that arise from them. When I moved into this house 30 years ago there was five trees on the lot, today, zero! I used to rain clean gutters 2-3 times a year. I haven't cleaned a gutter since the last tree went away. I was on the roof this summer and the gutters are reasonably clean.

[Shyheels]

I didn’t know there were trees in North Dakota!

[Pumped]

We had trees until I cut my five down!

[VirginHeels]

I’m getting my courage together, I’m planning on two outings this coming week, one to the centre of town and one to IKEA. Probably in my Naturalizer boots as they will be easier to walk in them.

[Puffer]

We have read of Mark Bryan here before and are aware of his fashion choices but this recent article gives further insight into his lifestyle.   The readers' comments are, as usual, a mixed bag and not very tolerant - but several think he has good and enviable legs!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11834723/Im-heterosexual-man-wear-heels-skirts-office-wife-doesnt-mind.html

[pebblesf]

A good article, and he looks great.  A guy sporting cool gear as a guy.  I have heard varying opinions on his "politics etc", and surely don't have enough information to judge, nor do I care to.  The little I read about his reaction to the LGTBQ criticisms seem perfectly fair.  He is a straight guy who enjoys wearing all sorts of great fashions, he is not gay/trans etc.  

[bootedbloo]

On 3/13/2023 at 12:56 AM, Puffer said:

We have read of Mark Bryan here before and are aware of his fashion choices but this recent article gives further insight into his lifestyle.   The readers' comments are, as usual, a mixed bag and not very tolerant - but several think he has good and enviable legs!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11834723/Im-heterosexual-man-wear-heels-skirts-office-wife-doesnt-mind.html

Thanks Puffer. A great article! 

I especially like the way he breaks the tension with people who stare & gawk: 

He added: 'If I sense someone is taking a longer look, I'll joke and say 'take a picture if you want' and it usually breaks up any tension.

[mlroseplant]

10 hours ago, bootedbloo said:

Thanks Puffer. A great article! 

I especially like the way he breaks the tension with people who stare & gawk: 

He added: 'If I sense someone is taking a longer look, I'll joke and say 'take a picture if you want' and it usually breaks up any tension.

I can sort of do that now, although I haven't really had any reason to for quite some time. There's no way I could have been that comfortable about it when I first started heeling. There is a certain confidence level one gains from years of experience.

[Cali]

My response to someone taking a longer look has been "don't you just love them".

But as @mlroseplant puts it, it takes a certain amount of confidnce that comes from years of experience.

[spikesmike]

Cali:  I wish I had your confidence and experience. Mike

[Cali]

Either you trap yourself into being worried all the time or you live free.  I rather live free.

[mlroseplant]

I do not believe that it is ever an all-or-nothing situation, or at least rarely. Who among us suddenly decided one day, "Hey, guess what? I'm wearing heels today! And I'm going to make sure everybody knows I'm wearing heels!" Maybe somebody did that, but very, very few. No, we thought about it for a long time--maybe years--and then we eventually ventured out wearing 3 inch block heeled booties under flared jeans, feeling great, but at the same time wondering how people were going to react to us. Complete confidence towards the world does not necessarily equal freedom. On the opposite end of the spectrum, there are certain things I don't worry about at all that I probably should, like the state of my retirement pension.

[Shyheels]

Pension? What pension? I’ve been freelancing for nearly 30 years. Looking forward to an old age eating one meal of cold porridge a day by the light of a guttering candle…

[Cali]

Pension X 3.

I rarely think about what people will think.  I can't control that, so I stopped worring about what I can't control.

 

[pebblesf]

21 hours ago, spikesmike said:

Cali:  I wish I had your confidence and experience. Mike

Huh??  Mike, you have amazing confidence and experience...

3 hours ago, Shyheels said:

Pension? What pension? I’ve been freelancing for nearly 30 years. Looking forward to an old age eating one meal of cold porridge a day by the light of a guttering candle…

but you/we will be wearing boots anyway....  

4 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

I do not believe that it is ever an all-or-nothing situation, or at least rarely. Who among us suddenly decided one day, "Hey, guess what? I'm wearing heels today! And I'm going to make sure everybody knows I'm wearing heels!" Maybe somebody did that, but very, very few. No, we thought about it for a long time--maybe years--and then we eventually ventured out wearing 3 inch block heeled booties under flared jeans, feeling great, but at the same time wondering how people were going to react to us. Complete confidence towards the world does not necessarily equal freedom. On the opposite end of the spectrum, there are certain things I don't worry about at all that I probably should, like the state of my retirement pension.

Good point, this is usually an "ongoing process" that takes time.  

[Shyheels]

Yes indeed! As I shuffle my faltering way to the soup kitchen, at least my feet will be warm and stylish in my boots. I shall still be able to describe myself as “well heeled”.

[P4P]

Certain posts are inspirational. Yet personally it is not (yet) as easy. 
As I already stick out with 6"6/1,98 wearing heels really does stick out
Would love to wear them under a suit, yet my workplace is not as progressive to pull that one off. Or at least it would be a form of career suicide (not that it would be said of course).

[Shyheels]

13 minutes ago, P4P said:

Certain posts are inspirational. Yet personally it is not (yet) as easy. 
As I already stick out with 6"6/1,98 wearing heels really does stick out
Would love to wear them under a suit, yet my workplace is not as progressive to pull that one off. Or at least it would be a form of career suicide (not that it would be said of course).

At 6’6” you really do have a challenge to wear heels. And a style choice is not worth career suicide. I am fortunate as a freelance writer I work from home except for when I’m travelling on assignment and thus can make boots and heels a part of my office dress code

[Puffer]

12 hours ago, Shyheels said:

Pension? What pension? I’ve been freelancing for nearly 30 years. Looking forward to an old age eating one meal of cold porridge a day by the light of a guttering candle…

Cold porridge by candlelight?   You're lucky - thin gruel under the stars is about all I could muster (so my butler keeps reminding me).

13 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

I do not believe that it is ever an all-or-nothing situation, or at least rarely. Who among us suddenly decided one day, "Hey, guess what? I'm wearing heels today! And I'm going to make sure everybody knows I'm wearing heels!" Maybe somebody did that, but very, very few. No, we thought about it for a long time--maybe years--and then we eventually ventured out wearing 3 inch block heeled booties under flared jeans, feeling great, but at the same time wondering how people were going to react to us. Complete confidence towards the world does not necessarily equal freedom. On the opposite end of the spectrum, there are certain things I don't worry about at all that I probably should, like the state of my retirement pension.

That surely sums up the historical experience of most of us here.   We survived (and generally flourished) and the sky remained intact and properly positioned.  

[Shyheels]

1 hour ago, Puffer said:

Cold porridge by candlelight?   You're lucky - thin gruel under the stars is about all I could muster (so my butler keeps reminding me).

That surely sums up the historical experience of most of us here.   We survived (and generally flourished) and the sky remained intact and properly positioned.  

Under the stars, you say? You’re lucky. Cold hard rain all the time where I live

[spikesmike]

miroseplant: Great line embracing fact philosophically and kill it all with worrying about your pension. Hell, I spend my pension on buying more high heels. Isn't this a great way to spend old age?  Mike

[Shyheels]

Sure … if you have a pension

[Heelster]

What's a pension ???

If I actually get Social Security, it will be beer money at the end of the month - - - 

[Cali]

The more pensions the better.  Bring them on.😀

[SF]

I am tempted to comment on public sector pensions, but fear if would create quite a kerfuffle, so I will stand mute....  sf

[Cali]

Multiple Golden Handshakes are fine too.