I have been wearing gals shoes since I was a pre teen in the 60's, a long time ago. In the 90's I caught the HH bug and have worn heels (and flats) ever since. I am a straight, married guy, and it has always bothered me when folks think that I am homosexual - I'm not - because I enjoy wearing gals shoes. But having said that I can understand why folks assume that, given societies take on gender issues, especially these days. As Pebbles said, it's getting complicated.
Before folks get "rilled up," I have nothing against gay folks, they are God's creatures just like me. I have at least two close family members who are gay, and like that fact that as a straight guy, can wear gals shoes and clothing, in public even. As for pronouns, I don't get caught up in that either. I will let others deal with that issue. If you desire to assign a pronoun to yourself, that's your deal, go for it.
And, mlroseplant, love your heels, I would proudly wear those too. Why? Just because I enjoy wearing heels, that's why... smile
Not to "hijack" the thread, now back to our regular programing. sf