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How do I tell her?

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I am SO addicted to high heels. I love seeing my girlfriend in them. It never gets old. Whether we are out on the town or shes wearing them with lingerie or nothing at all. My problem is I've been wearing high heels in private for over 20 years now and I'm DYING to tell her in hopes that we can share them together in private. How do I tell her? Any advice?!

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Honestly you should feel out her thoughts by showing something like ax commercial of last year or see her reaction to internet images show men wearing heels in less provocative or over the top ways. If you're into full x-dress then you're in for a much deeper conversation. Myself, when I first met my wife and 2 previous girlfriends I mentioned it very early on, none seemed to mind. The one I altimately married thought it was sexy.

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A great topic for sure, but the right advice really depends on the individual situation.  What might be the right advice for one, could be detrimental for another....

How long have you been seeing your girl friend?  Do you just enjoy wearing heels, or do you like to dress as well?

In any event, I like JK's advice, which is to test the waters very slowly and carefully.  I like the idea of sharing pictures/videos of guys in heels.  Does she like watching youtube?  If so, perhaps you can share a video with her of a guy in heels, saying something like "look what I found on the net, what do you think?"   Another approach might be going shoe shopping with her....Perhaps, while walking through the mall together you might point out a pair of heels you would like to see her in while walking by a store window.  I'm assuming she is aware of how much you enjoy having her wear heels. 

In any event, if you are serious about this relationship, you need to tell her soon.  I'm hoping this relationship is relatively new, so she will not be put off thinking you were keeping secrets from her. 

Let's hear what other recommend....

 

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HighHeels2,

I'd start by asking her what motivates her to wear heels and how it makes her feel. Do some research and you'll find high heels were invented by men and and for exclusive use by men 500 years ago. Print out the article and show it to her. Visual aids are always helpful when making a point like the one you are about to make. Ask her what are the ramifications if she wears a flat shoe one day and a heeled shoe the next? Why are you undeserving of the same choice?? I guarantee you she'll have affirmative defense short of complete acceptance of your right to the same choice. Equality goes both ways. Women dress like guys every day but they don't view it that way. Identify what your goals are and approach it from that perspective. You should tell her soon. Her answers will reveal her character and will put this relationship to the test of conditional or unconditional. It is a conversation worth having and  a test worth taking.  HappyinHeels

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Tell her matter of factly. Don't make it a big "coming out" thing or she may think you keeping it from her is some hidden dark area of your life which it is not. Perhaps a simple acknowledgement that you were afraid to tell her for silly reasons would also put her at ease.

Part of being in a relationship with people is we get to continue to learn about one another the entire time we are together. Its like Christmas morning but ongoing and more often.

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