Do you think

[Stilettoscot]

..Or, that he walked and looked better wearing them.

[Tech]

well, i had to vote yes,as far as my my experiance goes with the few women i have had any kind of serious relationship with,whenever i have suggested her to wear heels and told them of my fetish they run away and they run away fast,so i would have to come to the conclusion that most ladies have a fear of wearing them i personaly dont know what other reason there can be for it

Isnt this a contradiction?

You have had a serious relationship with a "few" women, therefore "Most" women must all be the same!

You sound like one of those TV commercials that claim 97% of women love our new shampoo (27 women surveyed from January to Feb 2003) kind of things.

You have 3 relationships, and 3 of them do the same thing, so what your claiming here is that 100% of all women dont like high heels!

Now do you see how nuts that sounds...

[Bubba136]

You have 3 relationships, and 3 of them do the same thing, so what your claiming here is that 100% of all women don,t like high heels!

Now do you see how nuts that sounds...

What's the difference between Stilettoman's poll and some of the political polls that are circulating around the news networks? Both are based upon the same number of respondents.

[Tech]

What's the difference between Stilettoman's poll and some of the political polls that are circulating around the news networks? Both are based upon the same number of respondents.

"The poll" itself is fine, I havent said anything about his poll, it was his comment of labelling all women the same based on an experience with only a few dude....

[Stilettoscot]

But, Richie, he didn't claim it as fact, just his "conclusion"..LOL

[johnieheel]

I think those women runned away because they thought you are more interested to their heels than them.

Very possible and maybe you came on a little too strong with the (fetish thing).

I believe most of us here have all learned that a fetish, rather than a passion or preference, can be a little dangerous. I understand that a lot of people do not understand the difference.

[Tech]

But, Richie, he didn't claim it as fact, just his "conclusion"..LOL

I know, thats what I said. He is "claiming" in "his opinion"

He's stereotyping based on very little information.

[johnieheel]

I'm content with the answers I have received to a very simple question in my opinion. Thank you SaraLou and Histiletto and others who understood the question perfectly. Fact is, with out a survey, both men and a lot of women are a little self conscious at times about the shoes they wear and where and when they wear them. Much thanks for all replies.

[stilettoman]

Isnt this a contradiction?

You have had a serious relationship with a "few" women, therefore "Most" women must all be the same!

You sound like one of those TV commercials that claim 97% of women love our new shampoo (27 women surveyed from January to Feb 2003) kind of things.

You have 3 relationships, and 3 of them do the same thing, so what your claiming here is that 100% of all women dont like high heels!

Now do you see how nuts that sounds...

hello richie,and than thank you,first off i would like to point out the fact that i said most women and that is a far cry from 100% of all women. i see women everyday that wear and walk very elegantly in high heels.perhaps what i should have added to my post is that..... i simply have not found the right women who would or does like to wear high heels or who is capable of understanding my fetish for wearing them. second off given the fact that most is not 100% wich i did not say and the given that a few is not most i do not see were my post to this thread was nuts or contradictory in the least

[Tech]

hello richie,and than thank you,first off i would like to point out the fact that i said most women and that is a far cry from 100% of all women. i see women everyday that wear and walk very elegantly in high heels.perhaps what i should have added to my post is that..... i simply have not found the right women who would or does like to wear high heels or who is capable of understanding my fetish for wearing them. second off given the fact that most is not 100% wich i did not say and the given that a few is not most i do not see were my post to this thread was nuts or contradictory in the least

I think I worded my post badly too...

I was simply trying to get to a point of how you were suggesting that "most" were like that based on experience of only a few.

Never mind, I'll stick to admin mode post's.. Sorry.

[stilettoman]

thats quite allright richie,we are entitled to our own opinions in this world,occasionally we are called upon to defend them lol.

[Gudulitooo]

Definetely yes, but for other reasons than men. Ex: how long will I have to walk this day?

[hhboots]

I had not really thought that women would be self concious about it too much, but it was very nice to see SarahLou's thoughts on this matter. Now I clearly see heels can give women attention they may not want either. As much as I want to wear heels in public, I don't want to necessarily have any extra attention aimed towards me, which is why I go as discreet as possible when I do so.

[Nick-65]

Folks, with alot of girls it's comfort, comfort, comfort just like it is with me!!! We guys think that it is absolutely geourgeous and extremely SEXY on a girl to see her all dressed to "Kill" in a sexy outfit as well as "HEELS" Me personally, I'm more attracted to decent looks but, a big heart, a great personality as well as great matriarical and common sense, great domestic qualities, a good sense of humor are the most important things as well as others if you know what I mean!!!

[dblair]

This is a great thread. For myself, as I believe is the case for most other male heelers here, it is very awkward, uncomfortable and sometimes scary to get more attention than you bargained for when out in heels. I am sure this happens to women all the time, and there is no reason why we should think that it is any easier for them. The only difference is that perhaps the guys who are staring, whistling or yelling cat calls at a woman in heels may actually think (due to a complete lack of understanding or sensitivity) that this is a compliment to the woman. Where-as the intent against a man in heels would almost always be to humiliate and to hurt. In either case though, the result is the same, so both are equally unacceptable in my opinion.

[HappyinHeels]

It only seems logical that women may be just apprehensive about it as men would IF, note the operative word IF, they are not very accustomed to it, and hence more aware of it. The tonic for this is what many forumers have talked about.......CONFIDENCE. If the high heel-clad woman or man dresses and walks with that confidence then the world sees the entire human being confidently. One confident person after another in one country after another can eventually enable millions to start expressing themselves they way they always wanted to but were afraid to try. Wonderful in Wedges, Pleasant in Platforms, Sexy in Stilettoes, HappyinHeels:nervous:

[wood&metal]

Yes... But I would think it would be more from peer pressure.. Women, especially younger women; can be quite brutal and jealous towards other women when it comes to clothes and shoes, ect..

[danielp6406]

What an amazing thread this is.

Same as many other guy, I would never have thought some

women would not feel comfortable wearing heels in public.

I was assuming wearing heels was a "normal" and "natural" thing for them to do.

Before reading Sarahlou's reply, I would have voted no. Now my point of view is different so I voted yes.

It is important to remember that women's and men's fear of wearing heels is not at the same level at all.

I also agree with heelma when he says "It's more a common dress code question"

Thank you Sarahlou for your reply !

[Kittyinboots]

I voted yes. My sister had a pair of 6" strappy shoes with a 2" platform. She modeled them in front of us but said she would only wear them indoors. I much as I enjoy them there are some boots that can be a bit suggestive for some ladies and make them feel self conscious. Hopefully OTK and thigh boots will be more common in public, everyday fashion, without being too suggestive or banned from office dress code. Much like our male members who wear thigh boots, I think that ladies who have reservations should go ahead and enjoy a pair for their own personal fashion preference, assuming that they do their heeling in safe places, or with an escort or group.

[krazykev64]

i voted yes because i believe that there are some women who may feel embarresed if they slipped. i think the majority love to wear heels in public

[pussyinboots]

There are plenty of reasons why women are nervous about wearing heels, and wearing them in public. One of the foremost has already been mentioned here, and that is comfort. Lots of women still only wear heels on 'special' occasions and so are not used to high heels on shoes - by high, I mean over 3" or 3.5". Wearing heels everyday is for young girls, not mature women.

Another is the impression that it gives others. Plenty of women still believe that high heels are 'cheap'...and reflect on their moral standing. This is especially prevalant in more senior members of the fairer sex, who grew up in an age when high heels were worn by 'streetwalkers', not ladies with class.

Of course, this is one of the reasons why young girls LOVE high heels, they are attractive to men.....so, after choosing them for themselves, they wear them for this purpose above anything else.

Then of course there is the practicality and safety issue....high heels are noriously tricky things on badly made pavements and streets, and not too clever in bad or snowy weather either. They are also not the best things to be wearing if you need to run for a bus or a train...and they are not too clever on escalators either. There are also plenty of women who refuse to drive in high heels as well.

However, the overwhelming reason why a large number of women are nervous about very high heels in public is........ of course.......what other women - and men - think, and the unwanted attention that high heels can generate in bystanders.

[geo]

Thank you for emphasizing about both men and women are sometimes afraid to wear their heels.

[bladerunner]

pussyinboots your starting to scare me now! 'Then of course there is the practicality and safety issue....high heels are noriously tricky things on badly made pavements and streets, and not too clever in bad or snowy weather either. They are also not the best things to be wearing if you need to run for a bus or a train...and they are not too clever on escalators either. There are also plenty of women who refuse to drive in high heels as well.' still there will always be diehards and risk takers like us here! but on this 'badly made pavements and streets' i have succombed more than once!

[malinheels]

I agree this a very interesting thread and to be honest i haven't voted because i personally have no first hand info on wether females feel aprehensive about wearing heels in public In my own experience though i find that i definatly attract much more attention when wearing heels than when i wear flat shoes but not only just when wearing heels it depends on what type of heel i'm wearing the more outraegeous the shoe the more attention But for me it's 99.5 % good attention cheers malinheels

[mtnsofheels]

Greetings all, Yes indeed, a good question for sure. I voted yes because in the bigger cities it is more common for women and some men to wear heels as they wish. In Rural areas my feeling is that women would generally avoid heels because of what others (women and men) think of them. Digging out those old standards ( stated lower in the thread) which are still seen as the norm from decades ago. It is a pity that it still exists but it does. My partner moved to our rural location from a bigger city and has hardly worn a pair of heels since. That I am sad about, however to get a few groceries it is not practical to jump in a pair of heels to go into to town and mix with others in the store that have sneakers or crocs on and yoga pants. That said I am promoting our visits to bigger cities, wearing heels as a fun adventure for us to do where others would be commonly seen doing the same. Thanks for the good comments! Mtnsofheels

[johnieheel]

Good point mtnsofheels. I live in a very small town. When I go to Walmart in the adjacent town, which is much larger, still the women around here have no idea of what fashion is. For the most part, there idea of dressing up is in a pair of designer jeans and new flip-flops. lol

[Histiletto]

Somewhere in time, we as a community of people became complacent and no longer think it is necessary to get spruced up for public outings. I'm not talking about dressing up in a suit and tie, a gown and pearls, sweats, or work uniforms. It's the grungy, thread bare, and overly used clothes that should have already gone to a bag for cleaning rag uses, that are worn these days. To even see heels being worn, a person has to be attending semi to formal public functions, at least in this area. Places where one would think heels would be part of ones attire, like Dances, are noticeably rare. This also makes it harder to be male or female heelers in public, especially if you're in my position of being a stiletto heeler. Even ballet flats are scarce. The popular footwear has been flip-flops or sandal, with the warm to hot climate.

[johnieheel]

There is a funeral home across the street from my and they were having a viewing today. There were a lot of young ladies dressed up and I could tell that it took someone to die for them to get dressed as they struggled in there heels and also looked like they all went shopping a walmart for there long grey dresses. Like you say Histiletto, it takes a public event around these parts for a girl, or guy to put on a nice but not to formal outfit. How sad it is.

[loswabs]

Wearing heels everyday is for young girls, not mature women.

I'm not sure whether this is your opinion or you're providing an assessment in answer to the OP. Do you really believe mature women shouldn't wear high heels? How old is mature? Is it a no-no for mature men to wear heels, but ok for boys on the basis it is for girls?

I believe people should wear what they like, regardless of age, gender or any other label society plonks on them. Shame most of us still get adversely influenced by what society says is acceptable.

[pussyinboots]

I'm not sure whether this is your opinion or you're providing an assessment in answer to the OP. Do you really believe mature women shouldn't wear high heels? How old is mature? Is it a no-no for mature men to wear heels, but ok for boys on the basis it is for girls?

I believe people should wear what they like, regardless of age, gender or any other label society plonks on them. Shame most of us still get adversely influenced by what society says is acceptable.

I quite agree with you. I applaud more mature women who wear heels regularly. At just over 45, I include myself in that category too.

However, I was projecting the commonly held view of the general populace - within the context of the post.