The Adventures of kneehighs...

[Bootslover29]

On 10/14/2022 at 1:01 PM, kneehighs said:

motivational update: not taking things personally is important to wearing what you want to wear.  That means if people think your heel wearing is "bad", it's not about you. But it also means if they think your heel wearing is "good" it's also not about you.  This attitude flips the reference point back to you and your feelings which you can control.  As opposed to referring to others, which you can't control. 

What I mean by this. If I wear heels and someone disapproves of it, that disapproval says more about that person's inner world than it does about my feelings of excitement wearing heels, my feelings of significance creating beauty via my style, my feelings to create love and connection with the right people by being vulnerable in who I really am.

It also mean, if my wear heels and someone approves, that approval says more about that person's inner world than it does about me for the same reasons above. 

 

Well, it takes time to me to understand this, but you're absolutely right. 

This understanding of the attitude of others is very helpful to adopt the right approach to dismantle aggressive behavior for example. Not considering it against me and my outfit, but issued by his own story, help me to be constructive and less aggressive myself. 

[kneehighs]

6 hours ago, Bootslover29 said:

Well, it takes time to me to understand this, but you're absolutely right. 

This understanding of the attitude of others is very helpful to adopt the right approach to dismantle aggressive behavior for example. Not considering it against me and my outfit, but issued by his own story, help me to be constructive and less aggressive myself. 

That's great. Even if one idea helps just "move the needle" a bit towards the life you want for yourself, the post was worth my time and labor. Appreciate the feedback

[kneehighs]

For single heterosexual men looking to find a significant other supportive of heels. 

I've been searching for that Holy Grail of personality indicators that would increase my efficiency to find a compatible long term partner.

Ideally, find that Holy Grail trait.  Line up all the girls that have that trait in assembly line. Speed date each one to find Mrs. Kneehighs 🤣

That's not reality.  So at least you can qualify girls based on the below traits. If .

These are the traits. I'm sure other guys here that are married can add value to this. Maybe even worthy of a separate thread later.

• A girl with a high priority for experiencing novelty and something different 
• A girl with a history of Crossdresser/Transgender friends
• A girl with a good relationship with her dad
• A girl who is Bisexual
• A girl with a secure attachment style

 

Edited October 22, 2022 by kneehighs

[Cali]

There are three words that might trigger a review.  But this software is better than the software that other sites use to sanitize their sites.

Some software removes the sequence a$$ from words like pass, glass, passionate, assistant, passport to obtain the "words" p, gl, ionate, istant, pport 

[kneehighs]

4 hours ago, Cali said:

There are three words that might trigger a review.  But this software is better than the software that other sites use to sanitize their sites.

Some software removes the sequence a$$ from words like pass, glass, passionate, assistant, passport to obtain the "words" p, gl, ionate, istant, pport 

Thanks, I was unaware it compares well relative to other sites.

 

[Cali]

BTW. You are in a better place. I'm at least 30 years older than you. Women my age are not as accepting.  I get more the "it's fine, but my man" vibe. For me, I feel like finding an accepting woman is just slightly easier than having a successful unicorn hunt.

[mlroseplant]

Speaking of unicorn hunting, I am trying to think, out of all the women I know, who could achieve all of the items on this list. I can think of only one, and this particular woman would not meet your unwritten criteria in three different ways.

[kneehighs]

15 hours ago, Cali said:

BTW. You are in a better place. I'm at least 30 years older than you. Women my age are not as accepting.  I get more the "it's fine, but my man" vibe. For me, I feel like finding an accepting woman is just slightly easier than having a successful unicorn hunt.

That must feel disappointing or disheartening. There's someone out there for everyone though.  Sounds cliche, but I firmly believe this.  

7 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

Speaking of unicorn hunting, I am trying to think, out of all the women I know, who could achieve all of the items on this list. I can think of only one, and this particular woman would not meet your unwritten criteria in three different ways.

Ahh, I didn't mean to imply they meet all the items on the list.  Just one or two is probably sufficient.  By the way, you're married.  Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I gather your heel wearing is "tolerated" by your wife as opposed to actionably "supported".    Is your heel wearing just one of those conflicts in relationship that is never resolved, but tolerated?  

Dating update: quick overview of development over last week.

First girl: Native Hungarian. 5'10"  Already spent the night. Brother is gay. She is totally open to LGBTQ and encouraged all aspects of my fashion freestyling. Unfortunately, she is not long term relationship material.  20's wild child stage. Was absolutely mind blowing short term over night fun though.  And yes, I wore my heels on our first and only date.

Second girl: Native Slovenian. 5'5". Fashion industry background. She's seen new photos of me in heels. Response was just "nice photo" as opposed to "great, love your style".  We meet in a week for drinks and dinner. Likely I'll wear a Zara Pant Suit with pumps.  Won't know if she's long term relationship material yet until we meet in IRL.  

Third girl: Native Russian, but lived in Germany all her life.  5'9".  Thinks men in heels look great. Her roommate wears heels and make up. She told me she tells him, "I'll leave the make up and heels for you". Introverted, Feeler, no social media, prefers to study Ancient Greek Philosophy,  ready for a serious relationship.

My bet is the third girl is the best long term mate. Only time will tell though. 

 

Edited October 23, 2022 by kneehighs

[mlroseplant]

20 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Ahh, I didn't mean to imply they meet all the items on the list.  Just one or two is probably sufficient.  By the way, you're married.  Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I gather your heel wearing is "tolerated" by your wife as opposed to actionably "supported".    Is your heel wearing just one of those conflicts in relationship that is never resolved, but tolerated? 

 

 

Yeah, I think I've just worn her down over the years. She doesn't even bother to say anything anymore. However, the negative feelings are still there. Nowadays, this is usually expressed by her complimenting my shoes that aren't heels, on the rare occasion when that happens.

[kneehighs]

3 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

Yeah, I think I've just worn her down over the years. She doesn't even bother to say anything anymore. However, the negative feelings are still there. Nowadays, this is usually expressed by her complimenting my shoes that aren't heels, on the rare occasion when that happens.

Appreciate your openness @mlroseplant.  Thanks for sharing. 

 

[pebblesf]

On 10/23/2022 at 9:46 AM, kneehighs said:

That must feel disappointing or disheartening. There's someone out there for everyone though.  Sounds cliche, but I firmly believe this.  

Ahh, I didn't mean to imply they meet all the items on the list.  Just one or two is probably sufficient.  By the way, you're married.  Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I gather your heel wearing is "tolerated" by your wife as opposed to actionably "supported".    Is your heel wearing just one of those conflicts in relationship that is never resolved, but tolerated?  

Dating update: quick overview of development over last week.

First girl: Native Hungarian. 5'10"  Already spent the night. Brother is gay. She is totally open to LGBTQ and encouraged all aspects of my fashion freestyling. Unfortunately, she is not long term relationship material.  20's wild child stage. Was absolutely mind blowing short term over night fun though.  And yes, I wore my heels on our first and only date.

Second girl: Native Slovenian. 5'5". Fashion industry background. She's seen new photos of me in heels. Response was just "nice photo" as opposed to "great, love your style".  We meet in a week for drinks and dinner. Likely I'll wear a Zara Pant Suit with pumps.  Won't know if she's long term relationship material yet until we meet in IRL.  

Third girl: Native Russian, but lived in Germany all her life.  5'9".  Thinks men in heels look great. Her roommate wears heels and make up. She told me she tells him, "I'll leave the make up and heels for you". Introverted, Feeler, no social media, prefers to study Ancient Greek Philosophy,  ready for a serious relationship.

My bet is the third girl is the best long term mate. Only time will tell though. 

 

Well, you are young, so just enjoy yourself.  Going out on a date with someone does not mean they have to be considered long term relationship material.  Just enjoy each other for the moment I guess.  Needless to say, you have to be honest if you sense she is looking for something more.  Sooner or later, your quest will pay off.  I would agree though, #3 seems like the best prospect.  

[kneehighs]

On 10/24/2022 at 5:11 PM, pebblesf said:

Well, you are young, so just enjoy yourself.  Going out on a date with someone does not mean they have to be considered long term relationship material.  Just enjoy each other for the moment I guess.  Needless to say, you have to be honest if you sense she is looking for something more.  Sooner or later, your quest will pay off.  I would agree though, #3 seems like the best prospect.  

Definitely agree. But IMHO, the quicker I can disqualify these girls from my life, the better. Time is scarce. Women are abundant.  I don't want to waste time/money. 

I should know about #3 within a couple of weeks. 

On 10/23/2022 at 3:46 PM, kneehighs said:

Dating update: quick overview of development over last week.

Second girl: Native Slovenian. 5'5". Fashion industry background. She's seen new photos of me in heels. Response was just "nice photo" as opposed to "great, love your style".  We meet in a week for drinks and dinner. Likely I'll wear a Zara Pant Suit with pumps.  Won't know if she's long term relationship material yet until we meet in IRL.  

 

Girl 2 also cool with me wearing heels. I'm at a stage now where I say to myself "what have i got to lose? NOTHING". If she would've said it was a problem, I would've politely parted ways.  I forgot to add to the list of girls predisposed to approve of men in heels  "works in a creative industry job (music, art, fashion)"

 

 

Edited October 25, 2022 by kneehighs

[Tech]

On 10/22/2022 at 5:11 PM, kneehighs said:

For single heterosexual men looking to find a significant other supportive of heels. 

I've been searching for that Holy Grail of personality indicators that would increase my efficiency to find a compatible long term partner.

Ideally, find that Holy Grail trait.  Line up all the girls that have that trait in assembly line. Speed date each one to find Mrs. Kneehighs 🤣

That's not reality.  So at least you can qualify girls based on the below traits. If .

These are the traits. I'm sure other guys here that are married can add value to this. Maybe even worthy of a separate thread later.

• A girl with a high priority for experiencing novelty and something different 
• A girl with a history of Crossdresser/Transgender friends
• A girl with a good relationship with her dad
• A girl who is Bisexual
• A girl with a secure attachment style

 

Hiya KH, hope you're well...

Please dont take screenshots of hidden posts pending moderation and then post those moderated posts.

The entire point of a moderated post being hidden is that it stays hidden for review. If you want to bypass this and are going to start taking screenshots of hidden content and then posting that, then every post you make will simply need to be moderated.

If your curious or something gets hidden, just use the site email facility and it will send me an email straight away.

There are word/phrases that are moderated in order to avoid cans of worms opening and threads turning into off-topic CD/TV content.

[kneehighs]

On 11/1/2022 at 3:19 AM, Tech said:

Hiya KH, hope you're well...

Please dont take screenshots of hidden posts pending moderation and then post those moderated posts.

The entire point of a moderated post being hidden is that it stays hidden for review. If you want to bypass this and are going to start taking screenshots of hidden content and then posting that, then every post you make will simply need to be moderated.

If your curious or something gets hidden, just use the site email facility and it will send me an email straight away.

There are word/phrases that are moderated in order to avoid cans of worms opening and threads turning into off-topic CD/TV content.

Understood going forward. We figured out the part about TV/CD content being moderated.

 

 

[kneehighs]

Update.  I'd say 100% of the girls in my purview are now open to being in a relationship with a man that wears heels. That doesn't mean I need a girlfriend to share in feminine experiences together (though that could be fun, it's negotiable).  I think the biggest win now is finding a girl who is psychologically ready for commitment to the reality of a person, not the idea of a person.  I think I'm close but only time will tell.

Barring random bad luck events, Girl 3 above is currently the frontrunner.  And my primary focus. Slovenian is number 2.  Even some past dates have re-appeared out of the blue. And there's always a proven strategy to build a pipeline of new prospects should the current pool prove unfertile.

 

[kneehighs]

Photo from hotel balcony overlooking a lake in Europe. 

I'm wearing a white lace top, blue Zara blazer, leather pants, and Nine West pumps

This photo shared on social media truthfully reflects reality.  Similar outfit worn to dinner.

[Jkrenzer]

You both look amazing. Who took the photo?

[kneehighs]

19 minutes ago, Jkrenzer said:

You both look amazing. Who took the photo?

Thanks. I tried to hire a photographer (usually about 100 euros).

They liked the concept so much, they decided to do the photoshoot for free.

[Jkrenzer]

That's nice.

I like her pose, was that her truly relaxed or did the photographer suggest it.

Either way hope you gave her a nice massage.

[kneehighs]

28 minutes ago, Jkrenzer said:

That's nice.

I like her pose, was that her truly relaxed or did the photographer suggest it.

Either way hope you gave her a nice massage.

Both/and. No, I didn't give her a massage. We did other things though -- things unspeakable here.

[kneehighs]

Girl from Slovenia is promising. She's absolutely cool with me in heels. 85% long term relationship material I think.  Family dynamics are currently keeping her from being immediately available for a serious relationship though. That's likely to change in the next 3-6 months.  We're planning a week long trip to Valencia together in January.

Attached is a photo of a former Miss Ukraine finalist. She's in Romania now. We're working out details about taking a short trip together. Probably Malta.  She's cool with my Carel Mary Janes.  She bubbles with so much emotion, is very friendly, is sincere.  One thing about survivors from the war in Ukraine I've noticed. Most girls really reprioritize their life. Money, partying, and luxury material goods no longer hold the importance they once did. The war has reinforced this value system in her.

So the journey of life continues. 

[kneehighs]

On 11/30/2022 at 8:56 AM, kneehighs said:

Girl from Slovenia is promising. She's absolutely cool with me in heels. 85% long term relationship material I think.  Family dynamics are currently keeping her from being immediately available for a serious relationship though. That's likely to change in the next 3-6 months.  We're planning a week long trip to Valencia together in January.

Looks like things are positively evolving with the Slovenian. We've agreed to a 6 month timeline I proposed for our relational evolution. Our life stages, lifestyle expectations, money matters, relational expectations all serendipitously align.  I'm taking it one step at a time, but it feels very promising.  Assuming everything works well beyond six months, it's then a matter of moving to Spain together or her staying in my existing flat in Budapest.

Edited December 18, 2022 by kneehighs

[kneehighs]

Officially sexually exclusive with Slovenian.  It's a mutually agreed upon boundary. We have a trip together to Paris for 6 nights at the end of the month. We have a mutually agreed upon boundary we'll call ourselves a couple if things go well there.  If things go well in Paris, we've mutually agreed she'll start to make plans to move in with me near April/May

She's positively cool about me wearing heels, wearing gel polish on my nails (we're going to get matching red), (skirts--but I never wear skirts) and is cool with any level of gender non binary dressing.  Needless to say, that's a dream come true. To express with authenticity my feminine style in my closest relationship is something I'm very grateful for.

More importantly, she exhibits character traits suitable for a happy long term committment. Kindness, consideration, respect, loyalty, warmth, etc.

I've had my fun. Sowed my wild oats. Some of the stories are even documented on here from back in 2005.  Dated too many girls to count. Time to settle down and build something together.

In pic, her legs on left, my legs on right. 

Edited February 13, 2023 by kneehighs

[Shyheels]

Congratulations! Sounds like “a keeper”!

[kneehighs]

1 hour ago, Shyheels said:

Congratulations! Sounds like “a keeper”!

Thanks! I do think this is it. 

[pebblesf]

4 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Officially sexually exclusive with Slovenian.  It's a mutually agreed upon boundary. We have a trip together to Paris for 6 nights at the end of the month. We have a mutually agreed upon boundary we'll call ourselves a couple if things go well there.  If things go well in Paris, we've mutually agreed she'll start to make plans to move in with me near April/May

She's positively cool about me wearing heels, wearing gel polish on my nails (we're going to get matching red), (skirts--but I never wear skirts) and is cool with any level of gender non binary dressing.  Needless to say, that's a dream come true. To express with authenticity my feminine style in my closest relationship is something I'm very grateful for.

More importantly, she exhibits character traits suitable for a happy long term committment. Kindness, consideration, respect, loyalty, warmth, etc.

I've had my fun. Sowed my wild oats. Some of the stories are even documented on here from back in 2005.  Dated too many girls to count. Time to settle down and build something together.

In pic, her legs on left, my legs on right. 

Good for you both!  I am so envious.  Your nice legs would look great in darkhose as well.   

[spikesmike]

Kneehighs:  Nice sofa. Mike

[Rockpup]

@kneehighsCongtradulations, and I hope things work out for you both. Make sure she alays has the nicer shoes on.

[Jkrenzer]

23 minutes ago, Rockpup said:

@kneehighsCongtradulations, and I hope things work out for you both. Make sure she alays has the nicer shoes on.

Don't worry if hers are nicer or not. Simply, should the 2 of you go long term you'll outlast her in heels. Men have actually better feet for high heels believe it or not. She'll stop wearing them well before you do.

Happy couple heeling. I'm a lone wolf, my wife can't wear heels even if she wanted to.

[Rockpup]

1 hour ago, Jkrenzer said:

Don't worry if hers are nicer or not. Simply, should the 2 of you go long term you'll outlast her in heels. Men have actually better feet for high heels believe it or not. She'll stop wearing them well before you do.

Happy couple heeling. I'm a lone wolf, my wife can't wear heels even if she wanted to.

It is not about endurance. @kneehighswill always get more attention for the fact of the heels, but if his partner has better heels, she can still shine.

Or just always match to wear the exact same shoes, then you will both know when it's time to take a break.

Edited February 15, 2023 by Rockpup