Bubba136 Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kneehighs Posted February 24, 2008 Author Share Posted February 24, 2008 Instead of updating this thread with a positive story, I thought I'd share a potentially negative experience I encountered while in London. After the British Fashion Council Party on Thursday, me, Heel-D, and our posse of Swedish super model friends made way to a London club called Amika. I was wearing black round toe 4" Nine West pumps, black skinny pants, a Georgette Silk Twill tuxedo top by Marc by Marc Jacobs, and a blazer. Getting past the door men at ground level was no problem. Getting past the door men in the second level downstairs was no problem either. In fact, going in and out of the club, provided that I was with a girl was uneventful. Until, I went back in alone. At which point the bouncer at ground level didn't exhibit a problem with my dress, but the one at the second level downstairs did. Since I was without my usual female company, he got brave and stopped me. I showed him my wrist band. He shined his flashlight on my wrist band. Then he shined his flashlight right onto my shoes. He asked, "Did you nick those?" To which I replied, "No, I bought them." Then he asked, "Why are you wearing women's shoes?" To that I said, "Because I want to, why is there a problem?" I took a few steps back to increase the space between us. I sensed he was harassing me. Soon, two women came in line from behind me and he told them "he's wearing women's shoes" as he shined the flashlight on my pumps. They didn't stop for even a second and continued to walk into the bar. I calmly stood my ground. So in confident tone of voice I said, "I would love for the press to get a hold of this story" and I looked him right in the eye. Then he said, "just go in". I stood motionless, intending to intimidate this guy right back. I asked, "What's your name?" He replied, "it doesn't matter, just go in." I dropped the issue and returned inside. Now did I whine and cry that I would never wear heels again? No. Will it stop me from wearing heels again? No way. Will it stop me from going back to that business? Hell yes. No way I'm going to spend money in an establishment that employs ignoramuses like that guy. Had I known the exact statutory citations for the applicable British Human Rights Laws and time to draw up a complaint, I would have sent it to the management to scare them. Strange thing I found myself in a situation where I didn't know how to enforce my legal rights. Moral of the story: keep heeling. I am even more confident now that I can handle the worst that is thrown at me. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeffB Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 Well done, kneehighs! Well done! I thought you handled that situation in just the right way. You stood your ground and refused to be intimidated without raising an unholy stink which would've done nobody any good. I agree that such a negative situation like what you encountered could possibly traumatize the less self-assured among us, causing them to retreat to the safety of their closets, never to emerge from again, if not purge their heels altogether. But by voting with your wallet, that goon cost his employer any future business. In the end, that's the best revenge. Good work, my friend. This was just the sort of cautionary tale that illustrates the problems we as high heeled men still face today. I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShockQueen Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 Bravo to you, Kneehighs! Just goes to show that even the worst rectal-cranial inverted twits can't stop us from wearing what we love. You were 1000% in the right standing up to him, and perhaps it deflated his ego down to human standards when he realized he couldn't rattle your cage. You always have style and good taste in your clothes, and if someone can't handle it, then tough noogies. SQ.....still busting societal molds with a smile...and a 50-ton sledge! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canadianbeaver17 Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 You should of jabbed him with your stiletto...haha Good stuff man, way to stand your ground! I've had a similar experience where someone out of the crowd tries to me a macho guy and point out that I'm wearing shoes or whatever. Every single time it just turns into everyone else going "sweet shoes" and they go on with their business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
las Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 Haha, you tell 'em! Nice to have read about that, and look forward to your next outing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 hell kneehighs, I would have told him that is none of his god damn bussiness why I'm wearing "womens shoes" & that I didnt ask him in the 1st. place what he though of it, & I WOULD have complained to the managment right there & THEN, VERY loudly!!! (what the hell do these places need to hire MORONS for, with NO requirements for BRAINS & PROFESSIONALISM, is WAY WAY beyond MY thinking!!!??) good boy, always stand up for your rights, esp. in face of IDIOTS, which seem to be hired for these jobs for their bulky muscles & nothing else needed! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Congratulations, KH! Your handling of the situation was spot on perfect. One other thing I would have done (or would do if I ever found myself in a similar situation) -- After I entered past him into the establishment, I would have gone directly to the manager and explained the situation to him. My purpose would be nothing other than to alert the management with a friendly warning of the potential legal problem his establishment might be facing if his employees presisted in harassing customers to the degree that you experienced. I would also explain, as an indication of my appreciation of my treatment at the hands of his employee, that he had gotten the last of my money and that I would try my best to let other people know of the kind of treatment they should expect when they thought of going to his establishment. Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnieheel Posted February 25, 2008 Share Posted February 25, 2008 Way to go Kneehighs! You da man!!!!! I agree totally with Bubba and Demonia. I would have went straight to the management and let them know in a very calm and professional way that they had gotten the last of my money and a lot of people are going to hear about how they treat you like a criminal and try to embarrass you in front of others because the doorman didn't agree with what you were wearing. You do, in my opinion, have great taste in dress. BTW, what is the name of that forbidden place? Good work standing your ground! real men wear heels Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kneehighs Posted February 26, 2008 Author Share Posted February 26, 2008 Thanks guys. Approaching management about the issue while it happened would have been interesting, but I didn't feel like pressing the matter any further, really. Had I known the precise statutes within British Law that address this issue, and if those statutes apply to non-British citizens, I would have pressed the issue further. That's my style. If that had happened in NYC, I could have had an unnofficial legal complaint dropped at their doorstep within hours (just to scare them into some sort of cheap settlement <free night out etc>). Gives me something to look into for the next London trip. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roniheels Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Kneehighs, that was so cool on your part. And I especially mean the way you kept your cool in the entire situation. I like the way you difused the situation, kept your composure, and didn't push the envelope. I can't remember anyone ever approaching me face-to-face like that and being derogatory. I will use your experience as a lesson in case this happens. Thank you for sharing this with us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kneehighs Posted April 6, 2008 Author Share Posted April 6, 2008 Last night was an interesting evening. After having dinner and drinks with a couple of girl friends at Soho Park in Nolita, I felt like it was time for some fun in the Old Meat Packing District again. This area has pretty much worn out it's hip status as it's become a terminally trendy area now, a veritable mecca of nightlife for everyone except locals. But I went expecting to have a good time. And a good time I had too. I wore my black 4" Nine West stiletto pumps, no socks, black skinny jeans from Urban Outfitters, black Calvin Klein glossy blazer, and peach Marc by Marc Jacobs Silk Georgette twill top. My pumps were in full view. I settled on Buddakan, a restaurant/lounge on the corner of 9th Avenue and 16th. The first thing I noticed is that 90% of the crowd was in the 25-35 age bracket and most of the guys were wearing blazers. Right away I liked the professionally upwardly mobile clientelle, immediately felt safe and settled onto a bar stool. After a drink, I started to converse with a couple of girls from Victoria, Canada, a blonde and a brunette. We wound up talking for about 3 hours touching on topics from politics to fashion to dating to travel. Even after 3 hours of talking with these girls, no mention of my stiletto pumps was made. To be honest, I don't think they noticed--that is until I made it an issue. Right before we decided to leave to explore a new club, I said to the blonde, "Okay, but first, before we go, I need to change my shoes since mine are the same as yours (simultaneously I held out my pump against her pump)". Naturally, she was surprised. Her first question was, "What size are they?" to which I replied, "the same size as yours (she was 5'11" without heels)". "Mine are size 9" "Oh, mine are 11. Nine West" "really, so are mine" After taking our shoes off and comparing them, it turned out we were both wearing the exact same model of Nine West pumps, just in different sizes. My dream had come true: to be out for a night on the town with an attractive lady while we both wore the exact same pumps. And I didn't even have to buy her a pair either! I started having second thoughts about whether I should change my shoes, so I said, "I dunno. You think I should change or leave them on?" The blonde replied, "Leave them on if you can." When her friend got back from the restroom, she had to tell her friend about my pumps. Her friend really acted like it was no big deal. Over all, neither girl gushed with praise for my pumps, nor did they criticize them. We didn't dwell on the topic of my shoes for much longer than approximately one minute and before long, we were off to another club. It was a very nonchalant experience and a wonderful evening full of good conversation, massive flirting, and enjoyable camaraderie that finally came to a close around 5 am. The blonde wound up giving me her contact information so we can get together Sunday night too. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bootking Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 Great fantasy come true!!! It's all about the heel! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maximilian Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 The master has done it again! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canadianbeaver17 Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 The man, The legend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flavio Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 Congratulations my friend! Read your stories are the best way to remember how good was my times when I was single. Be married is very good, of course, but those moments when single where enjoiable. Unfortunatelly I didn't have the courage to wear my heels at the street at that time, but it's another conversation... Flavio - Brazilian heel lover, now in France. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shyguy Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 As always Kneehighs another inspirational tale. You not only get out there in high heels, you do it with style and seem to get a good reaction from everyone you meet. Thanks for taking the time to share these tales with us all. He was so narrow minded he could see through a keyhole with both eyes. Brown's Law: If the shoe fits, it's ugly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 The man, The legend. In his own time! Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. X Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 Great story as always kneehighs. Is it just me or does the women in the last picture look like geri halliwell from the spice girls? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kneehighs Posted April 28, 2008 Author Share Posted April 28, 2008 Whew, I should be at work right now but I called in sick today, since i had to recover from last nights festivities. I met up with a beautiful 5'11" blonde at her condo in the village and we talked from 5 at night till 2 in the morning. Some wine was included. Some clothes swapping was included as well. For starters, she was totally cool with guys in heels. Twice she said she would date guys who wear heels. Her words were, "of course I would!" It's too bad she was a size 9.5 though, as she was excitedly pulling out her shoe collection for me to try on. Everything from Chanel's to Anna Sui's to Miu Miu's....sadly, they were too small for me. Interestingly enough, she has a male best friend who she swaps shoes with on a regular basis! He wears heels all the time apparently. We did wind up swapping other clothes though. We stood at her closet and one by one pulled out her tops that would look okay on me...this black silk and satin oversized shirt that was amazing....this white oversized shirt with deconstructed hems that I now have in my closet...this amazing avant garde sweater that drops to my thighs and hugs my waist amazingly....three tunics that caused both of us to lust with joy as they fit perfectly. So even though our shoe size is different, our other clothing size is the same! And you can bet I'll be in touch again. And yes, I wore heels....black booties with skinny jeans. EDIT: she even tried on my heels and walked around in them. They were too big for her, but she still loved them. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted April 29, 2008 Share Posted April 29, 2008 Wow! All those potatoes and no meat? Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnieheel Posted April 29, 2008 Share Posted April 29, 2008 That is just about the coolest adventure I have ever heard from a man in heels! Kneehighs, YOU R DA MAN! Must be more to this great adventure that your not telling us though. Like the end of the story, or the new beginning? So is there maybe something possible here that might be some what of a future with this fantasy woman? real men wear heels Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kneehighs Posted April 29, 2008 Author Share Posted April 29, 2008 Wow! All those potatoes and no meat? That is just about the coolest adventure I have ever heard from a man in heels! Kneehighs, YOU R DA MAN! Must be more to this great adventure that your not telling us though. Like the end of the story, or the new beginning? So is there maybe something possible here that might be some what of a future with this fantasy woman? Yeah, there are some parts left out. We'll likely "play" again, but I'm not labeling that as anything other than friends "hanging out." Really, it's a dream come true to swap clothes, even if not shoes, with a beautiful (and I DO mean beautiful--she has billionaires chasing her) woman friend. I'm comfortable leaving it at that level. No monogamous long term commitment will burgeon forth from this, which I am happily content with and I suspect she is too. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted April 29, 2008 Share Posted April 29, 2008 You never can tell where some paths lead. Take it from me, some of the most unexpected things can happen while "on the way to the Forum" and the rest of your life." (I'm really just teasing, kh) Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. X Posted April 29, 2008 Share Posted April 29, 2008 Thats an incredible story, way to go. You are the man Kneehighs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roniheels Posted April 29, 2008 Share Posted April 29, 2008 Kneehighs... How lucky you are to meet a woman like that. Someone that pretty and into high heels and especially OK with you wearing high heels. Yes, you are one lucky man. Keep us posted how things progress. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kneehighs Posted April 30, 2008 Author Share Posted April 30, 2008 Thanks for all the great compliments guys. Really though, I just have a good time and hope that others here will be inspired to surpass my stories with stories of their own. Feminine Style . Masculine Soul. Skin In The Game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fastfreddy2 Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 Thanks for all the great compliments guys. Really though, I just have a good time and hope that others here will be inspired to surpass my stories with stories of their own. I haven't read all of this thread, but certainly enjoyed the last couple of pages. I'm generally a bit cynical of peoples experiences. I've met some 'proper' B/S merchants in my time ..... But I'm fair with my cynicism. I sometimes read my own posts and think; Who's gonna believe that? The one single thing I really appreciate about your posts, is that many are illustrated. It panders to my cynicism of course by proving the integrity of the story, but better, it adds warmth and a closeness to the events reported. This thread and your posts in general are not like other Blog type reporters where day-to-day events are just 'thrown out there'. These posts are tilted toward people who have possibly met you, or at least share a taste for the lifestyle you enjoy. Best analogy I can come up with is; It's like listening to ones youngest brother telling of his successful adventures in the world, defending and promoting the honour of the family name. Like many here I guess, we can really feel involved in your exploits and adventures! It's a wonderful gift for us. Nothing short of inspirational, actually. I'm personally, very grateful. Thank you. .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 Wow, fastfreddy, You said it all as well as it can be said. I've nothing but admiration for kh and you expressed with the right words. Thanks. Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBL70 Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 It is difficult for a french guy like me to find the words . I 've read fastfreddy2 , and get the main meanings , i totally join him is his comments . Great story , i'm sure i'll never have a better one to share with you . Thanks for the illustrations . Please also to meet you . ibl70 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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