Charlie Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 I can't agree more with HappyinHeels! It's like discovering that you have a super power you never knew you had. Sadly, it's a well kept secret that this is possible despite our efforts here. Charlie Everything I say is a lie!.......I'm lying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaulS Posted March 5, 2011 Share Posted March 5, 2011 I'm currently looking to be leaving the office regularly wearing women's shoes. It's working fine at the moment when I have a lot of work and leave the office late. But suppose I'm able to leave at 16:00 due to not much project work, I fear I will not have the balls to strike a blow for fellow site members... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlie Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 I'm currently looking to be leaving the office regularly wearing women's shoes. It's working fine at the moment when I have a lot of work and leave the office late. But suppose I'm able to leave at 16:00 due to not much project work, I fear I will not have the balls to strike a blow for fellow site members... Start smaller. Just get a pair with 3" block heels and wear your pants long. This is what the women are doing anyway. I'll bet you could wear these all day, go out to lunch, etc. without any worries. Good luck! Charlie Everything I say is a lie!.......I'm lying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SleekHeels Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 I'd already worn heels in public but I always felt the need to try to create the whole feminine appearance to blend in, and to avoid any social interaction (just evening walks in safe quiet locations). This forum's really inspired me to integrate my heels into my guy appearance, and given me the confidence to try on heels in the store and admit to the sales assistant that they're for me. Whether we wear our heels with an "in your face" attitude or take a more subtle approach, or even if it's a private thing and we're struggling to confide in a partner or just accept it within ourselves... either way it does take a lot of courage, and the mutual respect between people on the forum really makes a world of difference. If you like it, wear it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WisHighHeels Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 I have just recently joined HHPlace but because of the courage of so many today I ventured out wearing my boots with 3" heels. I went to the bank and went inside so everyone would know who I was and then to a small store near my house. No one made any comments to me personally but ladies at the store were looking and whispering. I didn't care. I held my head high and used cash to make my purchase. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RonC Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 Ron C, You have gone from a lonely dirt road to a paved suburban street on the confidence scale! What could be next...stepping high in stiletto boots on Michigan Avenue?? While this reply could be tailored to anyone in the Chicago area it also serves as a notice to all others out there wondering about what is possible. You can ALL go as far as you want..you just have to try!! HappyinHeels:wave: Yes, and I'm darn glad to be off that dirst road, as my black patent heels were getting all dusty!...LOL I'm thinking no on the Michigan Ave thing...I don't have any stletto boots to wear...lol again! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyinHeels Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 RonC- OK, you don't have stiletto boots for Michigan Avenue but how about pumps for State Street?? That's actually where more shoe stores are anyway. Anytime anywhere my friend. HappyinHeels Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyinHeels Posted March 10, 2011 Share Posted March 10, 2011 WisHighHeels-- Welcome to our joint!! Great to hear you had the courage to express your fashion freedom and wear what you want while shopping. I have to ask where in this great state you live. I live in Kenosha and have land near Ashland (way Up North).Again, welcome aboard the high heel train! HappyinHeels Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RonC Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 RonC- OK, you don't have stiletto boots for Michigan Avenue but how about pumps for State Street?? That's actually where more shoe stores are anyway. Anytime anywhere my friend. HappyinHeels Someday, HinH, someday I will do that! For now, I think the block heel loafers are about the top of my scale. Actually, I should pass along to you that the DSW store in Vernon Hills is a great place to shop. The sale racks are way in the back of the store, and there are usually not a lot of other customers around (I am speaking of middle of the day weekday.) I know you do like the plats and very high stuff, and they do have a selection of platforms with about 5" heels or so even in the sale racks. I tried on a couple pairs of Steve Madden platforms, but I'm still just not in to the thick sole scene just yet. In any event, it's not too terribly far from you (Route 60 exit on the Tri-State, west to Milwaukee Ave, south to second center south of Rt 60 on east side of Milwaukee Ave). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyinHeels Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 RonC, Been to that store many times. Very deep and lots of clearance shoes for sure. Takes me about 30 minutes to get there under normal conditions. Rte. 60 can back up coming the Tri-State so I always go 41 to 137 then down 21 to the store. I see a shopping trip for the both of us in the near future! Thanks for thinking of me though. HappyinHeels Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kittyinboots Posted April 5, 2011 Share Posted April 5, 2011 It just came naturally to me to wear high heel boots out in public. For the first five years of my heeling, I had just one pair of black knee high vintage 80s style boots (straight leg shaft) with a 4" heel. At first it was just a thrill to wear my black boots on at all behind closed doors in my bedroom, then progress to taking a few steps out into the living room and kitchen when no one is around. I made it even further by walking down the hall outside of our apartment to dispose of trash down a garbage chute. Then I took a big step by venturing out of the apartment at night when there is no one around, going out in small trips to remote areas. It was simple outings, like returning a tape rental to a local Blockbuster Video, ordering fast food from a drive through window, or going to a post office lobby after hours and mailing letters or buying stamps from a vending machine. I became even more daring by paying utility bills in person at my local cable company or auto insurance office during their last hour before closing. Since at that time of night, I would be all alone or one other person waiting in line. For the most part I kept challenging myself to go further and go more in public. It was never enough to keep my boots indoors. In more recent years with my current boots from my avatar, I ventured out during early morning to pump gas, or drop off shirts at my local dry cleaners, or a quick purchase at a convenience store. As of this last week, I made my most daring outings in boots in broad daylight with my wife by taking her to Starbucks, post office, crowded grocery stores, even the movie theater. So there is still room for more adventurous outings. But so far my wife is my only family member that knows about my boots. So it came to me naturally but this web site has encouraged me to keep on heeling. As mentioned by other members, it takes time and practice. Take small steps at first, and over time your courage will increase. Thought I would add taking my car to an emissions test center as an idea for a starter outing in heels. Today I went to get my car tested for emissions after work, near closing time. Wore my usual jeans and brown high heel boots. There was a short wait time since it was near closing time. Their employee walked up to my car, then had me open my car door to look in, he obviously saw my boots, and said "oh" as if he was surprised to see my boots, but instead he was simply looking for some vehicle number information. I was escorted out of my car and into a small private waiting booth. So I sat down with my legs crossed while waiting for test results. After that I was escorted back to my car. He was more occupied with testing for emissions than staring at my boots. All in all it was a quick 5 minutes of boots in public, but still a rush of excitement. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jay jay Posted April 5, 2011 Share Posted April 5, 2011 Yes I am wearing some heels out with my wife and she encourage me to as well. There are some that I do not have the courage as yet, like my Pleasers Indulge 543. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwooshSoFast Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 I still don't have the courage to go out in heels, I've done it maybe once to class, but even with my boots only being about 2.5" in height what really keeps me from wearing them is the fact that they have a hard rubber hollow heel, so whenever i walk they practically make gunshot noises, or at least that's how it seems to me. I prefer not to draw attention to myself if I can avoid it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cuttriss360 Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 It does take alot of courage. I have not as yet as I live in a small hick town, but when I go to the city I try the shoes on. I am working on the courage part and hopefully step out one day in my heels Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thighbootguy Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 [my boots] have a hard rubber hollow heel, so whenever i walk they practically make gunshot noises, or at least that's how it seems to me. I prefer not to draw attention to myself if I can avoid it. First, Welcome to the board! Consider taking your boots to a cobbler and having a rubber heel plate put on them. I makes them a little more secure to walk in and a LOT quieter. As for drawing attention... people will notice your heels. Most people don't care what you have on your feet. However, your first "nice boots" complement will make your day like you wont believe. I dream of a world where chickens can cross roads without having their motives questioned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kittyinboots Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 It just came naturally to me to wear high heel boots out in public. For the first five years of my heeling, I had just one pair of black knee high vintage 80s style boots (straight leg shaft) with a 4" heel. At first it was just a thrill to wear my black boots on at all behind closed doors in my bedroom, then progress to taking a few steps out into the living room and kitchen when no one is around. I made it even further by walking down the hall outside of our apartment to dispose of trash down a garbage chute. Then I took a big step by venturing out of the apartment at night when there is no one around, going out in small trips to remote areas. It was simple outings, like returning a tape rental to a local Blockbuster Video, ordering fast food from a drive through window, or going to a post office lobby after hours and mailing letters or buying stamps from a vending machine. I became even more daring by paying utility bills in person at my local cable company or auto insurance office during their last hour before closing. Since at that time of night, I would be all alone or one other person waiting in line. For the most part I kept challenging myself to go further and go more in public. It was never enough to keep my boots indoors. In more recent years with my current boots from my avatar, I ventured out during early morning to pump gas, or drop off shirts at my local dry cleaners, or a quick purchase at a convenience store. As of this last week, I made my most daring outings in boots in broad daylight with my wife by taking her to Starbucks, post office, crowded grocery stores, even the movie theater. So there is still room for more adventurous outings. But so far my wife is my only family member that knows about my boots. So it came to me naturally but this web site has encouraged me to keep on heeling. As mentioned by other members, it takes time and practice. Take small steps at first, and over time your courage will increase. After being a member of this site for over 3 years now, I finally took a brief walk through a mall. I wore my black denim riding jeans, similar to my blue riding jeans, and my brown high heel boots fully exposed. I figured since it was start of business day, there were not too many people in the mall since it was a weekday, and kids are in school. I walked through a main department store on route to a sports collectibles store. Asked a clerk about their items then went on my way. It was a brief 10 minute outing, but I walked with confidence in my boots. Thanks to our members at HHP for their inspiration. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shafted Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 After being a member of this site for over 3 years now, I finally took a brief walk through a mall. I wore my black denim riding jeans, similar to my blue riding jeans, and my brown high heel boots fully exposed. I figured since it was start of business day, there were not too many people in the mall since it was a weekday, and kids are in school. I walked through a main department store on route to a sports collectibles store. Asked a clerk about their items then went on my way. It was a brief 10 minute outing, but I walked with confidence in my boots. Thanks to our members at HHP for their inspiration. Congratulations on you first trip out. I'm sure now that you have experienced the feeling first hand there will be more outings in the future. Shafted, the boots that is! View my gallery here http://www.hhplace.o...afteds-gallery/ or view my heeling thread here http://www.hhplace.org/topic/3850-new-pair-of-boots-starts-me-serious-street-heeling/ - Pm me if you want fashion advice or just need someone to talk to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyinHeels Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 kittyinboots, Thanks for sharing your "mileposts of progress" I'll call them about your wearing of heels. You'll find your appetite for wearing ever more styles of heels, and in ever more places, will only keep growing. Sure, the members here at hhplace have played an important role in your experience but you have an even better ally in your quest to find your place in this world in the company of your wife. It cannot be overstated how important the support of a lifemate can be in this situation or any situation worth fighting for. God Bless You Both! HappyinHeels:wave: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glosha Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Guys, I need your advise on how to introduce my interest in heels to my GF. We are in a long relationship, but I didn't proposed to her yet as we are not ready to live together. Just don't want to have a dissapointing momemnt if she'll have a verry negative reaction. As I have a pair of lockable black 4 inch heels, I was thinking to put them on, pick her up, give her a key and ask her if she wants me to takke them off or go public. What are you thinking about such idea? Maybe it is a bit off topic, but it is still on the line of courage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shafted Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Guys, I need your advise on how to introduce my interest in heels to my GF. We are in a long relationship, but I didn't proposed to her yet as we are not ready to live together. Just don't want to have a dissapointing momemnt if she'll have a verry negative reaction. As I have a pair of lockable black 4 inch heels, I was thinking to put them on, pick her up, give her a key and ask her if she wants me to takke them off or go public. What are you thinking about such idea? Maybe it is a bit off topic, but it is still on the line of courage. Don't blindside her at the wrong time Glosha. You are much better off breaking the news to her in private. If you have a shoe collection, show her. Doing it this way will give you options as to how to proceed in your relationship. If you really love her you need to allow her to comprehend what she has just learned about you. Give her lattitude to set terms if she so chooses. There are no guarantees as to the outcome. You can only do you best. Shafted, the boots that is! View my gallery here http://www.hhplace.o...afteds-gallery/ or view my heeling thread here http://www.hhplace.org/topic/3850-new-pair-of-boots-starts-me-serious-street-heeling/ - Pm me if you want fashion advice or just need someone to talk to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SArmeah Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Glosha this falls in line with telling someone you're a crossdresser. I only say that cause she could think that, and regardless of if it is true or not, the same questions might arise. "Are you gay", "Do you want to dress like a woman", "Do you want to be a Woman" etc etc. You need to have all of these questions and more answered so when/if she asks you can give her that. The trick is not to overwhelm her. Talk to her, tell her what you like, and keep it simple. Tell her you can answer any question she has as you have thought a lot about how best to tell her. Be prepared for some degree of resistance. She might be very cool with it, but in only certain situations. She may hate it. Its imperative you allow her time, and mental space to wrap her head around it. Regardless of if she needs it or not. Best case scenario, she loves it and wants you to wear them all the time. Worse case, she thinks you're a freak and leaves you, in which case you can do better. Good case, she might laugh a little at your style, but with her help you can probably find something that works for you and she likes it, but maybe not everywhere you go as she might not want something she feels as very personal to be public. Just remember, that for her its something you've kept secret, so that same feeling will transpire to her in some way. SArmeah - "No one cares how much you know, till they know how much you care" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glosha Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Thank you for your support. We already 4 years together and I started to develop interest in females clothes a lot in past 3-3.5 more than it was before. Before I was just interested to wear pantyhose under the jeans. I tried her on Halloween: Asked if I can go for a party crossdressed. She didn't like the idea, supporting the statement that I don't have outfit and she's not going with me shopping for shoes and etc. (I'd like to emphasize that she didn't want to go shopping for that) But at the same time she occasionally have a desire to paint my nails or apply makeup on me, but in never happened, maybe we didn't had enough privacy (we leave separate along with parents). I've bought her a corset which she actually likes and few bodystockings, which she takes to Mexico this Christmas for the trip with me along with collars and cuffs that I've represented to her and we tried on on each other. So she's up for a some fetish, but I don't know how far I can push her now. Give me your opinion and life experiences. P.S.: I've tried to put an avatar picture, but it shows in account settings, but not in forum. Did somebody had such problem? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celso999 Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 Glosha, I would not go schocking her. You said there is some fetish going so I would use this as a proposal for you to use heels in front of her, in a private place, of course. Good Luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pebblesf Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 Great job buddy, I do the same thing....Small trips at night with my levis over my boots to the gas station etc...Your boots look GREAT. I try to remember that most guys, gay or straight, have a thing for boots....So it really takes guts to wear the boots that most guys just secretly dream of trying on.... You are blessed to have a wife that understands and encourages your fetish....Don Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glosha Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 today I've received my black long pencil rufled skirt and had 2 free hours, so I went to park, pu on my pantyhose, new skirt and black 4" lockable heels. Sounds boring to you? But not! As there was nobody at that moment in a park, I've head out for a walk. There was a small bridge cross the river, so I went there and had a smoke. When I start going back I saw a car pulled next to mine and a man in his 40s whent towards me. First I thought it was a park worker and he wanted to tell me that the park is closing, but he didn't look like one and we met on the bridge. I was walking towards him and he didn't slowed down, so I just raised my head and walked by. As I was walking by I saw hem not trying to look at me. What a thrill! So much adrenaline! But I didn't showed that I'm confused or ashame. Then I went to the car, took off the skirt, left the tights on and wear my jeans over. Love such feeling! Locked my heels on and drove away. It took me a good hour in traffic to get to my GFs place. i didn't want to takeoff the shoes, but I had to as my girl lives ina condo with her parents and she don't like me wearing heels. She just don't understand me and what feeling I'm getting from wearing them. So, now I'm sitting @ my girls place and waiting for her to get ready to go out. Verry thrilling to sit and not to know if she'll discover me wearing tights under the jeens. The sound of them rubbing against jeans is thrilling. Will keep you posted. Don't let this topic to die. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glosha Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 Addition to previuos: When we left her home, we went for a dinner with my friend and then my GF suggested to go to a strip club. This was her friends idea and she couldn't sleep until she went to a strip. So we went there, but it was pretty boring for me as all you can do is drink and watch; except the factor that I was enjoying looking @ stripers' heels. When I got tired of the same routine I start bugging my girl to get out and she asked me to see few more girls. So after a few replics we decided that I'll be able to drive in heels home. This was exciting to me as I like wearing my heels and it would be the first time my girl will see me in heels. When we left club we got into the car and while the engine was warming up I've changed into heels and loked them on all 4 locks. My girl wanted to see and I've strtched my leg in front of her. i was excited as she was not only looking at me first time wearing heels, but also she touched them and figured out that I was wearing pantyhose the whole evening under my jeans. We drive home and made plans to go shopping for heels we both liked to see on her friends. I'll try to get few pictures and maybe even try some heels for myself in as store. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirazmn Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 I found this site just before going to a trip to California in the late summer. I had already gone out in women's shoes, but always very low heels. The highest were about 1 1/2 inch tall. After I started reading all people's experiences here, I though I could feel a little more "normal" and I liked the fact that the phrase "nobody gave me a second look" appears in almost every story of heeling. So, when I went to San Fran (that is famous to be one of the most accepting cities for gays, CDs and heelers), I went with my GF in a shoe shop and found a pair of ankle boots with 3 1/2 inch block heels that could easilly pass for men's if worn under a pair of jeans. The same jeans I had on that day. As soon as we walked out of the shop I immediately wore the boots and for the rest of the day I've been out in high heels, freely, in the sun, for the first time. I though of what I read here and it really was true. Nobody cared! I felt so free and happy. Back to London I realised that I live in one of the most open minded cities in Europe. I have read about a lot of men going to shop in London's shoe stores here, and I decided I wouldn't be afraid any more. I had to go to a public auction, plenty of people in a small town just outside London and I went in the same heels (and jeans) I was wearing in San Fran. Nobody cared. Great! Since that day I have bought another pair with a 2 1/2 inch platform and go around in them every week end (I'll use them today too at a friend's birthday) and I have to say that thanks to the people in this site I have learnt 2 important lessons: 1) As long as you are confident in what you are doing, nobody will care about it. 2) As long as you are happy with what you are doing, you'll start not to care about whether they care or not! Thanks you all! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jwhite44 Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 ...I had already gone out in women's shoes, but always very low heels. The highest were about 1 1/2 inch tall. ...I went with my GF in a shoe shop and found a pair of ankle boots with 3 1/2 inch block heels that could easilly pass for men's if worn under a pair of jeans. ... I'm a little confused. What was the trigger that made you go from 1 1/2" heels to 3 1/2" ones? I appreciate the open-mindedness of San Franscisco & London, but you already had a girlfriend (typically lack of SO/GF approval, #1 reason for not heeling). In terms of your 2 important issues, I'd add an important prerequisite: an appropriate pair of shoes. The 3 1/2" block heel ankle boots you picked are ideal. You could walk around almost forever in them, and get little to no attention. That makes it easy to focus on building your confidence. Had you gone out in a pair of 5" pink stillettos, I think you would have had a vastly different experience. I doubt you'd have built up your confidence nearly as quickly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirazmn Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 I am going step by step. The most important thIng, to me, is to be comfortable with myself, not to break the rules. In time i'll be out in evary kind of shoes i'm comfortable in. I'm a little confused. What was the trigger that made you go from 1 1/2" heels to 3 1/2" ones? I appreciate the open-mindedness of San Franscisco & London, but you already had a girlfriend (typically lack of SO/GF approval, #1 reason for not heeling). In terms of your 2 important issues, I'd add an important prerequisite: an appropriate pair of shoes. The 3 1/2" block heel ankle boots you picked are ideal. You could walk around almost forever in them, and get little to no attention. That makes it easy to focus on building your confidence. Had you gone out in a pair of 5" pink stillettos, I think you would have had a vastly different experience. I doubt you'd have built up your confidence nearly as quickly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glosha Posted November 21, 2011 Share Posted November 21, 2011 Today happened something unbelievable: I had a walk in park in heels along with my GF. How it happened: Wa had fun time and I pleased her the way she didn't had it before. After, she allowed me to put on my 4" heels and we went for a walk in a park. My girl don't like me wearing them, but she's trying to get me tired on heels along with blisters, so I will not have a desire to put them on again. As it was chilly outside, she didn't succeed and we went back to the car. I will be making more attempts to "get tired and blistered". I might will get tired till the point I will not be able to walk on them, but definitly not getting the blisters as after wearing and driving in heels they stretched and fit me perfectly that I only feel their comfort on my feet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts