Yes there are many men here on HHP - or I should say mostly men, as there are not many people in general active on HHP, but rather a small and good-natured group who share a fondness for heels. Our individual tastes vary, but we recognise that we are unusual in our liking of wearing high heels. Speaking broadly, it would be fair to say our fondness for heels is based on aesthetics and a certain envy for the fashion freedoms enjoyed by women, who can pretty much wear what they like, free of censure. Men are expected to keep their style choices within very narrow bounds.
As you say, you seldom see men wearing heels. Personally I've never encountered another man in stilettos.
As for my own tastes in heels I personally prefer chunky heeled boots, with 8 to 10cm heels, although I own a couple pair of stilettos - I'd always wanted to try stilettos and having tried them ind them a fun challenge, but I don't wear them out and about like I do my chunky heeled boots. The styling is still feminine, although less so than stilettos, but when worn in combination with something neutral like jeans and a jumper seems more 'edgy' to my eyes than outright feminine. It plays to my inner bohemian I guess.
Heel wearing among women does seem to be at a low ebb at present, but fashion is cyclical and I imagine it will pick up again. I suspect men in heels will continue to be a rarity for quite some time, despite the occasional appearance of heels in men's fashion shows. They are usually pretty ugly styles and presented outlandishly and not something many men - including myself - would ever take up.
But variety is the spice of life