The Adventures of kneehighs...

[Jkrenzer]

Just stay safe. Heels are not relevant if you're not around to enjoy them.

[Bubba136]

Perhaps you had better stay in therebecause it's probably safer than New York City these days

[kneehighs]

13 hours ago, Jkrenzer said:

Just stay safe. Heels are not relevant if you're not around to enjoy them.

Very true. I'm leaving Saturday.

10 hours ago, Bubba136 said:

Perhaps you had better stay in therebecause it's probably safer than New York City these days

Haha!  Rhetorically that makes sense.  In reality though, yesterday's air raid siren would beg to differ. 

14 hours ago, Cali said:

Looks like your heels were taller than hers. Stay Safe.

Thanks. Leaving tomorrow.  The city is truly back to 60%. Had lunch at a Greek restaurant today.  Every table in the sidewalk cafe was filled.  

[SF]

communism / tyranny is bad for children and other living things.  putin and his ilk are murdering war criminals and must be neutralized...

no smiles here.....   sf

[kneehighs]

Short video of me streetwalking with a friend

 

 

[pebblesf]

2 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Short video of me streetwalking with a friend

 

 

Lucky you buddy, looks like a great time indeed

[Mr. X]

looks like you had a good time

[kneehighs]

It was fun.  She took some outfit photos of me wearing black patent pumps.  Also, she looks way better with her hair down (see pic)

I'll see if I can get a video or two posted with sexual/romantic partners later--without violating the forum TOS.  Here's a photo link of a model I went on 4 dates with.  She was drop dead gorgeous.  Funny how she didn't shave, wax, or use laser to remove hair from her legs.  Didn't matter to me.  My 6 cm "heels" are the Alice mary jane from Carel France.

I've found a lot of success dating. Now it's time to create a more stable foundation of Love and Connection me thinks. The hunt for Mrs. Kneehighs shall commence.

Edited September 26, 2022 by kneehighs

[pebblesf]

4 hours ago, kneehighs said:

It was fun.  She took some outfit photos of me wearing black patent pumps.  Also, she looks way better with her hair down (see pic)

I'll see if I can get a video or two posted with sexual/romantic partners later--without violating the forum TOS.  Here's a photo link of a model I went on 4 dates with.  She was drop dead gorgeous.  Funny how she didn't shave, wax, or use laser to remove hair from her legs.  Didn't matter to me.  My 6 cm "heels" are the Alice mary jane from Carel France.

I've found a lot of success dating. Now it's time to create a more stable foundation of Love and Connection me thinks. The hunt for Mrs. Kneehighs shall commence.

Well, she sure is a looker buddy.  Have fun, don't rush anything, you will know when you find someone worth long term efforts.  I am assuming these women love the way you look in heels, have a great time!

[kneehighs]

47 minutes ago, pebblesf said:

Well, she sure is a looker buddy.  Have fun, don't rush anything, you will know when you find someone worth long term efforts.  I am assuming these women love the way you look in heels, have a great time!

only thing I'm rushing is getting them into the sack, lol

Kidding. I still haven't figured out a cookie cutter system for which girls are cool with guys in heels. In my experience:

1. Stockholm girls were cool with it 2009-2015. Gender stereotypes were/are less valuable in Stockholm
2. Girls with good relationships with their dads are almost always open minded about it. 
3. Ukrainian women were open to it.  Why? they told me b/c I dressed unlike all the other guys in Ukraine.  I have screen shots ad pictures.  Solid 8's and 9's open to it.

[kneehighs]

Forum engagement seems low

Hope this post increases engagement.

Social media really is the new message boards.  

[pebblesf]

On 9/26/2022 at 5:20 PM, kneehighs said:

only thing I'm rushing is getting them into the sack, lol

Kidding. I still haven't figured out a cookie cutter system for which girls are cool with guys in heels. In my experience:

1. Stockholm girls were cool with it 2009-2015. Gender stereotypes were/are less valuable in Stockholm
2. Girls with good relationships with their dads are almost always open minded about it. 
3. Ukrainian women were open to it.  Why? they told me b/c I dressed unlike all the other guys in Ukraine.  I have screen shots ad pictures.  Solid 8's and 9's open to it.

Well, the sorting process should be fairly straight forward.  You wear heels most all the time, so when you meet women you are probably in heels.  They will show no interest if guys in heels is "not their thing".  Women that strike up a conversation, or respond positively when you engage them, must either be "OK" with guys in heels, or think you look great in heels.  

6 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Forum engagement seems low

Hope this post increases engagement.

Social media really is the new message boards.  

You really look great, I'm so envious.  I'm sure many women do a "double take"  ( in a good way!) when you walk by.  It is obvious you work hard to take care of yourself, so you deserve to enjoy the rewards!  

[kneehighs]

12 hours ago, pebblesf said:

Well, the sorting process should be fairly straight forward.  You wear heels most all the time, so when you meet women you are probably in heels.  They will show no interest if guys in heels is "not their thing".  Women that strike up a conversation, or respond positively when you engage them, must either be "OK" with guys in heels, or think you look great in heels.  

You really look great, I'm so envious.  I'm sure many women do a "double take"  ( in a good way!) when you walk by.  It is obvious you work hard to take care of yourself, so you deserve to enjoy the rewards!  

Thanks for the kind words Pebbles.  For what it's worth, I don't wear heels most all the time. Heels to me are just another fashion accessory, that I give myself permission to enjoy when and where I want. They're not obligatory.

Regarding the sorting process for a long term relationship, it starts with a girl who doesn't see the heels as a "red flag".   That requires a girl knowing her own needs and boundaries. Many don't. Therein lies the sorting challenge. Finding a woman who has a healthy relationship with her own needs and dreams rooted in childhood (many girls and guys are clueless), then incorporating our needs cooperatively together into an interdependent (and independent) emotional home.

 

[pebblesf]

9 minutes ago, kneehighs said:

Thanks for the kind words Pebbles.  For what it's worth, I don't wear heels most all the time. Heels to me are just another fashion accessory, that I give myself permission to enjoy when and where I want. They're not obligatory.

Regarding the sorting process for a long term relationship, it starts with a girl who doesn't see the heels as a "red flag".   That requires a girl knowing her own needs and boundaries. Many don't. Therein lies the sorting challenge. Finding a woman who has a healthy relationship with her own needs and dreams rooted in childhood (many girls and guys are clueless), then incorporating our needs cooperatively together into an interdependent (and independent) emotional home.

 

I guess I figured you wear heels during many "social occasions" when you meet women, sorry to make that assumption.  I agree, you don't want to waste time with women that see your heels as a "red flag".  I guess the point I was trying to make was that social interactions with women that considered your heels as a red flag would not go far, helping with the sorting process.  Unfortunately, you won't be able to discover much about those more complex emotions/feelings, without spending some time (a few dates) with a particular woman.  

 

[kneehighs]

On 10/7/2022 at 11:49 AM, pebblesf said:

I guess I figured you wear heels during many "social occasions" when you meet women, sorry to make that assumption.  I agree, you don't want to waste time with women that see your heels as a "red flag".  I guess the point I was trying to make was that social interactions with women that considered your heels as a red flag would not go far, helping with the sorting process.  Unfortunately, you won't be able to discover much about those more complex emotions/feelings, without spending some time (a few dates) with a particular woman.  

 

I do wear heels out a lot with girls, but only if I'm in the mood. Sometimes it's just my Carel mary janes a few posts above. No worries about the assumption.  And true about risking time with girls when in the end, heels may be a deal killer.

 

Rooftop last night. I wore a Zara pinstriped pantsuit with matching double breasted jacket. White satin button down. Gucci belt. And black patent pumps. My perfume was Chanel No. 5 (b/c I have matching shower gel, body cream, hair spray, hand cream--for special occassions or visitors).

EDIT: I forgot to add while I was waiting at the elevator for my friend to leave to leave the bathroom, a mixed group of girls and guys came to wait for the elevator too.  The alpha female of the group came up and put her pumps right up against mine. "I love your shoes...slight pause...and I love your coat too."  Later when an elevator arrived, she asked me if I was going down with her. lol.

 

Edited October 8, 2022 by kneehighs

[pebblesf]

6 minutes ago, kneehighs said:

I do wear heels out a lot with girls, but only if I'm in the mood. Sometimes it's just my Carel mary janes a few posts above. No worries about the assumption.  And true about risking time with girls when in the end, heels may be a deal killer.

 

Rooftop last night. I wore a Zara pinstriped pantsuit with matching double breasted jacket. White satin button down. Gucci belt. And black patent pumps. My perfume was Chanel No. 5 (b/c I have matching shower gel, body cream, hair spray, hand cream--for special occassions or visitors).

 

You got it all goin on style wise for sure buddy!  Even I had a nice evening with a friend last night

[kneehighs]

1 hour ago, pebblesf said:

You got it all goin on style wise for sure buddy!  Even I had a nice evening with a friend last night

Female "friend" or possible "romantic suitor"? Did you incorporate your heels or just go in traditional menswear?

[pebblesf]

5 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Female "friend" or possible "romantic suitor"? Did you incorporate your heels or just go in traditional menswear?

Just a friend, she is much younger than myself...  I wore my Nine West knee boots over my tight levis, she had some wild thigh high stiletto boots.  But, we are both boot lovers, and share very similar taste in boots.  She was very impressed that I wore my boots publicly.  I was wanting to take her to dinner, but something was going on and Vegas was very busy.  We ended up driving around in search of a relatively quiet spot where we could talk, none was to be found.  Spoke for hours about our love of boots, the origins that can be traced back to similar childhood experiences.  It was getting late, and I had to get up at 0400, she promised to show me her boot collection someday, which is vast.  Unfortunately, she wears size 9, I wear 10-11s.  I had a great time

[Shyheels]

1 hour ago, pebblesf said:

Just a friend, she is much younger than myself...  I wore my Nine West knee boots over my tight levis, she had some wild thigh high stiletto boots.  But, we are both boot lovers, and share very similar taste in boots.  She was very impressed that I wore my boots publicly.  I was wanting to take her to dinner, but something was going on and Vegas was very busy.  We ended up driving around in search of a relatively quiet spot where we could talk, none was to be found.  Spoke for hours about our love of boots, the origins that can be traced back to similar childhood experiences.  It was getting late, and I had to get up at 0400, she promised to show me her boot collection someday, which is vast.  Unfortunately, she wears size 9, I wear 10-11s.  I had a great time

It would be lovely to chat with someone who shared a love of boots, and from similar experiences and viewpoints. What a nice evening that must have been

[pebblesf]

9 hours ago, Shyheels said:

It would be lovely to chat with someone who shared a love of boots, and from similar experiences and viewpoints. What a nice evening that must have been

Absolutely, I feel very fortunate to have made a special friend, hoping I can see her collection someday!  

[kneehighs]

19 hours ago, pebblesf said:

Just a friend, she is much younger than myself...  I wore my Nine West knee boots over my tight levis, she had some wild thigh high stiletto boots.  But, we are both boot lovers, and share very similar taste in boots.  She was very impressed that I wore my boots publicly.  I was wanting to take her to dinner, but something was going on and Vegas was very busy.  We ended up driving around in search of a relatively quiet spot where we could talk, none was to be found.  Spoke for hours about our love of boots, the origins that can be traced back to similar childhood experiences.  It was getting late, and I had to get up at 0400, she promised to show me her boot collection someday, which is vast.  Unfortunately, she wears size 9, I wear 10-11s.  I had a great time

Sounds like a wholesome connection over a mutual shared interest was made for both of you.  An open minded girl to boot too.

I'm intrigued. How was your childhood experience similar to hers?  I'm guessing wearing her mother's shoes or a big sisters shoes around the house?  

On 6/23/2014 at 7:06 PM, kneehighs said:

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/06/20/clothes-aren-t-for-men-and-women-anymore-they-re-just-for-people.html

 

Best quote from the above link is from Valerie Steele:

 

“Clothing, fashion and adornment distinguish—they identify who you are. And one of the primary things we’ve identified, that we’ve wanted to identify, is our gender,” Valerie Steele, director of the Museum at the Fashion Institute of Technology, says. “But now, for a number of men and women, gender has become something that’s not so important for them to emphasize in their clothing. They feel there needs to be something that people can wear just as people.”

 

 

Our culture has reached what Time magazine recently called A Transgender Tipping Point.

 

We are now in the age of gender tolerance.

 

Go forth and wear what you want.

Damn. Nailed it.

[pebblesf]

4 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Sounds like a wholesome connection over a mutual shared interest was made for both of you.  An open minded girl to boot too.

I'm intrigued. How was your childhood experience similar to hers?  I'm guessing wearing her mother's shoes or a big sisters shoes around the house?  

Damn. Nailed it.

Yes, wearing mother's/sister's boots alone at home.  Seeing girl's and teachers in boots.  First pairs owned, purging, similar taste in boot styles, etc

22 hours ago, Shyheels said:

It would be lovely to chat with someone who shared a love of boots, and from similar experiences and viewpoints. What a nice evening that must have been

Absolutely, I feel very fortunate to have made a special friend, hoping I can see her collection someday!  

[kneehighs]

7 hours ago, pebblesf said:

Yes, wearing mother's/sister's boots alone at home.  Seeing girl's and teachers in boots.  First pairs owned, purging, similar taste in boot styles, etc

Absolutely, I feel very fortunate to have made a special friend, hoping I can see her collection someday!  

If she purged I find that fascinating.  I never would've suspected purging from a genetically born female.

[pebblesf]

1 hour ago, kneehighs said:

If she purged I find that fascinating.  I never would've suspected purging from a genetically born female.

That is because she is a CD.  

[kneehighs]

31 minutes ago, pebblesf said:

That is because she is a CD.  

Appreciate the clarification.

[pebblesf]

24 minutes ago, kneehighs said:

Appreciate the clarification.

No problem buddy, thanks for reading my posts, and you obviously understand/have experienced most of the things I referred to.  I just hesitate to get too graphic on this forum, webmaster frowns on that.  Nonetheless, she is absolutely beautiful, and her love of/taste in boots is amazing.  Granted, I am behind the times and can't keep up with all the variations on gender/preference/pronouns, etc.  I use the "pronoun" she out of respect, because I feel she wants to present as a woman.  Extremely feminine in most every way for sure.  We spoke about her "transitioning", but she said she really did not want to.  I explained that she is perfect in every way just the way she is, kind of the "best of both worlds" type of thing.  I encouraged her to "be who you are" and enjoy life, don't make any big time changes like "transitioning" without plenty of counseling for sure.  I encouraged her to look at all the guys who follow her online, sometimes we don't see ourselves in the best light, always good to get input from others.  Sure wish I was younger, and unattached, but having a nice friend is just as amazing for me.  Sure hope I don't get in trouble for this post.  

[mlroseplant]

On 10/10/2022 at 7:17 AM, pebblesf said:

No problem buddy, thanks for reading my posts, and you obviously understand/have experienced most of the things I referred to.  I just hesitate to get too graphic on this forum, webmaster frowns on that.  Nonetheless, she is absolutely beautiful, and her love of/taste in boots is amazing.  Granted, I am behind the times and can't keep up with all the variations on gender/preference/pronouns, etc.  I use the "pronoun" she out of respect, because I feel she wants to present as a woman.  Extremely feminine in most every way for sure.  We spoke about her "transitioning", but she said she really did not want to.  I explained that she is perfect in every way just the way she is, kind of the "best of both worlds" type of thing.  I encouraged her to "be who you are" and enjoy life, don't make any big time changes like "transitioning" without plenty of counseling for sure.  I encouraged her to look at all the guys who follow her online, sometimes we don't see ourselves in the best light, always good to get input from others.  Sure wish I was younger, and unattached, but having a nice friend is just as amazing for me.  Sure hope I don't get in trouble for this post.  

Careful what you wish for. I had one of those once (very young friend).

[pebblesf]

35 minutes ago, mlroseplant said:

Careful what you wish for. I had one of those once (very young friend).

Yeah, I know, nothing really in common, except for our love of boots.  And, you are right, I better "tread lightly", but I know that she considers me only a "friend", which is just fine.  I surely don't want to mess up my own home life, but it is sure nice enjoying the company of someone who understands and accepts who I am.   Oh well, such are the tricky "detours" of life I guess.  

[kneehighs]

4 hours ago, pebblesf said:

Yeah, I know, nothing really in common, except for our love of boots.  And, you are right, I better "tread lightly", but I know that she considers me only a "friend", which is just fine.  I surely don't want to mess up my own home life, but it is sure nice enjoying the company of someone who understands and accepts who I am.   Oh well, such are the tricky "detours" of life I guess.  

Indeed, the power of feeling significant, feeling approved, feeling affirmed, feeling praised...part of the core of anyone's existence.

 

I think a small breakthrough for me was realizing I don't need feelings of significance, approval, affirmation to be felt while relating to another person. I can associate those feelings of warm comfort, that tingle down my neck when a beautiful girl compliments my heels, that warm bright feeling in my chest that I broadcast out when I feel significant--by myself.  I can live those feelings without someone else.

Now, if someone else is around to relate those feelings with, that's for sure a bonus!  And the kind of person I prefer to keep around for a friendship or more even 

Edited October 12, 2022 by kneehighs

[kneehighs]

motivational update: not taking things personally is important to wearing what you want to wear.  That means if people think your heel wearing is "bad", it's not about you. But it also means if they think your heel wearing is "good" it's also not about you.  This attitude flips the reference point back to you and your feelings which you can control.  As opposed to referring to others, which you can't control. 

What I mean by this. If I wear heels and someone disapproves of it, that disapproval says more about that person's inner world than it does about my feelings of excitement wearing heels, my feelings of significance creating beauty via my style, my feelings to create love and connection with the right people by being vulnerable in who I really am.

It also mean, if my wear heels and someone approves, that approval says more about that person's inner world than it does about me for the same reasons above.