jeremy1986

You hit on one of the sore points - being pasted all over social media. Indeed, some of the gang here would probably not mind... but I believe I would.

On 10/5/2019 at 7:35 AM, vinheel said:

I was expecting some positiv comments

 

Wow quite the sandal.  The heel looks very high, but in the text I see it's 4.49" (!)

They seem to have a good size range there 

4 hours ago, loverleather said:

@jeremy1986 I know, I need to be more involved, I don't have any heels/womens footwear of my ow anymore. I'm also not in a position where I can get any Maybe someday, but not anytime soon I'm sure.

I hear ya. Worry not - things will hopefully come together for you, if this is something you want to go after.

And in the meantime, keep visiting!

Don't be shy now, @loverleather - join in the fun on the forum! 

On 9/30/2019 at 2:24 AM, KneeBooted said:

Well my mother-in-law has arrived and it’s also started to feel like fall. My mother-in-law is someone who I would say is not exactly open to the idea of a guy in heels.

That being said, I am not exactly wearing my 4” heels at the moment, so no eyebrows have been raised.

However, I decided to switch from my usual look of wearing Converse wedges and jeans to church. My wife likes it when I occasionally dress nicer, which is usually a button down, polo, blazer, or some combination of those variety of items.

Today was close to Fall weather, but not quite there yet. It was cool enough in the morning for pants and maybe a light jacket, but it’s warm enough in the sun at the moment for shorts and a T-shirt. So I decided that today I would wear my blazer that my wife really likes on me. It’s one of my more versatile pieces of clothing that I’ve found goes with just about anything. Today proved to be no different as I wore it with a T-shirt, jeans, and my new Naturalizer boots.

My mother-in-law mentioned that I looked nice before we left for church, and my wife thought the combination looked really good.

The heels as expected weren’t heavily noticed, being that they’re only about 2” block heels. That being said, there is one girl in the child care area that always is there to check out my shoes when we drop my son off. She was wearing some boots today, but I couldn’t get a good look to see much of the style/detail.

What made me feel good though is that a couple of people we talk to at church made it a point to say how nice I looked today! Talk about a confidence boost! Now they made no mention of my shoes, but I’m ok with that.

Here’s the look:

 

I need feedback on a shirt that I purchased. I haven’t paired it with an outfit yet, so the only picture I have is from when I tried it on in the store.

I am venturing into women’s tops, but still am struggling with finding a good fit.

This one I found at Kohl’s for less than $10, so I figured it was worth a shot.

Honest feedback is always appreciated!

Personally, not surprised you didn't get much feedback on the boots - one can hardly see them, and they can easily pass as mens shoes with such limited visibility! Such a pity to hide a good looking pair of boots like that, don't you think?? Yes, I know your MIL was there, and church etc - but just saying :-)   Hope you get to show them off soon!

Regarding the top - agree with the others. Looks nice on top, but a little sloppy down below. 

6 hours ago, hiddenheels said:

OUTING: I tried to wear my boots on Sunday, but when it came down to it I talked myself out of it. It wasn't anything fancy, a 4" very chunky-heeled pair of shoes, at first glance you can barely tell they're women's shoes, but they're comfy. Not sure why I didn't go through with it, but I was really disappointed. So I planned this great outing for Monday to make up for it. When it came to going on Monday, I spent a lot of time on positive self-talk, but it was taking forever and my anxiety didn't leave. With time running out, I got a bit pissed off, "they're only shoes!", put on some jeans, a pair of 4.5" bit-thicker-than-stiletto boots and went to a coffee shop to work a bit on my laptop. Not my original plan, but salvaged the opportunity. Once I sat down, the full heel became visible, and there's no way to deny what they are. When I got there, I jumped out of the car without delay, walked in, bought my stuff, sat down at an outside table, and worked on my laptop for an hour. Didn't give myself a chance to analyze things to death in the car. The shop had lots of people in it, and the people going in drive-through could also easily see me. I didn't care.

 

At the end, some conclusions:

- Self-talk sucks. My problem is thinking too much. Paralysis by analysis.

- I felt amazing, standing in the shop, walking around a bit. Top of the world! Powerful and "just right".

- No one said anything.

**THESE** are what I need to remember, not the anxiety caused by the imaginary potential comments from a bunch of random people I will never see again.

Well done, keep us posted :-) 

1 minute ago, maninboots said:

Just ordered these from ASOS, don’t know why i keep ordering pull ons when i know i have difficulties getting them on, hope i can get them on when they arrive 

They look great. I recently looked at them as well, when they had their "western/cowboy" campaign … 

There is definitely something more pleasing with pull-on, don't you think?

6 hours ago, balletboot said:

@jeremy1986 I believe they are 5.5" but I haven't measured them yet. I can walk in them pretty comfortably but they are very close to my max height I can wear comfortably 

Yeah, they do look pretty steep. not sure i'd be able to walk in 5.5" without a platform …  I think 4.5" is probably me highest non-platform comfort level

@balletboot - Those are impressive wedges. How high is the heel?  I must say, I like the 2 option of leggings much better - really looks good on you.

Well, as the others said, seems like a positive and supportive outcome!  Let's see what happens next Friday! 

1 hour ago, DProud2700 said:

When I engaged to the lady I am now married to(wonderfully I might say) I told her and both my now stepdaughters.  They were very cool with it and in fact would ask me for my opinion on what they should purchase for heels or otherwise.  I even let a niece know about it and surprisingly is the same shoe size as I am.  I am also her consultant for heel buying if not letting her have something from my collection to wear if she needs it.

Well, thats quite lucky, on all fronts! 

On 9/21/2019 at 8:39 PM, pebblesf said:

I'm surprised you didn't get the usual "all my friends' parents let them wear heels..." retort...But,  now that I think of it, that approach never worked on my parents either...So, the heels under the bed are yours I'm guessing....  Kids grow up much quicker these days than we did unfortunately, they are exposed to way more "stuff" than they need to be, thanks to the darn interweb and phones....  What kind of heels does she want to wear?  Maybe she will be satisfied with some lower block heeled boots, or perhaps lower wedges/sneaks for now.  

When the time is appropriate, maybe you can take her heel shopping, might be a good way to "break the ice" and ease your heel wearing into the conversation....  Good luck buddy, raising kids is just about the hardest job there is....

Thanks @pebblesf buddy. Interestingly, none of her friends are into heels yet, maybe like a 1" wedge heel... so thankfully no peer pressure yet, but I can only assume it will come, as this daughter is your typical girly-girl teenager-to-come ... so I just hope we make it through! 

Ad yes - the heels under my bed are mine... my wife's (or, the ones she still holds onto) are packed nicely into her cupboard. I think taking her out shopping might be a good option... In fact she saw me looking at some wedges at the shop on that day that I wrote about, and gave me a little teasing comment, to which I just smiled. Guess if I was ready for it, I could have taken the opportunity. But not sure if I want to right now.

And heck yes - raising kids might well be the biggest challenge out there!

2 hours ago, maninpumps said:

This is kinda funny , one of my daughter's teachers at a parent teacher conference did look to see if I was wearing heels . I asked her what she was looking for and she said my daughter said I wore heels . I simply replied "only on special occasions" .  She got a chuckle and we finished our conference .   

Loved this part!

I thought I'd open a new thread about conversing with ones children about our heels - based on a short dialog recently in @mlroseplant's thread, as well as a comment made by one of my daughters this week.

Feel free to jump in with comments, thoughts and stories.

So yesterday, we were doing some clothes shopping for the family - me, my wife and the girls. After my wife tried on some low heeled sandals she saw and liked (but didn't get!), the one daughter (age 12) asked her if she (the daughter) can start wearing heels, to which my wife replied an immediate "NO!" - which I approved of   Way too early in my opinion too! 
Anyway, then the daughter proceeded to say to me quietly that its not fair, because my wife has all these high heels under my bed and doesn't wear them!! Little does she know...  I consoled her, and thought to myself, that no doubt, her heeling time will come too - but she certainly ain't starting with my 4" heels 

8 hours ago, pebblesf said:

Just remember that you are not "out of place", if you are comfortable and feel you look good.  Don't let society get the best of you by using words like "deviant". 

Take this from someone who doesn't heel publicly (me), and of course nothing personal against our dear member @pebblesf: I don't see the above as necessarily true. Sure, on the "empowerment" level, its great  - and true. But on a practical level - people want to blend in. Even a man wearing heels, wants to blend in along with other heelers (mostly woman obviously). So sure, he can wear heels anywhere, but still wants to feel part of the picture. Am I making sense? 

Welcome back :-) 

@SF - PS, loved the vertical video thing!  funniest thing is the "glove and boots" production... someone one this forum maybe  

Interesting.  No mention of the heels, which is also interesting... Because he obviously wanted them to be seen.  

Welcome back mate :-) 

On 9/13/2019 at 9:56 AM, vector said:

Closed toe wedges with no platform and a heel at least 4”.

-  Nine West has a style called Totheflo.  Link-  https://www.amazon.com/Nine-West-Womens-Totheflo-Wedge/dp/B008AQXNV4

 

These look great. Much more formal look than the usual wedge look - due to the slender heel 

wow @mlroseplant - that tuba is bigger than him! 

And re your son's heeling - well, if we tell ourselves its normal and (should be) acceptable, then that's the message we should give and empower the kids with too - otherwise you're just giving the message that he's doing something wrong. 

13 hours ago, JeffB said:

The most narrow part of the heel clocks in at 1 1/4 inches wide at the bottom.

Nice! 

Very nice @JeffB- stylish, and am sure very comfy. Nice heel height too. How thin is that wedge heel?

On 9/7/2019 at 1:26 AM, HappyinHeels said:

No Cali, you are NOT timid. That's why you're my bud!

As far as "feeling like the only one" the actual numbers may surprise you. I read some 30 years ago an estimated 3-5% of the male population in the United States was involved in crossdressing, including wearing heels, to some extent or another. This would equal roughly  4.75-8.1 million people in our country. Though the numbers would change the percentages in many EU countries is about the same. That is a lot of guys possibly wearing heels. It is the act of wearing them publicly that is quite the rarity. Our members write about their experiences feeling they are "weird" or "out of the norm" but they are but a tip of the proverbial iceberg. HappyniHeels

Wow. Interesting stats 

22 hours ago, Percent said:

Bought these classics after a year long pause with heels...absolutely love them!

 

They look great, esp with the hose

I like those gladiator style booties - high stiletto heel with rear zipper pretty much checks all the boxes