Back wearing heels again.

[LovesHiHeels]

   Not been on here for at least 5 years. Almost stopped wearing heels but keep thinking about it and looking up photos of high heels. Started to find them difficult to wear when seating down at home. Find if I put my feet up I can wear them all day, so that is what I doing now. Part of me wants to wear them out and about but I cant do that either. Noticed in the last few years Ebay don't seem to sell heels in my size as much now. Got rid most of the private sellers. Haven't bought any for sometime now. 

[Shyheels]

Welcome back. Styles have certainly changed over the last few years and heels are much less common now but I’m sure if you look you’ll be able to find something you like 

[mlroseplant]

What is the difficulty with sitting whilst wearing heels? I get that standing is way harder than walking, but sitting? Please expound.

[Shyheels]

I was a little confused by that too

[maxus]

I was also afraid to wear heels on the street, but now I'm enjoying them. I regret that I didn't do it sooner. Everything is in our hands. As someone wrote earlier, it's not a crime to wear what you want. That's my motto now.

[maxus]

I think there may be some discomfort after a long break. I hope that practice will help you get rid of unpleasant feelings.

[LovesHiHeels]

I try to explain. I find my sofa uncomfortable even without heels on.  Think it to low and trying to position my legs so that I was comfortable was in impossible.

[Shyheels]

Yes, sitting in a deep settee in heels can feel a bit awkward. Not easy to know where and how to place your feet so you’re not looking like a seated preying mantis 

[CrushedVamp]

On 1/19/2025 at 8:46 AM, LovesHiHeels said:

I try to explain. I find my sofa uncomfortable even without heels on.  Think it to low and trying to position my legs so that I was comfortable was in impossible.

Can you lift it up?

I had a desk that I loved but it was just not the right height. Since I am a writer, it HAS to be the right height, so I lifted it up on four bricks. It is ideal now.

But I understand there may be others in your home or apartment where height changes may not be agreeable with them.

Glad to have you back. I have not been on here for years either. 

[LuvsStiletto]

On 1/12/2025 at 3:38 PM, maxus said:

I was also afraid to wear heels on the street, but now I'm enjoying them. I regret that I didn't do it sooner. Everything is in our hands. As someone wrote earlier, it's not a crime to wear what you want. That's my motto now.

This is so true! I remember the first few times I wore heels in public. I was so focused on what people might say, or what types of looks I might get, that by the end of it, I was like “wow, no one really even looked, or seemed to care at all, one way or the other”. Psychologically, I think I prepared myself too much, for negative reactions, ridicule, or even dirty looks, and when none of that happened, I realized that the whole event really wasn’t as big of a deal to everyone else, as it may have been to me. It honestly felt like all of the mental preparation and courage I summoned leading up to my finally walking in public wearing heels, was a gigantic nothing burger! In a strange way, It was sort of a let-down, almost making me feel like all of the excitement I had been building up in my own head, along with the thought that others would be ready to laugh, ridicule, point, or whatever, gave the whole thing much more importance than it actually deserved. What I got from my first experiences wearing heels in public, is that most people either, don’t care, or are not paying attention (mainly because they are probably too wrapped up in their own routines and their own distractions). I truly believe more guys would venture out in heels, if they realized that 99.8 of the “barriers” and negative reactions they expect and prepare for, or that they imagine that actually prevents them from experiencing and exploring wearing heels in public, basically come mainly from their own thoughts, and not the public/society itself. As far as reactions go, over decades of wearing heels in public, I’ve gotten maybe three or four dirty looks, maybe double that amount of looks of confusion or “double takes” (like when someone sees something, looks away, then quickly looks back, as if to say, “did I really just see what I thought I saw?), and I should add that many of those were woman, who followed it up with a kind smile! As far as comments, I’ve gotten literally dozens, from males and females alike, mostly all positive! Definitely nothing that would have ever kept me from going back out in heels again, that’s for sure. Bottom line is that most people could care less, and the ones that may notice, are mostly kindhearted people, and not as judgmental as one may think.

[pebblesf]

3 minutes ago, LuvsStiletto said:

This is so true! I remember the first few times I wore heels in public. I was so focused on what people might say, or what types of looks I might get, that by the end of it, I was like “wow, no one really even looked, or seemed to care at all, one way or the other”. Psychologically, I think I prepared myself too much, for negative reactions, ridicule, or even dirty looks, and when none of that happened, I realized that the whole event really wasn’t as big of a deal to everyone else, as it may have been to me. It honestly felt like all of the mental preparation and courage I summoned leading up to my finally walking in public wearing heels, was a gigantic nothing burger! In a strange way, It was sort of a let-down, almost making me feel like all of the excitement I had been building up in my own head, along with the thought that others would be ready to laugh, ridicule, point, or whatever, gave the whole thing much more importance than it actually deserved. What I got from my first experiences wearing heels in public, is that most people either, don’t care, or are not paying attention (mainly because they are probably too wrapped up in their own routines and their own distractions). I truly believe more guys would venture out in heels, if they realized that 99.8 of the “barriers” and negative reactions they expect and prepare for, or that they imagine that actually prevents them from experiencing and exploring wearing heels in public, basically come mainly from their own thoughts, and not the public/society itself. As far as reactions go, over decades of wearing heels in public, I’ve gotten maybe three or four dirty looks, maybe double that amount of looks of confusion or “double takes” (like when someone sees something, looks away, then quickly looks back, as if to say, “did I really just see what I thought I saw?), and I should add that many of those were woman, who followed it up with a kind smile! As far as comments, I’ve gotten literally dozens, from males and females alike, mostly all positive! Definitely nothing that would have ever kept me from going back out in heels again, that’s for sure. Bottom line is that most people could care less, and the ones that may notice, are mostly kindhearted people, and not as judgmental as one may think.

Well said!

[Shyheels]

Very well said indeed. Our self consciousness at stepping outside the norms magnifies everything in our minds.  the truth is that unless you are wearing something absolutely riveting - say, Barbie- pink thigh-high stilettos - a good percentage of passers by won't even notice, and those that =give a double take probably will have forgotten you ten minutes later, as they re-focus on their own lives. I don't wear my stilettos in public - mainlybeause I am not skilled enough to feel totally confident in them - but I wear feminine styled block-heeled knee and OTK boots regularly over skinny jeans and while I occasionally sense that I've attracted notice, it's never been a big deal.  I think owning the look, being confident, makes all the difference. If you accept who you are, others will follow that lead.   

[mlroseplant]

I did actually wear stilettos in public just yesterday, to my kid's jazz band concert. And even then, I seem to have attracted very little notice, despite there being hundreds of people there. And yet, at the same time, I was a unicorn. I was not the only one I saw who was wearing heels, but I was the only one in high stilettos. It hasn't always been this way. I've certainly been challenged and even heckled in the past.

[Shyheels]

Stilettos are a rarity everywhere these days. 

[mlroseplant]

I guess we often talk about heels being a rarity, but I hadn't actually considered the type of heel in my occasional sightings. Come to think of it, I can't think of the last time I saw somebody wearing stilettos in person, i.e., not on social media. I'll have to make a note of it the next time I see it.

[Shyheels]

I saw several pair, much to my surprise, the other day in the Manchester train station. The last time I saw any was at London Bridge train station on Grand National Day (horse racing)

[Mr. X]

On 3/8/2025 at 7:52 AM, Shyheels said:

Stilettos are a rarity everywhere these days. 

Any kind of heels for that matter.  Women are dressing for comfort these days, even their clothes.  All you see around here is usually leggings paired with boots or shoes without a heel, or something along those lines in the winter.  And in the spring and summer, all you usually see is shorts and flip flops.

[Shyheels]

Here in northern England boots with mid heels (2-3”) are quite common, even 3.5”. Not stilettos, no, but they are heels. Funnily enough twice in the past week I’ve encountered women wearing boots with chunky heels on the towpath. Fairly lowish heels - about 2.5” - but heels nonetheless. And you woukd not wear anything higher or slenderer on a towpath!

[mlroseplant]

Yesterday at the grocery store, I saw a young woman (early to mid 20s) who looked like she had just come straight from church (as I had). She was wearing a nice A-line dress with adorable little booties that had maybe a 3 inch heel. Maybe it was only 2 1/2, but they were noisy, same as my shoes were. We passed each other in the aisle several times, and she gave me the eye, but we never spoke.

[pebblesf]

On 3/8/2025 at 7:47 AM, mlroseplant said:

I did actually wear stilettos in public just yesterday, to my kid's jazz band concert. And even then, I seem to have attracted very little notice, despite there being hundreds of people there. And yet, at the same time, I was a unicorn. I was not the only one I saw who was wearing heels, but I was the only one in high stilettos. It hasn't always been this way. I've certainly been challenged and even heckled in the past.

I realize that folks "notice" when I wear stiletto boots/booties, can almost feel the gaze/stare behind me.  But that's OK, hoping they are intrigued.  Getting on/off an elevator is another place where I realize my boots will be noticed...  Often wish I had a way to hear what was said after I got off the elevator, or perhaps better off not knowing.  Oh well..  I can truly count the actual negative responses on one hand...  Like "shyheels" says, you just have to "own it", be confident, never let em see you sweat....

Edited Monday at 04:41 PM by pebblesf

[Cali]

I wear knee high boots on the outside of my pants. People notice them (a mile away).

[Shyheels]

I also wear my knee boots and OTK boots outside my jeans. As you say, it’s noticeable.  Even so, a lot of people don’t notice. And those that do seldom give it much more than a passing glance. 

[pebblesf]

On 3/10/2025 at 7:14 AM, pebblesf said:

I realize that folks "notice" when I wear stiletto boots/booties, can almost feel the gaze/stare behind me.  But that's OK, hoping they are intrigued.  Getting on/off an elevator is another place where I realize my boots will be noticed...  Often wish I had a way to hear what was said after I got off the elevator, or perhaps better off not knowing.  Oh well..  I can truly count the actual negative responses on one hand...  Like "shyheels" says, you just have to "own it", be confident, never let em see you sweat....

I've been wearing my gloss black Hunter boots, and my tall Aldo cowgirl boots over my levis as well, feels great to display them with a bit of confidence

[LuvsStiletto]

On 3/9/2025 at 5:31 PM, Mr. X said:

Any kind of heels for that matter.  Women are dressing for comfort these days, even their clothes.  All you see around here is usually leggings paired with boots or shoes without a heel, or something along those lines in the winter.  And in the spring and summer, all you usually see is shorts and flip flops.

When I am looking to see women in heels, I tend to frequent the places where they are apt to be. I live and work in an urban area, where there are loads of large business offices, law firms, insurance companies, banks, etc. I find, that women working in these atmospheres, tend to “dress up” and wear heels, more often, than women working for a small, rural, ma and pa establishment, where everything is more relaxed, and less formal. It’s not uncommon for me to see dozens of women at a time, going to lunch, running errands on their lunch hour, etc., when I too am on my lunch break. Anyone who works in large, professional, office buildings, with hundreds, or even thousands of employees, is bound to be treated to a delightful display of female heel wearing. The same is true (in my experience) for the types of restaurants you frequent. If you hang out at the local fast food joint, or family casual dining venue, I would not expect you to run into too many ladies wearing 4”-5” stilettos. You’ll be met, with loads of “soccer mom’s” instead, racing to get their kids a burger and some fries, between picking them up from school, and shuffling them to their next game. Oh, and those soccer mom’s will most likely be wearing flip-flops or sneakers, NOT a gorgeous pair of Chanel stiletto pumps! If you want to see women in heels, ditch the fast food and casual dining establishments, and dine or get drinks at the after-hours cocktail parties in the more upscale dining establishments. Honestly, if I’m going to spend $25.00 on a fast food “value meal”, and have a low probability of running into women in heels, I’d much rather spend the same $25.00 on an appetizer at the bar of an upscale, swank, restaurant, where the majority of women who are there, are coming straight from work, still dressed well, and wearing heels! In other words, you have to put yourself, where the women wearing heels, are most likely to be! I’ve never had much luck finding women wearing heels, when I’m at the park, at the local take-out pizza joint, or at the ball game. On the other hand, I’ve seen loads of women wearing heels, whenever I frequent classy wine tasting events, upscale dinners and banquets, visiting large, professional office buildings, etc. Most women are not going to get dolled-up, when running errands on their day off, with kids in toe. I’m not saying you won’t see a hot mom occasionally, taking her kid to the dentist, while donning a pair of stilettos, but it’s not as likely as seeing that same woman dressed very well, at the deli next door to her office building, while on her lunch break. She may even be sitting with a couple of her female friends, who are also wearing heels, because they all work for a high- end law firm, and basically need to wear 4” heels daily, for their career. When I want to see exquisitely dressed women, I put myself where exquisitely dressed women are likely to be, and more often than not, they will not be found at WalMart or the local burger hut.

Edited 16 hours ago by LuvsStiletto

[Shyheels]

That’s certainly true - living along the canals I am very unlikely to encounter anyone in high heels, let alone stilettos.

[Cali]

I see some women who changes into sneakers to go out at lunch. Also at the high end mall, Nieman Marcus, Nordstrom, Macy, Cadillac, Roll Royce, ... I hardly see heels.