The High Heeled Ruminations Of Melrose Plant

[Shyheels]

That is a bit weird. I think if it was me,I’d just leave it. It’s always curious to me how people start off by saying something like I’m not being judgmental and proceed to make clear they are being precisely that.  

[pebblesf]

10 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

Got a strange message on social media a couple of days ago. It was a friend from high school who asked in a private message, "Hey look--I am in no position to judge anyone, but I was wondering when you decided to wear women's shoes... Are they comfier, because my feet hurt." This really seems a little off to me for an initial contact message. No "Hey, how's it going? It's been years and years!" or anything like that.

As I had accepted his contact request maybe a month ago, I can only assume that he picked up on one of the remarklably few photos of me that show my shoes, and none of those really feature the shoes. After I came home from work, I messaged him with some short answers, and he responded to them with similarly short answers. I'm quite sure he was otherwise occupied, because the conversation trailed off rather abruptly. I'm glad I did not invest a whole lot of time into an explanation. We'll see what happens in the days to come.

Very intriguing.  Did he say where he saw you?  How long has it been since you guys "hung out" together?  I'm sure the guy feels very uneasy asking you about wearing heels, but sure seems like the interest is there.  Can't wait to hear more...

[mlroseplant]

I'm going to hazard a guess that nothing's ever going to come of this strange little interaction. No reply to my last transmission for two days. Just a "like." I've got better things to do.

[Shyheels]

I had a similar experience about ten years ago when I tracked down my former room mate at college, with whom I’d been very close at one time. After graduation he’d become progressively weirder - a survivalist conspiracy theorist sort and we lost touch. Decades later I  wondered what ever became of him and managed to find an email address. I wrote and we exchanged a couple of emails, fairly distant in tone. He had been seriously into rock climbing and not long after I made contact, when Alex Honnold famously free soloed El Capitan I sent him a note, recalling old times rock climbing.

His wife responded - in a distant tone. I took the hint and never wrote back.

Best forgotten 

Edited June 3 by Shyheels

[mlroseplant]

Still no interaction between me and my high school classmate. I can't really blame him, he's got some major health issues going on right now, but it still seems strange to me that a guy I actually hung out with back in the day would boldly ask a question, and then not really react to the answer. On the other hand, the last time I actually saw the man, in my mid 20s, I was playing a gig at a bar with my band, and our drummer, 6 foot 4 and an imposing presence, had threatened to do harm to him. My last in-person mental image of him was his backside as he was running out the door. By the way, he deserved it.

In other news, I'm still working overtime at the data center, and I have been getting up very early in the morning so that I can get my walks in. It's the only way. If I try to do it in the evenings, it ain't happening. I'm not good for anything after supper. I posted in the "New Shoes" thread, but I'll share some more photos of my Pentecost Sunday outfit. There's nothing really special about it, other than the red color, which is the liturgical color for that day. Now we're back to Ordinary Time until Advent, so everything will remain green for a long time. I've never felt comfortable taking pictures of myself, but I've tried some new poses that I picked up from social media. I hope I don't look like a complete idiot.

[Shyheels]

You look fine. I share your reluctance to take photos of myself but let me reassure you, you look good and the photos are good. I also share your reluctance to go out in the evenings. As a photographer I am very, very keen on early morning, pre-dawn light but I almost never do evening light or sunsets. By then I am comfortably ensconced and not wanting to go anywhere. It’s why I much prefer going out to lunch to going out to dinner. Dinner, I’m home. But I love going out to lunch!