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Having fun at ruby Tuesday after league bowling tonight. These are my very well broken in pumps from 1969. They know me well here as the guy in heels.

Never, ever take vertical videos..... Never..... But wear heels proudly..... ha ha...... sf And...... when folks ask my wife about me wearing high heels, she just smiles and tells them to ask me.... He is wearing HIS shoes.... They never ask.... ha ha... Nice sandals mlrose... sf

It's been a while... August was busy, both in terms of "life" and "heeling". Found time to go to the movies once, in 4" block heels, dark jeans, it wasn't busy so noone cared. I was loving it. Have also bought some nice shoes along the way. Recently bought a nice pair of boots, 4" heel, but 1" soles which are a bit thick. Aside from the heels, they could pass for guys shoes. Of all places, Walmart, as I accidentally saw them. Very comfortable, barely can feel the lift, and they almost feel like regular guys shoes. I got so excited about the boots that I went to a coffee shop to do my work wearing them. The outfit I think worked beautifully: loose hanging dress shirt, white t-shirt, light coloured jeans, and light-brown boots. Walking I doubt the heels were noticeable, but when sitting I'm sure the entire thing showed. I was a bit nervous but my goal right now is to find a comfortable pair of heeled boots that I can easily walk in, and try to wear it outside as much as possible. I'm sure people notice that they're heels. My goal is to get used to being outside wearing heels, but not worrying about feeling physically uncomfortable, or tripping someplace, or walking weird, etc. Once I'm comfortable being out and about, then I'll experiment, wear higher heels, or stilettos.

The guy is the poster boy of the lgbt community. His partner is a dude. Norhing wrong with the alphabet people but am I supposed to be happy that yet again men in heels = gay is cemented in people's minds? Its the opposite mental connection that I want to see happen.

Heya Peep's! Ive been inactive in here since 2014 i belive it was. Im now back though. Reason i stopped was a combination of many things, One major thing being i was getting abit social aggressive towards everyone basicly due to life's events. So i basicly withdrew from more or less all social activities for quite a while. Basicly i ended up more or less completely reinventing my self. Ive never stopped loving high heel's though and im still a dayli wearer and still with my supporting girlfriend. So im gonna spend some time catching up with things. Br,

hiddenheels, You've received some good advice here but that's the purpose of a site like this one. I think each of us has gone through some sort of mental process to figure it out until many of us realised we weren't doing anything wrong and just decided to "get on with it" as many would say in the U.K. Get on with enjoying your life and not limiting yourself by artificial restraints. I bought my first heels in 1978 in a Kresge store going out of business and have been buying heels nearly exclusively in-person at store like Macys, Nordstrom Rack, Bakers (when it was around) , Aldo, and Charlotte Russe since 2009 and have never had a bad reaction. Over time I started wearing heels into these same stores and got better service than ever. The visual of a man in heels sends a message that the world needs to reckon with you on your terms. This is the essence of enjoying life while you have the health, imagination, and money to do it. What fuels your ability to walk out that door and demand to be counted is confidence. Experience is gathered over a period of time by living and doing. Knowledge is gathered by living, doing, and learning and confidence is fusing all of this together to achieve your goals. It's an equation really; Experience=Knowledge, Knowledge = Confidence, and Confidence = Success. Success cannot be achieved without any of these prior ingredients. You have the desire and the creativity but just need to light the torch and ignite your confidence. Human beings with abundant confidence are virtual blast furnaces of energy and optimism and they invariably inspire others to do the same. I have met some of our members so I know it's true. I hope this is helpful for you. You're in the right place my friend. HappyinHeels

I thought I'd open a new thread about conversing with ones children about our heels - based on a short dialog recently in @mlroseplant's thread, as well as a comment made by one of my daughters this week. Feel free to jump in with comments, thoughts and stories. So yesterday, we were doing some clothes shopping for the family - me, my wife and the girls. After my wife tried on some low heeled sandals she saw and liked (but didn't get!), the one daughter (age 12) asked her if she (the daughter) can start wearing heels, to which my wife replied an immediate "NO!" - which I approved of Way too early in my opinion too! Anyway, then the daughter proceeded to say to me quietly that its not fair, because my wife has all these high heels under my bed and doesn't wear them!! Little does she know... I consoled her, and thought to myself, that no doubt, her heeling time will come too - but she certainly ain't starting with my 4" heels

When my daughter was 7- 9 years of age , she asked my wife why she has some size 8 and some size 12 shoes . My wife told her some were Daddy's and left it at that . I did catch my daughter trying to walk around the house in mine once . My wife asked if it would be okay to find her some small heels in her size . She did find some low heels cheap at the secondhand shop in town . She wore them around the house and by the time she had outgrown them it was time for her own pair of heels 21/2 " area or a little lower . My son on the other hand wanted to see if he liked wearing heels around the age of 12 and wore a pair . He decided it was not his thing after a few weeks . We never made a big deal of it or tried to hide it from them . The only person in the family that makes a big deal of me wearing heels , my oldest sibling she wears ugly shoes anyway and I told her that many times ! My wife and I decided long before the children were born we would never make a big deal of my heels and they don't either . I think looking back we made the right decision . This is kinda funny , one of my daughter's teachers at a parent teacher conference did look to see if I was wearing heels . I asked her what she was looking for and she said my daughter said I wore heels . I simply replied "only on special occasions" . She got a chuckle and we finished our conference .

I used to work the edges, night walking, long pants, etc. Now openly just about everywhere. I don't walk around at work but do have a nice pair of 5 inch basic black pumps i keep at my desk and wear from time to time when i know i won'tbe up and about much. Several coworkers are aware and i discussed with one. I simply said I'm more relaxed with them on. Nothing more. I think my confidence grew at a logarithmic rate, took a long time to get comfortable to being known as different by wearing heels to boldly going where no man has gone before with no concerns.

Also remember to go to COSTA (not for the coffee - not good) but for your photo for the Costa in heels thread.

Cali, London public transport (TFL) ticketing is more complex than that. If you have a contactless debit or credit card (you need a different one for each of you in the group) then this will always give you the best fares. There's a daily cap, which depends on various factors. If you don't have contactless (also some non UK cards don't work with the TFL system) then get Oyster Cards when you arrive at Heathrow or at any station or at many shops. Then you load them with money and they give you the same fares and caps as a contactless card. In most cases you can cash in any money left on them and get your deposit back at any tube station when you go home. Buying individual tickets is hopeless and expensive. All buses are cashless - Oyster or contactless only. It's a little more complex because trains to Croydon and some other areas, mainly in South London, are not part of the TFL network. However AFAIK Oyster and contactless work seamlessly with these services within the London boundaries. In all cases, you must touch in and touch out on trains and tubes. Even if there are no barriers. If you don't, you'll end up with excessive charges. With buses and trams you just touch in. I think there is something a bit complicated at Wimbledon when you change from tram to train. I've never been there (and I'm now old enough to have a free London travel pass) so don't know the details but you might be using it during your stay. All information is on the TFL website. https://tfl.gov.uk/ Google maps is a better journey planner than the TFL site. Don't know if you've driven in the UK before. We drive on the correct left side of the road, unlike Americans and continentals :-) Also, you'll get a manual (stick shift) rental car unless you have specifically booked an automatic. Petrol (gas) is a lot more expensive here than in the US due to high taxes and the weak pound. Though the weak pound means your dollars will go further.

I just take a handbag, hell, I am already wearing a skirt! Nothing too flashy unless its to dinner, then it's a Chanel or Hermes, but I try to travel light, small purse / wallet, enough to get away with like car keys or spare pair of tights. Pockets ruin the shape of a skirt and makes my tummy or hips look lumpy if overfilled, such as a phone being in a pocket. Ladies' pockets are extremely small in skirts and just for show... :)

Whilst I was not aware of the political leanings of the Mail, Telegraph, and Times I nevertheless am aware of the focus of surveys of journalism students at such places as Columbia University in NYC. When asked as to their principal reason for pursuing journalism a plurality of respondents said it was to change the world. It would seem activism infused with emotion is more important than investigating and fact-checking and source vetting. This certainly is the case with that pernicious social media engine. It is undeniable the left-of-centre slant in corporate journalism these days. When I look at the fantastic spread of gay parades around the world I wonder how it happened until I realise the media got behind an international agenda to push. Equality is important but equality in journalistic expression is also important especially when one says they are doing a "public service". HinH

Seen in Saturday's "Guardian": https://www.theguardian.com/money/2019/sep/14/starting-a-business-has-made-me-a-lot-more-frugal

This is an older article that I dont know if it has been posted here before or not, but it's the first article I've found that says straight men where heels and that you dont have to be gay (or whatever other nonsense people call themselves these day) So even though it's an old article its nice to see someone writing about straight men in heels! https://hubpages.com/style/High-Heels-for-Men-Latest-Fashion-Craze

I have noticed lately that when I purchase boots and heels from Poshmark, I am now going with the real leather style of boots and heels. I have also purchased from Poshmark some YSL pumps and sling backs. I have had no problems with them, other than having to get them in a size 12. Another page I have found is called The Real Real.

There was a Job Faire for the students at work today. I walked around to see who was hiring. At one table there was a woman sitting there with her brochures and the company sign that I didn't recognize. She motion for me the come over to talk (it was slow). It turned out she was representing a shoe store/company and had noticed my heels (another short shorts with my SM Manners). She just had to talk to me and wanted to invite me to their store.

True, but I read a wide variety of newspapers, magazines and news websites - The New Yorker, Fox News, CNN, The Guardian, The Telegraph, BBC, New York Times, etc - and the opinion pieces in The Guardian are well to the left of everyone else. As a side note, and unrelated to their political stance, The Guardian's columnists are incredibly indulged by their editors who allow them to get away with factual murder, writing pieces that are often riddled with demonstrable errors of fact. Not all of them, to be sure - a couple are excellent, and while I might disagree with their positions, I find their arguments well researched and put forth - but a great many of them just go on on riffs, propping up their airy claims on things that just aren't so.

I'll carry a handbag if I need to which tends to match my wedges, boots, or pumps that I'm wearing that day. HinH

Yes, those particular London newspapers - Mail, Telegraph, Times etc - do have conservative editorial stances, but the fact remains that public debate and discussion these days is largely shaped by Twitter and other pernicious social media platforms. Lazy journalists and editors, who either don't have the budgets or don't wish to spend money on serious journalism, rely on Twitter and the dramatised "outrage" of a handful of users as the bedrock for stories, most of which have heavily PC infused narratives. So yes, while the Telegraph et al might have a conservative leader writer, they are all of them chasing clicks, likes etc and jumping on trending stories. The BBC is certainly left of centre, while The Guardian is well to the left. I don't read the How I Spend it feature in The Guardian, and so can't comment on that, but I do read their opinion pieces and they are right out there on the fringes.

This broke my brain. Rings completely true... For whatever reason, I'm overwhelmed by the responses in this thread, and need a bit of time to reflect... Thanks.

I carry a cross body bag when I wear leggings and skinny jeans. I have no problem at all with that and get some compliments on my Vera Bradley bags with my initials embroidered on the bag. The bags were gifts from my daughter, who said if your going to carry a bag dad, you have to do in style! And I do carry a cross body bag when wearing men's pants and my heels, too. I also like carrying wristlet bag. Happy Heeling, bluejay

I glad I past that point. My youngest is 26. She knows I wear heels and color my nails. She is not thrilled that I wear heels all the time, but she has stopped complaining about it. She use to also complain that I color my nails, but she and my Ex liked my nail colors so much that they got the same ones for themselves.

I don't have a story here, but your story is awesome!

haha, noticed my wording, "these guys" for a pair of 5" heels ... :)

I did the same at the early beginning: at night ,parks,parking lot. Always feeling bad because inadequate. Now i wear heels in the day time,in the city,when traveling ( Flying is the best because airports are perfect) hotels ... i pay more attention to the clothes that match the heels. Always as manly a side possible. Ans i try to pay no attention at all to others despite the fact i am the only one on heels. Not so easy. So far so good!

Casual look today wedges, jeans, t-shirt and leather jacket.

yes, makes perfect sense

I think the desire to blend in vs stand out may vary depending on individual personalities. Also, I don't think it is black or white, as different people have different tolerances for what they consider to be "blended in". We live in a world with so many different kinds of people that look and dress differently as an expression of one's self. I feel like a "blend" is often a mixture of many different unique expressions. A comfortable social environment, to me, is not necessarily one where everyone is dressed and looks the same, but rather one where everyone is comfortable interacting with each other and between their unique expressions. For example, I chose to wear a blazer into the office, all the time. Some days, I am the only guy in a blazer, as everyone has decided to go casual that day. Am I sticking out, deviant, and not part of the picture? I think that would depend more on my behavior than the mere choice to wear a blazer. If I am still comfortable and "blending in" to the social environment I am in, it's just another productive day in the office. Same with heels, especially in a contemporary western setting. In this open society I doubt most people find it uncomfortable talking or interacting with you just because you are a guy wearing heels, and for the people that to do, perhaps this is an opportunity to discover differently.

I've found this to be true, with some notable exceptions, in the last few years. What was kind of a big deal 10 years ago is now just a little unusual. I wear my heels pretty much everywhere nowadays, and most of the time I am the only one wearing heels, so in that sense, I do stick out. Oddly enough, the one place I go regularly where it is guaranteed that I won't be the only one in heels is church. But that's only on Sunday morning. On Wednesday nights, I'll still be the only one in heels. I've spent my time walking in the darkness, and part of it was being self-conscious, but part of it was I needed to learn how to walk in heels, and I didn't want anybody to see me struggling. Using the same logic, when I was learning how to play the pipe organ, I used to come to the church late at night to guarantee that I wouldn't have an unwanted audience.

I'm going to post my outings in this thread, just to share. A few things about me: Have been married for a long time, with kids. My wife knew about my heels before we got married, but was never supportive, and eventually all heels became hidden (hence my alias) from view, we didn't talk about, I didn't wear it in front of her, nothing. Recently the topic came up, and the conclusion was that she said is OK if I go out periodically, she might join once in a while. It's slowly been improving, I showed her my heels, we discussed them, etc, but she doesn't want me wearing them at home. I'm used to that, so it's OK. Traditionally, 50% of my outings have been at night, with noone around, lasting about ~30 minutes. 50% of my outings have been to parks, or other more-deserted locations, during the day, hoping noone would be around. I usually wear jeans which cover the heels, and the heels vary depending on my mood. I much prefer boots, or ankle-boots, so it's almost always that. I have never ventured into a store or anything like that. Now I'm working hard to change that... More recently however, I've been getting really angry, sad, anxious, etc, most of it I am convinced is because of my inability (self-imposed or otherwise) to wear heels out. These emotions have been really difficult, and have preoccupied me greatly. I am getting really fed up with it, and have decided to try to challenge myself a bit and try to wear them outside. This is all recent, and has been happening in the last 2-3 months... OUTING A while ago I had to go downtown for work, and was in a huge mood to wear heels. I decided to take the required cloths with me, and a ~3.5" ankle boot that looks professional, no platform. After I was done with my work stuff, I quickly changed... Jeans covering almost the entire heel (about 1" was showing), and off I went. Broad daylight, with your general downtown population moving about, roads, etc. Put in headphones and walked around downtown, looking into stores, just browsing. Obviously lots of people saw me, but I was having fun. Didn't bother me who saw, and I didn't hear, was busy listening to music. Once I was done walking around, I walked too far from the car, so I decided to take the bus back. Got on the bus, in heels, sat down, and paid no attention to anyone. Was a bit self-conscious, but it was great. This was the first time I went out in public, ever, in broad daylight. I had a blast, still processing the experience. Cloths were: jacket, white shirt, very dark blue jeans, and black ~3.5" chunky heel ankle boots. The outfit I think worked perfectly. OUTING A few days after the above adventure, I got another chance. Was near a shoe store that I don't get a chance to go to often. Was coming home from a work-thing, and wanted to challenge myself. After my work-thing, I got changed, put on very long jeans, and a pair of 4" stiletto boots which I simply love. So comfortable. The heels could barely be seen. I got out of the car, shuffled around a bit, battling my thoughts, but then decided to just go for it. Ventured into the mall, past some coffee shops, and into a large department store. I looked around a bit randomly, just enjoying that I'm there in my heels. Then walked around the mall for a few minutes before making my way to the shoe store. I looked around, found nothing of use, then walked around the mall for a few more minutes and out to the car. The entire thing took 30 minutes or something, but it was broad daylight, with lots of people around, and I loved it. I was just a bit self-conscious. Cloths were: dress-shirt, black sweater, long blue jeans, and black 4" boots. I think it looked OK, upon reflection the outfit could be improved, but am still trying to figure that out. OUTING, OUTING, OUTING, OUTING A few days after the above adventure, over the course of ~2 weeks, I had the chance to be alone during the day once in a while for some hours to do my own thing. I wanted to challenge myself again, and wear heels. This time I decided to go to a coffee shop and grab a drink & some food, and work. So I did just that, picked a coffee shop that was far enough away from home, packed myself into the car, and went. This time I was quite self conscious in my brown wedge ankle boots, and long jeans covering most of it. While standing it was OK, the heels weren't showing, but when sitting I'm sure they were. I tried it out before going to the coffee shop and the jeans would ride up if I sat down, so I assume people could see some of it. But I sat down, enjoyed my drink, ate a bit, and worked on my laptop. Spent about an hour there. Got to repeat this 3, maybe 4 times over the course a few weeks. Quite enjoyable, but doesn't beat the above two adventures. Cloths: Varied, but long blue jeans with 3" wedge ankle boots covering most of it. --------------- The above outings might show progress, and they are huge progress compared to what I was doing a year ago, or further back. But I am still very much conflicted with this heeling thing, and I am sure these emotions will not go away for a while yet. I am trying to challenge myself, and in the process wear my heels, and so far so good. I am still very uncomfortable showing photos or URLs of the heels, or myself. I love it when others post photos of themselves in coffeeshops, etc, but I am not comfortable with that, for various reasons.

Great looking pooch also...

Very good advice, above.

mlroseplant, After looking at the photo of you and your son playing I thought you could either cross your ankles as your son did OR make the chair slightly higher so your legs aren't apart. Either of these should change your posture to your satisfaction. HinH

Hey, SF! You saw me in gal's shoes, back in February. Those were Clarks "Octavia" clogs/mules with a 3" stacked heel. They're about 10 years old, but intended for women. They're normal for me! Steve

You look great in these dresses, Jeff! The strappy ones are so cute!

Although distances in the UK are small compared to the US travel times can be surprisingly long. If you're planning to rent a car please remember that London is not a good place to drive. London's outer orbital road, the M25, is often badly congested. You definitely don't want a car in central London. Parking is difficult and expensive, plus you have to pay the Congestion Charge. Public transport in London is good, even if we Londoners always complain about it. Outside London public transport is very variable. Some areas have good services, others not. Have a great time in England but plan your journeys carefully in advance to avoid frustration about how long it can take. For example see this for Heathrow airport to Warwick Castle: https://www.rome2rio.com/map/Heathrow-England/Warwick-Castle

I don't have any pieces completely without pockets, but when pocket space is slim I move stuff to the belt. I have a loop/clip for keys, and holsters/belt bags can hold the phone. Or just holding the phone in the hand isn't too bad either. Bags are nice accessories though, and I look for just about any excuse to carry one.

Precisely. There seems to be an unrelenting association of gayness and heels and stories such as this just cement it more firmly in place.

Everyone needs a "little black dress." Someday I my get myself one. You look nice in yours.... Have fun... sf

Killer skirt he's wearing!

I noticed that too. Makes me wonder what his shoe closet must be like. Heh!

Jaunt #516, 9/14/2019: While I’ve worn dresses in numerous colors, save perhaps for purple and pink (and I wouldn’t rule out either), there’s a certain....something about black that really gets my motor running, I feel bold and dynamic when I wear black, and it’s no coincidence that I have more black dresses than any other color in my wardrobe. So today, I headed to the King of Prussia Mall in my sleeveless black dress from Sears, the Payless “Corey” semi-patent black flats and a black hobo bag. The dress, which I’ve had for something like two years now is both simple in styling but stylish and looks good on me in an uncomplicated way, as for the shoes, they’re so cute with the patent inserts on the toe and heel and are comfy for long periods of walking and standing. Oh, yeah, I’ve also started the practice of making sure all my jewelry, watch, neckwear and earrings were the same color, today, it was all silver plated. I’m just anal that way. I got something of a late start and arrived at the mall a little after 11:30 as the crowd was just building, there was a bit of a nip in the air outside which kinda sorta made me wish I’d worn a jacket (bare arms, yo), a reminder that it was mid-September and fall was right around the corner. At the comic book shop, I enjoyed a lively chat with the staff about Avengers: Endgame and how freaking great it was, I should know, having watched it three times now (twice in theaters, once on Blu-Ray), at Dick’s Sporting Goods, I bought a new water bottle for my bike and another for home, then, it was off to the food court where I had a salad and a bottle of iced tea. No pizza you wonder? Well, man cannot live on pizza alone, though the notion does occur to me from time to time, but I fight back the suggestion. Gotta maintain my girlish figure. Heh! My wanderings through the mall were uneventful as usual, I swung by Old Navy but didn’t see anything I liked, a rarity of sorts, however, I did find something at H&M that appealed to me, a long sleeved, short hemmed sweater dress which was on sale, so I went and bought it. Like I said, with fall on the way, it’s time to think about attire for cooler weather to come, just when I had gotten comfortable with and used to wearing spaghetti strapped dresses. Oh, well, them’s the breaks. I’ll also have to shift away from sandals which I’ve come to love wearing once it gets too chilly for open shoes, meaning pumps and plenty of outings in boots, both short and long. I’ll be looking forward to that. More to come....

Interesting. No mention of the heels, which is also interesting... Because he obviously wanted them to be seen.

heelguypa, Trying to answer your question I must ask how often you have checked sites like eBay? There is a wealth of shoes on there in all sorts of styles. I have only two pairs of closed to wedges mostly for those times of year when it is okay to wear wedges but still quite cool on the ground or I just don't feel like showing my toes. That would be one possible solution for you. HinH

If you are into Weird Al and his "weirdness," go see him. He sure puts on a good show.... Especially when wearing high heels - me not him... Last comment to keep in pace with the hhplace site... ha ha sf

As Cat said. Don’t care what other people think. Same as me, I’m as straight as can be but you can’t help your love for heels/boots. You either love them or hate them and most of us love them.

Mr Wanderer, Homosexual? I would suggest reading all the posts you can and read the earliest ones especially. The word Gay might be used sparingly. But Homosexual. Not so much. I realized after the first reading I did on this site and first question I asked after that. Sneakers and boots and (strappy sandals my favorite!) are just footwear. Enjoy! Life is too short. Welcome to the site.

I'm a straight male that only wears (formerly) women's shoe.

Well, leme splain it.... As for me, I am a married straight guy and I have been wearing gals shoes (flats, heels and sandals) in public, since I was a teen and have enjoyed every minute of it !!! I suppose that some homosexual folks also wear heels and girls shoes, and I guess that would be their choice also. Fine with me, have fun.... No hay pedo....... sf