Cali

Here's the info on the heels in the picture above.

They are Steve Madden Dreamgrl, bought them last year, or the year before. I can't remember how much. 

Below is some info on them that I found.

===

Details & Care

I'm sorry to hear this R&W. I'm sure there are other reasons as well. In my last marriage I wasn't ever wrong, just never right. If I said "A" then she would said "B" and if I said "B" then she would say "A". If she wanted "A" and I did "A" then it wasn't right either. I could never do anything right (according to her).  She would say something and then forget what she said and change her mind, so I got hung out to dry too many times. What really got me was her inability to compromise, which is an important component in a healthy relationship. And it is required if you go to marriage counseling. Since she couldn't compromise, I said no to marriage counseling. It was her way or the highway, I chose the highway. After 20 years, two kids, and... I had enough and said so.

50 minutes ago, RonC said:

I hear you on the lace-ups.  They do offer a better fit.  Unfortunately, I also find them less than attractive in my eye.  Haven't bought a pair yet, though I have come close a few times after trying them on and feeling the fit.  One of these days I will give them a try.

There are many attractive lace-ups out there. Having a large girth toe box limits the shoes I can wear. For example, I haven't found a pump I can put my foot in and walk without pain and i have tried hundreds.

Dome

I have found that the only people that really notice are young kids. They are lower to the ground and notice my heels. You can see it in their faces.

Pleasure Point 

Boardwalk

21 hours ago, RonC said:

Happy, actually that was Tim0578 that made that comment - I just added that I liked his choice in heels.  I am with him though.  4" is my limit of comfort.  I've tried the gel pads.  Problem is most shoes are not really wide enough for my feet - so putting a pad in the toe box just takes up too much space, so they end up being very uncomfortable.  Oh the woes of cramming a rather wide male foot into a shoe designed for the narrower, more delicate female foot!  Boo hoo....lol

After my last ankle reconstruction, I started to search for shoes that would fit better. I came to the conclusion:

shoes are made in basically two different shapes (1) the rectangle (2) pear.

The rectangle shape is were the toe box and the heel box are the same width. Getting it wider is more uniform.  This is the typical male foot/shoe.

The pear shape is where the toe box is wider than the heel. This is the typical female foot/shoe.

I have a wide and tall toe box and narrow heel. Tall because I have a high arch, so the girth of my toe box is large compared to my heel.

I use to wear men's US 9 1/2 4E shoes just to get my foot into the shoe. Then I couldn't tie them tight enough to keep my heels from sliding around. I hated shoes and shoe shopping. I haven't worn male shoes for years now.

I now wear women's US 10 normal. My toe box is too wide for some shoes and I haven't found a pump that I can wear without pain tall toe box. Heels also help normalize my high arch and give me better balance. I now love shoes, shoe shopping, etc. 

RonC to help with your wide foot, look for lace-ups. 

55 minutes ago, Thighbootguy said:

The people that see me all the time don't question my footwear, except when I'm not wearing boots.

I get the same reaction. Yesterday our admin told me she can't remember not in heels.

I've worn similar in the pass. But you need to get some sun on those legs and arms if you are going to show so much skin.

SUMMER

9 hours ago, Gudulitooo said:

And why would women wear uncomfortable shoes if not because of - or thanks to - this premise ?

Because the shoes are pretty and they look good in them.

But it was a women who gave some words of wisdom concerning buying shoes:

"Life's too short for shoes that don't fit"

Beautify shoes...they got to get out on the town.

25 minutes ago, Shyheels said:

Heels for men went out of fashion decades before the French Revolution. Sometime around 1730 or even a bit earlier. Their popularity was actually declining by the end of the 17th century. 

So it's time to bring heels back! I'm doing my part are you?

1 hour ago, Gudulitooo said:

Yes but women are supposed to be emotional, lighthearted and illogical.

You could directly say that her man has become emotional, lighthearted, and illogical, and she now has to deal with seriousness and reason.

They should be allowed to discuss this with each other.

 

But the premise is false.

On 6/22/2017 at 6:54 AM, maninboots said:

I hear what you say and totally agree with you, thanks for replying and for the encouragement, my main point is anyone can wear anything regardless of gender and men don't have to feminise themselves to wear a dress/ skirt and heels (unless they want to of course) in the same way women don't have to be masculine to wear jeans and sweatshirts with trainers, just be who you want and wear what you want 

You didn't offend me, I wear heels daily in public, have manicured and painted both fingernails and toenails, shave my arm pits, blend my clothing, and wear some light make-up, yet I'm not feminine and I feel what I do as expressing myself, not feminizing. Many here call it freestyling. I need to remove the hair in the winter, so I get waxed 3 - 4 times a season and now I'm enjoying some of the "side effects": thinner and finer hair. And I think it makes my legs look better in my heels and shorts.

Welcome fellow Californian. Use whatever you can to lose and keep weight off.

High heels are my footwear, not my fetish. I want people to see them as "just my footwear", so I must treat them as "just my footwear". I can't ask others to do it if I don't do it, you've got to lead by example.   That being said, there is no reason (except space) that I can't have 35 - 40 pairs, specially if this is what I wear. 

On 1/25/2017 at 5:22 PM, AJ777 said:

My wife HATES my shoe fetish, she has no idea that I love to wear them either. I am straight but this has been the progression of my heel fetish and I love the feel of them and I can not associate what women feel when in them. The heel fetish is going to be the end of our marriage sooner than later sadly. She does not get it at all

My now Ex knew that I started to wear women's running shoes after my 3 ankle reconstruction. She never paid enough attention to notice when I started to wear booties with 1 to 1.5 inch heels.  But she had terrible taste in shoes and ugly feet, bunions etc. Our marriage feel apart over other things, but I also knew she would never accept me for me. Compromise? What compromise? 

What I saying is that if your foot wear is the cause of your breakup, then there was not much of a relationship to begin with. 

If you want your SO to be okay with your choice of footwear then stop calling it a fetish and treating it as a fetish.

Today I returned my madden girl combat boots to Macy's (didn't fit  ) while wearing a polo shirt, shorts, and my Steve Madden Lace-up wedges with a 5" heel. Purchased a scrub from one of the make-up counters and no one notice my heels (or my colored toenails). They're just my NORMAL EVERYDAY FOOTWEAR.

I had a guy walk across the street in front of me yesterday at a stoplight in women's flat sandals close to where you live SF.  You just have to be more observant.

4 hours ago, maninboots said:

I never shave any part of my body except my face, i am very fair haired so probably not that noticeable on my legs and thick denier tights usually takes care of that but I am a man, wish to remain a man regardless of outfit or shoes i choose to wear and part and parcel of being a man is body hair 

I had a neighbor and she would have to shave her face several times a week. Her daughter now has a hairy face. And her mother has a hairy face.

I reject the notion that body hair is "part and parcel of being a man". I project as male, even alpha male while wearing my 4-6 inch heels. It's how you conduct yourself.

Dreamer

One of the side effects of a drug I need to take is long eye lashes and eye brows. When they start to weave together I get my brows cleaned up and trimmed (waxed).

2 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

I also have to constantly pluck or cut my nose hair and ear hair. I only wish all this damn hair would have stayed on my head!

Warning: Wishing too hard will cause it to fall out faster.

We must all find the style we are comfortable in. In some sense I am envious of some of you that wear skirts or dresses out and about, that is (for now) outside my comfort zone. It took me a while to get where I am at. 

I almost started this the other day when I saw a picture of a member in their stiletto booties with hairy legs. And I know many here shave their legs while some have gone the laser route.

So do you shave, wax, laser, or go au naturel?

What are your results?

The last couple of winters I've had to remove the hairs on my legs so I can tape them. Since I hate stubble and I am lazy (I don't want to do constant maintenance) I have my legs waxed...about 4 time a winter. This year when I let the hair on my legs grow back out I have about 30% of what I use to have.

Mentalities