Cali

Hi all.

In the summer I mostly wear high heel sandals with shorts to work. 90% wedges, 10% CFMs. But I thinking of wearing a pair of booties with my shorts. I will have a pair of very short socks that will not come above the booties' shafts. Has anybody tried this look or have an opinion on this "look"?

From far you look like a friend of mine, a black women about the same age as you, but with less hair than you. She unfortunately had breast cancer and the chemo afterwards took her hair. That was about 4 years ago. She is still doing fine but has no hair. Occasionally she will wear a fashionable hat but mostly it is hairless.

Depends or stay near a bathroom. You wont be able to get around too fast.

Stateroom

Plinko

Deck

9 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

they wanted to see what shoes I was wearing THIS week! It was rather nice to find that out. I feel very lucky.

I hope you help them out by showing your shoes to them.  I'm often stopped by women at work so they can see what heels I have on. If I have long pants on they ask me to raise my pants. You get a nice feeling from these encounters. 

Kiwi

Grapefruit

6 hours ago, BFGheels said:

No I'm not starting anything off with a lie!

I very much plan on telling my future partner about my heels but personally they don't need to know straight away. One just doesn't tell the world everything straight away.  

I am me (23 years old) and not pretending to be anything else.

Im sorry that I'm not so in people faces and being able to just strut my stuff freely. You don't know me and what I've had to endure to get this far. 

Maybe "lie" was too strong of a word to use, but not the concept. 

I do know you will be unhappy and frustrated if you settle for a woman that is against your heel wearing.  Being 23 you are very lucky, women of your generation are more open to different things. I'm in my 60's and women in my generation are very much set in their "idea of normalcy" and not open to different things. I know I am outside 90-95% of them. If you think it is hard in your 20's, it's very much harder at my age. In fact I just met a woman that I felt comfortable with and she used the line "we too far apart", valid because with the traffic here the 50 miles could take 3 hours. Sad part, I felt comfortable with her, and that's very rare.

I not saying to strut your stuff in peoples faces either.

I don't strut my stuff. I don't want to draw attention to the fact I have heels on, I want the fact that I have heels on to just be "normal" and I treat it that way

I have colored nails, my fingernails have a clear gel with sparkles that only show at certain angles. I don't take the gel off for dates. And I do use running shoes if we go hiking and conservative booties with a 3" heel or boot with a 4+" heel. I use my fingernails as a barometer; if she notices them and dislikes them then I know that she is not the woman for me, if she notices and likes them then we continue. 

If you don't show the woman you are interested in she might turn away once you tell about your heels - because your not the guy she thought you was.

BFGheels, do you want to start out this (future) relationship with a lie, and have to live in the closet?

I too am looking for a woman as well, and I decided I not going to hide anything.  If she is not strong enough or is so concerned that I paint my nails or wear high heels then she is not for me. I know I am reducing the possible mates, but I rather be me and be happy than act like something else.

Woodpecker

Taj Mahal

Shanty

Welcome fellow Californian. 

Take it easy on your feet. start slower with shorter periods of time.

Usually there is a 1.5 different between men's and women's feet, so a men's 8.5 should be a woman's 9.5 - 10.  Either get you foot measured or go to someplace like a DSW (clearance area)  or Nordstrom's Rack and try shoes on.

I'm an US women's size 10 and that's in the normal range so the variety we have is gigantic.

You shoes should not hurt. Maybe after 8 - 10 hour a pair might be too much, but they should never hurt.

Life's too short for shoes that hurt.

When you get a favorite store or a store that likes you, then tell you what's coming in a when. They hold shoes they think you might like and bring them out when you come in. I visited my favorite store, very small store. When I entered there were four women shopping, two trying heels on and two just looking. The two sales associates working the floor left their clients to come talk with me. Told me when the new fall stuff was coming in and what was coming. 

They also made men's shoes with that thick wavy sole. I had a pair and wore them quite often in the late 70's. Wild shoes to walk in.

I had hair that long (and even longer) many decades ago. But for some of us the hair goes. Lost a great deal when I picked up a "bug" in Asia and had to take antibiotics for six months.  So enjoy your hair while you can.

Scalene

Automatic

OPI and I loving the ILNP that I learn about here. Last pedi I had the holographic ILNP painted over OPI black. Oh what a color combination. What a pop.

http://www.ilnp.com/

Been doing Gelish on my fingernail, mostly Izzy Wizzy Let's Get Busy.

9 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

I can tell you from experience as a man, wearing shorts with your high heels is a big upstep in the attention factor, particularly if the heels are high stilettos, and the shorts are way above the knee. It's just a fact of life that I can't explain. Wearing wedges SOMEWHAT blunts the effect, but only so much.

I wear my shorts mostly with wedges. I'm walking too much during the day and cover too much area for stilettos. And pumps just don't fit.  I also work in an area with a large Asian population. My 5+ inch wedges make their statement, but I also want my wearing the heels to be a non-event, normal.

Hamster

Northern Lights

I understand what you are saying KH, you have been wearing your heels with long pants and you feel comfortable wearing them that way. Now you want to also wear your pumps with shorts and this is where you lack the confidence.

But even by your own admission (this thread) this is new territory for you and are looking for some thing to help you with that. The only thing that will help you is doing it, Start simple, at a friends house for a bar-be-cue...once you have gained some more confidence then get up your nerve and buy gas

I wear most boots/booties in the late fall/winter/early spring with long pants and high heel sandals with shorts in the summer. Pumps are just not my style. But sometimes I will be caution with what I wear.

Today was a perfect example.

I had a brunch date this morning with a woman I never meet before. I wore my New Balance running shoes (woman's because that's what fits). Part of the reason was I thought there was a high probability we might take a walk on the beach and my wedges sink. But it was also too soon to introduce my heels to her, it might be too overwhelming and if I never see her again, no need to talk about it. After brunch we walked along the coast (saw whales) holding hands and she asked me about my heels*. Then she before I could answer she asked if I was a cross dresser. I told her "I wear women's heels, so that already makes me a cross dresser." I brought up my hand and showed her my nail polish and acrylic nails and she said "yeah, I was going to asked you about your nail polish". We talked about our nails and how we both are high maintenance.  I told her why I wear heels while we walked and when we got back to our cars I showed her a pair of my Steve Madden Mules, 5 inch heels. We kissed and I plan to wear my heels next time we met.

The lesson here is that even some of us that wear our heels as normal footwear will be cautious and "chicken out" at times.

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* it's in my dating profile that I wear 4 inch heels.