Foon Posted June 17, 2002 Posted June 17, 2002 Just wondering what kinds of reactions people have had to their heels? I've had plenty of double takes and puzzled stares, but I had some interesting reactions at a party last weekend. The guys didn't say much about my 5" heels, but I got a range of positive reactions from the women. Some were impressed with the heel height, others couldn't believe my feet were comfortable in such pointy shoes, and one girl was really pleased that a man had finally found out what it's like when the crowd is walking slightly too fast and you can't keep up because of your heels All were impressed with my shoes in one way or another, and all agreed that it took a lot of confidence and guts to wear them. A very positive experience all round - anyone else care to share?
ShockQueen Posted June 17, 2002 Posted June 17, 2002 I've mainly gotten a lot of positive and supportive compliments from the ladies, and only a few questions from the guys. I remember one time going shopping in the mall and my wife overheard this couple say "Is that a guy or a girl?". The only other comment I usually get is "Aren't you tall enough already?", since I am 6'2" and usually wear 4-8" heels. SQ.....still busting societal molds with a smile...and a 50-ton sledge!
Firefox Posted June 17, 2002 Posted June 17, 2002 I get a few double takes outside from people in the street, but my friends and colleagues for the most part ignore them. They know I wear them, it's no secret, nothing hidden, no shoes under the bed, no quick dashes to the rubbish bin at midnight, no peeking through the curtains to check if anyone is coming back early. If someone is up front about something they don't get much reaction. For example if your mate died his hair green, you might comment the first time you saw it, but after that you all have to get on with life.
Dexter23 Posted June 17, 2002 Posted June 17, 2002 I had surprisingly little reaction on my heels. I have worn my 2.5" heels now about 4 weeks and most of my friends where verry positive about them. My latest buy most havent seen yet. They are 4" Last sunday there was a BBQ at my parents house. eventually they saw the shoes, My brother and father didn't care to mutch, only wanting to ask if they walked comfy. and my mother kept asking if it was the latest fassion.An other friend of mine saw it imediatly and asked if the heels where a but to small to walk on. But till now no negative coments.
Yamyam Posted June 18, 2002 Posted June 18, 2002 To be honest, I haven't had much reaction either. My brother asked me how I bought shoes, and a friend asked if I could drive in them (I can), and that's about it. I think I've had a couple of double-takes, but what the hell - no-one's ever confronted me about it. So I'm keeping on going! Obsessed is such a strong word. I prefer to think of myself as "differently enthusiastic"
Francis Posted June 18, 2002 Posted June 18, 2002 I still get the odd comments and mickey takes, a few wolf whistles from the girls and the occasional idiot, but generally no problems. Most people couldn't give a monkey's what you have on your feet, but some do get intrigued or outraged by a difference to their perceived 'norm', but that's their problem. Wear your heels with pride and sod anyone that doesn't agree!
Firefox Posted June 18, 2002 Posted June 18, 2002 I wore my open toe wedge 4" mules to a social thing this evening. It was a hot day. One of the girls I know quite well had 3" wedge mules. She's in her 30's like me. Anyway she says "Ooo yours are higher than mine." Then she said I should wear red nail varnish like her. She kept looking under the table and winking. Actually I know her quite well and we often tease each other. She wears boots a lot like me too. We often invite each other round for games evenings (hahaha, not that sort of game!)- poker, bridge, mah-jongg etc. That's why I can't understand people if they say it would affect their social life or they would be an outcast. I've never lost any friends over it, indeed I've made friends because of it.
Dexter23 Posted June 19, 2002 Posted June 19, 2002 Yesterday I wore my 4" boots when I went to some friends of mine. We had something to discuss about the upcomming TT of assen next week. One of my friends opened the door and looked a bit strange... he said "what are you standing strange and what are you going in girlie shoes" A other friend om my who already saw me in 2.5" boots a other time shouted from a other room that I was just waering nice boots. (He hadn't seen my new 4" boots at that time). Later we all went to meet up with some more friends. After about 2 hours his girlfriend came home and she saw the imediately and asked if they walked nice en easy, I told her: not they don't I have to practice some more in them. Than the others started joking a bit about that I sould'n walk in grass or mud, than I would sink in quite a bit. I was happy that we all went home my veet realy started to hurt (not showing )
JeffB Posted June 22, 2002 Posted June 22, 2002 Other than the predictable odd stare or double take, I haven't had any problems. And, as you all know by now, I've been wearing standard pumps at work for several months now. Everyone at the office (nearly two hundred people strong), from supervisors on down have accepted me for what I choose to wear and it's no big deal. They've all seen my shoes (and have figured out that I wear pantyhose to boot!) as I make no effort to hide them and have got numerous compliments here and there. It's been a great experience, one I will continue for a long time to come. I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman!
Trolldeg Posted June 22, 2002 Posted June 22, 2002 The wierdest comment I've ever got was when I was wearing my 5"heel/1"plat stiletto ankle boots to school. The teacher asked, when I was walking out of the classroom, "you must have bought those in the ladies section, right?" like there was any doubt about it...
Dexter23 Posted June 22, 2002 Posted June 22, 2002 Yes that's what I don't get. Manny people ask me when I am wearing my 4" boots, Do they sell them in a man's size? Hello !!! I am a man and wearing them.... of course they sell them in my size. An old saying: If the shoes fits.....
Charlie Posted June 23, 2002 Posted June 23, 2002 I've never had anything but compliments. Mostly from women, and occasionally from the guys. The other day, I was with two co-workers in Long Island. (I was wearing 4" chunky heeled boots) We were at a bar, and were people watching when one of the guys saw this real goth gal. He said to me "Charlie, take a look at her, she's your ideal gal! You've got your cool boots on, so go introduce yourself....." He was kidding as he knows I'm married, but he really thinks I wear the coolest boots. He's said this before too........... Charlie Everything I say is a lie!.......I'm lying
Yamyam Posted June 26, 2002 Posted June 26, 2002 Well, this weekend was probably the most embarrassing moment I've had. I had the nightmare car trip from hell - 200 miles from the West Country up to Cutlery Country. On the way there I had to park up next to a car full of young girls, and got severely giggled at. Oh well, such is life. Obsessed is such a strong word. I prefer to think of myself as "differently enthusiastic"
hhpumps Posted June 28, 2002 Posted June 28, 2002 when we moved to a small farming community, we always lived in large metro cities, we were new to the community. on new years eve they had a new years eve dance, what else. my s/o wore her black patent pumps, what else, and she was the only one there in heels. most of the other people either had flats, or even tennis shoes on. when we were danceing it was fun to watch both the guys and especially the gals stare at her stiletto heels. patent leather and classic high heel pumps area.
HarlowGold Posted July 28, 2002 Posted July 28, 2002 i think if i were to see a man in heels, and if he looked approachable enough, i'd compliment him. it does take courage to go against the grain! sometimes all it takes is one person to say "hey, you look nice!" to make your day.
PlatformJay Posted July 28, 2002 Posted July 28, 2002 Never got any reaction-however only worn 3 inch loafers with long pants,
ShockQueen Posted July 28, 2002 Posted July 28, 2002 The other night, I was out for coffee with some friends of mine, and I was wearing my 4" baby-doll pumps under pants, and when using the "facilities", on the way there I heard this guy talking quite loud saying "Did you see that guy over there? He's got high heels on his feet. Just wait til he comes out...you gotta see this!". *sigh*...some people STILL need to get a life I guess. I completely ignored the fact he was breathing air and just walked on totally oblivious to his statements. I was comfy in my new pumps, and no one was going to spoil my mood. SQ.....still busting societal molds with a smile...and a 50-ton sledge!
Yamyam Posted July 28, 2002 Posted July 28, 2002 Christ, you guys are the coolest. Ive wanted wear heels since I was about 12 years old, yet never have done so, probably because I'm too scared and worried what others might think. Even uy girlfriend doesn't know about my obsession and we've been living together for 2 years...nighmare... I don't think I've *ever* been described as 'cool' before In this, as in many other things, the first time is the scariest! After that, it gets easier. Oh, and far be it from me to tell someone else how to manage a relationship, but perhaps you might want to have a chat with your girlfriend. You never know - you might have some extra support - a couple of ex-partners have pushed me to do things I'd never have dared to do on my own! And if/when you do decide to have that chat - good luck! Obsessed is such a strong word. I prefer to think of myself as "differently enthusiastic"
Nicole Posted July 29, 2002 Posted July 29, 2002 I've had a lot of nice comments from women, some of whom admired my shoes, some who thought i was being brave etc.. Some of my friends have been supportive, but generally they were women. I've drawn my fair share of negative comments too: i've been laughed at by women but that's about it- not a big deal. from men the reaction has not always been as good. i've been called fag, i've been asked if i like men [only as friends], nothing worse than that. Today some one asked me if my shoes were starting to hurt yet [5" Granny boots: answer- yes but not much] What I have discovered, at least in LA and Santa Barbara, is that the hardest part by far is stepping out the front door. Of course, I am unusual in that when i go out, I wearing feminine clothes without any makeup apart perhaps from nail polish. Anyway, once I pluck up the courage to leave the apartment complex and get to the busstop it's suprisingly easy. the truth shall make you fret
Arctic Posted October 9, 2002 Posted October 9, 2002 You did the right thing! Your confidence will grow and you'll regret not having it done earlier! Bert What's all the fuss about?
JeffB Posted October 9, 2002 Posted October 9, 2002 Here's a fun little story for all to enjoy! I found a super stylish pair of black patent pumps at Payless on Saturday. The zipper-like ornament on the side and the 3 1/2 blade heel made for a really killer combination, and I wasted no time wearing them at the office on Monday. I was dressed from head to toe in black: shirt, pants, hosiery, plus the new shoes, and the compliments flowed like water. One female co-worker said I looked too sharp for words! Another was awed with the zipper ornament, a third said flat out that I look better in heels than most women while a fourth, a notorious fashion queen was actually jealous and vowed to go shopping, saying to me, and I quote: "No way am I gonna let a man strut around here in better looking pumps than me!" Needless to say, I had a ball today! I'd say this was my best day at the office yet in heels!!! :-D I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman!
Arctic Posted October 9, 2002 Posted October 9, 2002 a notorious fashion queen was actually jealous and vowed to go shopping, saying to me, and I quote: "No way am I gonna let a man strut around here in better looking pumps than me!" Wow Jeff, most of us can only dream about such feedback! I don't see that happening here soon. Bert What's all the fuss about?
coolshoes Posted October 10, 2002 Posted October 10, 2002 Am I jealous! I have been waiting for over two years for someone to say I like your boots/shoes. Oddly enough I have only had that comment when wearing mens shoes and from women. About three years ago while walking down a hall by a complete stranger and about five years ago in a Cole Haan store in Chicago. The first time I was wearing a Donald Pliner shoe that closely resembled a woman's model (mostly a lower heel). The second time it was as pair of monk strap Italian shoes with about an 1 1/2" heel that the Cole Haan woman clerk almost drooled over. I bought both of these shoes because they were the nearest thing to a shoe I liked in the womens department. Go gently through life.
JeffB Posted October 10, 2002 Posted October 10, 2002 Well, I've been very fortunate in that I work with so many open minded and accepting people, none of whom find it odd to see a man wearing heels. A goodly number of them tell me I wear very nice shoes, not very nice "women's" shoes, just nice shoes. And that never fails to make me feel good inside. I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman!
hoverfly Posted October 10, 2002 Posted October 10, 2002 So far the only time I know of a verbal response to my heels was when my GF and I were at a County Fair in Maine (Hicksville and Red neck territory). I did not know until later but my GF and I bumped into a coworker of hers. The coworker mentioned to my GF that I was wearing 4" high heel boots. My GF response was a shrug and said "So". It explained why I saw a slightly confused look on her face when we meet. But what would you expect from a 19 year old? Hello, my name is Hoverfly. I’m a high heel addict…. Weeeeeeeeeee! 👠1998 to 2022!
crotchboots-m Posted October 11, 2002 Posted October 11, 2002 i like to wear my black leather crotchtall hiheel boots in public as well. lately i have been going to shopping malls,etc. usually early in the morning when it isnt as busy. i have found that most people dont even look...especially the guys. the women look at bit and then ignore u. i have also found u have get quicker service...perhaps its because u stand out. of course,the rest of my outfit is extreme as well. all black leather other than the black dress shirt. i wear biker boot chains and a garter of my own manufacturer to hold up my boots. skin tite jeans,shoulder length gloves,spiked choke collar,d ring wrist restraints,and biker skullcap set off the rest of the ensemble. i also like to swim/wade in this outfit...usually in indoor motel pools.
stellah Posted October 11, 2002 Posted October 11, 2002 ...shoulder length gloves,spiked choke collar,d ring wrist restraints,and biker skullcap set off the rest of the ensemble. i also like to swim/wade in this outfit...usually in indoor motel pools. You swim in leather and chains? How come you don't drown for the weight? Anyway - you have a cool style. I guess when you look that outrageous already - with all the "armor" - the thigh-high boots don't stand out that much any more. So you can wear them easily everywhere... BTW - how high and what type of heels do you wear under your thigh-high boots? _______________ HH forever!
crotchboots-m Posted October 11, 2002 Posted October 11, 2002 i have 40 pairs of boots,but my favorite are the black leather 4 inch spike heels with sidezips. got them from doug dealy at www.perfectstitch.com. oh,btw...how do u change to footwear icon on the left side? i would rather have an icon like yours than those dumb comfy loafers.....
stellah Posted October 11, 2002 Posted October 11, 2002 ...how do u change to footwear icon on the left side? i would rather have an icon like yours than those dumb comfy loafers..... You have to post more messages... read the FAQ section of something... When you reach 25 - you get your first heels _______________ HH forever!
JeffB Posted October 12, 2002 Posted October 12, 2002 Just in case you were curious about the "zipper pumps" I talked about a few posts back, here's what they look like! Hopefully, this pic will show here: So, what do you think? Pretty cool, huh? Between the zipper ornament and the stylish 3 1/2 inch blade heel, these are my prettiest shoes! And my co-workers liked them a lot too! :-) I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman!
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