loveheel Posted June 2, 2003 Share Posted June 2, 2003 Got some real encouragement from a women while trying on a pair of nice Via Spiga boots in San Francisco last week. She was trying on a lower pair next to me and ask me for advice on how they looked on her. We had a good chat. She commented on how great the Via Spiga boots looked on me and how she never could walk in those high (4.5 inch) heels. Interestingly, this was all rather genuine. Her husband was with her and even seemed to appreciate. She left complimenting me on "living a little out of the box". I felt great to get some appreciative comments. So, you women out there, make some positive comments when you see a guy trying on high heels. It can make our day ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loveheel Posted June 2, 2003 Author Share Posted June 2, 2003 Here is a picture of the boots. I think I have met my match with these. The heel is 4.5 inch and they are a little tight. After walking a quarter mile in these on the street of San Francisco my 3 inchers felt like gym shoes. http://65.160.96.70/hhplace/images/1054521960.jpg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arctic Posted June 2, 2003 Share Posted June 2, 2003 Good to hear! Where in San Francisco did you try those on in the spring time? The supply isn't that good in this time of the year. I'm going there in august again so time for some heeling! And I would also be flattered if commented by a woman... Bert What's all the fuss about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gizmo Posted June 2, 2003 Share Posted June 2, 2003 NICE boots for everyday walking :!: congrats :!: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jim Posted June 2, 2003 Share Posted June 2, 2003 VS make superb shoes and boots.There are 2 pairs in my shoe closet and I love them! You have bought a very fine pair of boots Loveheel. Isn't it nice to receive a compliment from a women... or even a man for that matter. Just a word or two can make a real difference to your day. rock on jim Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yamyam Posted June 2, 2003 Share Posted June 2, 2003 Those are nice, I'd be very tempted myself. And yes, a compliment makes all the difference! I've had a few compliments when out and about, and it makes my day each time! Obsessed is such a strong word. I prefer to think of myself as "differently enthusiastic" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micha Posted June 2, 2003 Share Posted June 2, 2003 Here is a picture of the boots. I think I have met my match with these. The heel is 4.5 inch and they are a little tight. After walking a quarter mile in these on the street of San Francisco my 3 inchers felt like gym shoes. http://65.160.96.70/hhplace/images/1054521960.jpg Hi loveheel, such nice episodes are the reason, why I wish to buy in a normal shoe shop - but no chance with my EU 44/45 size Still a question to you: The toe boxes of your new boots appear very flat to me. You said that they are a little tight. Is it because of the flat nose? No problems with corns on the upper side of your big toe? The heel size is OK. Real men need at least 4'' heels ... micha The best fashion is your own fashion! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loveheel Posted June 3, 2003 Author Share Posted June 3, 2003 That picture isn't all that good. The toe box is actually very comfortable. They are a little tight on the instep, but it is slowly getting a bit better with wear. I also used on of these leather stretch fluid on the tight parts. The heels also look lower on the picture. I love these boots ! I bought them at the "Shoepavillion". At least I think that was the name. Bert, if you go to San Fran, make sure to check out Nordstrom in the San Francisco Center (on 5th (?) and Market Street). Always have had very helpful sales staff there. In the same area on Market are a few other shoe stores (Aldo, Payless, and the Shoepavillion). Depending on your size, you can also shop at the higher-end stores on Union Square. But definitely wear some serious heels when you walk around in SF. The San Francisco crowd is used to seeing people that "deviate from the norm" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeffB Posted June 4, 2003 Share Posted June 4, 2003 Those are charming boots indeed! If they came in 13 wide, I'd definitely invest in a pair for fall! I think women appreciate fashion whenever they see it, regardless of if a man is sporting it. If a man looks good in heels, matching them with tastefula nd stylish clothing, then why shouldn't he be complimented. Once, I had a rather brassy female co-worker say I have more balls than any man she knows because I wear high heels in public! I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arctic Posted June 4, 2003 Share Posted June 4, 2003 Bert, if you go to San Fran, make sure to check out Nordstrom in the San Francisco Center (on 5th (?) and Market Street). Always have had very helpful sales staff there. In the same area on Market are a few other shoe stores (Aldo, Payless, and the Shoepavillion). Depending on your size, you can also shop at the higher-end stores on Union Square. But definitely wear some serious heels when you walk around in SF. The San Francisco crowd is used to seeing people that "deviate from the norm" Thanks for the tips, I will check them out! What's all the fuss about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SF Posted June 10, 2003 Share Posted June 10, 2003 I have also been in San Francisco (Union square, Macy's, Nordstrom) in heels - sandals, with absolutely no problems. Have been there both with the wife and alone, at best a few glances but no big deal. In the past 5 years or so of wearing heels two women have made positive comments about my heels but none were in Frisco.... SF "Why should girls have all the fun!!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alex Posted June 10, 2003 Share Posted June 10, 2003 Well anything goes in Frisco. They're use to seeing everything I wish I was a size 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SF Posted September 29, 2003 Share Posted September 29, 2003 Last week the wife and I were in Palm Springs and I wore heeled sandals the whole time. On two occasions women made positive comments about my heels. One lady said the heels (a pair of wood wedgie sandals) looked good on me. The other lady said the we (me and the wife) looked "cute" in our T-strap thongs with a chunky heel (and she was right - we did!)... SF "Why should girls have all the fun!!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dimpantyhose Posted September 29, 2003 Share Posted September 29, 2003 Nice boots! They are a classic! It's good to hear that women are open minded about the idea that men can hear high heels too. If men continue to speak and wear high heels, I think we can wear high heels without be judged! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firefox Posted September 29, 2003 Share Posted September 29, 2003 I was speaking to one of my friends I haven't seen in a while and complemented on her silver scarpa loafers with nifty details she had bought in Italy. She said she liked my Dune/Bronx 4" ankle boots and mentioned she had some like that but they looked better on me, which was cool. Then we discussed all manner of shoe things for about 10 mins, what brands we liked and all about that footwear guide in Vogue and about the crap they speak about silver shoes being in or out for that month. I honestly believe it's much easier to talk to women about fashion shoes if you're wearing them yourself. It's a simple unspoken way of saying you are genuinely interested in the subject and not just some chat up line or have any sexual motive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
new_look Posted September 29, 2003 Share Posted September 29, 2003 it was the best moment that i can remember when my gf was agreeable about my heels. Id played it smart for a while cos she is a special lady and not wanting to put her off so quick i played it smoothly. After jokin around saying i was gonna buy some heels and saying why shouldnt i etc she said i wouldnt be able to walk in them as they kill her feet. I challenged her to find me the highest pair she could so i could prove her wrong. And she did, but 4' is high to her, and it was an easy win. She thought i was jokin when i said the shoes wasnt just so i could prove her wrong, but soon realised i wasnt when i wore them again and again. Shes now fine about it and its nice to have the support. I think once she saw that it didnt look that bad, she wasnt bothered, i think the mental image of a man in girly shoes plays horror tricks in some minds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firefox Posted September 29, 2003 Share Posted September 29, 2003 i think the mental image of a man in girly shoes plays horror tricks in some minds. Sure it does. Ignorance is the main culprit. People see a black guy and assume he is from Africa. People see a woman with short hair and assume she is lez. The guy down the pub who works as a farm labourer turns out to win the quiz every time. That banker guy in a suit and tie is an idiot who went to the "right" school who doesn't know his arse from his navel. So, there is more to people than meets the eye. That's what life has taught me so far and I'm still learning every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gothikaheels Posted October 2, 2003 Share Posted October 2, 2003 One of my friends(girl), the other night I was talking to her about my heel/x-dressing fetish, and she has seen me in heels before at school and says I make the heels look good and I wear them well and I was saying it is a little embarrasing but I get used to it. We were also discussing how I am to shy to go out in a miniskirt but this weekend she is going to go out with me in a skirt too so I don't feel so embarrased, I have to get the courage for my trip to hawaii which i will only be taking heels and womens clothes with me, as I am a heeler and x-dresser. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted October 2, 2003 Share Posted October 2, 2003 Hmm! Goth’s comments tend to become more “disorganized” as the number of posts increase Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeffB Posted October 10, 2003 Share Posted October 10, 2003 From day one, I've received nothing positive reinforcement and comments from my female co-workers regarding the shoes I choose to wear. They never fail to say that I have great taste and that I look good in my heels. One co-worker was actually jealous of me and went on a buying binge, saying how she, and I quote: "Refused to let a man prance around here in better looking heels than me!" I definitely took that as a compliment! :-D I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted October 10, 2003 Share Posted October 10, 2003 Jeff, you're right. That's a good comment. However, I would think the word "wear" would be better than "prance" which, IMO, has a slightly less than affable tone. Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heelfan Posted October 10, 2003 Share Posted October 10, 2003 I agree! Should we be taking Goth seriously? Cheerfully yours, Heelfan Onwards and upwards! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeffB Posted October 11, 2003 Share Posted October 11, 2003 Well, Bubba, I certainly don't prance, bu that's what she said! Admittedly, I did get a chuckle out of that at the time! :-D I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 who cares, really? What Goth has to say can be either taken or not, as the reader desires. They're fun to read, anyway! I hope he keeps posting. Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeffB Posted October 19, 2003 Share Posted October 19, 2003 I've also gotten compliments from female co-workers who were both amazed and impressed that I could walk so well in four inch heels, something a few of them openly admit they can't do. One lady said to me that I make walking in four inchers look easy. I replied that it took a goodly amount of practice to accomplish that, to which she readily agreed. By far, women have shown to be much more open minded, and complimentary of a man in heels, something that surprised me at first since I mistakenly believed they'd think I, as a man were encroaching on their territory. But that hasn't been the case, as I've said before, I've been universally complimented by women for the shoes I choose to wear, most saying I look great in heels. And, for the most part, who am I to disagree? :-D I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
genebujold Posted October 19, 2003 Share Posted October 19, 2003 By far, women have shown to be much more open minded, and complimentary of a man in heels, something that surprised me at first since I mistakenly believed they'd think I, as a man were encroaching on their territory. But that hasn't been the case, as I've said before, I've been universally complimented by women for the shoes I choose to wear, most saying I look great in heels. And, for the most part, who am I to disagree? :-D I don't find this particularly surprising. After all, it was the male fashion designers that kept women in dresses until the women who could afford it (Hepburn, Lamare, Deitrich, etc.) had their pants tailor-made. Then it was the men who finally said "there's money, here!" and a new fashion era was born. Now that many fashion designers are women, the sky's the limit with respect to female fashions. Since they're so broad-minded in their own fashion variations, it's not so surprising they're considerably more accepting of a man wearing heels than are most men. In general, women like change. Men prefer the status quo. Sure it's true! Just look what happens in most marriages: Wife: "Honey, I was thinking about the curtains. You know, they're just quite right for the room anymore..." Husband: "Whaddya mean they're not right? They were right when you bought them. What's changed? We've only had them a year!" I don't think I need to continue - most of you who're married will instantly recognize the trend. Very few men's shoe designers are women though, which is yet another reason why you don't find higher heel heights on men's shoes. You know what? That's what I'll do - quit the consulting business and design fashionable higher heels for men. "Classic men's shoes in the slender fashion of rich elegance and smooth leathers." I'll call it "Gene's" (pronounced, "Zsinay," (as in the Zs sound in Zsa Zsa Gabor). "Increase your stature - and your confidence. And every inch will add $732 a year to your paycheck!" I'll work with the top runway fashion designers, raking in millions a month. Then again... nah! I have too much invested in the consulting business... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom-NL Posted October 19, 2003 Share Posted October 19, 2003 Aha, now I think I understand why you add that ' after Gene. You try to make Gené Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
genebujold Posted October 20, 2003 Share Posted October 20, 2003 Aha, now I think I understand why you add that ' after Gene. You try to make Gené Actually, it's always been zsenay That's my parent's fault - but I certainly don't blame them! I love the name they gave me. Gene' And you're right - it's Gené, but I've yet to find the tilda-e. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jo Posted October 20, 2003 Share Posted October 20, 2003 >> I've yet to find the tilda-e << It's done by holding the Alt key and tapping a three-digit code on the numeric keypad on the right of the keyboard. An ASCII table will show you which one to use. Google for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sscotty727 Posted October 20, 2003 Share Posted October 20, 2003 Can a no negative reaction also be taken as a positive? I mentioned in another thread that this weekend I had the opportunity to wear my 3 1/2" boots in front of my sister-in-law. I purposely made sure she could see I was wearing heels (crossing my legs, pulling my pant leg higher, etc). Not only did she offer no negative comment, she treated me the same as she always has. Matter of fact, I just recently helped her buy some of her own boots online (she isn't comfortable yet with shopping online, so I offered to pay on my credit card and she pay us back). When I stopped over there to meet my wife on Friday, I asked if she got the boots yet and she said yes and asked if I wanted to see them. She then got them and tried them on so I could see what they looked like. This was after she could already see I was also wearing high-heeled boots. Scotty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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