Charlie

I'd say that depends on the clothes. For instance, consider this picture of an outfit I wore in public today:

http://i142.photobucket.com/albums/r96/JeffCB2006/purpleandjeans-2.jpg

So, what do you think of my appearance? The shirt and jeans were both from the women's side of the store (JCPenney). If I didn't mention that, would you have known I was a male dressed in women's clothes? Sure, it's not a flamboyant look like that of a crossdresser, but the intent is, in it's own way, similar. Meanwhile, I'd love to meet another male heel wearer, I wouldn't at all be hesitant to compliment him if I did.

Only those with a keen eye would notice that the buttons are on the left instead of the right which is a sign that it's a woman's styled shirt. I seem to recall that this button convention goes back to the day when women were dressed by maids and as most people are right handed, it's easier to dress someone else with the buttons on the left.

Charlie

Good for him for expressing himself. The trouble is, schools have a dim view of anything "out of the norm". I like that the students they interviewed didn't seem too bent out of shape about it.

But unfortunately, incidents such as this one are the beginning of the shaping of the student's views as to how an adult should respond to something out of the 'norm'. To me, it's just the cycle sustaining itself.

Charlie

I think that if you're this easily tempted to mess around then you're not committed to your marriage and should get divorced before even considering getting any more serious with someone else. This way, both parties in your marriage share in knowing it's over. It will be easier in the long run for your wife than it would to feel she's been played for a fool. Just my humble opinion. Charlie

here is a link to an article I discovered as I wondered just what Arab "Culture" considers inappropriate fashion regarding high heels:

http://www.arabianbusiness.com/iran-intensify-clothing-curbs-citing-islamic-values--288098.html

excerpted:

Iran has set aside $1.5 billion to promote “moral conduct,” including enforcement of its dress code for women, “to solve the cultural and social ills” in society, Interior Minister Mostafa Mohammad-Najjar said on May 10. His comments followed the introduction of a code of conduct at Shiraz University of Medical Sciences that bans loud laughter, nail polish, high heels and immodest clothing for women and men.

Shoes shouldn’t have pointed toes, make noise or have heels higher than 3 centimeters (1.2 inches).

comments invited:

JSpikeheels/Jim

Sounds like a great place to vacation at...

Charlie

Looks like it really was a fall show!

I feel like a heel for laughing at this. LOL

Charlie

I'm going to go with the boot C picture being the men's boots. I say this because the part of the sole that extends around the perimeter of the front part of the boot is a slighty wider than on the first 2 pairs with the stitching being more obvious. With women's boots, this is usually (not always) made more narrow to create the illusion of a smaller foot. Either of the three pairs could be worn in public with no difficulty as all three are far more similar than different. A side view would make it much easier to tell as the only one who would have the view provided during normal wearing would be the wearer. Charlie

The old guy who looked down at the boots was probably doing so because of the clicking sound alone. It's anybody's guess as to whether or not he realized they were women's styled boots? I've been fooled many times by the clicking sound of men's shoes at the mall. We have a guy at work that wears regular old men's shoes that have an extremely hard heel. Whenever he walks on the concrete shop floor I'm continuously amused at all the guys heads turning to see who the 'gal' is. What's even more amusing is that I'm usually in my 4" heeled western boots during these times. Charlie

I don't wear skirts, blouses, or dresses (in male mode) with heels. I don't wear stilleto heels or 'fetish' styled heels of any kind for that matter. I also realize that others do in private and others still do so in actual public settings which takes courage and self confidence that I'm not sure I could muster up even if I were inclined to wear these things. For this courage of conviction, I have nothing but respect for those that do this. I like to read what they have to say because much of what they say can be applied to other facets of life. This is why I angrily defended what I took to be blatant disrespect. In the future I will instead keep a sense of humor about such matters. Charlie

If the result of a gallop poll reveals that they are the way to go, you'll have to pony up and buy them for her. LOL Charlie

Charlie, you made a good point, however in my case it is nice to have a wife whom encourages me to wear heels.

No doubt about that at all Stiletto Guy, but in the absence of such, compromise is the next best substitute. Without compromise, there can only be 100% agreement or war.

Charlie

Well, I'm sure it probably would now since the site has become completely dominated by transvestites.

The site has always been about tolerance. The whole concept of this site to my understanding is to provide a place for people who like to wear heeled footwear in a society that currently, not historically, see's this as abnormal for a single gender. For me personally, I don't care for stilletos because I don't think I look good in them. I also know I don't have the legs for a skirt or dress so don't wear those items either. On these points, as a matter of personal taste we both actually agree. That said, when the day is done, it's foolish to expect everyone else's taste to be exactly like mine or yours. Posting negative sentiment on a board specifically for people who are enthousiasts for something you think they are foolish to wear makes no sense to me whatsoever unless you're an attention starved troll? It would be like me going to a Ford car board and telling everyone there that they look foolish driving Ford cars. Do you think even a single member would stop driving Fords because of such comments??? Come on already!

I think the moderators do a commendable job with not letting the site become a transvestite-only site. It's a tough road to hoe for sure. I also think that it might be a good idea to re-consider who gets to post where. Your aggression is not unlike male aggression as far as I can tell.

Charlie

I have less than 10 pairs now. I have gotten out of hand in the past and have reduced the collection recently in order to preserve room. Charlie

Men and women are very different you know. It would be silly to ignore those differences.

Almost as silly as a man would look in stilettos.

Or almost as silly as a woman would look in pants? Please get over yourself.

Charlie

Welcome kzcolt. Your story takes me back a number of years when I first discovered what you're now discovering. When I started out, I bought boots marketed for women, but I chose pairs that had most of the attributes of the Miguel Jones boots you have now. Flash forward to the future... I have several pairs of Miguel Jones boots and I wear them exclusively now. They're boots marketed for men which is unique with the available heel heights and all. I also like that he uses soft heel pads that don't make that feminine 'click' when I'm walking. I wear my 4" heeled ones at work, at home, and at play. They're quite comfortable and look great. You are correct about having to develop muscles you never developed wearing more traditional men's shoes. That's true with first time wearing of any heeled footwear. I wear long bootcut jeans and pants with mine and have never received a negative comment from anyone. I know who the shoe gals are at work too because they're the ones that always notice what's on my feet and always have something nice to say. They all like the Miguel Jones boots. It's all about confidence and knowing that they are your boots and that you're doing nothing wrong whatsoever wearing them. Up until a nasty shoulder injury a few years ago I was playing hockey in a men's league. I had a pair of 3.5" boots that were marketed for women but very masculine looking nonetheless. I used to wear them on hockey night and thought nothing of it while changing in the locker room into my equipment and skates. Nobody else did either. Enjoy them! Charlie

At just over 5' 4" in bare feet....kissing my husband (5' 11"), is a lot easier in high heels..!

So long as he's not wearing his though? Chuckle.

Charlie

Facial hair or not, I don't mind, just as long as they aren't wearing women's shoes.

Good, then this means you have no issue as shoes belong to nobody until they are bought, and once bought, if bought by a man they're clearly men's shoes....

Charlie

I found it most amazing to join here so that i can share the same ideas and the background of the men and women who love high heels, but i'm try'n so hard to get the attention so that i can blend in to this high heels society. where i live it is hard to see even ladies in heels a lot.. so a person who live in such environment like me find these places very homey ... but up to now i felt like a total stranger to the community here.. do anyone have any idea where i went wrong.. ??

Just keep posting and sharing your thoughts. It'll come.

Charlie

Ditto that crotchboots-m! I look forward to putting my boots on in the morning. Charlie

I tend to hover around 4" heeled boots of late and am totally comfortable in them. I personally had to build up to this from 3" but as has been said already, everyone is different. Charlie

I've found that the higher the heel, the better the feeling, but only up to a point. 4" is the max height I like to wear and don't have to struggle at all in. I didn't vote though because there isn't an option for both. I wear high heeled boots for both the height and the style. Charlie

Aw quit yoking like that Jeff.. you're making me split a gut! lol Charlie

I woke up this morning, showered, got dressed and went out to my workshop to work on one of my RC helicopters. I have 3" heeled Harley Davidson boots in women's size 11. My wife called me on the intercom to tell me that the house felt chilly. I hadn't noticed. The furnace had shut off and she said she needed my strong arms to force the furnace door off so that the furnace could be reset. I'm clearly still the man of the house for a couple of reasons here. lol Geo: That does suck. I'm sorry to hear this as well. Charlie

Theres more to it.

We went back to finish the job today. Had to let the drywall compound harden overnight.

Were up there sanding away.. here comes the chorus of those heels again. So.. I started laughing. My friend/boss asks ' Dude! Why dont you go talk to her! She seemed really cool yesterday, bought us lunch, laughed.. she doesnt seem like the uptight type! Whats the worst shes going to do, mention your here to help fix the house and not fix-up with her? '

I asked him " Why are you saying this? You starting to get a twitch too? "

' Hell yeah. You were right.. that sound.. I gave it a thought last night and.. well.. you were right. That is a sexy sound and thinking about it.. '

Odd situation. Boss telling the employee to fraternize with the customer on the job.. That doesnt happen to often in this ' correct ' society of today.

So I waited till we were cleaning up and struck a conversation. She was smiles the whole time. She told me outright she wore heels again today just to see what my reaction would be. I laughed at the thought and asked her if she was a 24hr type of heel wearer or just on ' special events '.

She asked if I could look at the downstairs hallway to see how long it would take or cost to re-finish the woodwork and stuff.. On the way there we went by her walk-in closet which she intentionally stopped at..

The Closet was 8.5 feet wide, 7foot ceiling and about 14 foot deep. There were 7 or 8 shelves on each of the walls loaded with shoes. All kinds. I couldnt put an estimate on how many pairs of shoes were in there.

We never did get to checkout that hallway but shes going to have us back for some more work in 2 weeks and asked me for my number. She needs that wood floor re-finished as the shoes she wears have been leaving dents/impressions over the last 10 years.

She paid CASH for the job we did and it wasn't cheap.

Shes WAY out of my league! A head honcho at a firm that makes 6 figures a year, Drives a mercedes and lives in a very nice ' well to do ' neighborhood.. I'm just an average blue collar guy whom doesnt do anything special or prestigious. A ' Nobody '.

I like it that way

Maybe something will come of it but if it doesnt, no loss.

It sounds to me like you may just be what the doctor ordered in her eyes. In her world sincerity is rare and precious as the only real difference between her world and the blue collar world is in her world people are nasty to one another in 'nice' ways. It will be worth it to hook up with her if this is possible just to gain some insight as to how her world works.

Charlie

All I can say is that I was pretty unsteady on the 4" heeled boots as well at first, but have mastered them to the point of total comfort and confidence. The jury is still out with the 5" ones, but every well rounded Miguel Jones boot collection should have at least one pair of the really high ones. LOL Charlie

There is no doubt that his sizing does vary with his off-the-shelf boots. This must really suck for those who order across the pond... I too had to return an off-the-shelf pair that I absolutely loved the looks of because for a size 9 U.S., they were just too small in the vamp. I wound up exchanging them for another pair. The other pair was a size 10 and they too were small, but within the realm of being adjusted with my various boot stretchers. These are one of my favorite pairs of 4" heeled boots now and fit like a glove. I wear them all the time to work. For barely a few dollars more and a reasonable wait, he'll do custom boots from several foot measurements that the buyer provides. The custom boots I bought from him with the 3.5" heels are the best fitting boots I've ever had. I wouldn't consider anything else but custom boots from Miguel if I had to have them shipped overseas.

I still can't manage the 5" heeled off-the-shelf pair I bought in a way I'd call well. They fit well, but I think I'm at the limit of what I can expect for flex in my right foot. For some reason my right foot has always been slightly less flexible than my left? I bought them more as an experiment to see if 4" is my limit. I fear it is, but won't give up quite yet. I'd have no problem wearing them in public if I can master them to my satisfaction. It's my opinion that how well we walk in high heeled anything in public contributes significantly to us looking out of place or not. It's been my experience observing others that the same goes for women. There's nothing worse than seeing a woman walk poorly in heels and there's nothing better than seeing one walk well in them.

Here's a link to what looks like his official website for those that may not have it. He also has an ebay store and I think most people here have the link to that..

http://www.custom-boots.net/

Charlie