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I agree, I like choice three best, great shoes and dress, but you do have very nice legs, so why not show them off?

Well done shyheelguy, keep that feeling going and congrats on the venture out!

... As you gain strength in your muscles to maintain your weight on your toes, you'll notice heel tips start to wear less over time while feeling more comfortable too!

^ This... As you get more experienced, you shouldn't be wearing down the heel quite that fast, I am betting that you are putting a lot more pressure on the heels and perhaps even dragging them a bit as you walk. Eventually you will learn to balance the weight distribution and step more evenly as you walk. Cushioning for the toe box will help as well until your feet are more accustomed to it, as I am sure with the balls of your feet burning as you described, you were desperately trying to avoid putting too much weight on front of the foot.

You might also want to try heels a bit less extreme than the 6" boots for a few trips out until you are feeling confident in heels for longer walks. I myself after several years of public heeling, still stay within the 4"-5" range almost every time. Its just more practical and comfortable, and why torture yourself? It might seem more exciting to accomplish 6"+ for long walks, but I guess for me comfort wins out over anything else.

So a few years after my first reply, I will add: For shirts, I have a pretty wide range of colors that pretty much cover the spectrum. However, I have stayed away from pink, purple, and bright yellow, otherwise anything goes. For pants, most are blue or black jeans, and some black, brown, grey, and tan trousers. I also wear shorts, in very similar earthy and darker colors as well. For shoes, still pretty close to what I said a few years back, the vast majority are black, with a few browns and grays thrown in. If I was ever to own a bold color in shoes, I might go for red as they look great on women, but I really doubt I would ever wear red shoes out myself. Just too much unwanted attention there. To summarize, I venture into many different colors for shirts, but otherwise keep it pretty neutral for the rest of my outfit.

And the question is????????

Agreed... its great that some of you are defining 'decadency' for us, but I'm not getting what this has to do with anything or what the original question is.

For me, I think a big part of it is the taboo nature of doing something society doesn't accept (similar to what Shafted said). It took a lot of effort at first for me to get out there when I started doing this a few years back, and now I am pretty sure this has made me a more confident person overall. I figure if I can wear heels in public, then doing simple presentations in front of peers or leading a team project should seem fairly minimal in comparison, and it has.

She's rather creepy.

Germanium

blunt

This.

Heels have always made me feel good about myself - even better than usual. I feel powerful and sexy in high heels. I am very aware of the sexual attraction that high heels have for men - and to see this in day to day life when I wear heels is a powerful intoxicant for sure.

Really good to know and now there are two of you ladies saying this...

But, do you think you and Roxy represent the majority of women out there? I never got the impression my wife (or prior gf's) felt so strongly about it and assumed most women don't, but perhaps I am way off and really don't know women. I guess that shouldnt really surprise me...

Greatness

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I agree with what most others have said. I also think it varies somewhat from man to man and woman to woman. But I do think we get a bit more from it than the average woman. To most women, it's rarely anything more to them than an accessory that can help them look prettier/sexier. To a man that wears them, there usually is a much stronger feeling they get from it. In reading many threads on this forum on the matter, heeling for most guys here started at a young age and they had a strong connection to them, and for many it was sexual. For many of the frequent public male heelers, that feeling they had at a young age might have adapted or faded over time. In those cases, their experiences and the feeling they get in heels are now probably closer in line with a female that enjoys wearing her heels, close but still probably not quite the same regardless.

I agree with what some others have said. You should go for what looks good on you and what you are comfortable in and don't go too over the top such that you just end up looking silly. Anyway, good for you for really pushing the freestyle look, it sounds like you are going to really enjoy venturing out as such. My outfits tend to be gender neutral overall but still lean toward a men's look, especially from the waist up. If I had a really nice slender build and less masculine looking face, I would probably definitely consider much more feminine / freestyle outfits including women's tops, skirts, etc. But I just feel I couldn't pull off that look at all, so why bother.

Buffalo

Party

Danger, Will Robinson

DADT is a double edged sword. Repeal of the law means going back to what the policy was previously. Not exactly a step in the right direction if your gay. Because the previous policy banned gays completely. Because now it becomes do ask, do tell. Don't ask, don't tell was not perfect, but it was a great improvment. Now it's back to the dark ages.

I find it very disturbing that people think it's repeal is a good thing for gays. Does anyone here remember the american military before DADT? How soon we forget.

No, I was confused about this as well, but the repeal of the DADT does not bring us back to what we had before. See this quote taken from here: "A July 6, 2011 ruling from a federal appeals court barred further enforcement of the U.S. military's ban on openly gay service members."

I think the DADT was a reasonable interim compromise from what the US had previously which was of course really bad, but with banning DADT and subsequent court rulings, the US can no longer prevent gay people from serving in the military.

dandelion

winery

Oddjob.

hrmm...

henchman?

Spider

Thats a beauty

I've owned heels that can fit me from US size 9 up to size 11, though the bulk of my shoes are size 10 and that is usually the ideal size for me to get. Usually the size variation you speak of (for me anyway) has to do with the width of the shoe, and almost always a fitting issue stems from how narrow the shoe is rather than the length. Women's shoes are normally quite narrow anyway, but some of them are completely unrealistic, even for petite feet. I think the issue is that many shoe manufacturers do not scale width adequately in proportion to the length of the shoe. As you would expect a longer foot normally is proportionally wider than a shorter foot, but if you compare some shoe company sizes, the width does not correctly increase in width as the size goes up. I'm not talking about the width sizing variable you sometimes see added to shoe sizes, just normal proportional width increases as length increases, many companies do it correctly, but some companies don't seem to get it. Not sure if many others have that issue - maybe I just have slighty wider feet proportionally.

butterfly