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Hello and welcome. I do not believe you have been unfairly treated. If memory serves, nobody is allowed to post pictures until they have been a member for a while and made a number of posts.

Au contraire mon frère 🙃 Hi Shyheels. Thank you for the warm greeting. Sorry, I initially didn't have the time to elaborate on my very unique preferences concerning my love of stiletto heeled boots. But yes, unique unlike anyone else that I've ever encountered. I swear it has developed into an incurable self-imposed condition. But as Diana Ross sang, "If there's a cure for this, I don't want it' I don't need it." I prefer style over fashion, as style is timeless and can create expressions of unconventional individuality whereas fashion has an expiry date and is often dictated by marketing fashists ( <-- I coined this one) that capitalize solely on popularity. Listed below are just a few style preferences that I obsess over: Platforms with Stiletto heels: I never liked them. It's like attaching a block of concrete to a Ferrari. Why compromise the femininity and sleekness of the stiletto? But I get that not everyone can put in the effort of conditioning their feet and ankles and opt for shortcuts and illusions which are apparently fashionable 😜. Chunky heels are a better match for platforms which look great on Gene Simmons, Rick James, Elton John, and Ziggy Stardust. Actually because of his feminine features, Bowie would have been awesome in single-sole stilettos if Ziggy came out 10 years later; Just ask Gary ✌️ Long Pointed Toes: A designer friend of mine explained that long pointed toes make your legs appear longer. Agreed, if we were nothing more than a front facing fashion sketch. But sooo very Broomhilda for any person at a side angle. WannaBe High Heel Boots: lacking any visible toebox trim, lacking any visible heel counter trim, heel breast colour does not match the sole, salvaged high heel shoes with shafts so obviously stitched on to pass for a pair of boots, one shared knee-boot zipper length between OTK and thigh-boots, only 2 pieces of leather to make each boot, unimpressive arches, pencil heels, metal spike heels... 'Pretty much a combination of designer fails and cutting costs. Stiletto Ankle Boots: What is the point? Full Length Lace-Ups: I never liked them. Am I wearing ice-skates? How far back in ye olden tymes do we want to go? Give me the sound of a full length zip-up any day to complete the proper stiletto boot ASMR experience 👍 Accessories: Every lady (and a few effeminate males) knows that a gorgeous pair of stiletto boots are nothing without the correct accessories to compliment their boost in confidence and feminine appeal. Knee-boots paired with elbow length gloves / Thigh-boots paired with opera length gloves / Any high-waisted bottoms with a belt and choker ( <-- As a lady, I have an issue with this naming convention; count on me to coin another ♀️💪) that matches the colour of the boots. Like many OG lovers of high heels, I too spent many decades and $$$$ at the fotomat in adoring my high heels (specifically single-sole stiletto boots) but got bored of posing and strutting around doing the same things that are limited to the reality of physics and social norms. I also grew weary of all the negative stigmas from the short-sighted majority that cannot keep up with those that live on the bleeding edge of imagination when they see a pair of anything higher than 5 inch stilettos (Especially stiletto boots; Pretty Woman and Kinky Boots are partially to blame). It was terribly frustrating to have always been very selective with where and with whom I chose to wear my boots with. I was raised and still live in the large city = increased encounters with idiots, but fortunately I discovered a new revolutionary way to enjoy my stiletto booted outfits in private as I grow older; Mostly in bed on plain white sheets while critiquing action and horror movies. Mmmmm, nothing else can deliver me that ASMR nostalgic youthful tingly sensation behind my belly button like my own personalized bootiful escapes 🥰. I'm not sure where the fellas feel it, but hopefully you know what I mean. I'm glad to have shared my personal insight with you and hope to contribute a fresh perspective with this community which is in dire need of some defibrillation from the ladies. However, I don't think this forum's administrator is keen on separating himself from his biased assumptions which prompted him to delete my 1st photo posting of my boot collection showcasing my fully clothed accessorized styles. I found his actions to be downright judgmental, insulting, and offensive as a woman just wanting to be pretty; Like Dolly Parton or Marie Osmond. 'Heaven forbid they were championship figure skaters, right? Anyhow, part of me accepts the probability that this response to you may also be deleted by Cookie Monster, which will prove my theories correct. But if you get a chance to read my response before it is Reaganized again, you'll sense my appreciation to your warm welcome through my lengthy efforts to detail a response worth giving. Thank you again Shyheels. I'm glad that you also have a bootiful heart 💝 'Sweetest regards Prima

Went to get a mani/ pedi the other day for the 4th of July holiday. I got my usual clear/pink gel on my fingers with an American Flag on my right pinkie and a firecracker on my left. What I was wearing to the salon brought out some attention as I passed a neighboring boutique on my way out. I was wearing an American Flag skort, white women's top and my red sandals with double bands and 3-1/2" stacked heels. The owner of the boutique and a customer were standing in the doorway, when I walked by. Both of them nodded approval on what I was wearing. The customer said I looked fab. Which I replied, " thanks for the compliment". I know the owner of the boutique as I have made purchases from her shop before. I remember one in particular was a pair of leggings that was on a manequin in the window, that I liked. I bought them that day and I came back to show her how they looked on me, another time, so you can see that I am feminizing the male wardrobe! Happy Heeling, bluejay

Mlroseplant Fascinating and I believe I have an idea what initiated his question after all these years. Faced with increased age, mid 50’s I believe based on your age, and his current health issues his curiosity about your heels got the better of him and he reached out albeit without customary greetings. I believe he has always wanted to wear them and is clinging to his distant connection to you. It could’ve been been far more personal and fun to meet in person. He could’ve met you for coffee and seen you in heels and his questions would’ve been answered. His approach doomed it to failure. Honestly I’m surprised it hasn’t happened more often given how visible you’ve been in your small Des Moines suburb. Btw that outfit of red jeans, pink shirt, and red pumps looked spectacular. HinH

Hiddenheels, Very well described indeed. Seems a realistic representation of what one may face as you venture out semi-dressed en femme. The girl peering into the men’s bathroom is crossing a line I mean imagine vice-versa you’d hear screams! Just keep getting out there and enjoying your own fashion. I bought my first maxi dress a few years ago and wore some Bakers “Peyton” pumps with it and loved the look. I should post it sometime. Thanks for your stories. HinH

I haven't seen shoes like that in years. I didn't find them particularly attractive in the 1990s, but I was rather impressed that girls wore them literally everywhere. Even to work in the grocery store, or for an entire shift as a waitress. Of course now, it doesn't seem nearly that impressive, but at the time. . .

Who won?

Sorry, I saw them recently on line but don't remember where. Sometimes you have act fast before they are gone, and sometimes you need to buy more than one.

Bringing heels in a bag to put them on for a photo shot is not really wearing heels. I stay around 4 inch. I put them on at 6:45 am and go to work, and only take them off when I get home -anywhere from 3:30 to 7:30 pm. I might take a stiletto off to drive, but that's because they tend to wear a hole in the car mat

Yeah, that's the thing, we're not pretenders here. When we wear heels, we actually wear heels. I cannot and will not claim to wear 12 cm "all the time," because that would be a lie. However, I do feel comfortable in 10 cm (4 inch) pretty much indefinitely. I haven't had the opportunity for a heeling marathon for quite a while, but I'm pretty confident in that assertion.

@bluejay, I seem to recall some stories about how you have been harassed about your fashion choices in the past. Perhaps recounting one of those would be helpful in this situation. I don't think you're the type of person to put up with it much.

Where would you find those shoes as pretty made as those? Not on the stores in Canada. Internet I can't find since more than 20 years.

They are still wearing this type of heels. And so am I.

Hello! I wonder myself why those kind of shoes either exactly the same style on the picture are discontinued and no longer available. Fashion had changed so much but 25 years ago so many girls were wearing that. It was very cute on them!

I like wearing skorts with my heels especially in the summer time.I like the short versions of the skorts that show off my legs and I've had compliments over the years from mostly women but an occasional one, from a guy. I don't like maxi or midi skirts. Just my opinion. Happy Heeling, bluejay

I too have been harassed by teenagers, though not for a long time. What I find it that when you engage them in a friendly way, they tend to melt pretty quickly. It's also nice to know that people actually pay attention to outfits you have gone to a great deal of trouble to create.

I would suspect the latter. See and be seen, and change into something manageable

But do they wear them in or put them on once there?

Sounds like an interesting outing to say the least. I was never interested in skirts in the least, but a woman I know who’s into heels, and knows I like them too, convinced me to give one a try, suggesting I go for a pencil skirt - her own particular favourite. I really don’t care for mini skirts so that was never going to be an option, but I have always liked the look of longer skirts. I bought a midi pencil skirt and loved it. I was really surprised at how natural and comfortable it felt. i wore it while doing some landscape photography very early one morning a few weeks ago and encountered a woman photographer. She came up and started chatting, very naturally, and never mention the skirt or gave any sort of double take. We chatted for about twenty minutes about photography and the light - it was a great morning to be out there - and she went on her way. Completely natural encounter. There’s no way she couldn’t have noticed I was wearing a skirt. She was clearly open minded about such things, while I felt comfortable wearing the midi skirt and knew - or felt - I didn’t look bad in it.

Hi! Haven't been here in ages. Been busy, and in general been pushing myself to wear heels more and more, but a lot of anxiety has gone away and have been enjoying a lot of my outings. My outings tend to be about once a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. Usually to a nearby caffee shop, restaurant, or mall. I try to wear heels whenever I possibly can, but family cannot know, so it takes planning. A few years ago I tried mini-skirts, and now have quite the collection of minis and (ladies)kilts, all of which I love. But it was minis only. One or the other, either a mini, or heels, not comfortable with both. Recently though, for whatever reason, I bought a maxi skirt, down to my ankles, a nice flowy-one, nothing tight. Went outside in it and just loved how the wind picked it up and fluttered it around my legs, and I didn't worry about it blowing up and showing something I didn't want shown. And it was cool, meaning in the hot weather! That outing, in a maxi flowy skirt made me realize I have been missing out and given the length, I would actually be comfortable wearing these with heels! So I did. The day in question, I ended up wearing an ankle-length maxi skirt, black, with some buttons on it. I also wore a 4" pair of leather pumps (oh so comfortable!) and a nice white t-shirt. It looked good! I loved it! So, I enter the mall, not anxious but a bit reserved as this is new territory for me. Went to a store, browsed around looking at skirts, trying on a few things. It was fun. Then I decided to go the other end of the mall, grab a coffee and do some work. As I'm walking along, I notice a loud group of teenage girls in a store, and as I walk beyond them, one yells out "Love the heels, girl!". I didn't know what to make of the "girl" part (as I have stubble on my face, and am clearly a guy). Smiled at them and kept walking, walked right into a washroom (nature called). Did my thing, and as I am starting to exit, I see the same teenage girl pop her head in (into the male washroom!), and go away giggling. Her friends were yelling at her that it's the male washroom. I didn't feel comfortable, so stalled a bit, and then exited, hearing that they went into the female washroom. Then I made my way to my destination, (on purpose) walking by some security guards, just in case. Did not feel comfortable at all, and was questioning my choices. It has never actually happened to me, and I have worn heels to these types of places now countless of times. So am somewhat at this point. I bought coffee, sat down in the food-court, pulled my laptop and went to work for an hour or so. People came and went, I'm pretty sure some people looked, intensely, but whatever. After I was done, I started to head back through the mall to my car, and popped into a store that I frequent, because I love the stuff they have (sort of gothy, a bit on the fringe of fashion). Was checking the sales, specifically hoping a skirt I have been eyeing has gone on sale (unfortunately not), when one of the sales-ladies walks up to me and starts talking: Her: "Excuse me, but every time you come into the store..." Me thinking: oh oh, what did I do to deserve scolding? Her: "the sales-people are always very curious what sort of heels you're wearing, and checking them out." Instead of talking about with the other sales-people, she told me. "You always seem to be gliding around the store in heels" I thanked her, took that as a massive compliment, especially while wearing a maxi skirt and heels for the first time. Before I could follow up, she was interrupted by another customer, and went away. I browsed around a bit more, and had to leave. So... Good and bad experience. I'll chalk up the bad experience to teenagers trying to show off to one another and sometimes behaving shamefully especially when in a group. On the other hand, seems like people do notice, and remember... Thanks for reading!

...and yet I know several. Particularly in the world of photography, where women come in 12cm heels. I'm not saying they wear them every day, but they've bought them and take advantage of a special occasion (photo shoot) to put them on. The same goes for weddings, where some guests wear them.

Hmmm, quite the controversy here. I'm not afraid to admit that I appreciate most of the occasional compliments I might recieve. I enjoy wearing my boots publicly, feel good about how they feel and how they look on me. Recieving an occasional compliment encourages me and helps build confidence. Sometimes I wonder if I am the only one that thinks I look good. And no, never really wear my 5" booties to Lowes or Home Depot, usually block heeled or cowgirl boots. Like MLP says, I don't think that kid was trying to be mean with his question, just a bit too honest. At least he had the courage to actually engage and ask you, which I can appreciate.

I know what you mean. I always find it somewhat amusing, yet vaguely disturbing, when I read articles denouncing heels, or where some intrepid male journalist has spent a day in heels and is writing an expose, and where women - who don’t seem to wear heels themselves - offer up such quotes as “now you see what we put up with for you”. But none of the women I know who wear actually wear and love heels wear them to impress or attract men - far from it. They wear them for the aesthetics and their own emotional satisfaction. Same as I would, and do. And yes, 12cm stilettos are indeed elegant but very, very few people can master the art of walking elegantly in them. I’ve yet to see any of that height being worn out and about. Four inches or 10cm seems to be the practical maximum.

Let me get this straight: Heels "help you stride through the world," but at the same time "the risk of falling is not far away." And 12 cm? Never actually seen them in real life (I mean, besides me). Even on social media, there are precious few who can actually walk well in them. Many try, few succeed. At the moment, I include myself in the many. I hate to beat up on the new guy, but I going to--most of the above post, while admittedly rather charming, is nonsense. In my personal experience, there are very few women who wear (or used to wear) heels as a way to attract attention. Not zero, but approaching zero. I personally wear them because I like them, nothing more, nothing less. I can remember a conversation I had with a young college boy, who was with his girlfriend at the time. The kid stopped me on the street and earnestly asked about my footwear. He wasn't being mean, I believe he was genuinely curious. At one point he asked me, "Do you wear heels to get attention?" I replied, perhaps somewhat rudely, "No. Actually, I rather wish people would leave me the hell alone." Even then, he didn't get the hint. I have no idea what the girl was thinking, she didn't say a word the whole time. If I wanted attention, I don't think I'd want it from a socially awkward kid.

Sorry, but you are projecting to much here. I don't wear heels to attract attention. I do get attention simply because I wear fabulous heels and boots all the time. But I get so much hip pain relief that I will wear them for the rest of my life. I was at a conference and walked in to a breakout session. A woman sitting in the back told me I walked like a man in my heels. So after putting some materials down in a chair, I walked back to where the two women were sitting and ask "Do you want me to walk this way?" and I walked back to my seat while over rotating my hips. "Damn" was their only comment.