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What pair of heels I choose to wear on any given day entirely depends how I feel when I roll out of bed in the morning and what fits as my feet tend to swell a bit while sleeping. Christmas Eve was a "normal" work day for me and when I was deciding what to wear that morning, I felt a strong desire to do "something adventurous" as part of my outfit. I anticipated that the office would be fairly empty for obvious reasons and thus, I decided that the choice of footwear was going to be a "killer" pair of 5" (~12.5cm) beige, block heeled knee boots. I had purchased the boots during the time when I erroneously believed that the higher the heel, the better. It should be noted that the opportune word here is "killer" as that was what they almost did to me! I put together my outfit and following the "normal" morning selfies to document such, I headed out to my car. As I stepped out of my place, I could feel the stress on my knees and ankles from the tall heel but I brushed it off thinking, "I'll be fine as I will not be doing much walking." The walk to my car was a slow one as the heel height very much restricted the length of my stride. I encountered a neighbor along the way and we briefly chatted about "having" to work on Christmas Eve. Admittedly, however, the brief meeting was intoxicating because of the fact that I was wearing a pair of such tall heels out in public and the person who noticing me doing so really did not care about it. This was that which I always wanted to happen. I made my way to my office and took the long and slow walk across the parking lot to the main entrance. Again, I could feel the stress on my knees and ankles, and realized that such tall heels need a slower cadence. The morning when well but at lunch, I decided to head out for a short errand. The first store at which I stopped did not have that for wish I was looking, so I moved on to a second store. As I walked through the aisles of my second stop looking for an item (and noticed some "old-timer" taking a photo of me!) I was in heaven but the discomfort was starting to build. Rather than walk around the store aimlessly as I would normally do so that all of the other shoppers could see me in heels, I found what I needed and headed back to my car. Although I have a habit of parking my vehicle at the rear of any parking lot for many reasons, that day I was regretting doing so as the walk back to my car was rather tough. I made my way back to my office and desk certainly feeling the stress on both knees and ankles. The remainder of the workday was marked by limited walking and by the time I was ready to head home (and after taking two pain relief capsules) my knees and ankles were not "so bad" but now, my mid/lower back was feeling it. At that point, all I wanted to do was get home but I remembered I had a minor error to run while en route. Following such, and a wonderfully given and received compliment from the cashier on my outfit, I arrived home and the boots immediately were removed from my feet. Seemingly, every part of my lower body, as well as mid-back ached from the heels and my back continued to ache for the remainder of the evening. Sadly, I had to promise myself that 4"/10cm is the limit of heel height from this point in time onwards - I just do not think I can handle a heel much taller than that. What is interesting about all of this is that on the previous day, I had a visit with my nurse practitioner and brought forth the issue of joint health and preservation, knees and ankles in particular. I had mentioned that I had been frequently wearing up to 10cm heels, without any problems, and was concerned about the stress that doing so may place on my hip, knee, and ankle joints . The nurse practitioner took a look at my heels, and after expressing her opinion about how ridiculously cute my heels were and that I was so well dressed that day, noted that the best course of action is to maintain a healthy lifestyle and weight, so as not to place extra stress on the joints. So, as much as I may want to continue to wear 5"+ heels, that most likely will not happen any more or only for very special occasions. I am not sure what I am going to do with the boots...they are size 42 if anyone wants them. Here is the outfit I wore on Christmas Eve and that to visit my nurse practitioner.

The muscular fatigue really came as a surprise to me. I’d expected the burning in the balls of my feet - I’d heard that was a common issue - but instead I had cramping and achy calves. Considering all the cycling I do, I couldn’t believe muscle tone was an issue when it came to wearing heels. If anyone had fir calves it was me - but wearing heels really was like taking up an entirely new sport! I’ve not yet had an occasion to stand for several hours in my 10cm so I don’t know how I’d managed but for a couple of hours I’m certainly fine. I have not tried standing for a long period in my 12cm heels - I shall start building up, see if I can manage an hour standing in them.

Starting later with wearing heels and skipping the youth's foolishness has it's upsides as I can read from you both. Otherwise, muscular fatigue wasn't really a topic for me, maybe that's an upside for adapting quicker at a younger age. Standing for a long time in heels really is the worst, it still gets me until today. In 10 cm heels I can stand for a few hours with a little bit of movement in between, but in 12 or 13 cm heels that's a different story... Merry christmas to everyone 🙂

Let me second those Christmas wishes! I know what you mean about the muscular fatigue. I was not in actual pain, and don’t recall much pain in the balls if my feet, but my calf muscles felt like I’d dine about a thousand toe raises at the gym. It wasn’t exactly painful, but tight and achy. I took the next day off - frustrating, as I was so keen to put them in again!

Just to let everyone know that I had to go out on Christmas Eve to do some last minute shopping. I wore my Land's End , green with white stripes rugby dress which goes to just above my knee, with white tights, red patent knee boots with 3-1/2" chunky heels and a red puffer jacket. Got a couple of compliments, even from a guy on my ensemble. Great day to be out in a dress and heeled boots in a Holiday festive color scheme. Merry Christmas to all my fellow heelers! Happy Heeling, bluejay

I've had shoes that gave me blisters, but that is not what sticks out in my mind as a beginning heeler. Mind you, I was a beginning heeler at age 45, not age 14. I wish I could have worn heels at age 14, but that's another subject for another time. My first journey in heels definitely resulted in muscular fatigue that I had not anticipated, but it was relatively mild, like having overdone it at the gym or something. It is this trip to the shopping mall that keeps coming back in my stories. I doubt I had blisters, because I was wearing boots with actual socks. I do not remember muscular fatigue in the calves or ankles. What I do remember is having to unexpectedly stand in line for about an hour at a mobile phone store. That damn near killed me. The pain in the balls of my feet was close to more than I could bear, and I tend to tolerate pain pretty well. I cannot explain how a person sort of gets used to standing in 10 cm heels, but that is what has always killed me. Walking 3 km in 10 cm heels? No problem! Standing still in 10 cm heels for an hour? Impossible! Well, it isn't today, but I've no idea how I got here. It must have been all of those farmer's markets I did with my wife over the years. I suppose that was my training ground for standing in heels. As an aside, Merry Christmas to those who celebrate! And for those who don't celebrate, I don't have to go back to work until Monday! Naturally, it's unpaid, but it's a much needed several days off from a place where I don't get to wear heels.

I was lucky - having waited so long to try wearing high heels, I decided to splurge and treat myself to a really nice pair of boots. A heel wearing friend, to whom I confided my plan, had also urged me to buy well. And so I did. They were expensive, but really nicely made and fit perfectly so I escaped some of the usual discomfort and blisters that most experience.

I almost forgot about muscle pain/soreness as a factor. For me it was mostly pain in the balls of the feet and blisters everywhere which caused me the most troubles. I also think it's better to start low and slowly get into higher ones. But as I did it the other way around, I can say that it also works to start high and therefor limit the walking time (which I unfortunately didn't!). It's just not the most comfortable way. The good thing is, when I then started looking for well made and well fitting heels, everything with up to a 10 cm heel was immediately comfortable for everyday wear.

I figure at least 10% of the guys who compliment me on my heels wish they had the cojones to wear high heel knee high boots.

I went from 1.5 inch heels to 4 inch heels in ONE minute. Found my balance no problem. BUT I had done years of ankle lifts, so my ankles were ready. An added incentive was I couldn't walk without 4 inch heels. I had a 26+ inch circumference on my calf, a level 3-4 tear.

I’ve no doubt at all about that. I think guys in general are weary of the stifling rules for men’s fashion regarding colours and styles, and would like to inject a bit of theatre into their personal style

I agree with you both on this, as I travel a lot and wear my high heeled boots to many different locations. If you dress for the proper occasion and for the right place, the compliments will come. I luckily have only received compliments from guys and women when I wear my boots. There are a lot of guys and out there that want to and wish they could wear boots and heels like the rest of us.

You are right, you will definitely be noticed. Most won't say anything, but you will feel many stares in your direction. So, having confidence in what you are wearing, and how you look is so necessary. We have to remember that many disapproving looks are truly just envy, whether they come from men or women. The important thing is how you feel about how you look. In my case, I have to be honest with myself, no way I can pull off many of the outfits I might like to wear, this old dad bod just isn't up to it. But, I still think I look pretty good in some nice boots over tight fitting levis or girl jeans. So, over the years my confidence has increased. I can honestly say that I think I look good, and that is all that matters. Needless to say, recieving an occasional compliment refuels my confidence, don't mind admitting that. The other thing to remember is it is important to dress appropriately for the occasion/audience. A tight skirt/hose/tall heels probably isn't appropriate for a football stadium or Home Depot. Cali's advice about "dressing smartly" is very important indeed. My best to all my HHP buds for a happy holiday season and healthy 2026! Don

I agree that most of us tend to be impatient at the beginning of our heeling journey. We want to jump right into tall stiletto heels and take off! Needless to say, this results in pain and humiliation if we are stumbling around in public. Both of these experiences are confidence killers. Always best to start off slow and low, working your way up as muscles adjust/strengthen and proficiency increases. Ah yes, I have forgotten about the pain in the balls of our feet.

I am not all that great at technology, but I never felt resizing images for this place was a big deal. It's another step, but easy to do. Once resized I still have sizable pictures that show the details that I hope to show. As I have always said: people suck! Sorry you have to deal with them, but have a great New Year!

So sorry to hear about your losses. I like dogs too, but now have a cat that is very, very, very spoiled. I fully understand that losing a pet can be difficult. The shoes are very cool though and I cannot wait to see a picture of you wearing them!

Oh, I agree with you that when you start to wear heels you’ll find muscles you forgot about. I differentiate between that and actual foot pain. I could walk reasonably well - hardly catwalk grace, but reasonably well - in my 10cm boots when I first got them although after a fairly short while my calf muscles seized up in quite painful cramps. These went away when I sat down and flexed and massaged the muscles and I learned quickly that small doses were the way to go when you’re first starting out. i have taken a sort of middle road - wearing 8cm blocky heels generally but also slowly building up time in my 10cm stilettos. I’m doing the same now as I try to learn to walk in my 12cm boots.

I'm not saying that high heels are supposed to hurt (although you'd have a hard time convincing 95% of the population of that), I'm just saying that suddenly you're exercising muscle groups that you haven't before, and that results in, at the very least, soreness. In my case 13 years ago, it was fairly intense pain until I figured out that I can't go from 0 to 10 cm instantly. Thinking about this further, I suppose I could have gone the other way--stuck with the 10 cm, but for only short periods at first, gradually increasing the wearing time over weeks or months. The route I ended up choosing was to wear 5-7 cm pretty much every moment that I could, take long walks and so forth, then gradually increase the height over a period of time. Which do you think is the more effective method? On edit: I've heard many people say that a bit of a heel helps with back pain, but for me personally, I have not been able to tell any difference either way. The condition of my back has a lot more to do with my work than it does with my choice of footwear.

I always try to dress smartly when I’m in heels and I would do the same with leather trousers. I like contrasts in textures so I would wear them with a wool jumper or something like that

In early November I flew in a pair of faux leather pants and knee high JS 4 inch boots. Only one at the airport in leather pants and one of the very few in heels. Be aware @Shyheels if you wear this look, you WILL be noticed. So dress smartly.

They are indeed, just my style, and love how nicely the jeans fit also

I find that too.

I'll swear that wearing decent fitting heels/boots actually helps my posture and reduces back pain

Deflated is a good description!

Yes there is something empowering about walking in heels. I always feel a bit deflated when I take mine off at the end of the day.