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Love, Love, Love JS brand! I usually have had good luck with such.

Indeed, it is not easy just being ourselves! I have to wonder if Frick and Frack view as their "Boy Toy" to dress as they please. Not to get on my soapbox, but I agree with other comments about given their large size (and unhealthy condition) they may feel jealous about how I dress. I generally do not think it is appropriate for anyone to comment about what a person should/should not do unless that person can do it themselves.

I've got the nails polished and necklaces, but the earrings are still posts as they were done in late December. I was told six months before taking them out overnight and a full year before hoops (which stinks!). I hope to "graduate" to small hoops at the end of the six months as they are much more to my liking and would help with a transition to skirts.

Thanks! As I like to say, it never goes out of style to have style! Nonetheless, thanks for advice as it is solid in terms of practicality.

I tend to agree with you about this in both the jealousy and "out dressing" them. All that I want is just to be myself and not have anyone, including myself, worry or concern themselves with what I am wearing.

No, but I do have to be very careful about what I say because it could be viewed as being discriminatory.

Even though I am a newcomer to this forum, I hope to be a serious contender. To start, a post Valentine's day dinner outfit for a fancy dinner with an old friend (Red) and a Friday "work at home outfit" (Black/white). And this Saturday is Drag Night in town!

To all... I am looking for some solid advice about wearing skirts and heels to the office. In case you have not read my previous posts, I offer this recap... I recently started wearing heels to work (3"- 3.5" max) or flat knee high boots with skinny jeans. Overall, I have not had any problems in doing so if one excludes the usually unwanted advice "You should wear this that way or you should wear that this way" from the peanut gallery of Statler and Waldorf (see my post "The Ladies at the Office" for more details on them). Nonetheless, I am wanting to move into wearing appropriate skirts with very professional style heels or boots into the office but do not know if I am quite ready to do so. I have told many of those in my office about my genderfluidity and let them know that if the future how I express myself may be different than what they have observed in the past. No one seems to care all too much, which is fine as I do not want my clothing choices to cause a disruption of the day. Details of the photo - an outfit for a "work at home day." Boots are Tulip (model) from Jessica Simpson. I would love to wear this outfit to the office someday... So, any advice or thoughts on this are welcome.

I'm curious if anyone else has run into this "issue"... I recently started wearing heels/boots to the office with a heel no higher than 3"-3.5" and always very professional in style (block heel, solid, dark colors, with an occasional splash of spice to mix-it up). Likewise, I have started wearing both feminine and masculine clothing with such for a completely professional ensemble. I also wear accessories such as earrings (still on posts as I just had them pierced - can't wait to start wearing hoops!) necklaces, and painted nails (no make-up). There are two women who sit near my workstation who, since I have started dressing "en femme," have been both complementary of my outfits but at the same time, routinely offer their completely unwanted opinions of what they think I should wear. One of them, "Frick," continually informs me that I wear "too much" black or dark colors, need more color, should wear paisley, and have my eyebrows done. Her partner, "Frack," has also told me that I should wear more colors, I wear "too many turtlenecks," and a recent weight loss on my part (~25lbs) has left me with "no butt." With respect to Frick and Frack, both of these women may qualify as being petite (5'2" to 5'4") and, not to disparage them, are grossly obese. Frick often wears sweatpants, a hoodie, or a track suit and crocs (with or without socks) whereas Frack is slightly better dressed in tie-dyed shirts or sweaters, jeans, and rainbow shoes - these are their outfits everyday. Frack also likes to wear cheap, gaudy jewelry from Temu. Although I am grateful for the compliments when offered, I am growing tired of the "you should wear this that way or wear that this way..." and the like comments. I have mentioned to both that I do not dress for them nor do I want to be dressed by them but yet, they persist in their comments. In all fairness, Frack is not as bad as Frick in telling me what I should wear. What I find interesting in all of this is that long before I started wearing heels to the office, neither ever said word about my attire. Since I have started wearing heels, however, it seems as I am "open season" for unwanted comments about what to wear. If needed, I can change my workstation so that I do not have to sit near them as they are not part of my unit. The photos are all outfits I have previously worn to the office

A late comer but I am in!

I know it is hard to part with a single pair of heels but I have learned how to do it. I don't know if it will be helpful, but I try to have at least one outfit for every pair of heels/boots I own. If I can not match the footwear to an outfit, then it gets donated. Likewise, if the shoe does not fit, so to speak, I can easily part with it without feeling "bad" about doing so. I do not want to get into the habit of impulse buying and before I purchase and pair of footwear, I think about where I could realistically wear them. I also think of if I have an existing outfit to match or could easily put one together so that buying that "must have" pair of heels is meaningful. I was recently in a store and noticed a pair of black kitten heeled pumps that would be highly suitable for the office. As I was seriously thinking of buying them, I thought, "Wait a minute, I have at least two pairs of office appropriate black pumps." I asked myself if I really needed them and determined that I did not, so I bought the blue ones instead. I, like most of us, have heels that are probably most appropriate for attendance at a drag show (not that I am complaining...if you want to see mine, check out the last page or so of the freestyle pictures!) and would never wear to the office. I have heels for three different occasions: for running out to do errands; going to work; and working from home. My running out to do errand heels are kind of a "throw on and go," where my office heels are very conservative (low heel pumps and ankle boots) while my work at home heels are the tallest of the tall. I also try to have heels for each season - winter, spring/autumn, and summer. This way I can have a variety of heels so that each has a chance to be worn with some degree of frequency. I'm not necessarily the one for flash or over the top embellishment, so a pair of comfortable simple black pumps will always work for me. I get it though, as I am always looking to find that "perfect" pair of whatever but given so many factors, most of the time I am just web browsing. I would rather invest money in quality than for fashionable and cheap. Well, that seemed to be a whole lot of nothing on my part....

Thank you ever so kindly! It was a great outfit to start 2024!

Hi Mlroseplant; You are absolutely correct here - I do not want every one of my posts to be about the mundane and monotony of everyday life that just so happened to have occuring while wearing heels. There is only so many times in which anyone can make going to the grocery store, post office, wherever in heels exciting after the first instance of both doing so and writing about it. I hope, rather, to share only those stories that reflect growth in both my confidence, and the height of the heel and my willingness for it to be seen by others. Since my "debut" of wearing heels in public this past November, I have truly grown in many areas and taking the first steps in public were the best steps I ever took. It is moments like those I want to share and as noted, I have several about which I want to write and post for all to read. G

Those heels are ridiculously beautiful!!!!