LailaLily Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 This concept was brought up in the female section also but it bothered me soo much that i must address it. I dont understand why heels...or anything above 1 inch heel is like considered taboo....ignorant brainless people with no class sit there and label shoes "stripper shoes" just because theyre mad they wont look good in them or can walk in them. Im sorry for being blunt but people like that piss me off. I remember this female i dunno her but she is soo loud and annoying and all she ever wore were sweat pants hoodies and socks with flip flops if she wasnt wearing those ugly uggs....she is known dor her smitty remarks.. this girl walked by and she had a nice pair of stiletto pumps..they were about 4" i would assume.... and being the jealous brainless person she is she made some remark about how that girl must be a u know what. I know that she isnt the only one, there are alot of people like this. isnt it ironic that the people who call them "stripper shoes" are the same ones who wear knee high boots...Now every female is wearing knee high boots...knee high boots before were often worn by prostitutes. so were pumps..and people now wear them! those pin up girls who were considered "provocative" wore peep toe shoes u cant take a shoe and label it after someone...like strippers or whatever people associate heels to be. but they accept attire like mini skirts on teeny bopper kids and shirts that have "delicious" or "sexy" across the front but only heels are considered provacative? 1
LailaLily Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 Interesting i read an article on "what men notice when they first meet you" this guy writes as one of the things.... Shoes Again, we don't care. We know you like them. We don't understand why you like them. All we know is that many of you have closets full of them, and we've figured out that since you spend so much time and money on them, we can compliment them to flatter you. That's about it. Most likely, if a guy tells you what nice shoes you have, he's either gay or “working on you.” My friend Mari recently told me that a guy came up to her in the airport and complimented her on new shoes. She's so sweet that she thought he meant it. I'm not saying that they're not nice shoes. But have you ever heard a man say, “Well, the thing that caught my eye was Shirley's shoes. I love those pumps, and when I saw them I knew she was the woman for me”? I don't know a single male who would say, “Dude, this chick had the hottest shoes on last night. Damn, I should've gotten her number.” It doesn't happen. Shoe flattery is for one purpose one: flattery. Have I made my point? There is one style of shoes that men notice, and that's high heels. But heels are more about what a girl looks like in them than about the shoes themselves. Heels make feet and legs look sexy. The classic example is a girl wearing high heels in a bikini. Cheesy, and not particularly functional in the sands of Miami and L.A., but men notice for sure
raincat Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 isnt it ironic that the people who call them "stripper shoes" are the same ones who wear knee high boots...Now every female is wearing knee high boots...knee high boots before were often worn by prostitutes. so were pumps..and people now wear them! those pin up girls who were considered "provocative" wore peep toe shoes u cant take a shoe and label it after someone...like strippers or whatever people associate heels to be. but they accept attire like mini skirts on teeny bopper kids and shirts that have "delicious" or "sexy" across the front but only heels are considered provacative? A good point, and well stated, LailaLily! Some people simply do not have any understanding of the elegant beauty which can be achieved by wearing classy heels. Women who wear heels are to be admired and appreciated for the feminine visage they create.
LailaLily Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 isnt it ironic that the people who call them "stripper shoes" are the same ones who wear knee high boots...Now every female is wearing knee high boots...knee high boots before were often worn by prostitutes. so were pumps..and people now wear them! those pin up girls who were considered "provocative" wore peep toe shoes u cant take a shoe and label it after someone...like strippers or whatever people associate heels to be. but they accept attire like mini skirts on teeny bopper kids and shirts that have "delicious" or "sexy" across the front but only heels are considered provacative? A good point, and well stated, LailaLily! Some people simply do not have any understanding of the elegant beauty which can be achieved by wearing classy heels. THANK YOU RAINCAT!!!!!!!!!!! it just mind boggling u know....its ok for people to let their kids wear attire that makes pornstars blush or they even wear it themselves and they let their kids have every part of the body pierced and 16 year olds with tattoes.....but a pretty pair of lets say 5 or 6 inch shoes to be worn on the freaken feet is "SLUTTY"? Thank God I havent been encountered with one of these people but if i was...they would of heard some not so friendly words from me. ohhh thats rich!!!!
Marcus Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 ...have you ever heard a man say, “Well, the thing that caught my eye was Shirley's shoes. I love those pumps, and when I saw them I knew she was the woman for me”? I don't know a single male who would say, “Dude, this chick had the hottest shoes on last night. Damn, I should've gotten her number.” It doesn't happen. Shoe flattery is for one purpose one: flattery... If women understand compliments for their shoes in this way, oh well, the situation for us heel-lover (& wearer) guys is really sad. There is one style of shoes that men notice, and that's high heels. But heels are more about what a girl looks like in them than about the shoes themselves. Another general misconception? However, I really can't realize how common (?) people tend to generalyze the concept of high heels without considering it as part of the reality of a pair of shoes. How can they say a pair of high heel boots is the same of a pair of high heel pumps??? For them high heels are only high heels, always?! Crazy!!! Sorry if I have not been clear (bad English), but what I would say is that is incredible how certain people are narrow-minded. For me (but I believe for you too) every type of shoe as a kinda personality, which express best when high heeled: mules "mean" something" different from ballets, and not just for they appearance but also for they "inner soul"... How can they just say "high heels", just "high heels" are stripper? Ok, maybe I've exaggerated. M Can you see the real me, preacher? Can you see the real me, doctor? Can you see the real me, mother? Can you see the real me?
Britana Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 People have private, personal agendas and a wide variety of viewpoints on all kinds of subjects, and are often highly critical of anyone that doesn’t share their opinions, particularly if they with a group ready to validate their intolerance. Certainly anyone that’s ever been a minority (whether its race, religion, sexual orientation, clothing, politics, or any other minority), has experienced this reaction. I never really believed the saying that with age comes wisdom, but perhaps could accept that with age comes tolerance. I personally disagree with a large number of things I see in the world, but recognize (and accept) I am powerless alone to change it. The best I can ever do is live a life by example that I hope others will notice, to be comfortable with myself and what I am and do, to not let other’s intolerance and rudeness bother me, and to try not to judge any of us in this world. Maybe it can at least help my children become more tolerant and understanding. *Edit* BTW, my current peeve is ridding my children's vocabulary of the phrase "How gay is that?" for anything they disagree with. It takes all my patience not to completely go off when I hear those words.
Dr. Shoe Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Funnily enough we don't seem to have this problem too much in London. Perhaps it's all the carrear girls in smart 4" pumps and knee boots. ***OFF TOPIC ALERT*** I'm trying to erase the phrase "No Problem" from the English Language because for some to say that to me implies that either: I gave them a problem in the first place, or, that the person considers me to be so objectionable that they believe that other people would have a problem with talking to me. ***End Of Off Topic*** Graduate footwear designer able to advise and assist on modification and shoe making projects.
Amanda Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I do apoligize as I feel partly responsible for the creation of this disgruntled thread. Personally I think Platforms make me look a little tarty, though I do have a couple of pairs with half inch platforms which are quite comfy to wear. It's my problem not yours and I'm sorry for upsetting anyone. Amanda. x
hoverfly Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I would not apologize, my GF and I have come across such attitudes and it's quite common. Basically lets face it, it's not a common sight seeing people wearing 5" heel in every day life. They only have seen it on TV, movies, portrayed in a more slutty appearance. If you want to wear 5" + heels than don't play that part, show them diffrently, dress to impress. Other than that best to ignore such behavior. Hello, my name is Hoverfly. I’m a high heel addict…. Weeeeeeeeeee! 👠1998 to 2022!
Thighboots2 Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Amanda, There are platforms and then there are PLATFORMS. The current crop of 1/2" or so thckness are just the current trend. However, those with a 2" platform and a 6" stiletto heel send a completely different message IMHO. TB2 Are you confusing me with someone who gives a damn?
Amanda Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I agree. However regarding 2" or more platform, I might consider wearing one If I were disabled. Amanda, There are platforms and then there are PLATFORMS. The current crop of 1/2" or so thckness are just the current trend. However, those with a 2" platform and a 6" stiletto heel send a completely different message IMHO. TB2
RPMindy Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 IN my personal opinion, i think that it all depends. in larger metropolitan areas.. heel heights seem not to be an issue (or as much as an issue).. smaller towns and more conservative areas... will have issues with heels more. example.. New York City... wearing high heels is going to get some looks, but not much. Especially in the village... there.. even guys in heels won't get much of a second look. however... the rural parts of upstate New York, anything above 3 inch outside a church setting.. banquet setting....special occassion... that is a whole differnent story!! (not to mention.. some southern states of america or midwestern states) i'm assuming the same applies to other parts of the world. now... as for guys not noticing... we're taught so to speak not to care.. especially if we've had to 'endure' long shopping experiences in our youth to turn us off to the 'behind the scenes' of heels. I love seeing a woman in high heels.. and i've mentioned it before to women (in compliments). My wife is the occassional heeler.... yet.. she's one of those women when she shops (thankfully for me) shops like a guy.. except for shoes.. that can be painful (and shopping for women shoes is rarely painful). most guys who aren't into heels... well..... find shopping painful. I find all kinds of shopping painful. before digressing too much.. here is what i'm trying to say. most folks react to different things based on 'instincts' and don't take the time to think. who says that teens should have their bodies on display but a mature woman can't wear a skirt above her knees? who makes these rules anyway? who says that it's fine to wear heels only on a date or work.. or who says at work you shouldn't wear more than 3 inch? especially when there was a time... 4 or 5 inch was considered very professional. i believe many are just trained to react to what should sound good (or just love to complain to get attention). few bother to think about what they feel or say or think. that said.. i've said enough (without thinking enough to shorten it) RPM
raincat Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 I agree. However regarding 2" or more platform, I might consider wearing one If I were disabled. Hi Amanda, It seems that if wearing a platform-soled shoe on one foot would help in correcting any sort of mobility issue, then it would make a lot of sense to do so. Does anyone know of a heel-wearing lady who wears a platform on one shoe only? Women who wear heels are to be admired and appreciated for the feminine visage they create.
HeelD Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 As the old saying goes... It ain't what you wear but how you wear it! Heel-D - Freestyling since 2005
yozz Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 As the old saying goes... It ain't what you wear but how you wear it! Like 'the emperors heels' Raise your voice. Put on some heels.
Wuornos Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 High Heels are aesthetically powerful. A woman who "owns" her power and celebrates it by wearing a power object threatens misogynistic patriarchy, and the status quo. A man who wears high heels is even more transgressive, because he is not only radically nonconformist, but is abdicating his male privilege by celebrating an aesthetic that is traditionally (at least in our recent history) "female". If boring people are offended, consider that you are doing something right, and providing a service to the world... Just an opinion... This concept was brought up in the female section also but it bothered me soo much that i must address it. I dont understand why heels...or anything above 1 inch heel is like considered taboo....ignorant brainless people with no class sit there and label shoes "stripper shoes" just because theyre mad they wont look good in them or can walk in them. Im sorry for being blunt but people like that piss me off. I remember this female i dunno her but she is soo loud and annoying and all she ever wore were sweat pants hoodies and socks with flip flops if she wasnt wearing those ugly uggs....she is known dor her smitty remarks.. this girl walked by and she had a nice pair of stiletto pumps..they were about 4" i would assume.... and being the jealous brainless person she is she made some remark about how that girl must be a u know what. I know that she isnt the only one, there are alot of people like this. isnt it ironic that the people who call them "stripper shoes" are the same ones who wear knee high boots...Now every female is wearing knee high boots...knee high boots before were often worn by prostitutes. so were pumps..and people now wear them! those pin up girls who were considered "provocative" wore peep toe shoes u cant take a shoe and label it after someone...like strippers or whatever people associate heels to be. but they accept attire like mini skirts on teeny bopper kids and shirts that have "delicious" or "sexy" across the front but only heels are considered provacative?
Wuornos Posted January 23, 2008 Posted January 23, 2008 Funnily enough we don't seem to have this problem too much in London. Perhaps it's all the carrear girls in smart 4" pumps and knee boots. ***OFF TOPIC ALERT*** *Moving to London immediately* Lol. I'm trying to erase the phrase "No Problem" from the English Language because for some to say that to me implies that either: I gave them a problem in the first place, or, that the person considers me to be so objectionable that they believe that other people would have a problem with talking to me. ***End Of Off Topic*** Even worse- Much, much worse, IMHO, is the hideous "It's All Good" phrase so popular in the States. When someone says "It's All Good", there is a 100% certainty that all there is something going on that is NOT good at all.... Lol.
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