Reveal yourself

[EdeeMe]

Hello everyone !

I've been a high-heeled shoe enthusiast for years.

 

As a photographer who loves to showcase feminine beauty, I was sometimes disappointed by the shoes worn by the models who came to the studio.

So I bought several pairs of 12cm heels in different sizes to give them something feminine to wear.

 

Then I wondered why some women liked to wear heels and why some men, like me, liked women in heels.

I started by watching documentaries on the subject, I read books, I informed myself and then, to share this knowledge, I created a blog.

My ex-girlfriend was my photo model, posing in the heels I'd bought.

 

I can't help but look at a woman when she's wearing heels, so I include them in every one of my photo shoots.

Later on, I drew a few pairs, just for fun. And now I'm wondering whether I shouldn't embark on the adventure of having them made in Italy, just to see if my tastes are shared.

I still have to create a brand, launch a crowdfunding page...

 

I'm not here to promote myself, just to share discussions on that most feminine of accessories: the high-heeled shoe.

I'm looking forward to sharing my ideas, thoughts and emotions on 12 cm of happiness !

[EdeeMe]

Hello everyone!

Looking for reasons to wear heels, I found 4, here's the first:

assertiveness:

A natural way to assert yourself

You dominate the world around you when you're taller in stature, so cheating with a high heel is totally accepted. It can also help you in the professional world, even the master of the art, Christian Louboutin, says so in an article.

You choose the height, the color, the shape and the brand, all for a different visual appearance, according to your own choice, to stand out from the ordinary and to show off your mood of the day.

Even if it's not very comfortable or practical, it's terribly feminine and you've decided to wear it, so... you wear it!
It's your choice, and you've made it.

Some feminists cry “scandal” when they see only the uncomfortable aspect, but they should also realize this asset to assert themselves.

[Cali]

EdeeMe

assertiveness is really CONFIDENCE.

Don't waste your time on heels that are "not very comfortable". If every step is an "ouch" you will look like a clown.  I have been standing (and walking) in heels for over 8 hours a day this summer, and my feet are not happy at about 7.5 hours in  AND that's in my comfortable heels.

[pebblesf]

13 hours ago, Cali said:

EdeeMe

assertiveness is really CONFIDENCE.

Don't waste your time on heels that are "not very comfortable". If every step is an "ouch" you will look like a clown.  I have been standing (and walking) in heels for over 8 hours a day this summer, and my feet are not happy at about 7.5 hours in  AND that's in my comfortable heels.

For sure, there has to be a balance between fashion and comfort.  7.5hrs is heels is amazing, my feet would hurt after being in Nikes for 7.5hrs.....

[Cali]

2 hours ago, pebblesf said:

For sure, there has to be a balance between fashion and comfort.  7.5hrs is heels is amazing, my feet would hurt after being in Nikes for 7.5hrs.....

Ahhh, the price we pay for the green stuff.

[EdeeMe]

20 hours ago, Cali said:

EdeeMe

assertiveness is really CONFIDENCE.

Don't waste your time on heels that are "not very comfortable". If every step is an "ouch" you will look like a clown.  I have been standing (and walking) in heels for over 8 hours a day this summer, and my feet are not happy at about 7.5 hours in  AND that's in my comfortable heels.

Yes, high heels aren't the most comfortable, but I wasn't talking about walking a marathon in them...
I was talking about asserting yourself by wearing heels, even for a few minutes.

Edited June 19 by EdeeMe

[mlroseplant]

Cali and I agree very strongly that there isn't a reason to wear heels that don't feel good. Having said that, I have two different types of shoes in my collection these days. I have my walking shoes, and I have my church shoes. The walking shoes basically have no time limit. The church shoes, depending on several factors, might only be good for several hours, especially the 12 cm variety. But none of them actually hurt my feet.

[EdeeMe]

Hello everyone

The 2nd reason to wear heels:

A way of communicating without words

Your mood is proportional to the height of your heels, and this height can clearly be an indicator of your glamorous side. When you wear ballet flats, you want to be comfortable; when you wear heels, you want to be feminine; when you wear high heels, you want to be very feminine, even naughty, and clearly above the rest.

In the street, the click of a woman's gait announces in advance a pair of high heels worn by a woman who clearly wants to be feminine, elegant and who announces the color: I'm here, I'm feminine and I claim it without words by wearing heels because I've decided to. So, gentlemen, know how to guess your companion's state of mind just by looking at her outfit and, above all, the centimeters of heel that lift her up.

Sensitive people immediately notice this accessory, and words become useless when it comes to the message conveyed by those who wear them. Communicating positively through your body language is only possible if your gait is graceful, with the right pair of shoes for the situation.

 "I'm an independent woman but I love the way heels make me powerful and vulnerable at the same time. " Dita Von Tees

[mlroseplant]

I can't disagree with you about anything you've said--well, except for the part about wearing flats. Who would ever want to do that? Nevertheless, I hope you do realize that nearly 100% of your audience on this site is male.

[EdeeMe]

9 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

I can't disagree with you about anything you've said--well, except for the part about wearing flats. Who would ever want to do that? Nevertheless, I hope you do realize that nearly 100% of your audience on this site is male.

Yes, I'm aware of this site's male clientele, but I haven't found an identical blog with a female clientele. And your opinion is just as important.

[Shyheels]

Yes HHP is unique, I think. Very much a fashion oriented site about high heels, but with mainly male members 

[Tech]

On 6/22/2025 at 10:42 AM, mlroseplant said:

nearly 100% of your audience on this site is male

Something I'd really like to change if possible...

[mlroseplant]

5 hours ago, Tech said:

Something I'd really like to change if possible...

I wouldn't mind that either, but I'm trying to figure out how that might happen, given the current state of things. Just glancing at the last few subjects in the "Guys" and "Everybody" topics, what are the main subjects? "I am afraid to wear heels in public," "I gained the courage to wear heels in public," "I gained more courage to wear these outrageous heels in public," "I actually got compliments on my shoes and outfit by the general public."

There is definitely some amount of material that women might be interested in, but it seems that largely we just talk about being accepted, and there is nothing wrong with that. How can we make ourselves more attractive to women? HA! Story of my life.

[Shyheels]

Yes it would be nice to have more threads on fashion, topical news, etc I guess that’s up to all of us. Build it and they will come ,,, hopefully

[EdeeMe]

Hello everyone,

Here's the 3rd reason to wear high heels :

a way of attracting attention

Arching your feet makes you sway your buttocks back and your chest forward, all seductive arguments in your favor.
The perceived length of your legs increases, helping you to stride through the world.
Good men have always wanted to protect women. When they're balancing on 12cm of finesse, the risk of falling is not far away. This vulnerability is terribly attractive to protective men.

Seduction isn't just about love, it's everywhere: at a job interview, when choosing a film at the cinema, when making a choice with friends, etc. So put more chances on your side by wearing pumps.

Attracting someone to you means doing it discreetly but surely. Set your sights on success by choosing your pumps carefully and walking with the perfect gait.

 "High heels are the ultimate woman's accessory. They always have been. They're a highly evocative symbol of femininity, and they sweep most men off their feet. " - Dita Von Teese

 "To feel like a woman, wear heels, to feel like a goddess, wear 12 cm. " - Christian Louboutin

[Cali]

Sorry, but you are projecting to much here.  I don't wear heels to attract attention. I do get attention simply because I wear fabulous heels and boots all the time. But I get so much hip pain relief that I will wear them for the rest of my life.

I was at a conference and walked in to a breakout session. A woman sitting in the back told me I walked like a man in my heels. So after putting some materials down in a chair, I walked back to where the two women were sitting and ask "Do you want me to walk this way?" and I walked back to my seat while over rotating my hips. "Damn" was their only comment.

Edited 16 hours ago by Cali

[mlroseplant]

Let me get this straight: Heels "help you stride through the world," but at the same time "the risk of falling is not far away." And 12 cm? Never actually seen them in real life (I mean, besides me). Even on social media, there are precious few who can actually walk well in them. Many try, few succeed. At the moment, I include myself in the many. I hate to beat up on the new guy, but I going to--most of the above post, while admittedly rather charming, is nonsense.

In my personal experience, there are very few women who wear (or used to wear) heels as a way to attract attention. Not zero, but approaching zero. I personally wear them because I like them, nothing more, nothing less. I can remember a conversation I had with a young college boy, who was with his girlfriend at the time. The kid stopped me on the street and earnestly asked about my footwear. He wasn't being mean, I believe he was genuinely curious. At one point he asked me, "Do you wear heels to get attention?" I replied, perhaps somewhat rudely, "No. Actually, I rather wish people would leave me the hell alone." Even then, he didn't get the hint. I have no idea what the girl was thinking, she didn't say a word the whole time. If I wanted attention, I don't think I'd want it from a socially awkward kid.

[Shyheels]

I know what you mean. I always find it somewhat amusing, yet vaguely disturbing, when I read articles denouncing heels, or where some intrepid male journalist has spent a day in heels and is writing an expose,  and where women - who don’t seem to wear heels themselves - offer up such quotes as “now you see what we put up with for you”.  But none of the women I know who wear actually wear and love heels wear them to impress or attract men - far from it. They wear them for the aesthetics and their own emotional satisfaction. Same as I would, and do.

And yes, 12cm stilettos are indeed elegant but very, very few people can master the art of walking elegantly in them. I’ve yet to see any of that height being worn out and about. Four inches or 10cm seems to be the practical maximum.

[pebblesf]

Hmmm, quite the controversy here.  I'm not afraid to admit that I appreciate most of the occasional compliments I might recieve.  I enjoy wearing my boots publicly, feel good about how they feel and how they look on me.  Recieving an occasional compliment encourages me and helps build confidence.  Sometimes I wonder if I am the only one that thinks I look good.    And no, never really wear my 5" booties to Lowes or Home Depot, usually block heeled or cowgirl boots.  

Like MLP says, I don't think that kid was trying to be mean with his question, just a bit too honest.  At least he had the courage to actually engage and ask you, which I can appreciate.