Thighbootguy

Yeah, black socks and black sandals. I thought someone might mention that. I did it that way to reduce the contrast of the black sandals on white feet. I guess it didn't work as well as I had hoped. I have a pair with a wood sole and white leather top that I'll try barefooted.

I was out walking in the neighborhood this evening (well before dark) and I was wearing a short sleeved knit shirt, brown denim shorts, and black strapless sandals with a 3½” stiletto heel and black socks. Its a little warm for boots. The shoes did get a bit of notice. As one car drove by I heard a neighborhood rousing “What The F---“. When I saw the car go by I understood where he was coming from because there was a huge “Who Dey” sign on the back of the car which identified him as one of the folks in the stadium that embarrass Cincinnati when the Bengals (football team) are on national TV (and I don’t mean the players). A few minutes later I did notice several other drivers heads turn. I was wearing the sandals with shorts but they must have been a lot more noticeable than I thought. I don’t get that kind of reaction when I’m wearing thigh boots with stilettos.

I’ve posted another guitar, leather skirt, thighboot video.

Simple Guitar

Maximillian –

Where to start?

First, thank you for sharing you adventures with us. I’m sure that there are folks reading the posts that are thinking, “I’d be just as nervous as he is” but then keep reading and discover that all the nervousness was only in their head. I’ve always said, “The hardest step is the first one out of the car.”

The pictures really add to the story. The outfits look very natural as do the heels. Your confidence shows.

I have never broken a heel but I have lost heel tips and wound up walking "funny". I suggest that you take your broken heel to a good cobbler and tell him your concerns (take both boots). Don’t worry about telling him that they are your boots, in fact wear one of your other pair into the shop. If you not sure if he is a “good” cobbler ask to see some repair similar to what you need having done. These folks and generally proud of their work. Cobblers know shoes and will recognize a quality pair of boots and will be able to give you good advice on how to repair the heel.

I get the feeling that in a little while you will give up worrying about whether someone notices your heels. After that you will be disappointed that no one notices the heel on your great looking boots. I predict that you will give up trying to hide them and wear them, for all to see, over your jeans/slacks. Before you say “OH NO”, consider that you won’t have to worry whether someone sees them not and they really do look good. Try it first in comfortable places like the bookstores and the supermarket. Getting out of the car the first time (and maybe the second and third time) will be a panic but after a few steps it’s just like wearing any other shoes. All you have to do is project a confident image and you will have a great time.

Again, thanks for the posts.

JeffB -

There have been several times recently, when I have been out wearing my boots, that I have been so absorbed in what I was doing that I actually forgot I was wearing boots with heels. Really! It helped that the folks around me seemed to be comfortable with what I was wearing and the situation was very relaxed. I really have become very comfortable wearing then in public.

Having said that, thigh boots with 5” stilettos still isn’t footwear that guys are normally seen wearing (gals either for that matter). There are folks that take exception to people dressing too far outside of what they think is acceptable. I have to keep remembering those folks exist and can create troubling situations. The last thing I want to do is have problems while out and wearing my boots.

When I’m not wearing boots, I don’t normally go to places where I would feel uncomfortable if I were wearing them so it is easy for me to become complacent about wearing them everywhere. For my own safety, I don’t want that to happen so I always try to be aware of the folks around me, especially if I’m someplace I haven’t been to before or the crowd is different than I’m used to.

On another note, I keep recommending looking in a full length mirror before you go out to be sure you are comfortable with what you see. There are times when I am not comfortable wearing thigh boots with 5” stilettos no matter where I’m going. At those times it would be easy to be complacent about how I feel/look and go out anyway. That would be a disaster. I really believe that if you aren’t confident with your look, other will pick up on that and take advantage of it.

It will be a while yet before I stop being very aware of the folks around me. The mental effort really is exhausting if you do it for too long. But, this is my game, I don’t have to go out wearing thigh boots, I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t enjoy it, so I’ll put up with being ready for a nap when I get home.

What a great outing! Thanks for sharing it with us. Here is nothing like a good outing to build your confidence. I offer one word of caution about becoming over confident and that leading to complacency. Always be aware of where you are and the folks around you. There are still a few that don’t appreciate a guy in heels. It does sound though like your picking your places to go heeling with care. I am sure the waitress appreciated the complement on her look and her shoes as much as you appreciated her comment on the shoes looking good on you. Again thanks for sharing and I’m looking forward to reading about the Saturday outing.

I stopped at the Goodwill (thrift store) today and they had clothing on sale for 50% off. I spotted a kaki skort (shorts under a skirt) that was only 11” from the waist to the hem (short). I was wearing a baseball hat of the same color and thought “why not”. The skort was $2. I stopped in Sam’s on the way home and went in wearing the skort, a blue dress shirt with sleeves at ¾ length, my hat, and black leather thigh boots with 5” stilettos. I have often complained that no one noticed when I wore my boots but that wasn’t the case tonight. Most folks did at least a double take. I didn’t have too much time so I got my stuff and headed for the register. The clerk had seen me many times before and we have chatted often but tonight I got the impression that she thought I had pushed the envelope a little too far. The skort really is short and it makes the black boots really stand out in contrast to my skin. It may be too short for the tall boots. Right now I’m wearing it with knee high black stretch fabric boots and it is one of the most comfortable things I have ever worn. As I said, I have often complained about not being noticed. I think I should consider being careful about what I wish for.

Thanks for sharing the story. I suspect that both women would have appreciated a "nice heels" complement as much as you would have.

DDWW -

How the the folks over there across the pond put it? "Good Show."

The first step really is the hardest one. I'm sure that you were the only one that heard your heels.

Thanks for sharing the adventure with us and let us know how things continue.

I guess “stupid” is in the eye of the beholder. I think they look great.

I’ve just started wearing thigh boots with heels and shorts and like the look.

Have you ventured out with the shorts and heels?

I stopped at Sam’s Club on the way home last night wearing my high wasted denim shorts, a short sleeved knit shirt and black leather thigh boots with 5” stiletto heels. I was earlier than normal and the staff that was on duty had never seen me before. The guy at the front door checking Ids looked surprised (eyes got big and he looked me over) as I walked in but he still managed to say, “Good afternoon”. There were fewer people in the store so maybe it was easier to notice me but I did turn several heads. The comments I overheard were more of surprise and/or amusement (“Well look at that”) than denigrating. I only needed a few things but I took my time getting them. I overheard a couple of other good natured comments while I was in the checkout line. It may be that there were just fewer people in the store and it was quieter that allowed me to overhear the comments. I only heard one giggle and that was the most negative thing I heard. At the register, the clerk had never seen me before and I saw her give e a quick look and then put on a neutral face. I helped the lady in front of me get some boxes for her stuff and she thanked me for the help. When I got to the register I said, “You look like you don’t like these.” and indicated my boots. “Well whatever floats your boat.” Her name tag read Jaclyn and I commented that I had never seen that name without the “q” “u” “e”. She blossomed and said “Yeah, I’m glad I have the short spelling.” and was smiling. I was leaving and indicated my boots and said, “They really are fun.” and got a big smile and a wish for a good evening in return. It was a nice shopping trip. One thing I have noticed is that I expend a lot of energy paying attention to what/who is around me when I’m wearing thigh boots in public especially if it’s someplace new (or the people are unknown). Seems like I work harder at not being complacent than I had realized. By the time I get home, I’m really tired and walking on heels isn’t the cause. I’m mentally exhausted. That may be part of the cost of wearing thigh boots in public but like my grandmother used to say, “If you want to dance, you have to pay the fiddler”.

On the way home tonight I stopped at Home Depot and Bigg’s wearing my high wasted denim shorts with ½“ inseam, a long sleeved dress shirt with sleeves at ¾ length, and my black leather thigh boots with 5” stiletto heels. Like I’ve mentioned before the boots and shorts make a striking combination. There is about 9” between the hem of the shorts and the top of the boots where my leg s are exposed and there is a major color contrast. Black boots on blue jeans are almost not noticed.

In Bigg’s a couple of folks gave a second glance but no one seemed upset or said anything. There was one couple that made a point of getting in a different checkout line (that had more people in the line) rather than getting in the line I was in. Whatever... it happen. As I was leaving the store four young teen guys walked in and seemed to be having respiratory problems if the coughing and funny noises they were making were any indication. I didn’t even acknowledge their existence.

At Home Depot I walked across the parking lot where several guys were helping a customer load stuff into the back of a pickup truck. I was expecting at least a glance but I don’t think they even noticed. In the store, I asked one clerk where the item I wanted was and he either really didn’t know or he did deal with a guy in thigh boots. I found another clerk who directed me to the right isle. I was standing contemplating my choices when another clerk went out of his way to ask if he could help me. We spent several minutes going over options before I made my choice.

At the register you would have thought that guys come in wearing thigh boots all the time.

It was a fun shopping trip even at 85F.

Flavio -

I did find a lot of information on the model. Thanks for the additional link. The picture isn’t of a high enough resolution to read the text.

sebseb34 -

Looks like someone deleted the post but the picture of the boots was awesome.

Great story! I'm glad someone noticed. It's no fun when no one at all does. Thanks for sharing it with us.

Elegant-

"That's a really nice pair of loafers"

Are you referring to the shoes, or us guys wearing boots at work? Or both?

Absolutely great looking boots. What brand are they? That looks like a 5" heel to me. Don't hide them under your jeans, boots that nice are ment to be seen.

I've posted another video:

Thighbootguy and the Blender

And on a totally different subject... This is a real pair of thigh boots

I haven't been able to get the site referenced in the image to respond.

Heelguybo -

I agree with all of the above and another Welcome to the forum.

I am concerned that your having pain. Other than using some muscles you don’t normally use, wearing heels shouldn’t hurt. A good fit will make going out a lot more fun.

JeffB-

Considering how we look at ourselves is an excellent point!

I went back and looked and I have posted my “look in a full length mirror” advice 38 times. If you are comfortable with how you appear to yourself, you will project am image of confidence that goes a LONG way to having others accept you. By the way, this idea does not just apply to wearing heels/boots. If you are confident in yourself, then you are much more in control of whatever situation you find yourself in.

After the previous discussion, I think that even if we are extremely confident, guys in heels are, at least for a little while yet, are going to be considered a little different. But then, isn’t that part of the fun? If everyone went out wearing heels, I’ll bet there would be a web site for folks that thought wearing flats was the really exciting. (No offence to the folks that like to wear flats intended).

JeffB -

It's like I told the clerk, the shorts really helped.

By the way, I'm glad to note that your mood is happy.

TBG

I haven’t mentioned this for a while so even though the weather has warmed up a good bit, I’m still wearing brown or blue knee boots with 1 2” block heel to work every chance I get. I just got the brown pair back from the cobbler where I had them resoled. I also had the heel redone with some quiet material. There are no sharp sounds coming from these boots even on a tile floor so wearing them at work is even more discreet. The other day I wore shoes to work and noticed my feet were getting cold (the A/C works) so the next day I was back in boots.

Everyone - Thank you all for an enlightening discussion. I am delighted that the image presented in the Larson cartoon is not how we think the world sees us, and from my experience, and that of others, it is not how the world sees us. We might be seen as a little weird, or different to the rest of the world but tell me one free spirited person that doesn’t appear that way. I kind of take it as a complement. Thanks again. TBG

I had an enjoyable outing this afternoon. I was off work a little early so I had some extra time and needed to go shopping at Sam’s and Walgreen’s. I headed out wearing a knit shirt, blue sweat band, high wasted denim shorts with a ½” inseam (no leg at all) and black leather thigh boots with 5” stilettos. It was a bit warm for the boots but I was comfortable enough when combined the shorts.

The shorts really make the boots stand out and wearing them over a bare leg feels great.

I went to the Sam’s I don’t normally visit. This is the store where one of the clerks mentioned there was another guy that comes in wearing boots. I did hear some laughter, from adults, that I’m sure was at my expense but the real interest seemed to come from young children who were with their parents. I got a lot of smiles, which I returned, and a couple of, “Hey, look what he’s wearing” comments. No one seemed too put out and all in all it was a fun shopping trip. I did have to go through the store three times to find all the stuff I wanted. One of the clerks went out of his way to bid me a good day, while several others just stood there with their chins dropped.

At the checkout, the register clerk wasn’t too sure what to make of me. She was an older lady but after I helped her with several of the heavier items I had (like a 50 lb. bag of cat litter), she seemed to think I was an Ok customer. When we finished I said, “The last time I was in one of the clerks said there was another guy that comes in wearing there.”

She looked surprised and said, “Really?”

“Yeah, that what they said.”

“Aren’t those boots hot in this weather?”

“Nah, there Ok with the shorts.”

“Yeah I guess they would be. I can’t wear the heels any more. They really bother my feet.”

We wished each other a good afternoon and I headed out of the store.

In the parking lot I overheard a few chuckles as I was pushing the heavy cart to my car. After loading the car I headed on to Walgreen’s.

In Walgreen’s I turned a couple of heads but everyone was polite.

Metalspikes -

A 5” heel is just about my limit. I really prefer leather boots over man made materials and I have never been a fan of the two toned styles. The needle point on the heel would also give me problems since I walk a lot on hardwood floors. I’m Ok with the height of the boots and kind of neutral on the side lacing. I think I would prefer either front or back rather than side. And then there is the price... there a little lout of my range.

I went back to the Art Museum this afternoon wearing a short sleeved knit shirt, jeans and black leather thigh boots with 5” stilettos. There weren’t many folks there so I didn’t really expect to see anyone. The guards greeted me as I came in and I grabbed a stool and headed for a gallery. I was sketching for a while and a young lady came into the gallery and was taking her time looking around. I commented, “That’s the prize of the collection.” And pointed to the Ruben’s. We started talking about and she asked if I had seen the Rembrandt at the Taft Museum. I told her it wasn’t really a Rembrandt, just a poor copy and asked her if she had seen the painting in the next gallery that looks like Rembrandt’s work? With that question, I packed up my sketch book and took her on a tour of my favorite galleries in the Museum. We chatted for quite a while about the paintings. She told me the last time she was here, with her husband, that he was having a tough time appreciating the Monets that were on display. She also said she was a theater major which may be why she was so willing to be touring the museum with a guy in thigh boots and heels (the subject never came up). We parted and I went back to the gallery I was working in and went back to work. A few minutes later, one of the guards mentioned the museum was closing in 7 minutes so I packed up and headed out. Both of the guards at the front desk waved and bid me a good day. I then headed for a Remke supermarket to get some milk. I wandered through the store like I had all day. The girl at the checkout seemed to not approve of my look but that happens. After the supermarket I headed for the thrift emporium. I wandered though and found a CD I was interested in. I got a couple of glances but that was all. I really am comfortable wearing my boots with jeans. When I wear them with shorts I am more concious of the fact I'’ wearing them but with jeans they really are just another pair of shoes. It was a nice outing.

Dr.Shoe -

It was not my intention to define the “stereotype of a guy in heels” and certainly didn’t mean it to be “discourteous, impolite and stupid”. I must be more careful with my prose and I apologize if anyone else took offence. However, Dr.Shoe’s comments about stereotypes is right on the mark. “Anyone who doesn't blend in solicits a whole range of different emotions.“ I do think people have a stereotyped image of a guy in heels but that image is different for each observer. For some its weirdo (or worse), for others it’s cool and the whole range in between.

JeffB -

Good advice as always.

Your comment, “How do we look? Depends on the person.” can be read two ways depending on if the person is the one wearing the heels or being the observer.

Thanks for the response. This is the kind of discussion I had hoped my question would generate. More observations are welcomed.

Those are really nice looking! Where did you get them?