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HHDude, If you wear heels out and about, the women you'll attract will self-select so that you won't attract ones who disdain men in heels. Take a lesson from Kneehighs, and put your best foot forward, be the best, most confident chick magnet you can be, and see what happens. But I'm warning you: it's really all out of your control. My grandfather, a wise man, used to say, "The boy chases the girl until she catches him!" Ok, you're on your own. Go for it! By the way, I am blessed with a wonderful wife of many happy years who accepts my high heel hobby and has become comfortable with me going public in heels. You can live your life this way, too, if you choose. Steve

Yes, I agree. It takes a scientific study to prove what we all know? Hmmmm... Steve

It wouldn't bother me at all if a guy gave me a compliment or even asked why I was wearing heels (politely). But it's never happened. I've had lots of compliments from other heelers that I've met, though. Shafted is right. It's all good. Steve

If you have a smartphone or digital camera that will do video, set it up and take a video of your doing various tasks in and around your home. Watch what you look like. Maybe you'll find it's not as bad as you think. Maybe you'll find where you can improve. It's an easy thing to do if you have the equipment (and not very expensive to get if you don't). If you have an approving wife or friend(s), ask them what they honestly think. Good luck. Steve

We celebrated New Years Eve with 6 other couples; we've been doing this since the 1980s - all friends of ours from a company we used to work for - and have kept in touch every year because we all still live in the community. It was snowing last night, so I wore a pair of Clark's black knee boots with a side zip and 3" tapered (thin but not stiletto) heels, with my jeans tucked in. When we got to the house where the party was being hosted, we were the first ones there, took off our boots at the door, and put on indoor shoes (heeled clogs). Nobody said anything about my shoes, of course, and when it came time to put on the boots and leave, everyone saw everyone else getting ready to go, but nobody said anything about my heels. People just accept it, if they notice it at all. But I still never cease to be amazed! Happy New Year to all of you! Steve

Yes, I finally found it after I posted that. I was amused, but I'm not sure of the implications. I think it was intended to be innocent of the transphobic undercurrent that Euchrid sees,but who knows? Steve

I've got an owner, too. LOL Steve

Sleekheels, I did a search for the Stella Artois beer ad on uk tv but came up empty handed. Is there a video of it posted online somewhere? Steve

Again I agree with you, Ilk. Women are the ones that cheer me on when they see me in heels. I rarely get any reaction from guys. Kneehighs is quite correct. There are women out there who do like men in heels. Steve

Don't leave us hanging...what did she buy? Did you buy anything? Please finish the story with some details. Thanks! Steve

I'm with you, Ilk. One can either sit in the dark and curse it, or get up and light a lamp. I'll do the latter. Steve

Please be careful in the snow everybody! We don't want you to get hurt and be timid about wearing heels again, or unable to! Take it easy, enjoy your heeled boots, and be VERY careful when going inside on smooth floors. Steve

Ilk, Interesting post and good topic for discussion. I'm always amazed at how most people just don't notice, or if they do they don't say anything. But in my case, yes, the novelty continues to wear off. I gauge novelty by how much I watch other people to see if they notice. Most don't and I'm pretty relaxed these days, and I've really stopped paying much attention to others. I just go about my business like I belong in the heels I wear. And that's good. I can just be me and not have to worry about what others think. Steve

Hi, Zahi! I like your avatar. Very creative! Steve

Yeah, what Shafted said! I agree. It sounds like she's concerned for your safety and/or your reputation, and you need to convince her over time that you can handle it, that most people won't care or even notice, and that if they do, most likely you'll get compliments. Hmmm...come to think of it, maybe she's worried that you'll get found by a gal who loves heels on guys! Better get advice from Kneehighs on that. LOL Sounds like you had a great holiday. Thanks for sharing your post with us. Steve

I agree. Steve

Histiletto, Interesting history. Thanks for posting! Steve

Puffer, I don't object to your stating your opinion. You're absolutely entitled to do so. It was how you said it that I thought came across as impolite and uncalled for. If you had simply said "I don't care for that style" or "that style doesn't do anything for me," it would have been a lot less provocative than stating bluntly that it is ugly. Ugly is in the eye of the beholder, and to call a shoe ugly is more than just your opinion. It's an insult to someone else who happens to like it. So I'm saying next time, just be a little more considerate and gracious in stating your opinion. True, we can't read the body language that goes behind what people write here, but I found your blunt declaration offensive. Steve

It's often not the fault of the employees, but the fault of management for not training them better. If the cashier doesn't like his or her job, has a snotty attitude, or doesn't treat customers well, he or she should be fired and replaced. Unless you know differently, you should ask to see the manager and point out any bad customer service you receive. The manager can't always be on top of everything that every employee does, and feedback from the customer can go a long way toward training the employee to be a better one or the employee can be replaced by a better one. Steve

No two people in the world have exactly the same taste, and since beauty (or ugly) is in the eyes of the beholder, declaring that someone else's shoes are ugly serves no useful purpose and in this forum is quite counterproductive. We are a tiny minority of males here, and most of the male population does not share our taste in footwear. We need to be supportive of each other. For us to insult one another merely divides us rather than unites us. If you don't have anything nice to say, please don't say it. Steve

If any of you skinny guys are in need of a fat transplant, I'm a willing donor! LOL Whoops, time for ice cream...see ya later! Steve

Yeah, feel better soon! Steve

Joe, great choices! Thanks for posting. Check your private messages. I'm writing to you. Steve

I do wear heels to choir rehearsal on Wednesday nights, and have received no comments as of yet. I would totally love to wear these patent leather oxfords to church someday, but I am the songleader, and front and center. We'll wait and see. My church family is an accepting bunch. They haven't ex-communicated me yet, haha.

If anybody asks, just reply that wearing heels helps you sing the "high" notes better! LOL

Steve

Although you've come a long way in pushing your envelope, Freestyle, you have restricted yourself to boots. So even though you've gone to higher and thinner heels, you haven't gone to pumps, sandals, clogs, loafers, or other styles. Many of us here have, some in private, some in public. I have gone public with all of these styles but I've not crossed the boundary to wear stiletto heels. I think stockier guys like me just don't look good in stilettos. That's just my opinion, but I don't feel comfortable if I don't feel I look good. So I'll leave them for the skinny guys, like Radiodave, for example. He looks great in stilettos. We're all somewhere on the spectrum of progression from masculine to feminine characteristics in our footwear. There is no doubt some reserve to what is worn in public. I am sure a lot of guys tend to wear footwear that is more toward the masculine out in public and less so in private. But even in our wardrobes, some of us have a wide variety of styles and others have a narrow slice, like you focus on just boots. Anyway, you posted an interesting topic. Thank you. Steve