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I am strongly against the idea of a poll also. Religion and politics are sensitive subjects, and the ONLY outcome is difference of opinion, which merely serves to divide us, not unite us. I say drop the idea like a hot potato and close this thread. Let's steer clear of topics that divide us or have the potential to do so. It's hard enough for some people to be civil on topics like "Do you like wedges?" I can't imagine this thread ending in a better way now that it did years ago. "Those who cannot remember the past, are condemned to repeat it." - George Santayana Steve

"Always compromise, and do it her way!" It makes your marriage last longer! lol Steve

Good answer, Meganiwish! I agree with you entirely. I couldn't possibly pick just one pair. 20 pair maybe... Steve

I'm not a fan of wedges. I prefer shoes with at least some separation between the heel and the sole in front. Steve

Between 100 and 200 pairs - I never really counted. They are mostly loafers and clogs, a few boots, a few pumps, and some sandals. I've tried to sell off some on Ebay to cull the collection to manageable, but it somehow grows faster than it shrinks. Of the total, I wear probably 20 pairs frequently. Others I wear occasionally. A few no longer fit or feel comfortable but somehow I just can't bear to part with them. Steve

There is also a spectrum of nail colors you can explore together, some of which you both might agree on. My wife, for example, would not be at all happy with me in a bright red, dark blue, black, or brown nail polish, nor sparkles or designs. But she's fine with copper, satin rose, satin dusky rose, and other not-so-conspicuous colors. And I'm quite happy with those. They look...um...er..."polished" (well?), but not attention-getting, which is just fine with me.

So find out what her comfort zone is regarding colors and move in that direction first. The only rule to follow is to keep her happy.

Steve

Atta boy. For what it's worth, my big toe nails are UGLY, and wife prefers them painted. I usually go with Ford Blue. And the cool thing is, since I'm a Ford guy, all my buddies think it's OK. Or they just think I'm a nut.

Not just a nut, a blue one!

Steve

Congrats from me, too, highheellover23. Stiletto2004: Of course he is going to get married in heels. So is she! Maybe the same style! That would be a hoot! Steve

I prefer quiet heels. I want to wear heels, and if people notice, fine, but I don't necessarily want to attract attention. I'm not one to show off. Steve

Everyone's advice here is good, and you will do well to follow it all. In the grand scheme of things, it's not a big deal. Your wife and every other heeling man's wife have a comfort zone. For some it is no heels for hubby at all. For others it's anything goes. For still others, it's like your wife's, somewhere in between. There are some venues where she's fine with your heeling and others where she's out of her comfort zone. So now you know the boundaries. Those boundaries are not hard and fast forever. They can change over time, as your wife becomes more comfortable and more accustomed to your heeling. But that change is very slow. Don't push it too fast or you'll make her uncomfortable and she'll withdraw her approval somewhat, resulting in a giant step backward. Live within the boundaries and you'll be a happy man with a happy wife. Good luck! Steve

Nice heels. Scoopie needs some obedience training perhaps? Very tragic indeed! Steve

Teens individually are fine. In packs, female teens tend to giggle at everything or even nothing at all. Steve

I have to make a decision whether I'm going to wear heels to church every Sunday from now on. I kind of want to, but there are other considerations, not the least of which is the fact that my wife bought me some men's dress shoes for Christmas, and I suppose I should wear them at least some. The fact is, I don't like them too much. The style is nice enough, but they're not even real leather, and they hurt my feet. I do not keep heels I don't think I could walk at least a mile in. These flat shoes are not good for anywhere close to a mile.

Ask your wife if she would want to wear those shoes in a "Walk a Mile in His Shoes" fundraiser event some day.

Steve

Gotta agree with you, HappyInHeels! Very well stated. Let us know when you decide to run for Congress. You're a (high heel) shoe-in! lol Steve

They look great! What is a J toe? Never heard of that term. Steve

Congrats! I hope they exceed your expectations! Steve

Mike,

Well, I care! Please put your flat-heeled penny loafers and white socks back on! Thank you.

BWAHAHAHA!

Steve

Thanks, Sleek. I accept your toast gladly, and hope we can do it in person in the not-too-distant future. Getting back to the topic, I found it ironic that at one point during the New Year's Eve celebration, I overheard two gals nearby talking about cars and tires, while I was engaged in a conversation with another woman talking about our experiences at the new salon that opened in town last summer! So there ya go, whatever that proves! HA HA Steve

From my perception, the "slobbing" of America started in 1992, which is the year that sales of pantyhose started to decline, and have never recovered. "Business casual" and "Casual Friday" were bad inventions. I really liked the old days, when people dressed up for travel, for church, for weddings and funerals, for dining out, and even just for most business. While I hated neckties, I loved seeing the women dressed up. People behaved with more gentility, too, addressing each other as Mr __ or Miss __. I was at a funeral a couple of years ago, and out of respect I wore a suit. This crowd was so casual, with their flip flops shorts, and halter tops, it looked like everyone had just come from the beach. One of the women asked me if I was the preacher! LOL I definitely felt out of place. So the slobbing trend has been going on for at least 20 years. Steve

Sleekheels, That sounds like a good interpretation. I'll buy it. And I'll buy you a beer when we meet someday! LOL Steve

As soon as you sit down, though, the game is up, because your pants/jeans ride up enough to expose your entire foot. So if you are in a restaurant, at a bar, or on a park bench, there's no hiding. Steve

Must be a gov'ment research project. Hmmmm....where do I sign up for a grant? LOL Steve

HHDude, If you wear heels out and about, the women you'll attract will self-select so that you won't attract ones who disdain men in heels. Take a lesson from Kneehighs, and put your best foot forward, be the best, most confident chick magnet you can be, and see what happens. But I'm warning you: it's really all out of your control. My grandfather, a wise man, used to say, "The boy chases the girl until she catches him!" Ok, you're on your own. Go for it! By the way, I am blessed with a wonderful wife of many happy years who accepts my high heel hobby and has become comfortable with me going public in heels. You can live your life this way, too, if you choose. Steve

Yes, I agree. It takes a scientific study to prove what we all know? Hmmmm... Steve

It wouldn't bother me at all if a guy gave me a compliment or even asked why I was wearing heels (politely). But it's never happened. I've had lots of compliments from other heelers that I've met, though. Shafted is right. It's all good. Steve

If you have a smartphone or digital camera that will do video, set it up and take a video of your doing various tasks in and around your home. Watch what you look like. Maybe you'll find it's not as bad as you think. Maybe you'll find where you can improve. It's an easy thing to do if you have the equipment (and not very expensive to get if you don't). If you have an approving wife or friend(s), ask them what they honestly think. Good luck. Steve