CrushedVamp

That sounds like quite the quest. It must have been a fun to do all that it took to get such a pair in your closet. Figuring out what brand they were, what style and then who sold them and for how much. If they had the proper size and then watching it track from online store to your home. Kind of like a shoe-mystery played out for your personal enjoyment. Not sure if it is the same thing, but my wife has a pair of pumps that changes color. In some light they are gold, but then in other light it shimmers and changes to silver. They are one of my most favorite pairs of heels she wears, and lucky for me she wears them often. A question though. Going by your username, are the shoes you bought Mary Janes? Just curious?

Good for you on so many fronts, from your pedi and mani, to the color choices, to the support for breast cancer awareness. I had a sister-in-law pass away from breast cancer, a terrible death, and myself have had three back-to back episodes of cancer, so awareness of such a killer is always great to be supported against. I get pedicures myself, although without color. It stemmed from a infected ingrown toenail that so many people scoff at, but it was a lot of pain at the time. My doctor suggested I not only get it fixed with a professional pedicure, but to prevent them, to keep going long afterwards. She said she does it herself, and brings her boyfriend along because she recommends it for everyone. Once I went that first time, laughed and joked with the workers, and laughed it up with the other patrons, any awkwardness of a man having a pedicure was gone, so now I get one every six weeks or so. I recommend both men and woman get them for health reasons and have for years.

I am not sure what constitutes a high tolerance of high heel wear. I say often, "my wife lives in her high heels" and it is true, she wears them often, but her tolerance of them depends on what she is doing. Most times it is to church where she spends only brief amounts of time on her feet before she can rest by sitting down. Or even that at a restaurant or on a dinner date; it is not a significant amount of time standing. One time she wore high heels to a hockey game and that was difficult for her to tolerate. Between the walk from the hotel to the arena, then standing in line to get in, then back to a place to eat; it was just too much. Halfway back from the hockey game, despite it being very cold outside (20 degrees f) she took off her shoes and went barefoot. All total, it was probably a mile of walking in her high heels. Another time I remember where it was too much, was at a funeral for our friend where there was standing room only. But being taller or shorter than your wife is just one of those things where some men are more comfortable with it than others. I cannot say. I am not tall, but not short either so my perception is far different than some men's, so I cannot judge. For her ex-husband; being shorter really bothered him. I don't hold anything against the man because it did, but forbidding her to wear heels then is the driver for her enjoying wearing them now.

I could see that. Generally, whatever we are forced to do under duress we begin to detest. Not always of course, as some things we were forced to do as kids, as we grow older, we begin to have a nostalgic look back upon it, but mostly we detest what we were forced to do, or in this case wear. My wife, she is rather the opposite of Vanna. Her first husband was short and thus forbid her to wear high heels, so when allowed kind of went crazy on the wearing of them.

I am glad you did/do compliment parents for well-behaved children. I remember the first time a restaurant owner approached me and my wife and said something similar. We were taken back because it didn't seem as if our five young daughters (at the time) were doing anything really obedient. But apparently the restaurant had some wild kids in the past. The other day my 19 year old semi-apologized for being bad while growing up, and I told her I did not think our daughters were bad at all. She mentioned a few times we spoke up and stopped some sibling-rivalry but I explained to her that we stopped sibling-squabbling early just so it did not turn into a bigger problem. But growing up... wow! That was over the top. I remember sitting in church and a family-friend asked my dad how us kids were so well behaved and he said, "Oh, I just use a length of garden hose on them". The problem was, that family-friend, teachers and everyone else thought he was joking. My dad had a 4 foot length of old garden hose he liked to wail on us kids with. The real question is: did we turn out good because of it, or despite it? Considering my daughters turned out well so far, and I did not wail on them at all, I think the latter.

I could never quite figure out why kilts never caught on, at least not in terms of being practical. I watch my wife wear skirts and it just seems so easy and practical, lounging around the house and we decided to grab some ice cream; she says, "I'll throw on a skirt", and does. While I am dragging a pair of pants up over my legs, she has slipped on a skirt, stepped into mules and waiting in the car while I am still hitching the button on my jeans. And while I won't get into the exact details, hiking or exercising with "junk" that chafes and sticks against pants seems ridiculous since I have to wear boxer/briefs to prevent it... of just the right type too mind you lest they cause their own issues, when a kilt would prevent all that. I don't know, just seemed a kilt should have become standard wear for men by now in terms of practical items to wear versus pants, but maybe I am missing something.

Somewhere on this website there was a discussion about this very thing: some little things that were easier to do in high heels. The list was not huge I admit, but rolling out dough, painting, and a few other things were brought up by me, but others on here as well. One of my houses is an old Victoriam home with 9 foot ceilings. It is just enough so that even stretched out I cannot get to the crown molding, but yet a folding set of steps is overkill. But wearing high heels... yep that would work out just right. Putting up curtains wearing high heels would help as well.

The other day as I was doomscrolling, somehow an old clip of The Price is Right came along, and in watching it this contestant took forever to do the task she was required to do. It was not that which grabbed my attention, but rather the model who, after standing for so long in her high heels, you could tell was having serious foot pain. She tried to wait until the camera was not on her, but several times she could be seen wincing and trying to ease her foot pain in all matter of ways. Certainly, my heart went out to her, but that amount of standing in heels was not typical of that show. I remember when Deal or No Deal came out really feeling for the models. They had to stand perfectly still, and not walking around at all, for almost the whole show. If you watch closely you can see where the models really struggled with this. The first time I saw that show I thought it was model cruelty. For that reason alone, I could not dare to ever watch the show. Has anyone else watched Game Shows on television and felt sympathy/empathy for the models who endured so much while required to wear high heels?

I have to admit that I grossly overthought this part of the kitchen. Like where I was going to put this lowered countertop area? The exact height it should be? How much kitchen area this should take up? What countertop material to use? Nope… no thought needed. Just keep a pair of easy to slip on high heels nearby. She had a pair of pumps, but a pair of mules would be easier to put on I think. Alternatively, a person considering a dough rolling area in their kitchen, could also make a pull-out step at the bottom of the cabinets. Just pull it out and step on it to gain a few inches taller to make rolling dough easier. Or… just keep a pair of easy to slip on high heels nearby. 😊

I am so sorry I never got back to this post, but as promised here are a few pictures...

Kind of a funny story about high heels and cooking, though I admit compared to other people's stories on here, this is quite mild. But in making a new kitchen for my wife, she wanted a spot that was a bit lower than the rest of the counters so that in having a marble top, she could toss flour on it and have a place where she could roll out pie crusts and cookies. I was fine with that except there was no good place to put one, and even if I did, it would be a place dedicated to just that. It did not make sense in such a small kitchen. But what she did instead was, keep a pair of her high heeled shoes in the cabinet underneath. When she needed to roll dough, she would slip them on and really be taller that way she could press down from above more and make rolling out dough easier for her. She got a lot of grief for this, but it really worked well for her and did not tie up her kitchen by having a countertop lower in one spot for something she only did a few times a month. The high heels worked perfect for rolling out dough.

You have a semi-valid point. We do wear something on our feet but also wear something on our legs too. Just as flats are the go-to now, in legwear it tends to be leggings. I know all it took was a few episodes of Sex and the City and high heels were back in fashion, but that was 20 years ago. Hosiery had its heyday in the 1980's; 40 years ago, and never bounced back. I am not saying I like it, I am just not convinced it is a given. I have a wife. I have five daughters, and I can tell you they are not following their mother in heel choice. They wear heels to the prom and swear they never will wear them again.

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, the apple did not fall far from the tree. I spent a lot of years in a foster home growing up because of my mother. But it was the best thing that happened to me. Everybody's mother loves them, but since mine did not, it set the bar really low. So when people say, "I don't like you Crushed Vamp", I just nod and say, "My own mother didn't either. So what's your point?" " 🙂 It doesn't get any worse than your own mother not loving you, so now; nothing bothers me!

Part of me says you are indeed right, and yet part of me says maybe not so much. The reason I say that is in looking at hosiery. Every few years you hear fashion guru's say, "oh, pantyhose and stockings are making a comeback this year", and yet every year that fails to happen. Do a search for it for 2025 and you will see it was "going to be a fashionable trend in 2025" and yest.... crickets. Yes, heels and hosiery are tied in together, but also not so much. Hosiery may be awkward to wear, but not exactly painful like high heels, and it is extremely inexpensive to buy, and a ton of fashionable ways to wear it. So you would think if anything fashion-wise that would make a comeback, with so much going for it, hosiery would... but nope, not really so far.

And that is the real shame because it becomes so circular. People not used to wearing heels; lets say at a wedding venue or something, wear them. Their feet hurt because they are super cheap in quality, so they swear off wearing high heels. Then because they do, there are few future sales, and what few sales there are will based on price. No one is going to buy really expensive, high-quality heels for a one-time-only event, so soon it is just accepted that wearing high heels is painful. Around and around it goes causing less and less people to wear high heels.

They remind me of my Grandmother's Tole Painting endeavors. A lot of people hold fond memories of their grandmother, but not me; mine was abusive and full of pure hatred. Yet, she could not stand people praising someone else up. That included my grandfather who built amazing working wooden toys. To get in on the act she would paint them, and it looked like those shoes. Like a five year old painted them in art class. Yep, she sucked at tole painting. So did whoever painted those shoes.

I agree with @pebblesf . Intrigue arises when we cannot deduce the two most difficult questions of life: why’s and how come’s. A man wearing high heels answers the question very simply: because I want to, and I do not really care what other people think of me. Living today in a culture where social media posts would lead you to believe everything is just ideal in a person’s life… then two weeks later they announce they are getting a divorce… you just realize, people are really only being fake. They know it, so people everywhere are teeming with imposter syndrome. A pair of high heels worn by an unapologetic man might as well be a mirror because it reflects what is in the viewers heart. They may, or may not want to wear high heels, but the real truth is they really wish they did not care what other people think about them. The mirror image the high heels reflect back to them? They do care what people think of them and that contrast is overwhelmingly defeating. The intrigue? Why @mlroseplant does not care about other people's opinions, and yet they do. That causes introspection.

The painting titled "An Elegant Company Playing Music by Hals Nicolaes has a man not only wearing heels, but rather strappy heels. Not a huge high heel, but they are heels. I thought one of the numerous reasons Luncheon on the Grass was so scandalous was because of the men wearing heels, but my memory is bad I guess and getting worse, because they were not. I did have to go check the painting to see however. 😞

I had a very professional lady here at the house today. One of those careers where even ten years ago she would be wearing high heels. Maybe she would swap them out in the car, but definitely have them on as she came in to conduct business... Today she wore flats.

Very interesting story. I am from the USA but love woodworking and metal work have dreamed of, but never actually made a pair of high heels. I would love to though. I have read articles and watched videos of those in Holland making wooden shoes and while not the quite thing, what you have DONE is what I always wanted to try. Good for you and even better at wearing high heels.

Well, if you can't afford the luxury car, you can at least afford shoes that depict them I guess...

Yes, I can see The Vivian Effect having that kind of fashion pull, kind of like how the show Sex in the City made high heels fashionable for a while. The sad part is, Over the Knee Boots could actually help some types of figures and not make people look like prostitutes either. Over the Knee boots really make a pair of legs look so longggggggg when coordinated right. Pair them with a pair of skinny jeans, whether the same color or contrasting, and then add a bit of a high heel to them, and the wearers legs suddenly look miles long. As for sweeping generalizations: I call people out on them. I am not a jerk about it, but when people say, well, everyone is saying”, I might stop them and say, “Wait? Everyone? Really? No, who really says this”. Soon they are back-pedaling and typically when they get done, its is not “everyone” but in reality, at most one or two people. And I do it so that people realize their judgement mistakes, that making sweeping generalizations is hardly accurate. We had a woman at our church who wore knee High Boots a lot but for a very specific reason. She weighed about 97 pounds, was about 4’-11” tall and had seven kids… but she was going to protect them. Just inside her knee boots she carried her 9mm Kimber!

I am almost certain that if my wife did not already like wearing high heels, I would wear them. I just really like how people look in them. And it is historical as well. While I would NEVER try to compare myself to @mlroseplant as I am not him, if I did wear high heels that is who I would most be like. We are in a strange situation here. Island life is so unique that it has to be lived to understand and never explained. It is just so different what living on an island is like; from the difference in crime, to just how people talk, walk and drive. It is so different. I dislike talking about same-gender relationships but for some crazy reason island life brings that out it seems. It is crazy how prevalent it is here, and this is a working-waterfront. So, islanders as a whole are very agreeable people despite being pure fishermen thru and thru. But I am not sure my wife would understand. Maybe because it would take away from "her thing" or maybe just because she is introverted so deeply, but I doubt she would like it.

I think high heels make a poignant point by themselves, with a lady, but even more so upon a man. But that being said, I think when an outfit matches the heels not only in color, but also style, it often becomes not a match that can be easily stated, but someone just knows, together that works. Your post on 08/18 kind of proves what I am saying. You just look put together in that photo, but it is the totality of it @mlroseplant

I am sorry in that I did not see this post until now. I cannot top your post in terms of ignorant statements, but I can debunk the ignorant comment. My wife wears her thigh high boots sometimes. It is not often, and has to be a specific event like us having a dinner date out or something. She would not wear it to a church function for one of our daughter's granted, but at times she likes to be wild and emboldened. A sort of, "look what I am wearing, Hun" kind of thing that makes our marriage fun and exciting. The fact that she is married and never once been a soiled-dove speaks volumes to the ignorance that the above reply states. I will say that she is going for a "wow" kind of factor, and perhaps... dare I say... a suggestive look? She typically wears them with a black miniskirt for a certain look since its telling: "I am wearing a darn short miniskirt". But she has done the same kind of emboldened, out-in-public look before while wearing fishnet stockings and seamed stockings with her high heels. I remember once I was surprised to see her wearing them, knowing full-well we were going out but we had just found out we were about to have our fourth child, so she explained it away easily. "I know I'll be sporting a baby-bump soon, so no more wearing sexy outfits for you, so why not be bold?" It was a statement I could not argue against. But again, yes my wife wears thigh high boots, and no she is not a soiled-dove, is married, has five daughters, even goes to church every time the doors are opened, and just believes life is short so have some fun. My only caveat to this is: it is really hard for her to find thigh-high boots that fit. She only has two pairs.