Chorlini

1 hour ago, mlroseplant said:

While I am disinclined to be so melodramatic about it, this particular article does seems to unjustifiably intertwine mere fashion with basic identity, which is obviously a false premise, as most of us on this site can attest.  I don't hate the term Toxic Masculinity, but I don't particularly like it either, and more importantly, what has it got to do with fashion trends? You know the term I like? It's called, "Don't be a Jackwagon." If more people followed this mantra, we'd have a lot fewer problems in this world. That goes for women, too.

Sadly everything is political to these people and a platform to be used. And they will take over any community they come across and which they think will offer them a platform. They did it to the effin' online knitting community. Knitting!

You know I actually had to google that term jackwagon. I learned something new today. I reckon that me being melodramatic might make me a jackwagon, but if these weirdos come for this community the don't be a jackwagon mantra won't stop them from taking it over and getting rid of any of us they deem 'problematic'.

On 1/31/2021 at 10:43 PM, VirginHeels said:

https://f-trend.com/blog/rise-mens-feminine-masculinity-2019-and-future-fashion-trend

We may be on the edge of a more androgynous future for clothing. I for one am looking at feminising my wardrobe a little in certain areas. Might not be a massive amount, just certain prices if I can loose a few more pounds in weight.

Discuss.

This is political driven stuff. This has nothing to do with what we always wanted, to freely express ourselves, but part of a concerted campaign to destroy everything masculine.

On 2/17/2021 at 6:42 PM, Cali said:

 

 

I don't know how old you are @Chorlini, but the older you get the more 'traditional' the women become.  They want to pride themselves on 'thinking outside the box' and 'open mindedness' UNTIL it comes to their personal dating. It the biggest conundrum I face in dating while in heels.

I consider myself an old fart, which is why I have less and less patience for such things. I took the red pill ten years ago and left my anger behind a long time ago. Things are the way they are. I will not hate people for doing what their own feelings/nature tells them to do. Water takes the shape of the container its in and modern Western society basically holds women to few if any standards. We even got slutwalks and 'body positivity'. When society holds you to no standards and tells you you deserve the best, even at an old age when realistically you should accept you have less choices, women will do what they feel is okay for them. If the situation were to be reversed I am sure men would do the same too. All anyone of us (m/f) can do is chose not to play that game. You want the 666 dudes at age 40+? Okay, then we'll just mosey on over there and do our own thing. And to be frank, that's more then a lot of married men are able to do. My best friend is married and his free time seems to consist of doing chores and keeping his wife in a good mood, which seems to determine the mood of the entire family. They all walk on eggshells around her these days.

On 2/14/2021 at 4:00 PM, Micce said:

 

Interesting how many (most?) women expect men to fit into fairly conservative role model, be that clothing, footwear or being the protector and provider for the family.

Nothing new here. Just check any panel of women talking about dating and they are all going 'oh, I'm a feminist, I'm an independent strong woman, but..... (and any sentence that gets followed with by a but can be discarded) when it comes to dating I'm traditional'. I wanna 666, 6 foot tall, 6 inch **** and a 6 figure income.

On 2/14/2021 at 4:38 PM, Shyheels said:

Yes, women often complain (fairly) about being expected to conform to a sexist stereotype but men are just as pigeonholed 

Western women are the most privileged people on this planet, save the oligarchy that rules us, and they STILL complain that they are being victims.

1 hour ago, RonC said:

For the most part, pants/jeans tucked into boots is a relatively recent fashion trend.  It wasn't all that common through the 70's and 80's.  Pants as a rule were not all that tight fitting through the lower leg either, so tucking into boots would have been more challenging.  @HeelsWearerwas just reflecting the style of the time.

I dunno. I seem to remember lots of girls in high school in the 80's with their jeans tucked into their boots. It might be my memory distorting things, but I was paying attention to their footwear back then. Especially the ones I was crushing on.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, those girls hated you because you raised the bar for them to get male attention. In the land of the blind the one eyed man is king. When a person with 2 eyes comes along gone is his power. Even if that new person doesn't want any power he will still be resented.

10 minutes ago, RonC said:

I don't carry a ruler, though I can't say I've never thought about it.  At least for size 11, I do believe these were 4.5" easy.

A little research online shows that these are also available in black.  While better than white, it is still a style that, while I really like them, I would not feel comfortable wearing in public.  Add the heel being a bit high for me and they are, unfortunately, as no go for me.  Too bad, as they fit my foot well!  Most often a size 11 with narrow straps such as these would cut my toes pretty badly.  These did not.  They had enough width for my cloddy foot.

Sounds perfect for me then. 4.5" is the lowest I will go in heels.

36 minutes ago, mlroseplant said:

You would think that with Catherine Bach playing Daisy Duke on "The Dukes of Hazzard," an extremely popular, if silly, television show in the U.S. which aired in the 1980s, that shorts and heels would have caught on. Daisy was portrayed as a wholesome, innocent girl, she just happened to wear shorts with high heels in most episodes. Despite this, I never saw anyone wear shorts and heels as a serious outfit under normal conditions until the late 1990s, and I don't think I saw it again until another 10 years went by, first in the Asian community, and then more generally, until about 2010, when it was a common sight suddenly, especially at bars and clubs. Nowadays, I think I'm the only one left. Haven't seen it in a good long while. Maybe some low wedges, but certainly nothing like what you describe wearing.

I wonder if Catherine Bach's shorts were brought about because she had to do some asskicking now and then, in which case a mini skirt is probably  not the most censor friendly attire, considering that network censors were checking these shows. Wouldn't want any accidental panties shot, now could we? So they stuck her in shorts instead. Which might explain why it never really caught on.

Also LOVED that show as a kid. And I never even noticed Catherine Back that much. Must have been before I hit puberty or something.

I never knew that 'streetwalkers' wore shorts, I always figured them to wear short skirts.

1 hour ago, HeelsWearer said:

I didn't even consider shoes with a heel of less than 4 inches high... a habit that I still follow to this day!

I am of the same opinion. Hell, I don't even want anything lower then 4.5" for myself.

14 hours ago, HeelsWearer said:

I can’t argue with you on that point! I’m not sure if it was pigheaded determination or pure stupidity! LOL

I don't know you well enough to comment on that. Like too but I'm not having any expectations in that regard. But I do get some serious determination vibe from your story, Maybe stupidity too, but that line is always kinda blurry. Is a child guitarist of age 11 who can shred like Steve Vai an example of fine determination to have reached that skill level at that age or stupid of not having done all the normal things that kids of that age do?

Love those wild thing heels though with the metal tip and heels. They were such a fun staple of the 80's and I get the impression there are a lot of people who would love to have a pair like that again, if only to relive their youth.

I think if there is a lesson to be learned here its that if you want to become successful at something, having sheer dogged pigheaded determination plays no small factor.

On 2/3/2021 at 8:12 PM, Shyheels said:

Nice story, well told, with pace and a good eye for the telling detail. And I say that as a magazine writer who’s made a living at this game for quite a while. 

I’m impressed by your dedication - and also by your mother’s benevolent tolerance. It’s really quite a sweet story.

The girls who were nasty - well, they were probably envious but whatever their issue they were nasty people and unless they underwent some kind of sea change probably went on to lead unhappy resentful lives.

Thank you for taking the time to write these pieces. I hope you are keeping copies for yourself. They are worth keeping.

I reckon the nasty girls hated her because she raised the bar to be the queen of the roost to levels they weren't willing to follow.

On 1/20/2021 at 3:36 PM, spikesmike said:

Chorlini : OK, So who rejected you ? If it was Pernilla, That would be tough to take . Love her style and high heel shoes .   Mike

Is there even a man out there who hasn't been rejected? It's part of being a man. Unless you're Henry Cavill and got money like Jeff Bezos women won't ask you out, you have to ask them out. So you will get rejected. And the more it happens, it either saps your will to live or makes you stronger as it toughens you. I advise the latter. And yes, Pernilla would be bad, cause unlike with most women there aren't a whole lot like her..

On 1/23/2021 at 4:32 PM, pebblesf said:

I dunno buddy, seems like a pretty rude thing to say right in front of your wife...Especially if she stills looks as good as she did in high school...Seems like she was going out of her way to cause trouble.  Yeah, she realizes now that you would have been "a good catch"...But, who knows who she had her eyes on in school...I'm not faulting her, just saying she may have been somewhat in denial about her behavior in school.   I surely understand how you feel about "what might have been", but perhaps you may have dodged a bullet....

This reminds me of a Chris Rock gag, he once said when a man sees his best friend's wife and is impressed by her he thinks man, I should find a woman like hers. When a woman sees her best friend's husband and is impressed by him, she thinks I gotta get him. 😁

On 2/4/2021 at 12:36 AM, meganiwish said:

Ads pay for the site.  Put up with them.

They may pay the bills, but tolerance or loyalty only goes so far. They got to be more subdued or people will start adblocking the shit out of them. Surfing the internet without adblockers feels like banging a cheap Bangkok whore without a condom. Except without the fun banging but with extra viruses.

1) How often do you wear high heels? Almost daily.

2) What type of heel do you prefer? Stiletto only.

3) How high is your average daily heel height? 5” to 5.5”single sole only, anything lower feels like flats, anything higher becomes hard

4) Do you find high heels uncomfortable? Depends on the shoe. 5”can be quite comfy.

5) Do you find high heels difficult to walk in? Anything over 5.5” becomes awkward to walk in

6) Did you know high heels can be bad for your legs, feet and back? Everything taken to excess can be bad. I reckon sitting behind a desk all day staring at a computer screen is much worse for us then wearing heels.

7) Do you have any ill effects from wearing high heels? Once.  

8) If yes, what areas cause you problems?  Ended up having excruciating pain on upper side of my left foot for days after taking my heels off. I reckon some nerve may have been pinched.

9) Do you find it difficult or uncomfortable to wear low-heels, flats or go barefoot? No, because I don’t wear heels in daily life, only at home to relax.

10) How old were you when you started wearing high heels regularly? I reckon 19 or 20 when I finally managed to find a pair that actually fit.

11) Do you get comments (positive or negative) on your high heels? Nope, they’re my dirty little secret, at home only.

12) How often do you get comments? Nope

13) How many years have you been wearing high heels regularly? Since 1990

14) Do you ever consider giving up wearing high heels? I don’t know.

15) What is/are the reason you wear high heels? It’s part sexual fetish, part relaxing as I enjoy the feeling of wearing and walking in heels

16) Would you consider giving up high heels if they became too painful? Yes. My health is more important then a fetish.

17) Do you ever slip your heels off under your desk or when sitting to relieve pressure? No.

18) Have you ever fallen due to wearing high heels? Maybe, can’t remember.

19) If you have fallen due to wearing high heels, how often has it happened?

20) Do you plan on giving up high heels regularly as you get past 60 years old? They will be with me as long as I can wear them.

15 hours ago, Pierre1961 said:

Ernest WAS the shop to go in Paris for high heels lovers. Customers were high heels passionate,strippers and men! 

Since the company has been sold ,the new owner made in short men are not well anymore. 

I got my first extremes heels from there 15 years ago. Perfect quality. Nowadays no large size anymore and not so many real high  heels. 

 

So does that mean the business has declined? Considering how much high heels are being offered in large sizes online, even if it is from only a relatively few sources, cutting yourself off that market must have financial repercussions. Not to mention that in the Western world people get taller and bigger. Including women. Which means you discriminate against those women as well by not offering anything in large sizes. Which is a thing I can't help but notice that retail in general is slow to realize that people are changing in that regard. Still mostly shoes only going up to size EU41 for the main part, EU42 if you're lucky.

Italian heels got a nice selection. Sadly very few things in the 5.5" range as 6" are out of my comfort zone.

27 minutes ago, HeelsWearer said:

I love that quote about women ruling the world.  It's probably true!!! (smile)

I have to say that Louboutin and Jimmy Chou are the best for that range of heel if you don't want a platform in front. I don't wear platforms in front, I prefer no platform.  However, Pleaser makes very comfortable heels in that range if you like platforms in front and a stiletto in back. I know a dancer who wears Pleaser's for hours on end and she says they are more comfortable than flats! From being a high heel fanatic my whole life, I would say in general that heels with a platform in front are more comfortable; however, for me I just prefer the look of non-platform heels. It's not that I think platforms are ugly by any means, it's just my preference and always has been to wear non-platforms. 

Well, it were the strippers who popularized the platform heels, and Pleaser was among the first to make them. They weren't called stripper heels for nothing. Very comfy for long time wear and dancing. Lots of grip. At the time I liked them, now I hate them. Single sole only for me. And it kinda irks my autism the wrong way that people who wear platforms, nothing with that, keep on saying they're wearing like 6" heels when I can clearly see a 2" platform. You're wearing 4" heels, dude or lady, with a 2" platform.

27 minutes ago, HeelsWearer said:

Yes, I've seen that site before. I am not sure if they distribute shoes or are they made by that company?  I have bought from that site with success!  In general, I find Italian made shoes are of good quality! 

I think they make them to order from local cobblers. Good quality overall but like with everything Italian, they seem utterly incapable or unwilling to comprehend that people with wide feet exist. Everything seems more narrow then usual with Italian footwear.

2 minutes ago, HeelsWearer said:

I do have Louboutin and Jimmy Chou heels. Unfortunately many of my 6 inch heels aren't made very well and I get them off the web. The store I mentioned sells the same type of 6 inch heels you can get online.  It's difficult to find top quality, non-platform, 5 and 6 inch stilettos unless you drop some big money, which I've done. 

So what brands do you recommend in the 5" and 5.5" range?

2 minutes ago, HeelsWearer said:

I understand your explanation now. It is true that some women give me the stink eye or make rude comments about my stilettos. I really think they're jealous and they don't like the fact their men notice!  Oh the life of a high heeled woman....  (LOL) 

I firmly believe that women would have ruled the world, if it weren't for other women.

35 minutes ago, HeelsWearer said:

There is a specialty female shoe store in a city near me. They sell no platform stilettos (4,5,6,7 inches), they sell platform stilettos (4 inches up to 10 inches, stripper shoes, platform shoes, calf length high heel boots, thigh length high heel boots, etc. Sexy shoes is their business. I have found many pairs at this store. I have also found some online by doing Google searches... for example: "6 inch stilettos, no platforms".  

Sounds like a store selling Pleaser footwear.

7 hours ago, VirginHeels said:

Got them. Lovely shoes. Only problem is they just don’t fit. My ankle is just way too wide. Gonna look at sending them back. New note, shop in person. I think the search will go on in person now and not online.

Yeah, shoes not fitting properly, or not at all will happen a lot when ordering online. Sadly right now buying shoes online is the only way to buy shoes, thanks to the lockdowns.

I must have missed this survey. Seems like a fun one to take. Also, for the 6" heels, are those with or without a platform? Cause those make a HUGE difference.

3 hours ago, Cali said:

Never say never.  Virus mutate all the time. A small change/mutation allows it to jump species.  AIDS, Swine Flu, bird flu, ...  are examples. Keep those face masks, you will need them again in the future

PRECISELY why I don't want to be reminded of it in pictures or movies.

On 1/26/2021 at 1:21 PM, mlroseplant said:

I would suggest that when playing the vast majority of instruments, it makes absolutely no difference whether you're wearing heels or not. This is because most instruments do not require the use of feet in any way. The only orchestral instrument I can think of where it might make a slight amount of difference is the tuning pedal on tympani, but even that would be zero problem in heels, as this is operated quietly between pieces, and not when actually playing (usually).

That leaves two instruments where it would and does make a difference--the drum kit and the pipe organ. I'm not even going to count the piano or the harp. Those pedals are quite accessible in heels, and you don't actually make the music with the feet. Of course, there are so many electronic devices in modern popular music which are operated by the foot, but once again, the music is not actually made through the feet, so I don't think it should count, either.

Having said all that, I do find a significant difference for me when singing in heels or playing a wind instrument that requires standing in heels. What I have discovered after all these years is that I don't do as well in flats or bare feet as I do in heels, particularly with singing, and particularly singing classical music, which tends to be more technically demanding than popular music (though not in every case). I do not know whether this is a physical phenomenon or a psychological one, but it is all too real. I have learned never to show up to a rehearsal or a recording session in flats!

You've obviously never played the guitar or bass AND operated a pedal board or controller in heels.

12 hours ago, RonC said:

I've never had a problem driving in heels.  Drivers are typically taught to operate the brake and clutch pedals with the ball of the foot, so the heel, unless very, very high, should not really be a factor.  I have driven in heels with a small platform and had no issues, but I could see a large platform throwing things off.  Never had my foot slip off of a pedal when wearing heels.

I've tried it a couple of times, biggest obstacle for me and why I stopped doing it is hitting the brakes. I'm used to hitting the brakes with my whole feet. And found the heel to be an obstacle that dug into the floor, preventing me to slam the brakes fully down. It obviously requires a different technique, but too much effort for me.