JeffB

5 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

Wore flat sandals to Walmart today. OK, they are women's sandals, but what the hell is wrong with me?

Absolutely nothing I'd say.

Most interesting, kneehighs, but that stuff is pricey as heck. I don't know if most of the folks here would be willing that kind of money, I know I wouldn't, but that's just me.

1 hour ago, Jkrenzer said:

I agree Jeff. I'd have no problem with it if women did but honestly i wear the "sexiest" heels in Winston Salem by far. It's incredibly rare to even see stilettos of any kind these days. Seems even tbe ladies only wear them at home or for very special occasions. Weirdest thing is, you want to see sexy heels on, go to a funeral or to church. Ask me why god cares but something about both of those occasions.

When it comes to those occasions, I suspect it’s more about women showing off their finery and competing with each other to see who looks more fabulous. Women also wear sexy stilettos at the office, but ONLY at the office as, more often than not, they sport trainers in transit there and back.

17 hours ago, Pumped said:

Umm, never see women wearing these, outside of a stripper bar? 

I see women wearing similar shoes fairly often, with a tasteful dress. My wife has similar shes she will wear out on a date, and she is a 58 year old mom. Your comment seems narrow minded.

 

I guess I don’t get out all that often, despite the city I live in (and I never hang out at bars, stripper or otherwise), but I rarely, if ever see women wearing such shoes. Perhaps I am narrow minded, god knows I’ve been called worse things, but such shoes have NEVER appealed to me, neither in terms of style, function or comfort.

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Perhaps I’m an outlier, but I’ve never been at all interested in the fetish angle when it comes to high heels. Perhaps I’m kidding myself in that regard since I own thigh high boots which could be seen as, well, kinky to some, but that’s as far as I go, otherwise, I’m perfectly content with wearing boring, sedate, low heels. As I’ve stated elsewhere, I’m all about the complete outfit which I wear n public, and that doesn’t call for fetish heels.

5 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Did quick Google search for "heels for men".  The first page brought up the Zappos link.  The second photo is the corresponding Zappos page.

I'm curious. Why did "men's heels" in that link equate to ridiculous platform "eff me" heels, none of which I would wear even in private, never mind in public? Where are the more sedate and tasteful shoes that don't look like junk strippers or streetwalkers would parade around in? Perhaps this is just me, but I see that as a cynical stereotype that doesn't help our small heeling community.

6 hours ago, SF said:

Jeff,  I like your opening line.  Simple and to the point.  I admire your "courage" and tenacity to do what you enjoy, go public in women's dresses as a guy.  Plus you look fine doing it.  I have thought about giving it a try, but not certain that I could pull it off.  Maybe someday, for now I will just stick to wearing heels (in public !!) wow - what a thought.  

Take care, nice post....    sf

Thanks for the kind words. The first sentence should always be an attention getter, and that was my goal. Meanwhile, I’ve said this before in my thread, and it bears repeating, wearing dresses (or skirts) isn’t for every man, I neither encourage or discourage others here from following in my footsteps, this is a journey I’ve undertaken by myself, I cannot expect others to do as I’ve done, that choice is wholly up to the individual. I’ve derived a special enjoyment from fashion freestyling, but I can’t say if others would feel likewise.

5 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Reading the title made me feel like I was in High School AP English class again. Glad you are satisfied with your style evolution!

Glad you were able to experience a memory. And yes, I’m very happy with my evolution. There is no turning back from the course I’ve taken as a freestyler, nor would I even think about such a thing.

I am a man. And I wear dresses. Nothing more complicated than that.

When I began my journey as a fashion freestyler, I’ll admit that dresses were at the bottom of my wardrobe totem pole, mostly because I didn’t quite feel comfortable wearing them in public like I had skirts, and, at the time, I was fine with that. From 2011 when I donned a dress for the first time through 2016, I only wore them seven times compared to 209 outings in skirts, but, as I grew more comfortable in dresses, I began wearing them more, 2017 marked the first year of double digit outings with 10, followed by 27 in 2018, and so far in 2019, I’m at eleven and counting, and, as a result, my mindset about what I chose to wear on jaunts slowly began changing. Just as I evolved from jeans to skirts, finding the latter more enjoyable to wear, I’ve slowly come to prefer dresses to skirts, when I plan for an outing these days, I often choose a dress first, it’s a ridiculously uncomplicated garment, you don’t have to rack your brain worrying about pairing the right top with a skirt, you just slip into a dress, put on shoes and go, easy as that. What could be simpler?

I don’t at all hide or mask that I’m a man in a dress. Sure, I augment that garment with high heeled shoes (though not always), jewelry, handbags, even the occasional dalliance with lipstick, but that’s as far as I go, I’m all about the garment first and foremost which is at the center of my current existence as a fashion freestyler. I’ve said more than a few times, and I believe wholeheartedly that I look better in women’s clothes than I do men’s, and I go to great lengths to look my very best in the former while it’s often a struggle to care how I appear in the latter. When I don a dress and see myself in the mirror, I never fail to like how I look which, in my mind, is a look that’s perfectly natural, like I’ve been wearing dresses all my life instead of just the last few years. Staring at my reflection, I see a man who’s totally comfortable and at ease defying gender norms when it comes to what men should or shouldn’t wear, if anything, being a man who wears dresses in public as a man displays a special brand of machismo, after all, it takes colossal balls for a guy to parade around in the open in a dress, and make it look like it’s no big deal to boot.

I’ve said numerous times that the final stage in my evolution as a fashion freestyler would be to one day completely abandon my skirts and elevate to wearing dresses full time on my outings, hell, I even long to wear an evening gown to some fancy social function and turn heads with my style and boldness, that would be downright awesome! With each new adventure, the pull of the dress grows stronger and more irresistible, however, I’m not forcing things, preferring to let that last stage come in its own good time so I can fully enjoy the experience. But, it will come, of that, I have absolutely no doubt, and when it does come, my journey as a freestyler will be complete. Short and sweet, I am the man in the dress, and I am VERY proud of that title, for it is who I ultimately am in this world.

It's kinda ironic that I've been less about heels of late. Rare are the times these days when I wear anything higher than three or four inches while I've come to love lower heights and even flats. For me, it's all about the complete outfit, and what I wear doesn't always require or need high heels, the shoes are no longer the be all and end all, just an accessory that finishes an outfit, and that's perfectly fine by me.

WOW! That's quite the collection you have there! Impressive!

Black

Another new purchase from Payless as really cute shoes don't have to have or need heels. Case in point, the "Corey" flats featuring a patent toe cap with a snazzy buckle and a patent section on the back as you can see below. I wore the shoes on an outing yesterday and they were quite comfortable and easy to walk in. Most enjoyable!

8 hours ago, jeremy1986 said:

Hehe...   a little high for me too, but again, It should be ok because of the platform. I think I am just out of practice!  

I’ve never worn anything higher than five inches, and I haven’t done that in years now. These days, it’s rare when I wear four inchers, and that’s fine by me.

Interesting shoes there, but six inches is way too high for me. I’d come down with vertigo if I wore heels THAT high!  

6 hours ago, SF said:

Jeff, Just now saw this post, I had already commented about your new sandals over at your "jaunt" thread.  Cool sandals!!  I also have two pair of the Paige wedgies and really like them.  Very stylish and comfortable.  Plus the lower heel (2in+) does not make me look like a huge monster walking down the street!!  ha ha.....   The wife even likes them, wanted to get her a pair but she's not into ankle strap shoes.  Have fun in your new sandals...   sf

Thanks for the kind words, I certainly enjoyed the new shoes. Funny thing, once upon a time, I didn’t at all like sandals, now they’re practically all I wear during spring and summer, from flats to heels, and I have both, sandals are awesome!

My latest purchase from Payless as I'm taking full advantage of their going out of sale. These shoes are the "Paige" sandals in white with 2 1/2 inch wedge heels, they caught my eye because I found them to be cute, and were 50 percent off at just $18 bucks, after taking them on my 500th jaunt today, the shoes were easy to wear and comfortable. By the by, I liked the sandals so much, I bought a pair in black. I'll show them off at my earliest opportunity.

3 hours ago, p1ng74 said:

Since social media was brought up, I picked a somewhat edgy photo of my heels and posted it up on r/malefashion to see what would happen:

I think I stirred the pot.  I’ll keep posting and see what happens...

Pretty darn impressive! Great job, my friend!

Bought these shoes at Payless two weeks ago, the "Bree" flat in white. Sure, the chain is going out of business, but they're still selling shoes, in most cases, at discounts as high as 40 percent, and I found these to have been cute, so much that I bought a pair in black, spending a hair under thirty bucks for both. I wore the shoes on a jaunt yesterday, they were supremely comfortable and easy to wear, I'll be putting these shoes in my summertime outing rotation.

22 hours ago, p1ng74 said:

This is what was featured at the entrance to the men’s side of Nordstrom tonight:

I realize these aren’t exactly high heels, but that is more of a heel than what just about every man wears these days.  If I even see one man wearing these boots on the street, I would say there might be a possible trend towards more men in heels.

Small steps to be sure, but those steps are being made I feel.

14 hours ago, Mr. X said:

Here is my latest acquisition.  I picked these up in a thrift store for $15.  They are black snakeskin pumps with a heel measuring just over 4 inches.  The brand is Sam and Libby.  They are extremely comfortable to wear.  And they are in excellent condition.  I can see these being my go to heels.  they will get a lot of use.

Damn! Those shoes ARE gorgeous! I hope you enjoy them!

Hmm! Interesting. While Gucci is WELL above what I can afford, I'm glad the company has taken such a bold step.

Oh, myyyyyyyyy! That's quite a terrific outfit! Well done!

Good to see you back in this neighborhood, Arctic! I hope all is well!

On 5/14/2019 at 11:10 PM, Puffer said:

'The Sun' on 9 May ran a feature about one of its reporters dressing to emulate the 'Harry Styles' look; see here:   https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/9033421/man-tries-harry-styles-met-look-london/   For those who can't see the article, I attach one pic below

He doesn't look too bad imho, although the mismatched nail varnish does him few favours.   The boots have quite a modest cuban heel and look perfectly good for male street wear.   The overall reaction (if any) from onlookers as he went around in London seemed generally positive.

That was a cool article, and a nice look, even if that guy was wearing the darker version of Seinfeld's legendary pirate shirt!