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"I don't give a damn if I draw attention to myself, the action of wearing women's shoes alone is enough to do that, regardless of if they're noisy stilettos or near silent espadrilles." Well said, JeffB. My sentiments exactly. And, I also "live" for the sound of high heels on solid surfaces.

Hi Dawn! The question wondering if anyone has head from you lately has been asked. It's distressing to hear of Mickey68's accident and encouraging to learn that she continues to improve. It won't be long before your life returns to "normal."

Pumps, I like the red outfit the best. The detail work on the toes of the gray/black pair look a little to "busy" for my taste. Have you ever worn the red pair out and about in public? By the way, have you ever crossed paths with Trolldeg? It appears to me that you two might have something in common -- both having nice collections of heels.

Because AC/DC kick ass.

But, who will remember them when you're 83?

why would you want a tattoo like that?

I guess the only alternative you have at this point is to just put your heels on and wear them without saying anything to anyone. After the people in your life get used to seeing you in heels, their only alternative will be to accept you wearing them or thinking that you're not quite in your right mind -- which, isn't all bad. Just wear them and everything will work out.

I can handle those snakeskin pumps

Let's talk about the shoes. Any reaction from your co-workers? (They are obviously female loafer style shoes)

No one can ever come close to equalling a sandwich from a New York Jewish Delicatesseni. There used to be a Deli directly across from Pen Station that made the most awesome Hot Pastrami sandwich ever known to man. My mouth is watering just thinking about it.

Try Jenny's high heel chat room at http://www.spinchat.com/ It's been there for almost 10 years.

(Ok, you guys. Be Aware! Your's is on it's way!)

Subject: Very disturbing!

Speaking of hospital sessions, has anyone heard from DawnHH lately? Have been wondering how he is getting along.

Now, these (the brown suede) I can handle.

http://www.hhplace.org/discuss/your_favourite_shoe_pictures/8375-dark_brown_suede.html#post133538

Hm, I see...........

Don't know though. Like I said, she's one not to be taken lightly. She will personally find an excuse for everything, even if it means lying to herself, so I'm a try this, then I'll keep posted with results later

It's apparent that there isn't much you can do to explain your wearing "girls shoes" to your mother. I was in a similar situation. The way I handled it was to just put my heels on and wear them normally and let my mother criticize me until she reached a point where she finally accepted that I was going to wear them regardless of what she thought of it.

While I she never did (still doesn't) fully approve.....she did get to a point where she would talk about shoes with me.

I believe it helped a lot to wear styles that weren't so obviously feminine...

like penny loafer styles with 2½" or 3" block or wedge style heels when out in public (I still do)...black or brown..and leave the stiletto heels and strappy sandals for wearing around the house.

they really look uncomfortable to me.

Don't bother me none!

That style is all over ebay. not hard to find. and, I agree. They're great shoes. I really like the style.

Has anyone heard anything from DawnHH lately?

Hummmmm! Time to vote for the talent and not (regardless of) nationalistic origin.

Wow! So interesting and informative!

Try http://www.sexyshoes.com They sell most of their styles in size 13.

http://www.tallgirls.co.uk/includes/supplyimage.cfm?StockID=55&ImageType=-4&ImageID=1684

Nice shoes. I have several pair similar to these. This is the style I routinely wear out and about. 3" heel is most comfortable and hardly noticeable. And, to date, I've never had a bad experience in the 10 years or so that I've been heeling openly. I also have a couple of pair with wedge heels.

I like the pair of blade heel court shoes. Are they just for wearing around your house or do you plan to wear them out in public?

Thanks for the information. Wild Pair. My all time favorites. I still have four or five pair of their classic pumps in my collection that I purchased back in the late 70's. Black, white & red. Happy to learn Wild Pair might be resurrected.

Amongst traditional thinking parents (people), males wearing any item of female clothing isn't considered "manly." Therefore, your mother is perhaps concerned that you will not live up to currently accepted "societial norms" and become an object of disparagement within the family and neighborhood, reflecting, in her mind, her failure to teach you the "proper" mannerisms relating to to male behavior. What is totally not understood is that, in most of our cases, we can wear high heels and still be 100% male in all other aspects. Problem is that we either can't adequately explain our love of heels, in the context that will clearly point out this fact, or that the person (people) we're trying to tell about our our wearing women's shoes isn't prepared to accept our (any) explanation. I believe you did the right thing telling your mother about your high heels. And while you really wanted a different reaction, I suspect she reacted in precisely the way you thought she would. Now, the process of her understanding and acceptance can begin and, with time, she just might see that you are, after all is said and done, just another complete male that happens to wear high heels. You can wear your heels in secret, when ever the chance to occurs. Or, you can buy a pair of lower, chunky heel loafers and wear them openly around the house. The heels really don't have to be 4" or higher, they can be 2½" or 3" heels and not appear so femine. Perhaps, after a while, your mother will become acustom to seeing you wearing them and she will realize that her original "objections" are invalid because all other aspects of your behavior will be properly "male."