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JNR

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  1. Pumps, I like the red outfit the best. The detail work on the toes of the gray/black pair look a little to "busy" for my taste. Have you ever worn the red pair out and about in public? By the way, have you ever crossed paths with Trolldeg? It appears to me that you two might have something in common -- both having nice collections of heels.

  2. I guess the only alternative you have at this point is to just put your heels on and wear them without saying anything to anyone. After the people in your life get used to seeing you in heels, their only alternative will be to accept you wearing them or thinking that you're not quite in your right mind -- which, isn't all bad. Just wear them and everything will work out.

  3. (Ok, you guys. Be Aware! Your's is on it's way!)

    Subject:
    Very disturbing!





    "Peaceful" Muslim Demonstration in London


    Muslims have stated that England will be the first country they take over!

    These are pictures not shown on American TV or in American Newspapers (as they ! might help Bush's war on terror), but were forwarded to me by a Canadian friend who thought Americans ought to know!
    These pictures are of Muslims marching through the streets of London during their recent "Religion of Peace Demonstration."








    Why would anyone think
    that we should be at war
    with such nice, peaceful Muslims!
    Americans need to Know -
    You need to forward this one!
  4. Hm, I see...........

    Don't know though. Like I said, she's one not to be taken lightly. She will personally find an excuse for everything, even if it means lying to herself, so I'm a try this, then I'll keep posted with results later

    It's apparent that there isn't much you can do to explain your wearing "girls shoes" to your mother. I was in a similar situation. The way I handled it was to just put my heels on and wear them normally and let my mother criticize me until she reached a point where she finally accepted that I was going to wear them regardless of what she thought of it.

    While I she never did (still doesn't) fully approve.....she did get to a point where she would talk about shoes with me.

    I believe it helped a lot to wear styles that weren't so obviously feminine...

    like penny loafer styles with 2½" or 3" block or wedge style heels when out in public (I still do)...black or brown..and leave the stiletto heels and strappy sandals for wearing around the house.

  5. Amongst traditional thinking parents (people), males wearing any item of female clothing isn't considered "manly." Therefore, your mother is perhaps concerned that you will not live up to currently accepted "societial norms" and become an object of disparagement within the family and neighborhood, reflecting, in her mind, her failure to teach you the "proper" mannerisms relating to to male behavior. What is totally not understood is that, in most of our cases, we can wear high heels and still be 100% male in all other aspects. Problem is that we either can't adequately explain our love of heels, in the context that will clearly point out this fact, or that the person (people) we're trying to tell about our our wearing women's shoes isn't prepared to accept our (any) explanation. I believe you did the right thing telling your mother about your high heels. And while you really wanted a different reaction, I suspect she reacted in precisely the way you thought she would. Now, the process of her understanding and acceptance can begin and, with time, she just might see that you are, after all is said and done, just another complete male that happens to wear high heels. You can wear your heels in secret, when ever the chance to occurs. Or, you can buy a pair of lower, chunky heel loafers and wear them openly around the house. The heels really don't have to be 4" or higher, they can be 2½" or 3" heels and not appear so femine. Perhaps, after a while, your mother will become acustom to seeing you wearing them and she will realize that her original "objections" are invalid because all other aspects of your behavior will be properly "male."

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