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Be honest, but also be ready to make a choice, as some women may present you with an ultimatum, that either the heels go or they'll go. After 19 years, I'd recommend chucking the inconsequential pieces of leather, wood, and plastic, rather than the long-term loyal companion and mother of one's children.

Straight to the Hart! Never have truer words been written! Once you tell her, especially if she doesn't react positively, your entire relationship will be forever changed. She will neve look at you in the same light again.

Sexyshoes has some styles available up to US womans size 15. Their popular model 4211, for instance.

Why? (do you have to take them off at bedtime)

I thought LSB went out of business...

How about trying Peachies? (Heelfan's daughter.)

"it should have been made known to your wife 19 years ago when she had a 'reasonable' opportunity to make a very 'personal' decision about what she wanted in 'her' life. She has been denied a significant portion of that opportunity." WheW!! Tough words that I'm sure no one here really wants to hear. But, no truer words have ever been written. (what I was trying to say in my post of Oct. 28th). While it might be too late for most of our members to take this advice, those heel wearing male members that aren't married yet should follow it.

Great picture, Tracy. By the way, isn't your husband, Geoff, also a member here?

Mickey, how about an up-date on Dawn's recovery?

you should try http:/www.sexyshoes.com they have a nice selection of larger size shoes, Size 12 is common and some styles even are as large as 14?

Once, a long time ago (10 years?), I saw a news report on CBS 60 Minutes television news program about a town in Indiana (USA) where everyone was dressed opposit from their birth sex. Every woman in town was a man dressed as a woman. Every man, a woman dressed as a man. I don't remember the name of the community or exactly where it was in Indiana. But, it sure got my attention as all the "men" were handsome and women exceptionally good looking. Notworthy in the report was the fact that everyone carried on their normal routine, work and social interaction with each other and with the tourists that came to town to witness the unusual life style. I know we've some members that live in Indiana. Perhaps one of them might know something about this place.

Great synopsis. Concisely put: -- Always tell your girl friend about your heels when it appears the relationship is going to advance beyond the "just friends" stage. -- Give her the opportunity to evaluate your character based on your total personality. -- Never give her the opportunit to evaluate your faithfulness - especially to the point of questioning "what else is he hiding from me?" -- Never promise to quit wearing your heels. You won't be able to. Ever. Some men have negotiated a solution that satisfies both parties -- like him (you) never wearing their heels in front of her. -- Since she's your (prospective) life mate, you know her better than anyone else. Analyze what you believe her reaction will be and then decide weather to tell her or not. 8 out of 10 women will react negatively to any character trait that might indicate her "man" is anything less than totally "male." Some, after careful thought, will reach the conclusion that your obsession is harmless. Others, will never accept it. And, keep in mind that such a revelation has driven more than one woman to see a divorce. -- In the final analyse, it's your decision. Only you have the knowledge of how she is likely to react. Above all, be totally honest with yourself. Don't let the idea that "if you tell her, she will accept it," just because you want her to, cause you to do something foolish. The best course, in my opinion, is to always tell any prospective mate before making a commitment. Give her the opportunity to say no before it is too late and both parties -- pluse any children that might come along -- are harmed beyond relief.

Great looking boots. Shouldn't have any problems wearing them openly on the streets of any city. Do they have a Payless style name or model number? And, are they part of Payless' new fall/winter collection?

now, that's a heel meet.

hmm, who turned over that rock?

You guys are way to liberal for my taste. But, that's the wonderful thing about a free society. You raise your children the way you want to and I'll raise mine my way. However, never forget that parents are responsible for their childrens actions.......until they reach the age of majority. Then, although you'll never stop being their parents, they're responsible for their actions.

Thanks, Shoeiee! You've said it all. And, it couldn't have been said any better. Un-monitored children are directionless and will seek the path of least resistance down life's road. It is up to parents to teach their children that actions have consequences. It is their responsibility to see that their offspring are prepared to enter the adult world as productive, law-abiding citizens. Parents that insist on giving their children totally, non-intrusive, privacy will be completely unaware of any detrimental activities their children might be engaged in. Chances are they'll awaken one day and be dumbfounded to find there offspring in jail, pregnant, in the hospital, or otherwise unprepared in many other life altering ways to take their place in modern society.

Should have told her 20 years ago.

My only comment is: Neither one of you guys should ever plan on living in my house, then.

Thanks for your thoughtful reply, Lindsay. Like some of your other comments, you've reacated strictly from an emotional point of view. There isn't any such thing as a "nosey parent" when it comes to disciplining children. And, bye the way, this issue isn't about respecat. It's entirely about "as long as you're living under my roof, the only "rights" you have are the ones I give you. And. if you don't like my rules, get your own place.

You can disagree. I said it was my opinion.........

IMHO, 30 years old is way to old to live with one's parents -- unless there are "special" circumstances unrelated to finances. The unwritten rule about children living with parents, no matter what age, is that they have no privacy while under their parent's roof. Whatever rules parents establish are the rules you live by. To angerly react :mad:to your mother going through your things isn't proper behavior. If you demand total privacy, get your own place where tenant-landloard laws apply. Otherwise, cool it.

Wow!!! That one's a "keeper" in more ways than just looks.

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