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Walking in heels. Something I never thought about until the first time I wore them in front of my wife. She was just my girlfriend at the time but we had been dating for several months. I met her on our first day at college. We hit it off from the first moment we met and when it became apparent that we were going to be more than boyfriend and girlfriend, I decided that it was time I told her about my life long love of wearing heels so that if she had a problem with that part of my personality, she could call it quits before we became to involved. One evening coming home after nice dinner at a good restaurant, I decided to bring the subject up. I thoroughly explained my situation along with a complete history description. I even told her that I owned several pairs that I would occasionally wear around my room where I was living. She told me that she had thought there was something unusual about my choice of footwear because my shoes, even though they could be worn by a man, were of styles that could be found in the women’s section of any shoe store. After a lengthy discussion, we decided that the following day I would bring a pair of my heels over to her place and show them to her. I picked her up the next afternoon and we drove to an excluded place out in the country. I chose a great pair of black patent pumps with 5” heels that I had owned for a couple of years, that were very comfortable and I could walk for miles while wearing them without discomfort. I changed into my pumps and we got out of the car and started walking down the road. While we were walking along, I explained that I realized that this desire was unusual and that over the years I had tried my best to stop. But after not wearing them for several weeks, my attitude became troubling and the desire so strong that I couldn’t help but start wearing them. So I decided since I couldn’t stop l would never try to quit wearing them again. Her reaction was one of curiosity. She asked many questions about my parents reaction and my experiences wearing heels in public, One of her comments was how surprised she was that I could walk so well without difficulty while wearing heels as high as these. How long did it take me to learn to walk in them? I replied that I had been wearing heels since before I was two years old while playing in my mother’s clothes closet. So, wondering about how I learned how to walk in heels was something that I had never thought about. Walking in heels was as natural to me as going barefoot. We walked back to the car and drove home. As she was getting out at her place, she said that I had taken her completely by surprise springing this upon her the way I did and that she would have to think about it before she could decide how it would effect us. She asked me not to call her for awhile. She said that she would call me when she sorted things out and had some idea how to deal with it.

Ah, a subject near and dear to my heart, and one which I have probably spent way too much time contemplating. Aside from a few fetish people, the most recent example being the "leaner" guy who posted elsewhere on this forum, I think we can all agree that the ideal situation is to appear as though walking in heels is completely effortless. I do agree that there are a ton of fairly useless videos out there, and a few that actually give horrible advice. As you have surely discovered, there are a few exponents out there who still advise walking toe-to-heel, something I defy somebody to actually accomplish. We'll make exceptions for ballerinas and professional Latin dancers, but it's a patently ridiculous assertion that anybody should ever walk this way. Nobody walks that way, even in bare feet. That being said, one definitely does not want to strike the ground aggressively with the heel, it is there to act as a stabilizer for just an instant until the ball of the foot can contact the ground. Ignore this advice at your peril! Don't ask me how I know. So it all comes down to what you really want to accomplish with your walk. It has been the subject of much debate just exactly how much femininity, if any, that a guy needs to emulate while walking in heels. I don't mind striving toward the more feminine looking walk, but more important to me is attempting to minimize my natural bowleggedness. Therefore, I spend a lot of effort trying to walk with my knees together, something that is not traditionally natural for me. This becomes more and more difficult the steeper you go, for reasons I cannot really explain. I see I have STILL not answered your question, and I cannot do so at this time, as I have run out of time. I gotta go to work. If there is still interest in the next couple of days, I will continue.

Here's a little outfit I put together to run some errands yesterday when I got to feeling a little better.

Yesterday's church OOTW. Less than special, but you can't hit a home run every time at bat. Besides, I'm kind of tired of winning.

Hi all, After many many, many years of just reading, I feel I owe it to you all to finally introduce myself. I first stumbled into the high-heel topic as a teenager, but at the time still from an "onlooking" and not "self-wearing" perspective. About 12 / 13 years ago I told my then-girlfriend that I wanted to try out some wildly-ambitious ballet boots, like the ones I had just bought her. That didn't exactly go over well, but eventually she said why not. We still have a pair each, but the ambitions have normalized over time, lol. Over the course of time we added more and more "wearable" heels to the collection, and have pushed the boundaries of where and when to wear them. Today, we're happily married for 9 years and have a decent variety of matching options from a wide variety of brands. I look forward to sharing some of our adventures and interacting with you guys, who unknowingly gave me so much encouragement for all these years. Best regards, Clarity

It's inspiring to see how far you pushed it, for sure. Due to my position at work I still find it challenging to wear heels anywhere near as often as I'd like to, but I think that's more on me than her. (Despite all the D&I statements we make, I'd be concerned about the real world professional consequences. We're pushing the boundaries a little bit when we're going places around town where the risk is lower to run into employees, but I don't know how it would actually pan out if I / we did.) At least these days we're traveling a fair bit, so when ever we're out of town we are able to make use of our many mostly matching pairs and enjoy them together instead of me watching her. Remind me, does your wife wear any - elevated or not - footwear you can appreciate, or do you need to compensate for both of you at all times in that department?