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Today I wore my Nine West suede knee highs boots with pointy toes to work. One of the administrators ask me about how to buy boots. She has seen some 'but they were expensive". Yeah good suede boots cost money. This is the third time she has ask about shopping, I think she wants to go shoe (boot) shopping with me....LOL

And she is sooo right,"nice get nice" on the plane for sure! I was always very complimentary to youngsters who were polite and well behaved also. I would compliment them and the parents, letting them know they were doing a great job with their kids.... This was so rare, that I made time to say thankyou. I tried not to lose sight of the fact that flying is indeed hell, especially on our airline. Deregulation was the beginning of the downward spiral for US domestic carriers indeed. I'm not trying to excuse the horrible experience that air travel is today, just explain it... The "interweb" put the final nails in the coffin for sure. My apologies to all air travelers indeed!

I totally agree with you. And have a lot of sympathy with air crews who have to deal with all this every day, all day. I remember being on a long flight (I forget where) and wanted another drink. The stewardess came by and remembered what it was I had had earlier. I complimented her on her great memory and she smiled sadly and said she remembered the ones who say please and thank you.

Judging others based on silly things like wardrobe/dress is wrong for sure, but it is human nature unfortunately....Flying today is hell for sure, too many poor folks stuck jammed together in a super tight/uncomfortable space. It is easy for me to understand how some otherwise nice folks might "lose it" after a fun day at the airport! When I encountered an angry passenger, it was usually best to just "leave them alone", they will calm down. Oftentimes engaging with them makes things worse. They have had a bad day, have been mistreated by the airlines, stuck in weather delays/equipment issues, etc... Probably already missed the engagement/event they were headed for. Where I have always had an issue is selfishness, lack of consideration for others. Getting onboard a flight, thinking the seas are going to part for your "special needs"/lack of planning/wanting extras for nothing is not going to look good. There are too many people stuck on this packed flight, all experiencing the same lousy conditions/service etc. I get it, flying is hell these days.. The seats are way too small and uncomfortable, jammed too close together, it is horrible. But, we are all stuck in the same long tube, and I have little tolerance for those who refuse to consider the needs/rights of others, It is just not "all about you". Getting on an airplane unbathed, in dirty smelly clothes, is just inexcusable. Needless to say, I do understand that there are those that have some issues, regardless of how many showers they might take beforehand. I do understand that. But, getting on a plane when you are clearly much larger than a cramped coach seat can acommodate is just plain inconsiderate. What about the person stuck sitting next to you? There comes a point where you need to purchase two seats. Southwest "used to have a reasonable policy". Prior to boarding, they would bring you down to the plane to see if you could sit in the seat with the arm rest down without taking up space in the seat next to you. If not, you were required to buy another seat...But, if the flight went out with open seats, you were refunded afterwards...Very fair indeed. If I was unfortunate enough to have issues that made it tough to sit in one seat, I would buy two seats, no one would have to ask me to do so. I surely would not want to be humiliated trying to jam into a seat, knowing full well that I was taking up space in the other person's seating area as well Everyone is so afraid of getting sued, discrimination, etc. I get it..But, all too often, others needs/rights/considerations are ignored in favor of not getting sued/labeled/accused/filmed/selfied, etc. OK, enough of my ranting, sorry. Don

There’s no Christian denomination of which I am aware that sanctions wearing hats in church - by men at least. Women are certainly excused their Easter bonnets. The headgear you mention being worn in a synagogue is almost certainly not a baseball cap - a yarmulke, I believe, is what is worn. i have been in mosques in Africa, the Near East and Indonesia and while I certainly had to remove my shoes, I was never asked to don any headgear. And I can’t imagine them specifying baseball caps. there is an amusing scene in that mobster TV show, The Sopranos, where some young guy is wearing a baseball cap in a nice restaurant where Tony Soprano is having dinner. Tony has to straighten him out …

Depends on your particular choice of deity. In a mosque it is customary for men to cover their heads and more or less compulsory for women. In a synagogue head coverings are compulsory for men and often customary for women. I have no idea about other religions. I think there is some variation in custom between different christian sects.

If the heels were size 12 that might be a clue! 😊

Wearing hats indoors in some instances is all right - in public places such as railway stations and airports etc. Wearing hats in church or offices is really not appropriate. I take your point that having the chap show up in church at all is a good thing, and he shouldn’t be dissuaded but if he continues to show up wearing a hat throughout the service, perhaps somebody could discretely let him in on the rule of etiquette. He may not even know.

Myself, I do not care what people wear for the most part. I say "most part" because if I am in a bad part of town, and the only other person on the street is wearing all black, with a hoodie and it drawn over their heads, yes, I'm flipping my firearm off safety. That is not judging, but being situationally aware and prepared. If nothing happens, so be it, but how a person is dressed can be indicative of future behavior! But I have seen the opposite. Some of it is region and certain society, but I remember being in church and a some were upset that this guy came in and did not remove his ball cap. They seemed surprised, and I was like, "just be glad the guy came. who cares that he wore a hat through the whole service". But just so everyone knows, if we are going to talk politics, I won't be on this forum at all. There are plenty of forums where people can do that without stating rhetoric on her no matter what side their perspective is from. I have not read a newspaper in a decade, and chose to read books instead of watching television for the past seven years, and generally like to be blissfully unaware of things I cannot change.

While I know we are not supposed to judge others, myself I see it as inevitable and more so, is even logical to do. It is how we are wired to operate. We see things, we experience things and then we remember patterns. That can be both good and bad. On a plane which is the exact same situation repeated and repeated again, with clothes people are wearing being the only thing that really changes, oh for sure you are going to make associations with behaviors and how people are dressed. As a writer it can be fun to choose to work with these associations or write the opposing for contrast in my characters. For example, if it’s a minor character and my novel is already approaching the word limit, I might just have the typical alpha male so I do not have to describe the character as much and focus on the plot because people have experienced that combination a lot in life. But the plot might alternatively be about a nurse who kills patients by giving them lethal injections and thus also kills the stereotypical a “nurse is always caring” rationale. Part of that can be what the characters are wearing too. I once wrote a mystery where the killer walked through blood because she was wearing high heels and left triangular prints behind. It ended up being a false clue though because while seemingly it was the suspect that always wore high heels all through the novel, it was actually the hipster who typical wore sandals who did the murder. She only wore heels that night because she was going out on a dinner-date with her husband and was uncharacteristically dressed. But I could have easily changed the gender... what detective would ever think the killer was a MAN wearing high heels?

Offer to go boot shopping with her!

Totally understandable for sure. But I'll bet you didn't show up for your originally scheduled flight wearing "pok e man" pajamas, and scraggly flip flops showing off toes/feet that should be kept inside shoes at all times! Flying can definitely be HELL, I do understand that!

You want to see me at my worst? Force me to go to that damn grocery store! I hate that place with every fiber of my being!

Yes Zelenskyy was set up. That was deliberate. Nobody said a word about Elon Musk showing up to a cabinet meeting in a T-shirt and wearing a baseball cap! Zelenskyy dresses as he does for a very specific and symbolic purpose as anyone knows who’s read a newspaper in the past three years. Musk wore what he wore because he is a boor - note the spelling, I am not referring to his being South African I should add that I’m not trying to be political here, just making observations on fashion rules and hypocrisy. All other things being equal, the fact that someone - anyone - does not conform by wearing a suit should not be an issue. wearing a baseball cap (indoors!) and T-shirt to a cabinet meeting is disrespectful. That does not even make the grade as “smart casual”