Richard-
I just want to compliment you on accomplishing more in one year than I have accomplished in over ten years. You really look great buddy. I too, love to talk heels with other guys/gals. And, it is just how you put it: "it takes plenty of courage and confidence to wear outfits that other guys only dream of secretly". You have taken good care of your body and look great in all your outfits, you deserve the pleasure of wearing them for the rest of the world to enjoy, if they want to. If they don't, who cares! I can honestly say, that I have reached that same level of confidence while wearing my boots. I know that other guys do notice, and are envious, even though they would never admit it. I used to be somewhat of "a deer in the headlights" when I would get the rare compliment, but now I take the time to thank whoever it is and continue the conversation if they want to.
You are so fortunate that has a loving wife that is secure in your relationship and wants you to be happy. Take special care of her for sure! I wish your wife could talk with my better half for sure! My love of boots has always been a thorn in our relationship, and I understand, to a point. But, a little acceptance would go a long way for sure. We both know my love of boots is not going away.
I work for the airlines and sometimes layover in downtown Chicago, or near ORD. Always looking for heel guys to hang out with. All the best. Don