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Wear then with a clip-on polyester trout necktie to complete the look

What makes these flip flops that are fish-shaped even worse is the person wearing tree shaped socks with them? (I think they missed the school lesson on grouping like things).

I think confidence, in no matter what social norm you are defying; becomes emboldened on an increasing trend because freedom is scary. Wearing high heels, wearing leggings, wearing skirts and dresses all set boundaries… yes set because it sets the boundary further back then what people expect. It is further back than what people’s own boundaries are and says, “for me, it is fine for men to wear these things”. That challenge to their boundary is infuriating, but it brings on this huge question; What are you going to do about it?” For some of us we quickly learn… NOTHING. People do nothing. Most we find… just accept it. The worst offenders though… yep, they are all just talk. Big deal... So then you realize, “if they are all just talk about wearing high heels, then most others things they will be all talk about as well”. And they will. Some of this knowledge naturally comes as we age, but for those who have taken bolder steps, quickly learn they can be bold in a lot more things. Sadly, for some; when we set boundaries… meaning we push them back and include more areas than most would like wearing high heels, it becomes a mirror because they realize they cannot confront their own fears. Deep down inside they want the confidence that many of us have, but just cannot find it in themselves to just not care what others in society think or say about them. That is downright angering to them because they are frustrated with themselves. I set some boundaries this week and the result was predictable but sad. A real estate agent wanted me to extend the contract or they would level a $1000 service fee on me. I said no. No extension and I am not paying your fee because that is extorsion. They replied they worked hard, to which I said, “real estate is a service-based industry and is results based, not work based”. They countered that I was bullying them, but the truth was I countered in a way they did not expect, nor could they argue against it. And that is what you get when you set boundaries: anger. They claim only 5% of people have this level of confidence, but its because we are two steps ahead of people. I knew I did not need to pay that $1000 BS fee because to clear up the issue would mean going to the real estate commission... a ding on their license to sell property. $1000 is not worth it for them. Just as people who wear high heels know, no one is going to do anything about them wearing high heels...even in church. News flash: there is no consequences for defying most societal norms other then getting snide comments that are meaningless. Freedom is always great for any person, but whether extending freedom of speech, freedom of dress, or even freedom of wearing whatever shoes you want: it becomes very scary to other people. They are not mad that you are embolden enough to wear high heels in public; they are mad because they are scared to go against social norms themselves.

Those are very pretty heels! I took a picture of me standing at the urinal in heels. At the restaurant a little girl said:"Mommy, he is wearing girl shoes." It was a Walk A Mile In Her Shoes event. If you really want to feel you are getting away with something do one of those walks.

My wife and I go dancing (not ballroom) and an older woman wears some 2 & 1/2 " heels with beautiful points. I just couldn't take my eyes off of them. The light coming in the window makes one side glow to define the beautiful shape. Somehow I figured out the brand and style name. Now there is a pair in my closet in my size. Sweet little silver accent above the heel too.

I have bought shoes from China twice. I'll quote the raven, NEVERMORE. There is a shoe company probably in Italy that are very pretty but the point is way too long. The quality of the leather is perfect.

I damaged my left foot 40 years ago so the shape of it stretches that shoe out a bit. I was trying to please my first wife and ran my foot into the coffee table. 1/4" to the right and it would be OK. When I slip on my right shoe it sends up a feeling that is wonderful all the way up.

The last funeral service I went to provided me with a special treat. As I walked in the woman ahead of me was wearing perfect boots. First I want to say that no one is pickier but me on a shoe design. The point, the heel, the leather were perfection. The heel shape was the perfect old fashioned graceful shape instead of the new straight peg. I'm guessing they cost several hundreds. She walked in them like they were slippers. I'd paid to just know the name brand to just admire them on the computer. As we stood in line I just loved them.

Try looking up: Shoe Dazzle Just Fab Hello Stiletto

I've heard of such clubs for books, but I didn't know that these exist for shoes also, very interesting

Haven't done that yet, but I need to soon.

Good grief! How many times have you had to replace the sole/heel?

My own sense of style has gotten quite a bit more casual in the last 10 years. When I first started wearing heels in public, I felt obligated to be dressed up as a part of that look. I went through a period of wearing a lot of sport coats with button down shirts when I was outside of work. That was unusual for this town, but not rare. Remember, this was before Covid. People actually used to dress up for office jobs and maybe stop by the grocery on the way home. Were I to dress the exact same today, I would be much more of an outlier, heels or no heels. It is no wonder that my tailor friend lost her job at Mr. B's, which is a men's clothing store. I assume it still is, anyway.

And you won't. In this day and age, the video wouldn't get enough views to be searchable. Had you done a walkover, or even a cartwheel, on your way across the street, maybe. Seriously, I used to get mad when people would whip out their phones in such a way, but I'm over it.

Oh exactly! I can get pretty grubby, and that is the whole point for us. When we are not doing that, and out for dinner, groceries or church, we want to look nice. We want that separation. It really does not take that long to take a shower and then put on nice clothes and get that, "I just feel better about myself" feeling. The ironic thing is, for most things I have learned that what we think other people are thinking about us is completely wrong. They actually don't notice anything because most people are so self-absorbed in their own problems and motivations. But it is NOT that way with how you dress. People notice and often make wrong assumptions on those motivations on doing so. For my wife, she wears high heels because in her previous marriage her husband was short and if she was to wear them, she would have been taller than him so he forbid her to wear them. It is not that way with me, so she has a lot of them. In fact, at one time, she belonged to (3) shoe of the month clubs. That is where you subscribe to an online shoe-store, they look at the styles she has bought in the past and send her a new pair once a month. She has 15 days to either keep them or send them back. But now she only belongs to one as we have a much smaller house. In our old house, she had her own walk-in closet we called her "shoe barn".

Well they finally came. Great heel, loved the color, BUT they were slightly too tight at the toe box. The problem is that they are pointed toe heels and my feet aren't. I could get my my foot in, but it was just too tight and since they are synthetic I didn't think it would stretch. I had got these for many reason. I love the color. I now have several in this color range. I want a boot that I could wear when it rained. I have no desire to damage my leather or suede heels, so being synthetic was a plus. I wanted a slouch style bootie, and I have been looking for some time. This also had a feature, a full length zipper, that I wanted. And the heel was decent as well. The search goes on .........................

I stepped on the edge of a textbook and they split apart. I just love this Steve Madden wedge, and the second pair as well. At least 6 years old. Real suede, that why it has lasted the hundreds of miles it has seen. This is now my run around town doing errands pair. The other pair just got out of the box last year But she ain't dead yet!!! Its a clean disengagement, so I plan to glue it back together and get several hundred more miles out of her.

I’d say they passed away and you’re holding a seance

It's funny that I posted the comment above on the 14th. This week these shoes went on life support.

Cat, I love that royal blue ensemble. That's a favorite color of mine. Last Sunday I wore a white short skort with a royal blue sequin top and my royal blue, patent knee boots. Got several compliments on my ensemble. Even two ladies complimented me on my boots. Happy Heeling, bluejay

So true! And yes, I have quite a stride in those heels! Just to add - I have not yet found the video of me crossing the street on YouTube, Facebook, or Tik-Tok.

As an aside, as an Australian who started his journalism career in Sydney, when I saw the SMH on your post title I thought it was about something you’d read in the Sydney Morning Herald!

I suspect it all ties in. Accepting, indeed celebrating, yourself as you are is a big deal and very improving. And of course age helps too - you acquire the experience to understand what matters and what does not, and you cease to take yourself quite so seriously as you did when you were young.

For me getting dressed presentably for work also serves a very practical purpose even though my office is just my kitchen table and an open laptop. Since I work from home it is easy and tempting to slip into lazy habits and be distracted but by making the effort to change into office clothes - nothing fancy, mind you - I send a subliminal message to myself that I am no longer at home but at my office, a place of work, where things get done. One of the benefits of wearing heels is that they underscore this message. Nobody wears stilettos just to laze about at home! I put them on and not only do I feel as though I have come to the office, but they set up a jaunty creative vibe that carries me along and makes the writing go well.

I think there have been definite benefits to wearing heels that have spilled beyond improved fashion sense. I think I'm a much better foreman, a better husband, and a more focused person in general than I was 15 years ago. Whether one can attribute any of this to wearing heels as opposed to simply getting older is another question entirely.