Greetings from Norway

[Clarity]

Hi all,

After many many, many years of just reading, I feel I owe it to you all to finally introduce myself.

I first stumbled into the high-heel topic as a teenager, but at the time still from an "onlooking" and not "self-wearing" perspective. About 12 / 13 years ago I told my then-girlfriend that I wanted to try out some wildly-ambitious ballet boots, like the ones I had just bought her. That didn't exactly go over well, but eventually she said why not. We still have a pair each, but the ambitions have normalized over time, lol.

Over the course of time we added more and more "wearable" heels to the collection, and have pushed the boundaries of where and when to wear them. Today, we're happily married for 9 years and have a decent variety of matching options from a wide variety of brands. I look forward to sharing some of our adventures and interacting with you guys, who unknowingly gave me so much encouragement for all these years.

Best regards,

Clarity

[Cali]

Welcome to this site. I glad we were able to encourage you.

Cali

[Shyheels]

Welcome! You’ll find this is a very congenial place. It’s nice to have a new voice! Norway is such a beautiful place too. I was fortunate enough to spend quite a bit of time there a few years ago on an assignment - I was up in Lofoten. Great weather for wearing boots! 

[pebblesf]

Welcome, so happy you have a wife that encourages and appreciates your interest in heels...

[Clarity]

Thank you all for the warm welcome.

@pebblesf: I don't know if I would describe it as "encourage", but by now she has worked up a healthy amount of tolerance and I'm very grateful for it. 😇

@Shyheels: An assignment up there sounds interesting, although a bit isolated unless you count all the tourists. How long were you up there?

[Shyheels]

I made several trips up there in the course of the assignment/ four or five /about a week or so each time, between February and August. I travelled all over up there from Tromsø to a tiny speck of an island called Røst. It was really interesting 

[mlroseplant]

On 3/10/2024 at 5:27 PM, Clarity said:

 

I don't know if I would describe it as "encourage", but by now she has worked up a healthy amount of tolerance and I'm very grateful for it. 😇

Welcome to the forum! I'm in pretty much the same situation. My wife now tolerates me in heels almost everywhere, after many years. I think I just wore her down, eventually. However, if I were to get rid of all of them tomorrow, she would be happy.

[Clarity]

On 3/13/2024 at 10:36 AM, mlroseplant said:

Welcome to the forum! I'm in pretty much the same situation. My wife now tolerates me in heels almost everywhere, after many years. I think I just wore her down, eventually. However, if I were to get rid of all of them tomorrow, she would be happy.

It's inspiring to see how far you pushed it, for sure. Due to my position at work I still find it challenging to wear heels anywhere near as often as I'd like to, but I think that's more on me than her. (Despite all the D&I statements we make, I'd be concerned about the real world professional consequences. We're pushing the boundaries a little bit when we're going places around town where the risk is lower to run into employees, but I don't know how it would actually pan out if I / we did.)

At least these days we're traveling a fair bit, so when ever we're out of town we are able to make use of our many mostly matching pairs and enjoy them together instead of me watching her. Remind me, does your wife wear any - elevated or not - footwear you can appreciate, or do you need to compensate for both of you at all times in that department?

[Shyheels]

As a freelance I have the good fortune to work from home and so can wear what I please. My wife, who does not wear heels, neither approves nor strongly disapproves - she seems to consider it a reasonably excusable foible on my part. I do not wear heels out on assignment, mainly because the remote places I tend to go they'd be utterly inappropriate, if not dangerous, footwear. Also in the past year I've been living off-grid in circumstances where heels would be almost comically inappropriate footwear whether you were man or woman. But when I am put and about I do wear lower heeled knee boots (with sturdy soles) just about everywhere. And when I'm at my desk, in my home office, heels are definitely part of my office dress code!

[mlroseplant]

5 hours ago, Clarity said:

It's inspiring to see how far you pushed it, for sure. Due to my position at work I still find it challenging to wear heels anywhere near as often as I'd like to, but I think that's more on me than her. (Despite all the D&I statements we make, I'd be concerned about the real world professional consequences. We're pushing the boundaries a little bit when we're going places around town where the risk is lower to run into employees, but I don't know how it would actually pan out if I / we did.)

At least these days we're traveling a fair bit, so when ever we're out of town we are able to make use of our many mostly matching pairs and enjoy them together instead of me watching her. Remind me, does your wife wear any - elevated or not - footwear you can appreciate, or do you need to compensate for both of you at all times in that department?

I work construction, so obviously I can't wear heels at work, nor would I want to. I have occasionally seen coworkers and bosses outside of work. Some are surprised, some are not. It's never seemed to cause any bad consequences for my career.

My wife used to be famous for her heels. She wore them pretty much every day. In the last few years, she has developed knee/ankle problems. Let's put it this way--I can and do walk faster in very high heels than she can in flats. I don't believe she has any cute shoes left anymore. Crocs and Sketchers it is, these days. And that's ok, it just doesn't matter to me anymore.