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    Who has bought some new shoes

    in For Everybody

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    Just received these from Amazon (MeSex). They are Pleaser T-Straps, model Sexy-27. The fit is perfect, i got them in US women's size 10. I normally wear a men's size 9, so I took a risk and it was worth it. The heel rises 5.25" and there is no platform even though the site says .25". I placed a review on Amazon, linked here.

    http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00NBSK5ZI#customerReviews

    Highly recommended. The 1st picture caught me with an odd stare, sorry.

    Some nice looking shoes you have there.

    Excitement Of New And Old Heels

    in For Everybody

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    I voted fairly slowly because most of my collection has long term appeal. Since I wear size 12 there are a lot of styles that I want but cannot find so I will buy styles that are close. I can lose excitement over those more quickly or replace them as a closer approximation becomes available.

    Wearing Heels At The Mall Today

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    But on balance I think you came out pretty well. You kept in control of all of your reactions, which for the most part sounded exactly like the right reactions (or in some cases no reaction).

    Thank you, Steve. I would say that the sum of the day was in the positive, too. Practice makes perfect. I think that my area for practice is letting any reactions that do not feel good slide like water off a ducks back.

     

     

    Hope your heeling adventures at a mall gets better.

     

    Thank you. I am not so sure that I will retract however as I get to know my new town better I will make wiser choices of venue.

     

    It seems that the lowest common denominator among humanity hangs out at malls, mostly irresponsible teenagers and, sometimes, young adults who lack the societal skills, or just plain don't give a damn about being respectful to others and think that anything they see as odd or strange is rife for amusement and/or derision. Even when I'm not jaunting at the mall, I see that sort of lowbrow behavior by kids there almost all the time, and often when they're in packs like animals. Revolting to say the least. That said, AZShoeNut, I fully understand the consternation you experienced, but I hope that doesn't stop you from enjoying outings, just steer clear of malls until you can build up your confidence.

     

    Thank you, Jeff. Yeah, I had not factored into my planning the fact that the folks at the mall could very well be there because they are bored and looking for “trouble.”

    I have been spoiled by the mall down the street from my home, Westfield Galleria. That place is a class act and the people in the mall so far seem to be equally classy. I wouldn’t hesitate wearing heels there except that it is so close to home and per my my agreement with my wife I don’t go heeling that close to home.

     

    Seems they were tolerant to me. Respect like acceptance is something you need to earn. Just as they tolerate a person wearing them, one has to tolerate what they may think or say.

     

    This is the oldest lame excuse among male heel wearers. Sorry if it sounds like I'm not sympathetic. Truth is, I'm not.

     

    I would not say that I was looking for tolerance or acceptance from the other folks in the mall. I certainly knew that the potential for both good reactions and poor reactions was at hand and I believe that everybody has the right to their reaction and whatever emotional response they have to it. I was, I thought, prepared for the poor reactions. What I found was that even though I believe people have the right to their reactions, that what they think of me is ultimately none of my business, and I had mental pick-me-up ideas readily at hand should any poor reactions occur that still it “took the wind out of my sails.” I did not anticipate that. Rather than seeking sympathy my post was, to me, more about sharing my experience and seeing how others handled it when the wind unexpectedly left the sails.

     

    Keep trying, your confidence will grow, and you may find this outing was an anomaly.

    Thank you. That is exactly what I anticipate. I think that I am going to find some nicer places in Roseville and go shopping. I still want to find a nice outdoor mall that has upscale customers. I find that folks in an upscale setting typically avoid heckling or other rude behavior of that nature.

     

     

    The mall is not the place to go. Too Many people just sitting around bored and watching other people. Plus you are out in the open more. Also if you want to wear heels start with boots with thicker heels that are not so obvious. Don't wear other clothing that will draw attention to you like skinny jeans.

    This all takes time. Take Me for example. I dress like a man except I wear heels every day even to work. The jeans I have on are woman's Jean's but they are not obvious. Take small steps in working up to where you want to be with what you want to wear. It's not about walking around with confidence or attitude as some may say it's about not giving a s#!^ what others think and the desire to wear heels over coming the give a s#!^ factor. Then it will just be about going about every day life while wearing heels.

    Like going to Lowe's and just parking your car, getting out and just going in. No sitting in the car getting up the nerve to go in. But it all starts with what you wear and yes, how you hide them. Some may look but they are not quite sure what they see.

    Now I am at the point where there are times I want people to see just to see how they react. But it all comes with time.

    Thank you. I have to say that hiding my heels feels more odd now days than being right up front with them. One thing that I have found is that there really is no hiding them. If you cannot see them then that fact alone is conspicuous. Also, my gait gives the heels away too. What I was hoping to accomplish with this trip to the mall was to give my mental preparation a shot. Well I found that I still have a little work to do.

    Now the intention of wearing the skinnier jeans was not so much to grab attention as it was to wear something that actually goes with heels. I have seen pictures of me in my non-skinny jeans and heels and that image is just appalling. The Levi 510 jeans were intended to make the image just a tad less unpleasant.

    So, I think that I just need to update my strategy, blend in more “I don’t give a s#!@“, and seek out a more upscale setting and a shopping area in a nice part of town that is not so close as to make my wife nervous.

    It is a work in progress.

     

     

    There will be other, more pleasant heeling days in the future. Hang in there!

    Thank you, I will. Thank you for sharing your experience with heckling. Reading about these experiences from folks here who I really respect, including you, really helps steady the horse for the next ride.

     

     

    Larry, I'll echo everyone else's encouragement, you certainly didn't handle any of those situations wrong. I had plenty of "tail between my legs" (or as mlroseplant says "wind out of my sails") moments early on in my heeling. I think with those early adventures it's natural to feel anxiety, and that makes us hypersensitive to people's reactions. Whether it's the kid with the phone, the teenage girls or the guy in the car, what they did was only an expression of their narrow-minds and lack of manners, it in no way makes less of a decent person of you. In time you learn to just brush off reactions like that and think nothing of it, so while it's natural to feel that your confidence has taken a bit of a knock, you'll bounce back stronger. The bad reactions fall away, the good reactions stick.

     

    Those are really nice wedges by the way, and as you described them they must've looked great with the jeans.

    Thank you SleekHeels. I think you are right. The positive reactions really leave you with a glow that lasts. Also, thank you for the compliment of the look as described. I love the way the styling of a pair of pumps falls away below the hem of a pair of jeans. These jeans got that part just right, as best I could tell.

     

     

    Unfortunately, I have not encountered any of the stuff that you described.  Or if there has been any negativity I have not seen or heard it.  Don't let a few "yokels" ruin you.  Just keep pushin!

    Thank you, sir. That is exactly what they were, yokels. :-) But, I guess, yokels too are entitled to their opinion and their choice of how to express it. A little more water off a ducks back and all will be good.

     

     

    I just have to say that I am really grateful for all of the responses.  They all certainly are helping to pump me up for my next outing.

     

    I feel like I have a ton more to reply however that toddler of mine really leaves me and the Mrs. beat at the end of a week day.

     

    Thanks again,

    Larry

    Wearing Heels At The Mall Today

    in For Everybody

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    Howdy,

     

    So I went to the mall today wearing my black suede Brash Lunar wedges that are in my avatar pic.

     

    I have spent periods where I would go out in heels for coffee before work several times a week.  I have also done two Halloween parties in heels and a handful of fund raisers in heels.  What just about all of my previous heeling experiences have had in common is that they were all well planned so that I was either unlikely to run into anybody that my wife and I knew or that they were easily exlain-able.  Today’s trip to the mall was my first real risk it all, out there in public heeling experience.

     

    There were both positive and negative aspects to my experience today.

     

    Even though I am again more heavy than I would like to be I did like how my skinnier, Levi 510 jeans played well with my heels.  My heels certainly were not hidden and the bottom of the jeans ran just a hair below the top of the back of shoes leaving 99% of my shoes exposed.

     

    I did enjoy being able to walk so much in my heels.  The mall here in Sacramento is a pretty lengthy one.  I walked the full length of the mall at least three times and quite possibly four.  I lost track  I believe that I walked pretty well and I did it at a casual pace.  I recall that a gal in high school told me that after a while her heels felt, for the most part, like wearing any other of her shoes.  I remember being shocked that a pair of heels might seem as normal as any other pair of shoes after a bit of time in them and didn’t really believe her.  Well, today I walked enough that my heels just didn’t seem that high by the time I headed back to my car.

     

    I stopped in a number of shoe stores but none of the them went up to size 12.  One went to 11 but the rest stopped at 10.  There are some awesome styles out there though for the folks with smaller feet.  Unfortunately, I would have to go back to sixth grade in order to fit into size 10.  Bummer.

     

    I did go into a Torrid and I tried on a pair of boots.  Ultimately I didn’t care for them and didn't get them.  When I entered the store it was calm with only one other customer.  By the time I was taking the boots off the store had become a zoo.  When I stood up after putting my shoes back on I turned right into a high school aged boy with his dad and mom and he had his cell phone pointed right at me taking a picture.  He wasn’t even trying to be discrete.  As the letters WTF flowed through my mind I just made my way through the crowd toward the front of the store and re-entered the mall.

     

    I continued up to a map of the mall where I looked for the Payless.  I had read online that this mall had a Payless but it was nowhere on the directory.  It was a bummer because I figured that I could try on more shoes there and quite possibly be more social with the staff.

     

    I then headed back through the mall to find a coffee place.  While I was walking I saw an older husband and wife and the husband whispered in the wife’s ear.  Her head turned right toward me but she kept her eyes low clearly checking out my shoes.  By the time I found a Starbucks I decided that instead I wanted to go to the Barnes and Noble out on the perimeter of the mall, grab a magazine and read it at their coffee bar.  As I walked back to my car to drive over to the BNN I saw a couple teenage girls standing at the entrance to the parking garage.  They saw me approaching and then paused and stepped to the side watching to see if I went their way.  I did go their way and as I got closer they turned their backs to me.  Just after I passed, one of them blurted out, “lady.”  I didn’t hear anything else as I walked to my car.

     

    After the kid with the cell phone and the two girls my energy was a bit lower.  I parked outside of the Barnes and Noble and attempted to bring up my confidence back up.

     

    Well after a couple minutes I had gotten my confidence back so I stepped out of the car and made my way toward the entrance.  I had to cross a main entrance to the mall to get to the book store.  I waited for a couple cars and then made my way across.  The next car entering pulled halfway in and had to wait for me to finish crossing in order to continue.  As I stepped up on the curb, one of the passengers yelled out his window ‘What the f@$&” at me.  I kept walking, telling myself that this was not going to drag me down, that I would be fine, and that I can just keep moving and go enjoy coffee with a magazine.  Well I entered the store and found the layout to be completely different than any other BNN I have ever been in.  I couldn’t find the magazines, and there did not appear to be a coffee bar.  At that point my confidence plummeted.  I made a quick loop around the new fiction section and headed back out to my car.

     

    Crazy how this whole high heel thing works.  I was really looking forward to today and I have to say that I walked away feeling a good deal less than before.  As people have said before, wearing heels as a guy out in public takes some, for lack of better term, balls.  I really thought that I had those balls but I kind of went home with my tail between my legs.  On the way home I changed and sat for a few at a Starbucks.  The thought that I have to get back on the horse kept going through my mind.  Not sure when or how that will work out but I am sure that sooner or later it will.

     

    Also, while I was at that Starbucks I saw a gal walk through in a great pair of heels.  There I was mentally reviewing my experience in heels, questioning just how I was going to get back out in them again and then I noticed a gal wearing a great pair of heels and wishing that I could do it too.  So, as I said above, Crazy how this whole high heel thing works.

     

    So the high points of today include actually getting out in heels, walking a good distance in my heels, and being happy with my “work in progress” style.  The low points include the way I felt when I saw the kid with the camera, the very vulnerable and uneasy way that I felt when the guys in the car yelled at me, and the missing skin that I have on the inside of my left heel which was something that I totally did not anticipate.  I am sure that I will get out again in the future.  Perhaps I can find a place that is a little less “ghetto” where people are less likely to go yelling out four letter words over something as simple as a pair of shoes.

     

    Anyhow, that was my most recent experience out in heels.

     

    Best,

    Larry

     
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