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  1. 20 hours ago, SkirtDude said:

    Glad you like it! Don't alter the knee length skirt, just go and wear it! It may even pass as a "kilt" to some :wink: I found that going out at night, although comforting due to the lack of people, also made me feel I was creeping about a bit, so I decided to just bite the bullet, go to a grocery store and buy something, like some milk (I had ran out). You'll find few people will even react to your attire, and if any do, it's compliments! It takes balls for a guy to go outside the usual jeans or shorts look, there's a growing "genderfluid" trend of dress, with instagrammers like @joshohhgosh who frequently are skirted, or EJ Johnson. I wear regular guys shirts / tops, but a denim skirt instead of denim shorts. You have to show us your denim skirt look :wink:

    Thanks! I haven't had a chance to experiment at all with it, but I am really leaning towards shortening it, it's just too long for my taste. I will try to post a before/after picture.

    Regarding going out at night, I have the same thoughts. Going out at night is safe, in that noone will probably see you, but at the same time the fact that (at the moment) I'm only comfortable going out at night makes me feel bad, as in I'm doing something bad. It'll take me a bit of time to get used to this idea, and find something I'm comfortable in, before I even think of venturing to a store or something. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one going through these thoughts.

     

    9 hours ago, balletboot said:

    I went through this same thing I didnt post much on here about my confusion I just posted about my outing and how they went. 

    I started like you (and many others I'm sure) years ago going out at night hoping no one would be around. And then one day I was driving somewhere in heels and I stopped at a store to get something and I kinda forgot I was wearing my heels. Withing the first 30 feet of walking into the store a younger woman complimented me on my heels. I was completely thrown off guard and I looked down and realized I was still wearing them. Told her thank you and quickly finished my shopping and left.

    Later to realize how much it doesnt matter that I was wearing heels. After that I started doing all my shopping in heels. Within a few months I was wearing skirt and pantyhose with mens shirts and jackets. To me they are way more fun than pants, more comfortable and alot of the times better looking!

    The only part that has been a problem for me is my girlfriend hates all of it. Which I've been struggling to get across to her that they are just clothes and why cant I enjoy them. She thinking I must be gay because of it, but those of us here know that isnt the case..

     

    Good luck to you and keep trying to get out and about! It makes everyday things more exciting and enjoyable! 

    Thank you for sharing that! Means a lot.

    I have so far been really careful about where/when I wear my things, but sometimes I also tend to forget what I'm wearing, and have almost had a few such incidents like you.

    Would you mind sharing some details about your confusion, or internal struggle? The last few months have been really hard sometimes due to this struggle. Ups and downs. I'm OK right now, but there are times when it's a lot of anger. Thanks!

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  2. 3 hours ago, Cali said:

    To work on 2/25, I wore a fleece top over a sleeveless turtleneck (both black), with my black knee-high thick stiletto boots over my blue Levi’s.

    Got an email about a big SHOE sale at Macy's so went to check it out and the large mall it is part of. Macy's didn't have anything I wanted, but I did try on several pairs there. I talked with a woman who was also trying on boots. Left and went to Aldos and tried on several heels. Again, none fit (looking for new sandals) and they didn't have a size 11 in the styles I was looking at :(.  Two stores down is a Steve Madden store. Looked in at what they had in the store, but they didn't have my size in the heels I liked. Steven Madden sale associates know me as a good client so they go out of their way for me.

    On the way back to my car I came across the same lady who was also looking at the boots with me in Macy's.

    Looking surprised she said, "Oh, I didn't realize you had boots on before."

    "I always wear at least 4-inch heels, I need the rise for my hip."

    We talked for a while and as we were parting, she complimented me on how well I walk in them. I laughed.

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    At work I had one woman walk out of her way to tell me how she "seriously LOVED my boots."

    Well done!

     

    Does Steve Madden carry size 11 in the US? I don't see that size up here in Canada...

  3. 3 hours ago, p1ng74 said:

    I might be wrong on this, but I try not to overthink the process of pairing a skirt with the rest of the outfit, and treat it like any other bottom, whether it be pants or shorts.  Match the color, style, etc. - I don't think there is anything that inherently "doesn't work" with skirts, just like how it doesn't seem like there is anything that inherently doesn't work with jeans.  I try not to think too much of it as a skirt, but a bottom to be paired, and roll with it. 

    You are assuming I have a sense of style... :) I don't think I do, at least not without extensive trial-and-error, after which I think I can put together an outfit that I think looks good. But I've done this "I think it looks good" with traditional male cloths, and my wife completely disagrees with me. So it's hard. And I don't want to shave my legs, so am not sure what to do there either: go unshaved, or try to hide it, but then how?

    Tips would be appreciated. :)

    3 hours ago, Peter1 said:

    Well done @hiddenheels for your last outings, you look so great in this outfit!

    it’s impressive how fast you make progress in your heels journey! I completely understand your thought, but as your are becoming confident by wearing your heels in public with jeans, it seems normal that you want to expand your comfort zone.

    There is nothing wrong wearing a skirt with some nice boots, life is too short as some said !
    Thanks fo sharing your experience, that will help a lot of us becoming bolder!

    Thank you for the encouragement, no one is more surprised about this than I am. 20 years of hiding and feelings of disgrace... and now as I try to accept and embrace it, instead of pushing it away, in 6 months I'm going out in a skirt with the heels fully visible (albeit at night). Very exciting!

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  4. On 2/23/2020 at 6:25 PM, bailey said:

    Thrift stores are a great place to find those hidden gems for next to nothing. Denim skirts are a great option. Just like denim jeans, they are casual, and tend to work with a number of colors, patterns and textures. Once paired with hosiery they will go with many styles of heels, whether it be wedges, stiletto, or block heel designs. Not to mention boots of all styles. This is an example of one my denim skirts.

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    This looks great, never thought about wedges, but the look works!

     

    7 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

    I don't know how I feel about skirts and such, these 8 years later, now that I wear heels all the time without too much self consciousness. I think I could probably look good in a skirt, maybe rather better than some others, but I just don't really have any desire to, and creating one sort of artificially by going out and buying a skirt at a thrift store just so's I could try it out seems to me to be .  .  . rather foolish. It would create way more complication in my life than there is already. I get enough of a thrill with wearing shorter shorts, and for some reason this is more acceptable to the wife than wearing any kind of a skirt would ever be.

    Hey, I completely know where you're coming from. I don't know if/how I could broach this subject with my wife, I really don't want any conflict especially over this. But until a week or two ago, I never thought about skirts either, did nothing for me, until I tried them... One step at a time.

     

    1 hour ago, SkirtDude said:

    I love showing off my booties, and an A-line of sensible length is great to do so. This is my 'tartan' 21 inch. I think your skirt looks great as well, OP! :cheeky:

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    That is awesome, love that plaid skirt look! I did order one of these a few days ago, will take forever to get here though, can't wait. Having said that, went to another second-hand store yesterday and did manage to snag a skirt similar to yours, but in blue (instead of black). It's small, but for $5 I couldn't resist. Will have to move (re-sew) some of the buttons after which it'll fit great. The one I bought it was too long, goes down to my knees, so I will also need to take a pair of scissors to it. :) In my mind, it'll look great, just need a few hours to experiment with it, which will not happen in the near future. :(

     

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    Sunday night managed to go out again! It was already dark outside, in a residential neighbourhood, a few cars passed by, but nothing else happened. Similar outfit to the above, but a "safer" chunky heel 4" ankle boots with a new-to-me denim skirt. Parked, and without another thought managed to get out of the car, adjust myself and start walking. The walk was about 20 minutes, and felt completely natural, wasn't nervous, and was able to just enjoy the quiet and the walk. Interestingly enough, with the heels and skirt "out in your face" (as opposed to hiding it under my jeans), for whatever reason, I actually felt more comfortable. "It's there, can't hide it, so might as well enjoy it." Not sure I would have the courage yet to go somewhere with a lot of people though... At least a few more trips out at night are most likely required.

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  5. Haven't ventured outside in any outfit since that time, but did manage to buy some more skirts at a second-hand store, specifically was looking for denim skirt, as I really like that look. I've experimented around at home, and have found that the look is simply awesome. I love it. I feel comfortable in them, both physically, and increasingly emotionally. That first experience was completely overwhelming, and I'm still reading, researching, etc, on how this works, what styles look good, etc.

    Any style tips would be super welcome.

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  6. 6 hours ago, pebblesf said:

    I would say that your varied emotions are completely normal.  Wearing a skirt, hose and completely exposed boots is a big step from wearing your boots covered with jeans.  You are having an internal struggle with the societal pressures we all have to deal with.  You look great as a guy in a skirt/boots, you should be able to enjoy the benefits of taking care of your body so you can look so good in this outfit.  You will eventually find out that many women think you look great as well, don't let you mind play these horrible games with you....Read about CAT's adventures, or W6ish also.  

    For now, I would choose your outings very carefully....A negative experience usually results in a large emotional set back...  Congratulations to you, be proud of being to brave....I am surely envious..

    Thanks for the words of encouragement. I was hoping I was making good progress with this internal struggle. I was finding my way and getting used to wearing heels with jeans, and venturing out whenever possible. I was falling into a routine, with cloths and feelings, and all that. Now this threw a monkey-wrench into the whole thing... Now I'm feeling like I'm starting from scratch with everything.

    One thing for sure, it certainly makes the jeans look tame in comparison.

     

    34 minutes ago, maninboots said:

    Not sure where you found this sudden urge from but stick with it, you look fantastic, I’ve never worn a skirt in public but I do like to show my knee high boots off over my skinny jeans which I suppose is half way there, after seeing your picture i may have to do a bit more experimenting, well done and thanks for some inspiration 

    Thanks to you too for the encouragement. I have now calmed down a bit, and am starting to process what the heck is going on. Will have to get some more skirts to experiment with, as this is completely new territory for me and I have no real clue what I'm doing. Fortunately these things are ~$5 at second hand stores, which make it perfect for experimenting.

     

    12 hours ago, Cali said:

    The sensations you got from the pantyhose over powered your trepidations about being seen. Aka Forbidden Fruit Syndrome.  Since you have to fine time to wear your heels, the addition of pantyhose just overwhelmed you.

    Yes, skirts are very comfortable. Wore a faux leather one for 16 hours on Halloween and completely enjoyed it. It was very comfortable although a little different driving because it was a tight skirt.  As to what top to wear with it...the coat looks good with the skirt, keeping it monochrome, but your shirt/top distracts from the overall image, IMHO. As to how to process this, that's really a personal thing that everybody processes this differently.  

    For top, what would you suggest? I am honestly clueless with how to proceed. I tried different colours but nothing really worked in my eyes. Any advice would be appreciated.

     

    Thanks!

  7. 6 hours ago, pebblesf said:

    Thanks for your honesty...Knowing that even you deals with nervousness ever so often helps encourage us to be brave....

    This is so true.

     

    w6ish, you make it look easy, and in a way it is comforting (for the rest of us) knowing that what I, as an "amateur", am going through is part of the process. Good luck!

  8. Alright, I'm completely confused. Can't make heads or tails of my thoughts. Haven't slept well for the past few days. For the past two decades I have worn heels exclusively at home, with very very infrequent outings, at night. In the last year I started wearing them out more, have bought a few boot-cut jeans to hide the heels, have become more comfortable with myself, and being outside in heels. The jeans cover most of it anyway, and thus far I have not received any comments. Have been to a few stores, and coffee shops, usually  quite self conscious, sometimes am able to relax and just enjoy things. Never been interested in more than heels.

    Then on Saturday I find some black pantyhose in my stash of jeans, don't remember how it got there, but thought I would try it on with one of my black knee-boots. Ended up thinking that a skirt would complete the look. So Sunday I stop by a second-hand store, quickly grab two mini-skirts that look good and will probably fit. Monday I had a few hours at home, and the first thing I do is try things on, black pantyhose, 4-5" stiletto black knee-boots, and a grey mini-skirt that went down to mid-thy. Now, this is probably the first time I try on skirts, and never considered it, never was curious about it, but the look and feeling was amazing. I have no ideas how to match the top with the bottom, meaning, what shirt or sweater I need to complete the look because I don't want to "pass", I have stubble and am not going to put on makeup or wear a wig (no disrespect, but that's not my thing). But I don't know how to complete the outfit, well, because I have never thought what I would wear if I wore a skirt. After some brief trial-and-error I figure the jacket completes the look quite well, and thus the shirt is largely irrelevant. And look in the mirror.

    What I saw confused the heck out of me. It was comfortable, I felt comfortable, but at the same time super-weird. That was the most unusual look I have seen on me, and I couldn't place it at all. WTF was I doing?

    Given my pattern with heeling outside, never obviously showing the heels, the logical thing at this point for me would have been to enjoy the experience at home, in private. But no. I had this indescribable urge to be outside. It was overwhelming. It was dark outside, late evening. I got into the car, and went to a place that I infrequent for heeling, a small park in a residential neighbourhood. Park, and without any major self-talk, get out of the car and start walking. The entire walk took about 15 minutes total, beside some houses and roads. Some cars passed, I met no other person walking. Parts of the trip was under heavy lighting, beside some condos. I didn't meet anyone, nor talk to anyone. Skirt was mostly visible. Boots completely uncovered. I felt "normal", didn't care that my legs showed.

    I frequently get the fight-or-flight response, trying to stop my heart from jumping out. After a while that goes away, and I become calmer. If I'm able to relax more, I end up usually happy/thrilled with the experience. This time I was rather calm the entire time, no panicking, no low or high emotions. Was focusing on just walking. Would say it was more like a state of "what is just happening, I can't comprehend this"?

    In short. The experience was fantastic. I loved it. But my mind hasn't stopped reeling since that night. I can barely sleep. I have all sorts of mixed up feelings. Why did I do that? I'm not ashamed, but it was completely out of character. What the heck do I want with this. What was I thinking? Where is this going? Is this something new that I will eventually want to explain to my wife? Why can't I be "normal" (according to society)?

     

    [I'm not comfortable sharing images, this is as good as it'll get]

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  9. Alright, I'll use this forum for some self-reflection in an effort to get these thoughts out of my head. Am very very frustrated, at the inability to find the time to relax, and enjoy just being myself. Between work, kids, clubs, and family in general, I barely have any time to "just be". My wife knows about the heels, and she's OK with it, but not supportive. I'm grateful for at least that. But between all the other commitments, where heels are a no-go, I find that I can wear them for only a few hours a week, usually at home. Maybe take a short trip to a coffee shop once a week if I plan things carefully and have work that I can do there, and not at work. This obsession is driving me somewhat crazy, and the desire to wear these, and dress accordingly (jeans, sweater, jacket & heels - with stubble on my face, so not even trying to look lady-like) is super strong. This all ends up in frustration. Day in, day out. Been thinking about trying to push the boundaries a bit at work, but right now is not the proper time for this, perhaps in a year or so. Often frustration turns to anger, at really wanting to do something, but the inability to do it. Maybe I should discuss this with my wife, ask for her help, and try to go out, alone, a bit more often.

    Today, at a store, me not wearing heels, I saw a woman dressed like I aspire to, with towering heels. Although it was only a brief glimpse, envy kicked in. *That's* what I want to do.

    Is anyone content with what they're doing, vs. what they would like to do?

     

    Feeling a bit better. Venting over...

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  10. OUTING: Been busy. However, did get a chance to go to another coffee shop a few days ago, same dark red 4" boots, with blue jeans, dark red sweater and a jacket. Parked near the coffee shop and just sat in the car. Could feel my heart knocking trying to get out. Calmed myself eventually by trying to clear my mind of any thoughts. Once that was done, was able to not think, and got out of the car. Went in, somewhat self conscious, but after ordering and sitting at a table that was facing the main entrance, with the heels probably visible, did my thing for about an hour before heading out. Noone said anything, and I'm glad I was able to do this. Right now, feeling quite upset, possibly a topic for a new thread.

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    "The boots stop about 1" above the ground,"

    Think you meant that the pants stop about one inch above the ground....lol.  Otherwise, those would be really short boots :).

    Haha, yes, the pant legs stop 1" above the ground. :)

     

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    Yup, I did the same exact thing, I have probably 10 pairs of boot cut jeans that are hemmed really long that I ought to get rid of, since I never wear them anymore. I think they would look rather odd if I simply hemmed them shorter.

    To make long pants shorter, I've rolled up the bottoms a bit before, that thin stripe I think looks pretty good.

  12. Had to go do some brief shopping yesterday. Been waiting for the opportunity for a while now, and been thinking about it for what seems like forever... Anyway, the day came. Put on my usual blue boot-cut jeans, and some dark red chunky heels, about 4" high. So comfortable. The negative self-talk started, and my anxiety kicked in, but I managed to stop it, not think, and just go. Ended up browsing around a book store, bought some stuff, then drove to a supermarket to buy some food. Was out for a total of 2 hours, but loved it. Not a single comment. The boots stop about 1" above the ground, so when walking the heels are somewhat obvious if you happen to look down. Was just good to be me...

     

    Getting out of the car took just a tiny bit of effort, so need to practice more. But I have found that I'm much more interested in "just doing my thing" (in heels) regardless of the time-of-day, rather than going to a quiet park. I am seeing progress in my thinking, and how I view myself when looking in the mirror. The heels are becoming a more natural look when I'm wearing them...

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  13. 6 hours ago, pebblesf said:

    Be proud of the courage you showed by standing your ground and not letting foolish comments affect you.  I guess I am a bit shocked though, I would have thought that Paris would be a very tolerant place when it comes to fashion...But, that may just be an uneducated stereotype that I have developed.     In any event, please know you look great.  The great boots and perfect fitting jeans have a powerful and confident look for sure.  Personally, I will bet that the fellow was actual very envious....He is so frustrated that he does not have the courage to wear great boots like yours publicly....  Sure hope you have some nice reactions soon, don't let this fool bother you....Don

    Fortunately I have not had any negative experiences, but the shoes look great, would love a pair.

     

    We are constantly focusing on the wrong side of the equation. For every startup success we hear, there are (probably) millions we do not hear of. For each negative comment you hear, there are (probably) millions of positive comments (or indifference, which is also good) you do not hear. Please try to look at all the other moments when nothing happened.

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  14. 2 hours ago, chesterx said:

    Not one to let a bad encounter bring me down for long I chose today to push the envelope even further as I wore my new pantsuit & Jessica Simpson pumps to my afternoon dental appointment. These people have known me for years & this is the 1st time I have worn heels in front of them. As I expected, nothing came of it. I'm sure they had a talk about me after I left but at least they will have something fun to talk about for awhile!

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    That looks really classy. Very well done! And to the dentist? Well done!

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  15. On 1/25/2020 at 3:55 PM, Cali said:

    I visited my PO Box at the post office this afternoon. A woman walking the other way looked down at my heels as she passed and said, "I have those in black," and kept going.

    Soda Agenda in burgundy with Express Denim Perfect Lift leggings 10 Short.

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    Cool shoes!

  16. On 1/25/2020 at 4:40 PM, spikesmike said:

    w6ish : Good for you. This adventure is a perfect example as to why I wear high heels in public every day, all day long. ONLY at my age I can not claim to be all that hot.  spikesmike.

    Keep it up! When out and about, I also do not aim to be 'hot', just myself...

  17. On 1/23/2020 at 12:04 PM, w6ish said:

    Boot adventures:  I attended a conference back in October and decided to have some fun with it.  Day 1 was all business but I noticed 98% of the participants were professional women of all ages.  I was one of a dozen men and so on Day 2 I wore my super tight stretch jeans, a black t shirt and my black Cupid boots with all 6 inches of the heel showing!  Hiding nothing I guess you could say.  Needless to say that super sexy look caused quite a fuss with the ladies...

    Where was this conference? I need to do this...

  18. On 1/20/2020 at 8:17 PM, fashionablefun said:

    I've got a few flat knee high boots, but I've only got a couple with a heel. I like these a lot. I like that they are wide around the ankle. They are Vince (Camuto), size 10. I'm typically an 11, but occasionally a 10 will work. 

    It''s a bold look with shorts, which I've only worn a few times. Once to a paint store, where a woman complimented me on the boots, in the midst of talking about house paint options. Another occasion walking through the parking lot to an office supply store a woman glanced down and gave me a broad smile without comment. I'm much more likely to wear with pants however, shown here with men's clothes all from Zara. 

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    Inspiring choice of cloths! Looks good!

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  19. Been busy, no heeling outside for two months now. But did make a quick trip today. Went to the mail box, but took a 15 minute detour... Was dressed comfortably in my 4" block heels and blue jeans. It was dark, some joggers went by, and a bunch of cars. It was a non-event, but damn it was good to get it out of my system.

  20. On 1/3/2020 at 7:58 PM, mlroseplant said:

    I guess I should reassess my original post. I won't ever try to say that I don't find women in heels attractive, maybe to the point where I fixate on shoes and feet. However, as soon as I put them on myself, all of the sexual responses disappear, and are replaced by a general feeling of well-being, bordering on bliss at times. I've caught myself walking along more than once, happily clicking away, and wondering, "What could be better than this?" That's what I mean by "Not a fetish." Luckily for me, I don't have to worry about finding stuff in larger sizes, so I can buy "normal" fashion shoes easily. I would actually like to try some fetish height heels sometime, just to see if I can hack it, but I have not yet managed to convince myself to spend any money on something I know I'll never wear outside the house.

    I feel the exact same way. They look great on women, but when I put them on, it just "feels right", like "this is how it should be". I've explained it to my wife using these words, and she understands. Doesn't like it, but understands. In any case, it's not a fetish, although I do have a few heels that I'm sure would be categorized as fetish, and those are just for fun at home.

  21. 4 hours ago, KneeBooted said:

    It was my Sore Lexi wedges. Adding a picture here.

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    Alright... I see. A bit less invisible then the ones I had in mind. I'll have to keep this in mind if/when I try this at my workplace... Cool progress!

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  22. On 1/18/2020 at 8:34 AM, KneeBooted said:



    1) Church - I posted previously about wearing some "noticeable" heels to church right before the holiday break, and while some people noticed, no one said anything. So this past Sunday, I decided to do something similar, yet different. My wife and I bought some new Sorel Lexi Wedges for Christmas presents to ourselves, and I was really enjoying wearing them. Now with any of my bootcut jeans and khakis, they aren't all that noticeable unless I am sitting down. So I think I did something similar before with my brown Joan of Arctic wedge boots, which is to wear them instead with skinny jeans, so more of the boot is noticeable. Now I know they are wedges, but people still notice.

    2) Work - This is where I have been more bold lately, but not yet up to the same level as church. At work, I deal with a group of guys who are the mechanics at our office. I've worked in the mechanic environment, and know what kind of harm it can sometimes cause to someone that doesn't "fit in." So needless to say, I've been a little more conservative with my heeling at work because I am around these guys a lot.
     

    Excellent progress! Especially the work part, as I understand that's a different environment... In any case, do you have a photo of the wedges? Were they your typical black, ~3", thin-in-the-back heels?

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