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  1. 10 hours ago, jeremy1986 said:

    Totally with you - pretty much on every word (except that I don't heel publicly at all) - but in the most important thing in my life (wife, kids and fam) and not wanting to jeopardize that. Bonus points for her taking an interest still. Maybe she doesn't feel threatened by it (knowing she wont be with you in public), so feels she can still communicate with you about it in a 'safe' way for her.

    That makes sense... That might also explain the way my wife is treating this... Although she has joined me a few times when it's very dark outside. Anyway, will not push her with my heels, I'm quite happy to do it alone, although obviously would be happier if everyone was accepting of it...

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  2. 6 hours ago, pebblesf said:

    Same here....My love of boots will never go away, and I don't want it to.  Just wish there was something I could do to repair the damage to my relationship....

    Do you mind if I ask, what sort of damage? Was it strictly over the heels?

    7 hours ago, maninboots said:

    Yeah I’m exactly the same mate, i have a good long marriage and don’t want to jeopardise that in anyway, my wife takes an interest in my boots at home and never stops me going public on my own but no way will she accept going out with me in heels, i did pick her up from work once wearing heels and we had to stop at John Lewis to collect an online order, she didn’t realise at first that i was wearing heels as i hadn’t got out of the car, so i told I’d got my boots on and she waited in the car while i went in to collect the order, she did comment that nobody seemed to take any notice as i walked across the carpark towards the store and then back again but it still didn’t convince her that she’ll be fine to accompany me so I’ve just accepted that heeling has to be done alone which for me is better than not at all 

    I would imagine if I did the same as you, my wife would do the same as yours...

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  3. On 12/16/2019 at 2:08 AM, maninboots said:

    I’m pretty sure nobody takes any notice at all of me in heels and if they do i really don’t care, unfortunately i have to do all my heeling alone as my wife does think everybody will be staring and making fun at me, i keep reassuring her that I don’t experience any of this when I’m out on my own in my boots but she still can’t bring herself to accompany me in public, i can get away with low heels non feminine boots under my jeans but nothing more adventurous than that I’m afraid, I’ll keep working on it though 

    That's more than what I have... Late night, she joined me once or twice if I go out in the dark for a walk in heels, but daylight etc, nope. Nada.

     

    While I agree that hobbies are good, I don't think I would call my "heels" a hobby. It feels like a necessity, sort of. Hobbies can be harmful (if you spend too much $ on it for ex) but I don't think my wife would be upset if I started building paper ships... In any case, most of the times the entire topic gives me a joy (when looking at heels online, or being here) but it's the conflict with my wife I do not enjoy. I am getting to the point of accepting that this will never change, and also starting to see how much people don't care what I wear, but I really do not wish conflict within family.

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  4. 7 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

    It has recently snowed here, but only about an inch or so, not enough to where anybody has really bothered to shovel. Last night, I went to the church around 8:00 or so to practice the organ. When I got out of the car and started to walk towards the building, I noticed some footprints in the snow, and thought to myself, "Hey! Somebody wears high heels in the snow besides me! And they look to be fairly slim heels, too." Then I saw where the footprints veered off to a side door, not the main door. Oh.  .  . um, yeah.  .  .that was me. From the previous night.

    Funny, and kinda sad at the same time. Sad, as in no-one else wears heels in the snow.

    I do agree though that the footprints left behind are very cool! I loved making the prints in the snow. :)

  5. OUTING: Had a chance to stop by a coffee shop. Dark jeans, same light-brown 4" chunky heel bootie as in the above post. It was cool, nothing happened, I bought my stuff, sat at a table and worked. There were some police in coffee shop, and even though I knew they weren't the fashion-police, I had some thoughts about them coming over to ask, but there's no reason for them to do that... In any case, the heels were obvious, especially when sitting. It was fun though. Afterwards stopped by a nearby second-hand store, saw some awesome boots, but they were size 8, so I didn't even bother to consider them... Fun!

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  6. On 12/15/2019 at 11:49 AM, chesterx said:

    I have to admit, that trip to SportsClips had me a bit more nervous than usual. I knew that there would be mostly men present, so I had to screw up my courage a bit more than usual. To be honest I always get butterflies whenever I go heeling in public. I find it to be exhilarating to overcome my nerves & to take those 1st few steps out into the sunlight. I saw my haircut as another opportunity to push myself a little further that I had dared to go before. It wasn't a long wait, I signed in and got a stylist pretty quick, but there were more men present than women & I didn't notice any unusual behavior from the guys or the stylists, so it was a good trip. I find that's the usual reaction I get from most men, at most a double take, then they go on about their business. I get occasional giggles from the ladies (when in groups) as they pass, but I've also had some of my best interactions with women as well & prefer to heel around areas where I expect women will be the majority gender. I think a large part of the successes I'm having is due to wearing classy shoe styles. I'm sure the reactions would most likely be different in nature if I had been wearing 6" stripper heels. To be clear, you will not find me going into a biker bar in 4" pumps, but otherwise, I'm not going to let the presence of men stop me from doing what helps me find joy in this world...

    Very well done! I also find the first steps the hardest, after which I usually calm down. Sometimes the fight/flight response kicks in, but that's becoming less and less frequent, even though I am being more obvious about the heels (i.e. daylight, in stores, with people around, as opposed to 6 months ago where I was going to isolated parks or whatnot). I don't think I would have the courage to go get a haircut just yet, but I've daydreamed about it. :)

     

    Very nicely done, inspirational, for sure!

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  7. On 12/11/2019 at 12:18 AM, ohnoberty said:

    I think that's one of, if not the biggest issue. You can search many of these places and eventually find an awesome pair, only to find that they're not your size. Doesn't stop you looking though, occasionally it works out.

    I usually just search the sizes that I think will fit me. No point in getting envious. Having said that, I am well aware that the selection is much nicer around the size 7-8 mark. Oh well, it's still fun.

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  8. Thank you, good points all around. I do not think I would care either way, but am just curious. My wife is supportive, but I am sure she would also be super happy if this "feature" of me went away. At certain points, I also think I would be happy myself.

     

    On 12/14/2019 at 4:12 AM, mlroseplant said:

    I think there is something to what @nzfreestyler said--the heels make a difference. In my case, they're pretty much everything, since I don't really wear anything else that would be considered super femme, like a skirt or dress. The closest thing would be my shorts in the summer with my shaved legs, and it's absolutely true that people don't react much on the rare occasions when I'm wearing flats. It's kind of nice to be anonymous sometimes, but that rarely enters into my decision about what to wear on my feet. What does influence my occasional decision to wear flats is that I don't feel like I can go out in heels if I don't look at least halfway presentable otherwise. For example, if I've just come home from work and I look grubby, but for some reason have to go to the supermarket to pick up something right away, I won't wear heels. If I've at least got time to comb my hair and put on a decent looking shirt, I'll always wear heels. And why wouldn't you wear heels to the supermarket? What's wrong with people?

    I would love to wear heels to the supermarket, why not? Don't need to look like a slob just because it's your buying groceries. I do know that when I'm going out in heels I do a much better job at coordinating what I wear, how dark the jeans are, etc. I've found that I'm starting to coordinate my "male"-cloths more and more nowadays, so the heeling is probably making me a bit better dressed all-around.

  9. On 11/30/2019 at 4:49 PM, chesterx said:

    Today started with a trip to Sports Clips for a haircut. After that I went to the car wash to remove the holiday grime, then stopped off for some Mexican food. Thought about catching a movie as the theater was across the parking lot, but the only show I cared to see had already started, so I went to Walmart & got my shopping for next week done. As it was a nice day out I took the opportunity to wear my Chelsea Moreland  nude sandals. No interactions to speak of...

     

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    Do all of that in those heels? No comments even during the haircut? Congrats!

  10. On 12/9/2019 at 3:31 PM, RonC said:

    I was happy to see a young black lady wearing a lovely pair of heels for her night out. Heel sightings have been rare for a while now. Seems most women want to look like they are on their way to a workout at the gym. Seems like women are just not into heels anymore..."

    Totally agree with that sentiment.  Your heels would blow away just about anything I've seen on a woman in the last three months.  Heck, my 3.75 inch chunky heel booties would beat 98% of what I see these days.

    Completely agree. On a recent quick trip to a store (took 30 minutes), with me wearing ~4" heels, I saw only one lady wearing heels, and it was in the range of 2.5-3". Nothing else, and there were quite a few people around.

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  11. It's been a while for me to post here, the last few weeks have been busy, although I have spent a lot of mental energy thinking about heels and where I can go... I was able to go out a few times, although not to my usual coffee spot. With christmas approaching, I took advantage of some free time to go gift shopping.

    OUTING: Was wearing a light-brown 4" chunky heel bootie, with blue boot-cut jeans, and a brown jacket. I went to a store nearby, but not too close. Bought what I needed and browsed around a bit, took about an hour. Afterwards wandered into another store in the same plaza, checked out the shoes, and some potential gifts. Didn't try any on as there was nothing interesting. After that, I came home and was quite happy with myself. Interestingly there was no negative self-talk, I think I'm getting better at recognizing it and shutting it down. Just went in and did my stuff, felt very comfortable.

    OUTING: Went to a mall, wearing blue boot-cut jeans, dark red shoes, probably 4.5" chunky-heel (sooo comfortable!), and a red sweater that matches the colour pretty closely. Black jacket on top. Sorry about the lack of pictures. Had some specific items I needed to buy, so wandered around a bit until I found them. Took ~30 minutes. Shoes were covered pretty much, but some of the heels were clearly visible. I was very comfortable, and think I acted 95% normal (5% different due to being a bit self-conscious). Getting out of the car was a non-event, and I loved the experience.

     

    Now I just want to go out and do some heeling, but I can't... busy with work & family.

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  12. Hello,

    Was wondering, has anyone (while heeling) ever asked a friend to trail them and look at the reactions other people have? I think that would be a good way to get an honest reading on how much other people stare, laugh, take photos, whatever... I can't do this myself, as I'm alone when heeling, but perhaps someone else has?

    It's mainly curiosity, as I don't think it would change anything for me...

  13. On 11/20/2019 at 10:54 AM, Cali said:

    Did you find your were treated in a different (better) way, more like a viable customer, when shopping for heels in heels?

    I don't think there was really any difference, but I didn't interact with sales people when looking at the shoes... I don't think I've noticed any difference yet.

     

    Thanks for all the encouragement! Means a lot!

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  14. 1 hour ago, chesterx said:

    Made a few stops today. Had to get a replacement handle for my toilet, so Lowes was my 1st stop, browsed around for half an hour, the went to Best Buy to pick up a PS4. Then some wandering around Macys. Finished up at Nordstrom Rack where I picked up a pair of nude Sam Edelman pumps. My heels today were a pair of red pumps by INC, which is the house brand of Macys. I like these pumps as they are quite comfortable to walk in, I have a few pairs in different colors. No subtlety in these heels as I got noticed several times. Had a mother & her young daughter walk by me as I was watching a display video & I noticed the mom walking past say something to the girl & her head spun around towards me. I turned towards them & the mom was jerking on her arm in a "don't stare!..don't stare!" kinda way while the girl just stared back & smiled at me the whole time. I got a kick out of that. Red heels are not for the faint of heart

    Very well done! You're right in that the reds are noticeable. Congrats! Any other looks, comments or anything else?

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  15. OUTING: Alright, so this is actually a comparison of two different outings on two different days. About a week ago I bought some shoes like the ones below in the image, similar style, but the colour is solid gray/brown, rather than the leopard print.

     

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    I think it doesn't look too feminine, and I wanted to buy something that didn't look too feminine (like a stiletto heel). The heels on this shoe are very chunky, and the shoes look great, and are very comfortable. ~3.5" lift, can barely feel it when walking.

    I bought them for sort of "casual wear". I was so excited by the purchase I put them on, with dark blue jeans, and a sweater and went to a store. I was so nervous, felt my heart in my throat, and almost had a panic attack. Still went in. As I'm standing in one of the aisles, some old guy stops at the end of the aisle and just looks (90% sure at me), and looks and looks. After a few minutes I glance at him, and he walks away...

    The day following, I decided to try again. Similar outfit... But this time I was not at all nervous, very calm and comfortable. Went to 4-5 large stores in total over almost 2 hours. I even checked out some heels in 3 of the stores, which is my first ever time checking out heels while wearing heels. I could not have denied who I was interested in buying them for, if someone asked. I didn't find any shoes, although did buy the stuff I needed. I was very calm, very comfortable, and very happy afterwards. Halfway through the shopping trip, I even started leaving my comfort-item (backpack) in the car, which I've also never done. It was a lot of fun casually strolling around...

    Quite a few people around, I did notice a few people look, but got 0 comments. The sky didn't fall. Pushed myself out of my comfort zone a bit further...

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  16. 15 hours ago, Cali said:

    @chesterx, 49 heels in 8 months, wow...slow down. It's time for you to become more selective in what you buy. One reason is its hard to rotate through 49...you never get enough time to wear a favorite very often.  I'm over 60 and just purchased 3 in the last 10 days (HELP - I need a heels intervention). But I find it hard to find the time to wear them all. With one a day I can only wear each one 6 times a year. But since I only work on days that start with a "T" (aka 4 day weekends) I barely have time to wear them 3 times a year. I mostly wear my Steven Madden wedge mules around town when I'm not working

     

    If this desire was pent up in me since the I was a teen, and all of a sudden I had a chance to explore it, I would also go and buy everything. Over my life, I am sure I've bought more than 49, and a lot of it was to experiment, do I like this, do I like that? This doesn't fit style-wise, so let's try that. It took a lot of trial and error to figure out what I want, and what I like. So from that perspective, I can completely see myself doing the exact same thing, assuming I were in his position.  This same experience was just spread out over 20 years for me, which, to a degree, I regret it took so long to figure things out.

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  17. 1 hour ago, RonC said:

    Bubba136, I think you were just making somewhat of a joke as to how some people feel about wearing heels in public, but I don't think one can quite compare wearing heels to going into combat.  I cannot imagine what that would be like.   Thanks to any who have served.

    True. We (people who have never seen war) simply cannot comprehend what it is like, and thus do not have the proper frame of reference for comparison. Yes, activities where you can get killed are on several levels above guy-heeling. I am fortunate, and very grateful, that I have the luxury to explore my inner self, and my desires to wear heels, unlike those battling for their existence.

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  18. Excellent work, especially in such a short time! Took me a decade to be as comfortable as I am with myself, and find making much more progress in the last few months than in the last decade total. But still nowhere near where you are. :)

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  19. Just came back from a short last-minute business trip. Didn't want to go, but decided to make the best of it. On the way to the airport, in the parking lot, swapped jeans to something longer than my "standard" jeans, and put on my 4" wedge boots, something like this:

    https://www.aldoshoes.com/us/en_US/women/footwear/boots/ankle-boots/Chomette-Black/p/12698452

    Jeans would hide most of the shoe anyway. Was quite nervous at this point... Got on the train to the terminal, checked in, bought some food, and went to security. It was empty, so was able to go straight through. Before crossing the xray, the guy looked at me and asked me to show him my shoes. I was prepared for this, so casually showed him my shoes, and he asked me to walk through. Sat around waiting for the flight, but by this time I was quite comfortable in how I looked. The flight was short and uneventful. I had some space on the flight, so stretched out a bit, I'm sure the shoes were visible (upon arrival, did get some looks from the two guys across the aisle, but could have been my imagination). Out of the airport, into the taxi, then hotel. When I arrived, I was quite satisfied with myself. :) It wasn't too late in the evening, so changed into a 4" stiletto heel boots, and went out for a walk. When checking in, the hotel was empty of people, so I was expecting no audience when clicking along in the hotel lobby, but alas, no, a bunch of people were checking in... One lady did sort of a double-take as she nearly tripped into me (by this time I was comfortable with the heels, so just enjoyed her reaction, rather than let it bug me).Walked around outside for 20-30 minutes, exploring a bit before heading back.

    The following day I again had an opportunity to go out, same stiletto boots. This time the lobby was pretty empty, and I spent about an hour walking around outside, exploring. It was after business hours, cold, so not a lot of people on the streets. Didn't want to go into any stores, but browsed. It was quite a lot of fun.

    On the way home, I just relaxed as I didn't have a chance to wear my heels anyway... Overall, good trip!

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  20. 25 minutes ago, loverleather said:

    I have been working about an hour away from home one day a week for the last month or so, every day before I head home I've been stopping at the local Goodwill store, just to browse. Yesterday when I stopped, I was surprised to find several pairs of shoes in a size 12. (If you have read some of my prior posts you'd know I wear a mens 14, but depending on the brand I can wear a womens 12)

    I browsed around the 4 large racks of shoes for about 20 minutes, found a pair of Clarks ankle boots sized 12M, after waiting for a younger female shopper to leave the racks, I sat down to try them on, which was a first for me! Prior to yesterday I would've bought them and hoped they fit when I got to my truck. For some reason (I think because of this forum) I decided to sit down and try them on, I did have socks on and they were a bit tight but I knew they would fit barefoot or with hose, and for $2.99 i couldn't pass them up. I haven't purchased any heels since I purged 3 years ago. I put them on before I left the parking lot and wore them all the way home.

    When I returned back to my town, I decided to stop by the Goodwill before going home, still wearing the boots, just said "fuck it" and walked into the store wearing my new boots, again another first for me, and again more props to all the beautiful people in this forum! I have not had time to take pics fo me wearing them as it was dark by the time I drove home. I do have pics of the boots

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    For some reason it wont let me post more pics, 

    Excellent to hear! Good progress! Hopefully you'll be able to do this more often now that the ice has been broken. :)

  21. On 11/5/2019 at 3:59 PM, balletboot said:

    I just may jump on them.. although I would rather have this pair but the only go up to a 9

    https://www.aldoshoes.com/us/en_US/women/footwear/boots/over-the-knee-boots/Graziella-Black/p/12655372

    Interesting coincidence! Been looking at those boots for the past two weeks, hoping Size 11 would at some point be available up here in Canada. Didn't find it on Amazon/eBay either. :( They're gorgeous shoes!

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