MackyHeels

5 hours ago, pebblesf said:

Macky

That is a sad story indeed....But,  I'm hoping you were able to feel good about your courage/conviction to wear the boots you enjoyed...I'm wondering if you asked your Mom to buy those boots for you, or did she encourage you to buy/wear them?  Times were surely different back then, but that is no excuse.  Your Mom should have been a little more protective of you, realizing your boots were not going to be well received.  Seems like your Mom did a flip/flop on you also, bought the boots for you then took them away...Perhaps I misread your post. 

Regardless of the times, there was no excuse for your teachers' behavior....I have some terrible memories of a few horrible teachers also.  Just wish I had 1/10th of your courage when I was that age, sure hope you realize how strong you were back then....

Thank you pebblesf but my Mom unilaterally buys clothes shoes for me and sis at K-mart.. She doesn't care what the gender for certain items are if they fit me i can wear them. She convinces me that the boots are classic and seen by many men wearing them so should have no problems at school little did she know. While i did make a lot of enemies kicking stomping at many students in my class a payback had to happen when the class bully came back from his illness. Lot of talk and threats were taken onto me which resulted in my older cousins and older neighbour kids to protect me. Little did the class bully know once confronted by my people what he was up against threatening me. So my ego grew and i decided to do the same towards the bully as he did to me. Begging him to hit me so i can sick my "dogs" or what i called my "neighbours tough kids" and older cousins beat his whole family  to a pulp. While following the bully home with the class comedian  talking trash about how weak he and his friend are mocking both there resolve he assuredly was afraid. Yet i kept nagging him to hit me so to have an excuse to call on reinforcements. Little did i know he punched me in the stomach taking the air out of my body. He ran home afraid what he done knowing i will begin a war soon. Kept my threat over his head everyday watching him escape from school not to be caught by my muscle backing me up thanks to my mom's request.
 

Yes my Mom likes to flip flop even today asking me to take the broken mounted Kitchen television out and install into her bedroom, yet not understanding the gapping hole it would leave or the trouble with wiring i went threw with cable, outdoor antenna port. Yet when i installed it in the kitchen  few month ago everything was fine but not anymore. Have to deal with her all my life watching her decisions flip flop or whims only because someone said some criticism of whatever it might be. A new painted wall looks ugly, mom has me painted again because a sister or friend told her there unbiased opinion. not liking it. 

So too when my sister was shopping for cable knit tights my mom bought two because i can wear them also. Yet my sister told her there for girls mom doesn't care to search or buy boys long johns too inconvenient  to browse the store more. Just told me to wear the tights nobody will see it. Until gym class where i had to change didn't cross my mom's mind i was wearing girl knit tights. Her reaction was so what.

Like her older sisters once were buying some feminine ladies lace sweaters. My aunt told my mom she didn't like the colour but it would look good for even a boy to wear like myself if i choose to. Something about young boy looking cute is genderless in fashion until he becomes a man. Then attitudes change and woman like my mom or aunt find it amusing even strange for male to wear heels, leggings or any feminine clothing.

As for courage or strength knew i was right but the teacher was wrong, so it gave me perspective that grown ups aren't so perfect or worth listening to. At the end of the day there only opinions from binary beliefs of gender roles in society for fashion and style by learned behaviour for some. 

The youthful experiences were not sad compared today's beliefs from average woman are much more unbearable then in the past. Only now i need to investigate delve deeper into woman's character and find some ugly facts that pale in comparison to the flakey party type diva teacher.

Often when i style myself today in benign manner with subtle feminine twist many males don't notice it but females often pick up on it. Be it wearing feminine sneakers woman see me and have repulsed look on there face. Yet males find my outfit cool or normal maybe flashy but nothing out of the ordinary compared to females that are more perceptive.

Just today i had two married female gym members talking about my feminine outfit i wear. Making compliments encouraging me to model for the  active wear brand i enjoy wearing. While difficult for me to accept there personal views of enjoying how my body appears in female leggings better than they can  wear. Laugh at their comments not believing there words feeling set up to fail. While i stayed humble and embarrassed paid a compliment by one of the ladies one telling me it's not only her that believes i got nice body.  Shaking my head at there suggestion to contact the active wear brand to model there clothing. Them telling hating the models wearing the clothes i would be good candidate to replace them. I couldn't understand a multi million dollar brand selling women's activewear using a male to model them would be received well.  In fact it may destroy the company calling it there marketing there product to CD. Although intriguing idea but doubt any shareholder of company would give the go ahead with it.

Talk about society being more open minded we are just as we were when i went to school in 70's, nothing changed. As far as the married woman addressing me in the gym in positive manner of the clothes i wear. It is seldom i can come across to these types of woman telling me they enjoy looking upon me in the gym laughing at themselves that i can wear such clothes so well and better than her. 

While more women are like the 70's teacher very self centered watching what they say only in public so not to be overheard of there negative opinions of males like me or us in the forum. 

On 8/27/2018 at 1:53 AM, Shyheels said:

Sounds deeply unpleasant and the kind of traumatic experience that could affect one many years down the track. It staggers me how people can be so unthinkingly - or in some cases even deliberately - cruel. What possible harm were you doing to anybody by wearing a nice pair of tall boots to school? Those teachers - if they were truly people worth of their jobs and who liked and understood children - should have complimented you on your boots, told the bullies to knock it off, and used their authority and to make it clear that being your own person was extremely important and worthwhile.

That's not the terrible part of the experience from the fashion conscious teacher that the female students worshipped. 

On 8/27/2018 at 10:33 PM, subtle said:

This really explains the tone I can hear reading some of your posts macky, sorry society was so cruel, when you were just trying to be yourself. I’ve had the same sort of ridicule but my mother couldn’t throw my name away.

 

After my teasing was taken care of by my heel kicks and stomps from the comedians. I began to strut in the playground on recess by myself intrigued with the girls that are pretty fellow students that exclusively the fashion teacher was mentoring. These fellow girl students looked flawless hair perfectly tied in pony tails or brushed perfectly straight, never out of place, they all looked like models in there cable knit white leggings pantyhose and short skirts with flats.

As i tried to get into the inner circle, click, the teacher set up, hand picking the most beautiful girls in her classroom. I stood observing the teacher walk out on the street to have her smoke during recess as her girls often shadowed her every move. After my ordeal i stood behind the teacher surrounded by other students unknown to her i was nearby. She began to comment to her pupils of my heel boots. Laughing to herself saying my mom probably wanted a daughter but disappointed in having a boy. Thus she physiologically wants to dress him up as a girl. Other pretty girls started to comment yah he be wearing our tights soon to school.  With her laughing, saying girls don't blame him, it's his mother's fault. Little did anyone know I indeed was wearing  same female cable knit tights  under my denim overalls when colder. That’s another story when someone noticed me in school wearing tights  removing my shoes and pant leg.  While i was clearly despondent, disappointed  to hear such words from this so called popular female attractive teacher one tall leggy blonde fellow student was listening in but watched my reaction. She had euro accent because of her great looks was accepted in the teachers inner circle click. Yet she felt the need to say something. She knew my family growing up in the neighbourhood but never talked to me. So she told the teacher that i have older sister and her comments were wrong. The teacher barely cared what she said, saying oh yah! while the other students began to mock her for opening her mouth because of her euro accent and challenging the popular teacher. Then when i stood out shocked at how the other pretty girls were treating her some noticed me bringing it to the attention of the teacher. The teacher never said sorry knowing i was behind her overhearing her wrong assumptions but told me to go away use another entrance to enter the school.

Later on on parents night some older generation students were hanging around waiting for the classroom meetings with the teacher. The blonde goddess euro fellow student was waiting in the playground outside as i with my sister. My older sister knew the blonde students older sister talking about nostalgia being in the same class as the posh fashion conscious popular teacher. As i was hearing the conversation about the teacher found that the blonde fellow student didn't like her as much as the other kids. Only reason because she treated her as second class citizen because of her euro accent. Even the older sister of the blonde agreed saying she is unfeeling bitch to other students talking to her pupils as there girlfriends about the dates she had on the weekend or men she slept with. Me and my sister wide eyed shocked at what we heard from the blonde sisters at how bad the teacher was as a role model, thinking this is going on to long year after year. A teacher who educates females to be snobs, exclude others for not looking or talking normally and what ideal man should be.

The tall leggy blonde gorgeous well dressed, in white or grey cable knit leggings, student asked me where are my heel boots? At that time blind man could see how i was gazed upon her long legs and thighs admiring those leggings in her short skirt. I told her, my mom threw  them out. Her older sister asked what heel boots? My sister explained in laughing manner my brother was wearing go go girl heels to school everyday. I defended myself saying there boots like cowboy boots annoyed with my sisters exaggerations and inaccuracy to make something she dislikes much worse than it is, Just like today saying i wear underwear in public while in truth there  leggings or short shorts, funny thing there her brand of leggings and short shorts she wears all the time. The blonde euro pretty student said nothing wrong with them looked good on me, explaining how i gotten teased unfairly by the students and the mean teacher. Which made me smile and sad knowing i never would be able to wear them again.   

Nothing has changed after forty years passed i can assuredly notice a woman clone to the teacher mentioned above in my workplace. She is mentoring boss of other younger females in their twenties laughing, grimacing reactions towards me what i wear etc... I can only compare the two, one at my workplace today and the teacher of 70's has the same binary beliefs of how one should be attired.

My only vengeance upon female like i described is stare upon her in disgust on what she is wearing although attractive i sneer and smirk upon her cheap clothes and heels. She recognizes my reactions feeling a bit uneasy and self conscious what she is wearing compared to few of my items i walk into to work wearing. Even when she voices in group of people she bought bunch of clothes for the season and has not worn them because of the poor weather looking at my expression. While i stand stoic not reacting in front of my boss trying not to show i'm bias upon her as much she is to me.

On 8/22/2018 at 11:32 PM, jetheelsfan said:

My first attempt of buying heels in a store with the help of a Payless SA was just before Halloween.  I was the easiest time of the year to go shopping for a "costume." The SA was able and willing to help me try and decide if the "proper" fit was going to be a 12M, 12W, 13M, or 13W in the Brash Kosmic platform round toe pumps. With her advise and help, I felt the best was a 13M.  But one toebox is different on each separate style as she told me and fit has to be found with each individual shoe style.  It would be best if you can find that help available on your shopping experience.  She and subsequent other made it a fun experience.  Then one SA remembered me from a previous visit and began to ask some uncomfortable questions I chose not to answer and have not been out shopping since.  

What uncomfortable questions?

Have instincts when going shopping noticing reactions from SA when i'm browsing certain feminine items. Usually if you keep regular schedule at certain stores once a week once a month certain store employees begin to recognize me. Often i'm browsing the woman's clothing section dressed up in my feminine style bootie heels, tight jeans, short shorts etc.. This makes me stand out from her female clientele noticed by store change room clerks, assistant managers, cashiers often are front and center observing looking through clothing racks for women's wear. 

Yes, i overhear laughter, certain chatter with cashiers to one another observing me shop from a distance. Sometimes the store manager is called because certain female employees find my browsing unusual. Usually the call is a false alarm from overzealous female employee pointing me out. Once the store manager was called out walk by me after my purchase, laughing at the call request about me,  from her naive sheltered conservative employee. The store female manager smiled upon me  saying hello observing me walking out. While i decided to stop and make a comment that in men's change room has infestation of ants in last stall. She was alarmed and surprised to hear that but thanked me for the insight. Asking me to have pleasant day while smiling upon me with enjoyment of my stylish outfit without judgement.

While other times some female SA notice me walking into the store and salt face reaction upon my style and being in the female section i'm browsing. Them being certain from other SA gossip, social media pictures of myself linked to the store, observing me wearing female clothes and  purchasing past feminine items to wear.  Only one female SA i see at the store gives me friendly hello and snooping intrigue what i'm purchasing at the checkout line. Yet she recognizes me from out of store experiences thus feels she knows me best because of my bold feminine unique style. Yet i often forget her face not recognizing her at the store.

Best advice is not run away from your fears but challenge yourself with the people that maybe only intrigued with your style. You can teach them a lesson or two but at least you face any adversity without running away. 

In many respects many woman find my style too much to accept. Usually it's unspoken but reactions aren't to positive on how i observe them.

Once in Stuart Weitzman store i asked if they had any sizes in 11 or 11.5 US. SA smiled reacting to the size i mentioned either assuming such a large size must be for me or that the sizing is not what the shoe brand sells. She explained in smirky manner almost wasting her time explaining that sizes like i requested doesn't exist. While  i told her differently she didn't believe me standing away almost turning her back to me. I looked at her confused that she didn't know the brand sizing telling her go to the department store you will find exact same booties in that size. Leaving the store at her confident ignorance chuckling at myself.  

13 hours ago, Shyheels said:

I liked your story too - it has a nice ring of recogniseable authenticity. I was never that into heels but I do recall a very pretty red haired girl who used to come into school in go-go boots (circa 1970). No heels, or at least I don’t remember tham as having heels - I might not have noticed, I really wasn’t into heels - just white knee high boots that seemed very cool and chic to me, so much so that I wanted a pair too, just like hers. I was so ditzy I didn’t even grasp at first that they were strictly for girls - in fairness that was an era of extravagant fashions for both sexes. (It also makes me think they couldn’t have had heels because that would have clued me in) At any rate, I really wanted a pair and probably would have asked my parents for some but then something, and I don’t remember what, tipped me off that these were girls boots and I was quite mortified. I still liked them, and sincerely wished it were possible for me to have a pair, but gave up on the idea entirely as one of the natural ways of the world, about which I could do nothing.

When i was 7 or 8 years year old 1977  my mom bought twin denim overalls and knee high boots for both me and my older sister. Often my mother bought us overdressed clothing for everyday wear rather casual clothes what other kids were wearing. Remember on wet rainy snowy day me and my sister were late to school. We both gotten our new digs and i kept slipping on the wet ice, rain, mix slush, gotten soaked. Because of the plastic leather sole had no grip in slippery icy conditions. The principal noticed my knee high boots while me and my sister waited in hallway stairwell near heater drying ourselves. Think he knew for kid my age the boots were not for me but for woman as my sister commented. I began to feel bit angry of all the fuss from others me loving these two inch block heels and platforms only the weather gotten me bruised up from the lack of grip my boots had outdoors. As the weather gotten better or dryer i wore my boots but many kids teased me for wearing girl shoes. I corrected them, lifting my pant leg up to my knee saying there boots showing them off. As the  patrolling teachers in recess noticed with that gasp shocked stares that we seen to know today wearing female heels ourselves. Some teachers started to gather as i was getting teased by students and bullies. The one female teacher was smiling one told the other she would love to wear exact pair herself to laughter of the other. This gave students more ammunition onto teasing me as girls began to start agreeing with the boys.  The two female teachers kept chatting one telling you shouldn't say that knowing how much i was getting named called girly shoes nah na nah.. Yet they both laughed to one another agreeing something they both would wear on A date Saturday night. Then to quench the teasing the teacher came to me saying my mom has good taste in shoes. Just they aren't for you honey. Little did she know it annoyed me a bit. Seeing the teacher was fashion conscious attractive woman that everyone liked. Thereafter i began to hate her while many girls had cult following to this popular teacher. Only i felt out on my own battling everyone yet still enjoyed wearing them. Stomping or kicking on any bully feet and shins knowing the hard platform heel can hurt a lot of kids. The teachers seen that gotten me in trouble for fighting then my mom had to defend me as the teachers blamed it's his boots are weapon and unsafe and the paved the path to get rid of such footwear.

Loved the platform zip side block heel go go boots wore them as much as i could. Yet my sister kept telling family members that i'm wearing woman boots. Some older cousins kept there eyes on them and had to agree in polite way. Later on my mom had enough and decided these boots weren't adequate footwear telling me for safety reasons i might break my ankle or knee even neck. This pressure came from numerous peers  of my mom noticing my go go boots thanks to my sister. Crying and begging my mom not to take them away. Little did she do but hid them in the closet buying me new sneakers as replacement i searched finding them decided to wear the boots instead. Little time after my mom threw them out on garbage day to the delight of my sister.

Don't believe people care less what we wear. It's polite people thinking that's odd or we are crazy for wearing this or that. While minding their business, to express any negative feelings or opinions. While many allow few to enter there inner circle of friends while keeping people like ourselves at bay. Understanding some cultures have subtle negative reactions while some just can't let it slide expressing themselves in the most outlandish manner  letting everyone know what they believe is only correct way to attire oneself.

While some just believe we are labeled transgendered,  gay, CD,  and know nothing about us. Offering  kindness believing we are marginalized by society for what we are.  Taking a compliment or pat on the back whenever we get it without thinking twice why are they so accepting to our style.

In many my experiences wearing woman fashions gym attire i find it easy as breathing never questioning myself because what others may think.  In fact i enjoy a glaring stare upon my clothes being noticed. Until someone smirks with amusement upon my style i then get little perturbed, accepting it as part of the oddity i wear.

On 1/28/2018 at 1:38 PM, Huhwhat said:

One of my favorite brands is Rock & Republic.  I rarely see them at the thrift stores, but when I do my eye is always drawn to them and those these were 8.5 and I'm a 9, I had to try them.
Yes.... they fit and they weren't going to be sitting on that rack anymore.
Once again, super comfortable to wear, to talk in and of course my weakness for ankle straps.

I decided to wear these to a department store at least long enough to find a full-length mirror to take a photo or two before I would leave.
A few people saw me and only one really took notice at the shoes and her look was one of surprise and a touch of envy... maybe she liked the shoes, maybe she isn't able to walk around in shoes like this.  I don't know because unfortunately, I'm still too shy to hang around.  I did feel a bit of pride when she gave the second look and looked at them as many women check out other women's shoes and not like it was something out of the normal.

It was only 5 or so minutes walking around... but each time I go a little longer and each time I feel better about it.

Let me first state love your style something I would wear if I had size feet like you size 9 woman’s lucky you. Not to be judgemental or rain on your parade specifically but needed to be said to others and myself included. 

Read an article somewhere a few days ago which was identifying/defining psychological misthinking related to the consequences of our actions. One of the definitions made me think of this forum. It gave an example of a person doing something that is not generally accepted behavior of attire and being convinced that the other person liked it envied us. 

The example was based on purposeful actions wanting to be seen in public flaunting ourselves than truly accidental  ordinary everyday occurrences. 

 Since most of the important heeling actions by our group are mostly done publicly and most of our descriptions of the situation include a statement of the other person enjoying it, it is very likely that we are falsely making a conclusion. I know I always feel that our stories have gone into the "creative" stage when the writer states how much the individual was observing our outfits. Among the other false conclusions our members make me being one. These are all just a quirk of nature--our wanting something so badly that we fail to think clearly.

Have to be guilty of it myself. Often believing when woman stare upon my outfits they are infatuated or envious of me.

What I experience in cold hard fact is most woman find my style nice. Yet believe it is absolutely wrong for any male to be wearing it regardless of how well you may intially appear. 

Keep on doing what we do heels skinny jeans look great despite what others reactions onto us may be. 

Never assume what others may think of us. 

Compliments have sweet sound echoing in my ears. I try not to take it seriously as when some makes negative comment I overhear. 

My strategy is ignore females that stare upon my outfits or body so i'm not one that is perceived begging for attention or approval. Often I notice some attractive females expect men to look at them. Often these females wrongly take a simple glance upon them as validation they appear pretty and attractive.  If they notice someone like myself not paying attention to attractive female they get self conscious of their appearance looking themselves over as what’s wrong with my outfit or body appearing to bland. Or when i do glance noticing there outfit and body shape they have a smart smirking demeanour maybe believing to themselves he definitely noticed me. Misthinking that i envy to wear their stylish clothes or want my booty to be more shapely as there's. Woman often observing me wear stylish female gym outfits can conclude i compare themselves to them. Envying the feminine qualities they enjoy, thus must be in competition with there styles, to there amused reactions. Few comments i overheard about me by woman telling others with amused smile "he's precious", "OMG!" "wish i had his legs so skinny", "like to have his butt", "nice body", Ok he has a good body i give him that but the clothes he wears have issues with that".

Few times i caught unknown to woman through mirror staring upon my wedgie legging covered buttocks during a pause of there leg workout in the gym. Observing there  shocked open mouth surprised reactions of me trying to figure out what they maybe thinking even though observing me often months on end.

So too we do the same when people ignore our bold unconventional outfits. Asking ourselves why aren’t people looking at me more, what’s wrong with what I’m wearing.

Difficult to say personal or sexual gratification in wearing heels depending on my mood. When i wear an outfit only heels that can only work it's not as enjoyable but necessary, so my attitude is just ordinarily normal. Liking it when it’s cold outside you wear more clothing to coverup your bare skin. When it’s warmer you shed the fabric off your skin making it feel more comfortable. Just like going to the beach or pool wearing little or nothing on. It is acceptable but in the right atmosphere, surroundings and mindset it can get very sensual. 

Unless the outfit becomes alluring or racy then yes it can become erotic joy seeing oneself all dolled up. Yet any heeling done out in public any gratification  goes out the window. Only because the anxiety it poses from reactions of others. This can easily rain on my emotions when negativity is in the air or spoil ones fun, while it often builds mental toughness and confidence which i may never experienced not wearing heels with my outfits.

My take on it is as some commented heels are made to excite males because woman are wearing them to accentuate there booty. Yes, some do find that particularly attractive but the basis of the research is skewed for that belief making a woman's body more attractive or sexual etc.. In many respects woman don't enjoy wearing heels 90% find it painful and not comfortable. Only reason some woman wear heels is social acceptance meaning if there at a wedding wearing a dress heels are mandatory shoe to wear or at the  workplace. While in everyday life woman wear comfortable shoes only wearing heels on special occasions to highlight or standout with there outfit. Making other woman jealous with envy with there unique designer heels flaunting themselves not only towards males but there peers for compliments. Why wear a particular outfit that nobody notices or says i love you in that or that looks so pretty, worth the time and money to boast woman's ego.

Feel it's a costume woman want to be seen wearing for few hours a gown heels makeup hairstyle, manicures, pedicures, cinderella complex of dress up observing closely what there peers can show off giving to new ideas of fashion sense. Becomes sort of a hobby for woman to architect there outfit for that weekend ballroom dinner or special charity event. 

The research also doesn't figure on what type of heels woman wear. Is block two inch sandal, block bootie, something they considered? Have they just assume a classic stiletto heel as the research base line?

Also comparing woman's back arch in heels have they done or shown any evidence of females sitting in heels in effect losing the arch in the back. Ask themselves why females in heels sitting can look as good when they are standing?

My reasoning on why we wear heels is we look taller thus feel we cheated our genetic makeup of height by using artificial means such as heels. Woman cheat by adding butt enhancement, silicon bra pad lifts, corsets to make there waist smaller etc..  Add to that as  primitive animal species we instinctively believe anyone taller is automatically stronger, powerful someone to back away from with fear. Bear goes up on it's hind legs makes it look taller to discourage predators etc..

Heels also males us feel good when people look upon us more taller we are the more we stand out. Woman works hard spending money and time to outfit themselves then wears flat shoes nobody cares, no compliments or notices which is disappointment. While if she puts on platform stilletos she rises above the crowd to be gawked upon convincing  herself people like what i'm wearing, while it's only her height people are noticing. 

Brief example work with this older posh lady she outfits herself well with three inch heels or so block heels peep toe sandals etc.. So one day after our summer vacation she walks into a room with Jimmy Choo nude platform stilletos heels must of been five or  six inches. Everyone turned there heads while i stood admiring her incredible stunning appearance in flower printed green summer dress. She knew it instantly the attention she received to me she looked over 6 or 7 feet tall but that was my initial perspective upon her, bigger then life. Later on we greeted one another face to face although she was little taller then me in the platform heels it was different then my normal interaction looking upon her eye to eye or slightly below with regular shorter heels. So hight heels change our perspective whenever we observe someone regularly suddenly we look upon them as taller. Like a child growing up we take things for granted, then suddenly kids are grown adults and we are stuck with memories of there appearance from the past. 

We as humans like to change and our appearance  that  comes naturally through our aging process. While fashion changes by the seasons woman need to adapt new things thus some slim sleek outfits look better with narrow slim heel. Let's face it everything we do is attract attention to whatever we want to sell our clothes or bodies as attractive no matter the gender.

If your buying a car a dealership may put the car on ramps to showcase the vehicle to stand out more. We buy flowers putting in pots and vases but never do we keep them on the floor but project them on pedestal higher up from terraferma.

   Human body wants to be seen we try to buffer our primal web feet off the ground to project our entire bodies better then blending into the earth. We may stand on a box or lift ourselves off the ground to achieve a more pleasing shape. Woman fitness competitions are exclusive to sandal heels to achieve a more statuesque appearance. Can't be possible to pose on stage in flat shoes or barefoot yet the model bodies appear to stand out in heels better. Added to that woman wear thong bikini's while the male competition frowns upon it least of all wearing a heels  for men yet it makes perfect sense for aesthetic purposes, yet i digress again for another topic..

4 hours ago, SF said:

A lot of these “percieved” claims of harassment boil down to how (and by who) the comment was made. Society has gotten so schizophrenic about this nonsense that for the past many years I have forgone the pleasure and politeness of complementing any woman, or man for that matter, regarding any aspect of their dress or appearance.  An extreme stance I realize, but it works well for me.

Particularily in the work environment. A harassment claim, real or percieved can cost you and your employer dearly.  

A crying shame we have evolved to this state.   Sorry this happened Gibby, maybe a lesson learned.  

Just my two cents, I am certain others will offer their opinion as well.  

Having said that, have fun in your heels, I know I do, compliments or not....  ha ha     sf

Agreed I do the same keep my trap closed. Only because it maybe pereceived as creepy be it my tone or the way they I’m dressed. I notice and pickup visual ques from the ladies understanding there not to keen on my choice of style. Meaning how boldly and exhibitionist I wear it showing my body  bulges  and curves. 

When people on the c/o beach ask me questions. Often they state don’t take this the wrong way, or don’t get offended.., may I ask you question, sorry to bother you...etc... In all my examples it often follows a compliment of sorts. 

Some people respect other people more then others. So when man dresses as a woman people can assume something is wrong mentally about him. So anything he says to them compliment or not is often taken with a grain af salt. That’s why I never give compliment to a woman about her outfit. One reason being I’m a male wearing female gym gear how’s my opinion of her  clothes taken to heart or serious. Them think him as a man doesn’t know how to dress his opinion worthless.  Did that once to female in the gym commenting that I got to stay clear of you, being those cheetah wild cat leggings make you vicious. Then I tempered it saying they look nice on you, I like them. She smiled pausing with chuckle thanking me but knowing her negative demeanour with her boyfriend  over the years my comment made no impact either way..  Although do feel she felt wanting to quirk back having me wear them. Yet she may have felt it maybe taken as joking stab or criticism of my female legging style at the gym. Or very least think I may want to buy wearing same leggings in the gym as her. 

Also people are private often don’t want to share information about there status, married divorced, single,  engaged to stranger they just met, feels uncomfortable. 

We as males have to be careful not to be perceived that we are flirting with females. We as humans pickup ques when someone targets us with affection. This makes us uncomfortable when the person doing it is someone you don’t respect. 

Have a female gym member compliment me  on my body. Every visit afterwards we run into one another. We never say a word to one another. Often hiding our face onto our phones or look the other direction in passing.  While I do notice as she does of each other. We act is if we are strangers. Yet I feel as she we enjoy flaunting ourselves being visible what we wear to one another, getting satisfaction from slight glance reaction of what we are wearing in the gym. Either making the other envious what we have on or simply shy in  conversation. 

Only reason I keep away from said gym woman is her social media blogs learning her personality. Self absorbed following textbook steps to improve her life. Try talking to someone  new that you never  would seeing how it may change her life. Etc.., 

Yet in past I observed her closely of perception of me in the gym . Everything I heard and observed with her interaction with others simply her tone of voice of me was negative. Or very least jealous or envious of my clothes or body. That is why her changing ways of improving her life is temporary lie. People don’t change that much and I leave it at that. If she comments again or starts asking questions I say little as possible rather be suduced with sweet words which are only meant to have me open up of what I’m all about. 

While I observe many woman stare upon my gym outfits envious what I’m wearing or my body. Although many aftraid to compliment it or say a kind word. Only because it may cause me wrongly to believe they are infatuated with me. They just rather look staring with an open mouth silent rather simply saying something nice in fear I might interpret there words differently. That tells me a lot if I were to say nice things back. They may think  cross dresser at the gym likes me ha, ha thought he was gay as if she would ever consider befriending me or stepping out on the street way the way i style myself to there amusement or embarrassment least going out on a date. 

One sure way I feel the temperature what woman think of me is by soicial media. Send out a picture of me outfitted on the beach or gym. If the woman responds back usually it’s positive. If no response is given I have my answer. 

One compliment i will will always remember. Acted as if I was shocked at the time was easy to do. Older married tanned skinny lean fit  one track minded female with very posh appearance . Noticed she observed me carefully closely over months but nothing had been spoken even hello or smile only her odd stares upon me. Working out next to her stationary bike often felt she wanted to say something to me but never did. You know the type of I’m about to say a comment then forgoing it. Only imagined what was going through her mind. Closely watching her through my periferal vision. Felt uncomfortable vibe from her like she wanted to get off her chest but was afraid. My instincts told me it was her sexual desires, urges to try to befriend me yet fighting them off because of marriage. Felt she was fighting internal sexual  battle within herself attraction towards me. Daydreaming of me how interaction would grow maybe sexual act being performed.  Wishful thinking of my part but her past gym membership when single knew of her sexual exploits with many men, when I was young gym novice overhearing chatter on the cardio machines with girlfriends while I wasn’t on her radar wearing modest clothes myself.

 Much later I learned her infatuation of my body part got her in serious trouble with the husband  and truth came out overhearing  talking to mutual minded female younger friend. Oh boy were my ears burning and past  instincts and assumption were correct. Her mind was filled with nasty sexual thoughts about me  every time we were at the gym. To point she changed time of day visits and later gym not to run into me. Out of sight out of mind as she put it. No point driving her infatuation upon me stronger more she seen me workout in the gym. Remember telling me do you mind if I just watch you workout, while waiting to use the same equipment. 

We both were on the gym floor attempting to gather the same dumbbell weights from a rack. In between two busy bench’s with tight squeeze. We faced each other she gathered the weight first telling me to look for heavier weights beating me to it. I sighed, but she was only foot across from my face same height as me. Her head looked down upon my leggings I was wearing saying with sly smile, very impressive as to clearly remark upon my bulge she was looking upon. Often I seen her looking upon my bulge in leggings at the gym alongside her husband never saying a word. Other people noticed and heard her sexual derived compliment about my outline package easily seen through my female leggings. Didn’t know how to react to be pleased, embarrassed or be angry at her overt sexual compliment in front of virtually everyone except her husband who was absent at the time. 

Doubt anyone is reinvented the wheel here. Styles often are copied and mixed only niche group or minority may welcome a change or something they never seen before. Only historian can smile and yawn seeing something similar. While vast majority see it as novel or welcome chic style. 

Not everything we style in our lives appeals to everyone. Saying that if we choose to wear a bold style risking the daily trends. We are applauded for the effort by open minded people. 

Confidence is always key but sometimes that can cause people to believe your cocky or arrogant. Thus finding it disheartening trait loving your appearance but saddened with your brassy words or actions. Some might shy away from me if act like that because there intimidated unable to interact.

Life's never a utopia wearing what we enjoy and somebody says something to make you feel ashamed or think twice of your decision to wear it. We live in fear knowing those idiots are lurking when we least expect it and throw it in our faces.

Was boarding a boat, for a short trip, had on my female gym gear on, tiny juniper green short shorts, and smoked mulberry  tank top riding my bicycle with multi coloured fuchsia, green, purple black, sneakers to my destination. Heard the males on the pier comment to one another. Both looking at each other without saying a word like it was obvious noticing my outfit. One saying to the other, " if i were too wear that, i be arrested." to giggle of the other. Yet i said nothing but knew and heard the comments take place. Was it compliment or jab at my choice of clothing either way they took my money and i boarded the boat for my trip. Guess sailors or captains of the fleet of boats the company has were interchangeable jobs taking money and delivering orders to the other captains navigating the fleet of vessels. 

While my journey riding my bicycle in my short shorts, sneakers, and tank top i mentioned above i observed random females reactions as rode passing them. About five woman that really took notice what i was wearing either the colour of my shoes, how short my shorts were or the overall colour choice i complimented the outfit i was wearing. From my experience nobody laughed but all five did look surprised or envious with my outfit. 

Have recent examples i observed at the beach. Had encounter from a male asking me a question. He stated not wanting to offend me. Curious statement, but when i heard it made me really wonder what it meant. His question was, What's my background? I paused thinking why is he asking. I told him to clarify, his question. He described looking me over telling if i was white under that suntan i had. Plus he added compliment about passer byes enjoying observing my body or his exact words booty. Let put it mildly  i was leaving a lot of fabric at home that day at the beach.

Thought it was a really racial motivated question if you read between the lines or strings in my case. 

Later as i moved off the beach noticed a regular beach goer tanned as much as me, tall, handsome male. He was yelling to a group of woman for whatever reason. I thought the male was going crazy with these group of pale woman laughing upon his rant. When i finished using the facilities i ran into him at another location talking to another elderly beach goer. Explaining from the elderly male to calm down and not be so harsh upon the ladies visiting the beach. While tan male explained the woman were mocking his suntan that he would get skin cancer he only replied in awkward manner  yelling  the same to the group of woman spending the same time on the beach as him. Suppose it was his poor lost  argument which made  it sound  strange and more amusing to the wonderful mocking ladies. 

What i took from the experience was the male wanted some conversation but the females didn't find his appearance to there liking which offended his feelings. Think when someone feels he looks the part for a woman's ideal man tall, dark, handsome then attraction should be easy without any words spoken. In truth the females never came to pickup males but nitpick on males any flaws or dislikes which on any beach can easily be done. Did find lesson from his experience was to lighten up and not be so serious about oneself. Although knew how the tanned male felt i could of been easily in his flip flops that afternoon on the beach. Did notice the male being a bit disgruntled walking the beach. Guessing he didn't receive the normal accolades and shocked stares or warm smiles from woman that day thus his outburst and angry demeanour which took little to set him off to attack the naysayers.

No need to interact with individuals that have narrow minded views of style and fashion. What would i hope to achieve or learn trying to explain my views of fashion that is opposite to there beliefs? Only can answer that question by number of total calories burned and time wasted for nothing gained or achieved. Ever heard never argue politics and religion, with people with opposite views? They should add to that fashion style as well...

It's not as bad as you may believe. In fact many just simply go about there business at least those who seen me often enough. Some asian females are shy to discuss my outfits seemingly think i will be upset or angry. Even though they are intrigued of my style and taste for male to wear female clothing. Observing some females glazed eyes onto me is sometimes funny and bit of a turn on, making more of it then really is, Just a stare.. nothing more...

When i was younger i did exactly like some suggested look at them with creepy death stare. Think i perfected that look that automatically i use it as defence mechanism rather to smile and think people are more evolved and accepting with my style. Have a permanent wrinkle between my eyes from the scowls i've given throughout the years from ignorant, bigoted people.

It's nothing to do with courage or cowardliness but how others treat me by keeping silent, often is telling sign what they think. Ever hear "have nothing nice to say, don't say anything. Silence amongst the females i observe on a daily basis is telling provocative signal what they truly believe of my appearance. 

While i do sound as though i'm complaining. Not my intention only reporting what i see and observe in my life. If that is negative well so be it. 

Happyinheels good points you made and history lesson.

Take a look at Argentina now with Bavarian Nazi camp thriving today under our noses. You may say how could that happen. After the war many Nazi fled to Argentina making it there home. The country or different political powers protecting them because they were helping uncover secrets from the opposition. Nobody dared to oust them from the country because the secrets would come hurting the reigning powers or oppostions. This kept going into the 90"s and only the nazi's learned how to gather intelligence better from individuals using torture and the usual methods many heard in the war. In fact they have village  bought and paid for from working with and for he Argentinian government... Even the Mossad  funded the Nazi's scientists millions of dollars as rouse to build a bomb for Egyptian government out of Argentina to be used against Israel, which never worked  because the Israelis sabotaged the project from the beginning to nones awareness.

You go walking along the village today  and are white  stranger european decent they say hello in German very polite. If your brown skin from Argentina they ignore you like garbage. In fact the generation is proud of there Nazi heritage showing the medals of there late Nazi's grandfathers etc.. Even Dr. Mengela dies in Brazil  in 1979 swimming of the coast from a stroke.

Think things change or attitude from torture and killing because someone says no more. Or we just evolve in better people over the years educating ourselves to be more inclusive. Now look at the political spectrum of leaders being elected and giving the world and country a big middle finger of PC attitudes being shoved down peoples throats. People wanting there leaders saying the wrong things. While the media reports it as lunacy and bad character. While the electoral class cheer on saying good. don't like it when people tell a grown man or woman how to act or say to someone they have issues with be it there colour of skin, sexual orientation, or just what they like to wear. Bottom line we can't convince everyone to treat you with respect. Even if the reporters tell people that daily on the news.

On 7/12/2018 at 3:10 AM, HappyinHeels said:

Mackyheels,

IF you are ignoring the people who are staring and smirking then how are you able to provide such vivid recollections of their reactions? While I do not think you are "projecting yourself" onto them I am nevertheless convinced you derive tangible satisfaction in messing with their heads. The sheer amount of detail in your posts tells me you are not ignoring them rather observing them the way a prudent journalist would observe the world and document what was seen and heard. I mean if you really thought someone were laughing at you then I would be inclined to give them the Joe Pesci treatment. "Am I funny to you? Am I a fu.....ing clown here to amuse you?" Now that will reset the table for sure. Maybe not your cup of tea. But at least you would know and the would-be detractor would know exactly where you stand. Life is really short and is best enjoyed when people respect each other. If not then you bulldoze them out of your way either by actually ignoring them or engaging them. They might never smirk at anyone else again. You either enable the bully or educate the bully. If pink is the color and the gym is the venue then all who see you should know you belong there as much as anyone else. Don't ever forget that. HappyinHeels

Sometimes i focus on my workout having tunnel vision looking upon the ground. While majority of the time i look subtly with the gym mirrors observing others without them knowing it. So in fact i seemingly ignore others to there knowledge but secretly recognize my surrounding and people in it. Added to the fact i'm regular gym rat i often see the same faces time after time. Observing there reactions or chatter with others and clothes they like to wear. 

As for deriving tangible satisfaction in messing with there heads... If woman are so narrow minded or bigoted then they do it onto themselves with my treatment towards them. Never do i believe you can win people over by confronting them. 

Life appears to be a series of social issues strung out to cause discomfort amongst unlike minded individuals, all of which requires their expressing their disapproval/disputation in the most expressive and easily interpreted ways.

So i just do my thing in the gym if some woman who is self conscious of her body which many are decide to look me over. Later feel despondent wishing to have legs such as mine comparing themselves to me in the mirror as i workout next to them isn't my problem. If that messes up there minds so be it.

Seen today the fat quad leg asian gal who i described in earlier post that glazed her eyes on me while she sat later stood at leg press machine. At the time i thought she was observing my leggings or pink tank top. In fact i learned today from her stare down onto me again. She was observing my curved physique outline  buttocks legs in my leggings i was wearing. As of today seen her finishing up some stretching noticed me then began to turn facing as i walked passing her. She gave me the full look over, mostly seen her focus on my backside and legs. Suppose she was fixated onto my buttocks like the  other day as many woman are working out there legs comparing themselves to others. 

Just like i seen today at the gym asian couple walked in with me all of us dressed in street clothes. never seen them before. Later in the gym the woman was wearing pink tank top and black leggings. I noticed her across the gym but she was busy working out with her boyfriend. Until she paused to rest looked upon across the gym noticing me. She had this confused brow expression, hands on hips, as if she was thinking, what the heck is he wearing... As her boyfriend took her away from staring upon me, heard him laugh to her saying, ever see someone look like that before?.. She said, you mean what he is wearing..? His response, yah with snorting giggle. She mumbled something never in my life...incoherent words........

Later as i got closer to her working out she seemed stoic minding her business only observed me closely as i initially walked by setting up my next exercise. She then stared straight ahead virtually ignoring me then abruptly left the gym floor with her boyfriend. Observed her body as she went to get a drink of water unnoticed i seen her backside in leggings. For many woman it would feel awkward to be wearing leggings with flat buttocks as she was showing. 

8 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Interesting.  Are you sure you're not just projecting onto them?  

No projection from me. Overheard many conversations about me from some others asking what you think of him... When i hear woman bad mouth me saying, love his taste in clothes even willing to admit i'm jealous, but find it weird, or wrong for him wearing them.

Also you get better understanding observing some females over and over again with there styles and colour choices they wear. When i see tall blondie driving up in her Audi convertible in tight  black mid length dress and flats then change into her gym outfit always in pink sneakers and tank top . While i wear different darker colours such as blue, grey etc.. I'm virtually invisible to this lovely pink wearing blondie. Until i wear something pink her head turns often find she is gazing upon me until i look in her direction. While other woman smirk seeing me wear a hot pink top as finding it funny or that she has observed me in every colour of the rainbow included pink is just to bold for a woman to wear let alone a man.

While i notice what others woman wear to the gym particular styles colours that they are fond of. When i purchase something new in similar colour but more updated hue or tone. They stare subtly some more obvious then others while i know that my choice i wear is something they may indeed want to wear themselves. One asian female often wears purplish pink tank top with black leggings to the gym or lighter pink tank. When i bought similar coloured top  if not better tone wearing it in the gym seen her initial reaction. The expression i seen on her face was open mouth jaw drop other then the colour i had on the style and fit of my gym wear was same she seen for long time before. Only can conclude she admired if not loved the colour i was wearing. Even the other day in the gym she was sitting on piece of equipment leg press machine eyeballing me for what seemed forever before i noticed she was slightly hidden away from me. When she stood up i noticed her just staring at my smoked mulberry leggings and pink plush tank top complimenting the outfit with pink grey female nike metcons. This is from female seen me before arrive at the receptionist desk to enter the gym wearing my skinny jeans and heel booties., Seen her initial wide eyed stare upon me closely seemingly stoic expression  that outfit and heel booties I had on shouldn’t be that surprising  compared to what she seen me wear on the gym floor.  While seen her with her  boyfriend Caucasian male not to flashy ordinary styled manner and appearance. 

1 hour ago, Shyheels said:

Pink and it’s shifting gender connotations is quite an interesting story, driven much by both fad and shrewd department store marketing during the early years of the 20th century. My grandmother (born 1904) certainly bought into the pink-is-for-girls thing. She was aghast when she heard I had a pink shirt when I went off to university back in the 1970s. 

In all those years I have never had the least issue with wearing pink. Not the slightest, I’ve two pink shirts and a pink cycling jersey in my closet right now and, with the exception of discussions such as this, truly never give a thought to any perceived connotations. 

I find it rather amazing that there are people, and young people too, who buy into that sort of mindset.

For experimental purposes I decided a while back to wear pink workout SS tight top from famous yoga brand which I often seen in different colours.

Observed woman’s reactions to my new workout colours in the gym. These woman seen me before wearing same style gear but not pink. Once wearing different hues of pink i noticed belly laughs as they passed by or intensive giggling even there friends told them enough already. 

While I still wear various colours of pink to the gym. Woman still can’t stop noticing the colour staring upon me longer then usual or sudden initial shock reaction. Some might even get angry writing me off ignoring me in huff. 

Often I wear pink for dissanonce reactions while other females enjoy wearing pink as a colour for the gym. Proof is when certain brand of new gym yoga clothes come out with pink colour often is sold out faster then anything they sell. 

Some Woman feel they have exclusive right to wear pink. While a man can only highlight there appearance with tie, shirt or handkerchief. Yet if man tries to wear a main colour pink he is looked upon funny. Or is assumed that he doesn’t enjoy woman only men. Go figure...

My belief about people’s assumed stereotypes with likes of pink colours. Just ignoring them is my reaction. Why chat with ignorant narrow minded bigoted individuals who assume they are always right categorizing putting me in a box. 

Nobody can stop me wearing colours I enjoy. Reactions I see from few woman sometimes is perceived to me as envy and jealousy. Which often know it’s not they like what I wear looks good on me. But colour I wear would look good on them thus there gazing upon me in the gym. 

Wore gym outfit as pic shown. Long time female gym rat looked me over initially once noticing me arrive. Mubbling something to herself about what I was wearing. Later she walks next to me talking  to herself, chuckling in smirking manner, he will wearing almost anything. Dont know if her reaction is from all the new outfits I wear she seen me in or the colour choice I choose looking to feminine for her tastes. 

Funny story of the hating woman is she seen me in a new outfit. Couple woman also so they bought it wearing it to the gym. We all were wearing exact same colour style. Then they lay down next to me stretching at the gym. Many people walked by noticing with smirks on there faces. See pic below. 

There’s no denying it the hating woman wanted a conversation with me. Buying exact same outfit unusual colour for her to be wearing. She wanted me to make eye contact but I ignored her. Keeping to my beliefs I stated above. Not to associate with narrow minded, bigoted females no matter how attracted they are to me.  If she is shy to talk to me so be it, yet has the notion to belittle what I wear to the gym pink in particular. 

On 10/25/2017 at 12:39 PM, pebblesf said:

I was having a great time in my RL boots walking around in Vegas the other day when I stumbled a bit and noticed more clicking than usual coming from my 4" stiletto boots.  Sure enough, logging the miles had blown out on of the heel tips.  I made my way back to the hotel and took a seat in the bar/casino area to watch the world go by.  I did notice one nice looking tall gent with long grey hair was having a great time with a few people around him, all laughing it up....

I then noticed he was bare footed and was holding a pair of strappy heels in his hand!  Stay cool I thought, don't be creepy, don't go lurking around him.  But, on the other hand, I did not want the opportunity to meet this fellow and compliment his footwear get away.  I watched as he and his friends got up and headed for an exterior door, better hurry up and do something I thought.  I followed the group as they went outside, they seemed to be waiting for a cab...Then, the gent turned around, headed back for the door, I intercepted him by opening the door for him and giving the usual "like your heels" compliment.  The gent laughed saying he was creating quite the stir, he claimed one of his gal pals' feet were killing her while wearing the strappy silver heels.  The gent had given her his sandals and was holding her heels....I almost blurted out with something like  "well I'm sure those heels would look great on you...." compliment but decided he might be offended so kept my trap shut (amazingly).  We laughed as he went back out the door.  Funny thing is, I forgot all about me wearing 4" stiletto boots, and I don't think the gent even noticed my boots....

I know what you mean. Had similar request from a beautiful woman at work. She had on platform silver strapy sandal heels, all dolled up for evening event. She cried out to group of us. Looking more towards me focusing her request. Asking if she could swap her heels wearing my shoes. Only I was wearing sneakers. It gave me clue into she suspected I wear heels also. Only few in my group laughed upon her calling her stupid for wearing such shoes. While I muttered to her I doubt they fit me. Nobody took my comment seriously but sort of knew she did taking second surprised stare upon me. Realizing I maybe right about sizing looking back at me, as I was serious. Seeing that I often wear tight female jeans at work. Isn’t out of the realm of possibility I may pertake wearing a heel shoe now and again. In her mind if a guy cross dressed in skinny woman jeans he probably has a woman shoe in his closet. 

Yet if at any other location if the familiar woman I recognized asked me I will do it giving her mine. That is if I was wearing heel booties giving her the chance to wear mine. Doubt any woman would judge or complain for me wearing heels only be thankful I helped being gentlemen. Makes for great story for her laughing later to her female friends. Yah, there was a guy in heels gave me his saved my feet for the evening. 

11 minutes ago, fiddler1307 said:

Love these shoes, they have to be one of the sexiest shoes I've seen for ages.

16 hours ago, bambam said:

Just walked down Olympic here in LA in these during rush hour. People literally stopped in traffic and stared, and three women stopped and merged over to get a better look. It can't be this hard guys, its just so hypocritical...

No worries, you get use to the stares and attention. Enjoy it. 

Whats the worst that happened? Report back with your experience when someone crashes, caused by not paying attention looking upon you. Had that happen to me a near miss accident while showering by the c/o beach. 

Tourist no doubt wanting to take pictures. Location you choose should of been cool but busy. West Hollywood, paramount studios. Although most of them staring never seen a tall male in heels. Maybe they thought your  Russel Brand trying to get a better look. Don’t always assume it’s your heels although that may attract someone’s eye at first. LA might be tough spot because celebs we might look similar towards, people may mistaken us  thus watching to closely. 

Best advice keep doing it. Even visiting the same spot and time of day. Sooner or later people or regulars passing through will completely recognize you thus reacting less going about there business. Then you can gauge people’s reactions seeing if there expression is oh it’s him again, rolling eyes.. or smiles with comments with curious questions. Are you an actor?? Etc., 

Don’t get upset because your not being treated like any woman wearing heel boots. We are males wearing there heels, so cut them some slack of vision they never seen before, only on television they seen such a sight. 

Good luck.

Celebrities in sock heel boots with leggings and tight tops. 

Kim and Kylie 

someone is wearing the wrong colour purse...

little shocking to observe yet wonder what the reactions were from people on the street. 

Yet if I or any male wearing that most people would smirk upon the tight style.

Yet in the gym outfit like that I wear daily without anyone commenting or saying a word. Of course less the sock Heels. 

First time of my many years being only male wearing tight outfit like Kylie and Kim are wearing. Seen a tall lean black athletic male wear in all black in the gym. Nobody said a word to either of us but I of course got few more stares from the ladies, envious of the colour I had on. 

11 hours ago, highheel111 said:

Hi all,

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I wore my heels to the dentist today Heres how it went down. I drove down to the dentist and sat in my car for a while, feeling a bit sick and nervous I finally grow some balls and walked in. There was the receptionist at her dest and a lady in the waiting room.  They had hard wooden floors so they both would have known i was wearing heels. Nothing was said to me. When i went into see the dentist she had a look of shock on her face, she definitely had seen my heels and skin tight jeans. Normal conversation took place, about how was your day? have you been busy etc etc. and then when i opened my mouth just before she started she said “i like your heels, how do you walk in such high heels”. I said with great practice. She then said “ i used to wear high heels like that but i can’t anymore.’ The female assistant didn’t say anything the whole time she was a bit younger and probably didn’t know what to think or where to look. After the appointment i walked out to pay nobody was in waiting room.  We chatted for a bit more then i left. I was so happy with this experience i decided to go to the local department store and look at some more heels. Walked in the store and walked around the edge of the store where nobody could have seen me. When i got to the shoe section two female workers were there. i could see them smiling an giggling. The younger one in her late teens went off to tell her work mates, as i saw another couple  of female staff members come over to look. nothing was said just smiles. I left with out buying anything as they didn’t have my sizes. Next  I went to go get an hour long thai massage. Lady didn’t say anything to me when i walked in during or when i left. Its like she didn’t notice or didn’t care. What an exciting outing it was today.

Going shoe shopping or browsing I know the reaction you gotten must of felt awkward. Usually SA are trying to be courteous but the giggles would effect my phyche while shopping. Suppose some SA who seen me do the same at first running away not wanting to laugh openly  stare or react to offend me with any help I needed. Either way I notice SA  disaproval no matter how subtle they all try to act busy. Curious did you ask SA for sizing? Or there standard bug off reply, we don’t have or make heels in your size, sir! 

Nice pic and experience you shared. Find female dentist often are polite nice people. Maybe because what they are going to overcharge me for the appointment and work done is there reaction getting back or the last laugh. Why offend paying customer thinking to herself I could buy pair of designer heels from his visit.

While the single dentist assistant’s receptionist often hit on me completmenting my features very aware of everything, notably my teeth including the married dentist. May try going in with heels and skinny leggings to my attractive female dentist. Do feel it would be unforgettable memory for everyone involved.

Doubt I could do it without laughing at 600 lbs gorilla in the room. More they ignore my outfit more I know they notice, difficult to keep a straight face. Which is necessary in the dentist chair... They may need to gas me, then I can record there comments about my style with my phone. Who knows what may happen..

8 hours ago, nzfreestyler said:

Its a shame if the green heels are at your upper limit although wearing them for shorter time periods will be ok. Just goes to show how every few mm of extra heel height at you top end makes a huge difference to real wearability if you have to do plenty of walking. It will be more your ankle flexibility limiting you than a problem or limitation with the arch of your foot. You could try using your hips more - leading with each hip helps with taller heels = I didn't realise until I had it pointed out to me - but I lead with my hips and it allows me to wear steeper heels and have a bit of spring in my step still - for me a 5.5inch heel is incredibly steep - on vertical. Perhaps you should use your hips? I mean models do it to exagerate a strut - but its essentially the same walk - its very easy in heels - sort of makes sense.

 

Can you show video demonstrating the walk with your hips. With my Achilles injury I do fast walking on the treadmill. Notice when I exaggerate my stride with my hips swaying more it relieves pain in my foot. Don’t have experience doing it in heels. Would seem to be very difficult walking swaying hips seeing your off balance from planting your foot forward. I can imagine it like ice skating almost sliding the shoe rather stepping, is that accurate statement.

Please help because i’m interested in buying Pleasers seduce 420’s  being five inch heel. My only hesitation is the accurate fitting me being a  9.5us in men’s thinking 11us women’s should do well. Even some say court heels fit small. 

Another one I have my eye on in purchasings is 1969 Anouks. Don’t know the exact heel height15 cm  but know they are challenge to wear or walk around in. 

On 5/30/2018 at 7:34 PM, pumps13 said:

I found some nice Calvin Klein pumps on Nordstrom Rack for not too bad of a price.  They go up to size 13 so lots of choice for now.  Black and Carmal?  For me they were a bit snug at first but the leather is stretching nicely and they are very comfortable now.  I think the heels are a bit higher than 4" maybe 4.5" These are size 13.

 

Seen them online but find something odd about the thicker heel. Added the fact the logo is stamped on the side of the shoe turns me off from purchasing semi-synthetic leather court shoe. Although the picture you shown looks different then at Nordstrom rack. If they were at the store I would try them on to see how comfortable they be walking. Suppose they are good cheap alternative for an office shoe.. 

1 hour ago, Sydheel said:

Went into WANTED shoes yesterday and tried on the SIREN 'posse' boots in black leather. They have an interesting flat type heel that is 9cm. I have been tossing up whether to get this in the black (which is after all a little more wearable day to day) or the Red patent.

Theyre both on special at moment from $249 to $120

 

 

Great deal and find. Heel of the boot reminds me of Rag & Bone Ellis boot. The napa leather looks like a comfortable boot. As for the colour black is a safe and goes along with everything. The red patent is bit much, if the red colour was like the one pictured below matte finish would be a good fashion bootie.

I like the white bootie myself stands out trendy colour for the much of the year. Paired with black leggings the booties would stand out.  

 

Bowie chalk kid look appealing but size 10 is way to small for metal heel stiletto for me if they came in larger size i would buy them. Pointed toe metal heel can only imagine the fashion possiblities i would style with... 

 

 

On 5/29/2018 at 11:52 AM, Gudulitooo said:

It seems it had to be said.

When he understands Macky will feel much much better.

For many people clothes are not related to sex, they are just the way you protect yourself from the cold wind.

True. Sometimes when one track minded woman stare upon me I get distinct feeling there only interested in my bulge and fit body when wearing revealing outfits. 

My feelings towards the polite nice SA that  visits my gym came off as uncaring or incomplete from her perspective. Lot thoughts roll through my mind when wearing provocative clothing including yoga leggings in public. Although I feel confident wearing them in public or the gym to be exact. Often there is thoughts how woman perceived how I look. Sometimes it’s obvious what woman react upon or comment to others about my revealing style of feminine clothing. While other times woman compare themselves towards me revealing flaunting there bodies. 

Recently a couple were at the gym. Female slender wearing camo leggings only she had plump backside. As I was exercising in provactive backside body position the female was observing me. As I was resting between sets seen her adjust her leggings in the back with her hand making a chopping or cutting position towards her butt crack. Wedging her leggings into her backside so her butt cheeks would spread out more. While I let out a slight chuckle upon her observing her doing it she noticed. She gave me a confused stare as what’s wrong with it. Seeing I had myself a buttock wedgie after my exercise standing in my leggings.  Only difference I found unlike her wedging the leggings in her buttocks contouring cheeks being more pronounced was intentional. My question is why? Only answer is to become more sexual in your appearance. 

Had to admit she looked lovely. Have to confess on rare occasions sometimes I go to the bathroom hiking up my leggings to show off my glutes as well. Only once I hiked my waistband and pulled the Lycra material on my legs up in public. Seen a female give me that yuk! sneering expression. 

While I am exhibitionist in nature. Thoughts of the cute SA at the store didn’t insist on me trying on the leggings I was purchasing. Or ask me to try different styles that I normally seen wearing. Sort of playing dress up, at the store fully aware I enjoy wearing woman’s yoga clothes. In fact long time ago I did that at different store and different SA. While changing into different leggings she asked me how they looked.. Let me finish by saying the SA eyes were focused on my bulge rather then how they looked on my legs.

Here is picture of me months ago. Had on different outfit yesterday which better countours my backside and shape better, being softer pantyhose opaque like fabric. These leggings shown below more thicker and harsher polyester/ nylon flattens me in more not showing off curves like with the experience of the camo leggings wedgie gal. 

Not many understand my feelings about SA. To give you analogy some here might understand.

Those who are married and have older adult kids. Imagine having your cache of sex toys been uncovered by your daughter. Then she admits Dad I know of the toys you and mom use i’ve Seen them. Even the harness for you mom wears....  Gulp....  When the dad tries to think of excuse to deny the harness is used on him. The daughter admits seeing mom wear it time or two. 

Pink jersey for cycling is tradition. Added to the fact everyone is dressed in spandex in the sport isn’t news. When i’m In the gym that kind of works the same, many females are dressed in spandex also. Yet most of not all men don’t wear spandex tights or the way I do. Brings more attention and reactions for me. Some I enjoy very much others I could do without. 

However someone reacts towards me is out of my control. Yet I wear what I enjoy and show off what I got. Some say it’s not a good look, but I believe differently. Like some said to me and to others if I looked like him, what he’s got  I too would walk around like that.