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Good comments! Over here at least, the term transvestite is fallen out of favor. These individuals like myself, just say Transgender Woman (or man on the other side). We can be presenting ourselves as women, male or androgynous, but women we are. It certainly is complicated at times.

I shopped after a business meeting today with the aim of buying some clearance shoes. Got a pair of 41/2 wedges and 5" heeled pair of sandals. Very nice afternoon to shop, both SA's were very pleasant. I was en femme in a woman's suit blazer, pants and blouse but i am sure i would have been treated just as well otherwise.

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I take shorter strides but not tiny steps. I learned long ago to alter my stride and i think its pretty feminine. I lead with the heel and keep in mind the "invisible line" that you place your feet on. This also causes your to swivel your hips. The back should be slightly arched and the shoulders down  Finally, i took some time to learn to relax my stride and not be rigid for me that is a key to a feminine walk as well. 

Love that outfit. I have a soft spot for burgundy, crimson and the like. Love the blouse and pants. I think velvet can go with the satin pants, but to me velvet always says winter. I think velvet and very shiny pants like leather can also work well, because of the high contrast. I think i'd go for more of a twill jacket or even leather/faux leather.

I take shorter strides but not tiny steps. I learned long ago to alter my stride and i think its pretty feminine. I lead with the heel and keep in mind the "invisible line" that you place your feet on. This also causes your to swivel your hips. The back should be slightly arched and the shoulders down  Finally, i took some time to learn to relax my stride and not be rigid for me that is a key to a feminine walk as well.

It looks awesome! Does the shell seem like it will repel water pretty well? We live in one of those "wintry mix" climates. I'm very tempted.

Very well said. Wear what you want and let others do the same

Beautiful trousers. I'm really looking forward to wearing more flared stuff this coming season.

The waist band is actually pretty close to the natural waist for women, so i can see why it is there.

Very cool - like it more everything i look at it.

If Caitlyn identifies as a woman, she is a woman. A real woman has nothing to do with biology. She may not be biologically female, chromosome wise, but she is very real as a woman. I suspect her dress up is only wearing clothes on the outside, that match her identification. Further, though i have not really ever watched the Kardashians or the new Cait show, care for her adult children is demonstrated in everything i've read.  

Why is this so hard for people to come to terms with? I don't get it. You can change your gender as demonstrated by people the world over. 

As to the effect of changing your gender on your loved ones, this is a very personal thing and we really have no idea about people's individual circumstances on this. Many spouses will not accept it later in life and it causes the end of the marriage, some like my own adapted to it and can actually strengthen the union. A lot has to do with the two people involved. There is no magic formula for marriage or any relationships, You work hard at it and do your best to love that person. Love is much more a verb than a noun.

Freestyling is crossdressing but i usually think of it as more subtle.

Gender fluidity is growing and more people are identifying themselves as that. The dress that expresses that is often some form of crossdressing or freestyling. Think about a guy with a beard in a men's leather biker jacket. Diamond studs in his ears, leather skirt, tights and women's leather boots with heels. To me, that is a good picture of presenting for a gender fluid person.

I refer to my wardrobe as women's close but then i am a woman. When i was not sure about in the past, i still referred to them as women's.

It's me!

Awesome! We are growing in number.

I applaud the degenderization of clothing in our culture however it occurs. Personally, i choose to shop on the women's side of the store, but these are super cool. On the inexpensive side of the market - H&M had a men's skirt for awhile, perhaps they will revive that.

I really like the knit sweater dress with boots.

I'm glad things seem to have warmed. Honesty, even in the face of loss and embarrassment is always preferable. It can be very hard. 

The questions about sexual preference, she should be called on though. There is no relationship between that and what we choose to wear. Her mind may have been going to "what else hasn't he told me? is he living some ultra-kinky life? " but still, we all need to understand the difference. It's footwear for crying out loud. If you found a men's t-shirt or a pair of Air-Jordans  in her things,  you momentarily think is she fooling around on me? but you wouldn't assume she is seeing another woman.

Still, It's already getting better and she is showing her love by supporting your keeping of the boots. That is very positive.

hh - like you girl clothes proceeded shoes. For a long time i had only women's jeans/khakis and maybe 1 skirt (this was like 20+ yrs ago). I think somewhere in there the femme clothes sent me in the direction of getting shoes that went with the outfit. I don't recall the exact progression but i was something like that.

Here is examples of recent purchases - 1 at 5.25" 

http://www.zappos.com/steve-madden-jillyy-cognac-leather

Well said Histeletto and all. Funny thing is these "traditionalist" mind set (there is nothing wrong with a lot of tradition, but bear with me) are often being "antibodies" for a system that maintains a power structure that they do not benefit from. Fortunately at least in western societies, things are changing. 

Society is changing and so are the definitions. Women x-dress all the time and never get a second glance. Definitely separating any thought of "straight, gay, lesbian, bi etc." from expression of one's gender is the first thing. Nothing fits into neat little boxes and it was never supposed to. 

Some people really have trouble with this and of course it varies by culture a lot. I was reading a story of a TG woman in Japan, a society that is pretty liberal on many things and very accepting of the transgender spectrum in entertainment and culture, but most of the Japanese folks she spoke to were like...."you must like men" , when she replied she did a bit, but was mainly attracted to women, everyone gave her a puzzled look. 

Life is not simple - i guess now we just have to get to know people

Totally love it! 

In my opinion Feminization acceptance, gender fluidity and a society that simply does not care what people wear can only come when its no longer giggle material or stealth.

To that end, i applaud anyone that brings it too the attention of society which eventually makes it mainstream. The same thing happened with other "lifestyles" (i hate that term). Whether it's TG models, modeling agencies, teens doing shows or even that somewhat cheesy Cait show, as a transgender person i welcome it all.

You should absolutely support your friend in the way you see fit, totally get that. I would too. Let's hope for a future that a choice of person's reasonable footwear is not a distraction 

SF: Very lovely idea - I'd put on a pair of flats. Be the change you want to see

Yay! So cool. Can't wait to have the skirt and their future products.

Fast fashion is not without it's issues but their ability to give you a multitude of styles at a low price is outstanding. Two brands that i have been buying lately include:

Maurce  and American Eagle: