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I recently had a picture taking couple do this in Starbucks. The woman was also chastising the guy lightly for being " juvenile" about it. I did not confront them but looked right at him and his face turned very red. I guess i don't really care where the pic ends up. I just wish grown adults would not act like middle school children.

I'm a big fan of maroon/burgundies I think they look classy and stand out. Copper is good as is dark pink.

I've been getting both manicures and pedicures for over a decade. My nails are medium longish but not too long. I wear a lot of clear and fairly light colors on my fingernails. I'm a bit more freestyle on my toes and lately i have been into various shades of maroon/burgundy.

Went through airports twice this month in high heeled booties. A few double takes and maybe a couple gawkers. I have very little in the way of men's outwear and that includes shoes, anymore. Not having other options is a great motivation

Name: Robbie

Age: 49

Gender: Non-conforming/Transgender, consider myself to be femme

Location: Oregon

Occupation: Business owner

Height: 5'10

Weight: 178

Shoe size: Womens US 9.5-11

What's your favourite heel style:  Platform, (Chunky), Stiletto, Wedge

What's your favourite shoe style: Booties, Shoeties and Sandals

Do you wear heels outside: Nearly every day

What is your favourite heel height: 3-4inches

What is your highest heel height: Currently 5 inches

How often do you wear: Every day

Anything else you wish to add: I'm gender non-conforming and a femme person comfortable in her own skin. My taste in clothes and sometimes footwear goes through cycles. I can feel a wedge cycle coming on

We should all wear what makes us feel comfortable and ourselves. Over the years i have more and more comfortable with that.  Recently i was wearing high heeled oxford type shoeties and cropped jeans on a sunny and mild winter day, decided to stop into a Starbucks and work for a while.

On the way in, this 30ish couple actually laughed very quietly at me and i'm about 80% sure took a picture of me in line. Now this is something i'd expect from a teen but adults? go figure. The lady was later heard to say " you are so bad for posting that" Now again, might not have been me, but pretty sure it was. I don't really see that sort of interaction as negative or producing shame anymore. Like you say, we all need to pave the way for others in all the little ways that we can.

Wore heels to two malls recently - one last week, in heeled Nine West booties and one this week in heeled Franco Sarto booties. Wore with skinny jeans in both instances and in the carried a bag/purse. The first mall is in a VERY conservative area of the country and the 2nd in a VERY liberal area of the country (home). In both instances i received customary looks and double takes, but nothing negative.

In the latter case, i was with my wife and she was wearing heeled boots. We commented on the sound of us both crossing the floor

I've never experienced anything negative from people i know, am friends with or family on the choices of my shoes or clothes. I've had some only very minor public rudeness.

In the cool months which is about 9 of them here in Oregon, I wear a lot of tights. (Mainly with boots). I have some hose, but prefer stockings for the thinner leg wear. I've been getting into thigh high boot socks a lot more too. 

Any moves to make clothes more acceptable for all and gender neutral is a good thing. I hope they succeed. H&M came out with skirts for men i think in 2012, but discontinued them not long after. 

I get more than a few looks, but most are just curious and yeah trying to figure it all out. This week i traveled through two airports wearing, men's leather jacket, a paisley tunic top that came out from under the jacket, skinny jeans and the Nine west booties in the pic below. So many looks, way more than usual. A guy and his wife were whispering and even giggling a bit at the gate. Really don't care- glad i broke up their day

I tend to wear the same things every day. Girl outfit with the Heels, boots, booties, flats, sandals and converses - they are all women's. I have only a few pair of male shoes. So any trip to the mall will find me in one of the former. I was in a mall in booties about 10 days ago, 

I do tend to see more CD's, and/or Transgender people even in the two college cities i frequent and they are not huge cities. In Portland, Oregon i think you see more people still. Perhaps it is a west coast thing? I think most people dress for themselves, regardless of how others process what they are wearing. Do people want to fit in and be appreciated by others?, for sure but you have to do what your are comfortable with and i guess from a TG perspective, at times that means you look like a " guy in a dress " 

These are fairly new Franco Sarto Haverly's - These are my 2nd pair, also have the brown. Not a very high heel but super comfy and go with about everything.

Looking forward to wearing sandals and wedges. Warm weather is generally shorter here than most places.

What if it does feminize you? A feminine male or a transgender choice is no way takes away anything. That is old traditional thinking that thankfully is starting to die out. Masculinity good - femininity bad , Masculinity - Strong, femininity weak. That sort of construct as it pertains to anything from equal pay to clothing deserves to be buried.

Why would i want to be feminine - because that is what my brain tells me i am. 

Those that identify as masculine or mainly masculine can choose femme attire as well, takes nothing away from them whatsoever. 

Are we counting TG people into the " seeing men in heels " category? If we are not and i can understand why (don't call someone presenting as a she, a he please ) we see heels on men a rarity. But TG folks are a growing segment of society and i see them all the time here in the Pacific NW. 

Never faced adversity because of it. 

I have seen a few guys out in heels in our little city. The most recent was at the grocery store last week. She was dressed in girl jeans, a top and heeled booties. I was dressed similar, except for her purse was a bit more girlie than mine. Her hair was also longer. We saw each other and smiled and said hi

 

My only reservation is that all this gender-neutral clothing is predominantly a masculinized reflection of society's stigma towards femininity, so while I'll still be shopping in women's departments, guys who are hoping for pretty styles in larger sizes may well be disappointed.

This is something i've seen a fair amount too when it comes to androgynous clothes, unisex etc. However, i prefer to think that any steps in the right direction are good. I am beginning to see more and more info online about more feminine wear for men.

Love those! Very nice boots

My own dress and skirt wearing has continued to increase over the last decade. In that time, I've become more feminine. There was a time wear i felt totally fine in girl jeans, heels and a top but felt self conscious in a skirt or dress.

I wear sheath dresses, maxis, and wraps. I try to dress my age and not get too high with the hemline and dress in colors that are complimentary. Still, i end up only wearing dresses or skirts a few days a month. I really don't have any good reason for that.

The only way we make change and acceptance is by getting out there. This changes opinions, and this changes reactions. I think about the first women to bare their ankles around 1920. The man baring his chest on the beach etc. These were all seen as weird and shocking at one point.

Here are a couple of my fairly recent purchases. Franco Sarto Agenda and Hilfiger Middlebury "shoeties". Some sites call them boots and other sites call them shoes:

Very cool shoes - I have a couple of pairs of converse. I've been contemplating wedge type athletic shoes this year. The super thick ones look excellent too.

Hello Everyone,

Glad to join your community. I'm a married TG/Gender Fluid person from the pacific northwest. I am pleased to have a supporting spouse and have been wearing heels and women's wear of many types since my late teens, which has been about 30 yrs. My style is definitely femme but sort of gentle a style. My typical casual office wear like today is a blouse or knit top, skinny women's jeans, some cool socks and heels or booties. 

I'm a fairly new bootie/boots/shoetie junkie and have about 15 pairs that I regularly wear. In the warm months which are short here, i tend to go with wedges, wedge sandals and the like, but also all other types of shoes. 

I actually own very little in the way of "male" items. Beginning about a decade ago, one of the ways i forced myself to be brave is to not purchase much in the way of men's clothes or shoes once they wore out. I maintain a couple suits for funerals and the like About 2-3 days a month i will go super girlie and put on a dress and heels and go off to office etc. 

Looking forward to learning more about you all and the interaction.

Robbie