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Had to convert the 12cm to inches so I could get a better understanding of the heel height. Somewhere around 4.75". Usually, my limit is right around 4" for reasonable comfort and good walking ability in my stiletto boots. Sure, I can "walk" in higher heels, but not very well, or for very long, without discomfort. So much depends on the design/engineering of the heel/boot/sole. I am so thrilled to have found some nine west stiletto ankle boots with heels somewhere between the 4.75-5" range that are relatively comfortable. More importantly, I can walk in them fairly confidently with minimal discomfort. Your boots look great, and I surely understand how great it feels to be able to wear/walk confidently in them! Wearing them to work on a day when you would be alone in the office was a smart plan indeed. I find that much of my "timidness" in my various stiletto booties/boots is caused by being concerned about wrecking the heels prematurely while out and about. I have spoiled a few heels on my favorite pairs which was very upsetting. So, I think I tend to "walk gently" in my boots, without even thinking about it, in an attempt to avoid ruining them. I'm thinking this works against progress in the long run though. On a positive note, was wearing my 3.5" block heeled ankle boots in Home Depot yesterday, these boots are great for everyday chores, shopping, etc. Super easy to walk in, without the worry of damaging stiletto heels. Was trying to navigate the damn self check out, god forbid you try to pay with cash! A very nice younger attendant came by to help then complimented my boots. I spent a minute or so chatting with him and thanking him for taking the time to compliment me.

Cali and I agree very strongly that there isn't a reason to wear heels that don't feel good. Having said that, I have two different types of shoes in my collection these days. I have my walking shoes, and I have my church shoes. The walking shoes basically have no time limit. The church shoes, depending on several factors, might only be good for several hours, especially the 12 cm variety. But none of them actually hurt my feet.

Thanks for the shout-out! I also find that height to be challenging, so your story and experience has inspired me to get my act together, so to speak. In a perfect world, I would wear 12 cm stilettos everywhere, but as we are well aware, it is not a perfect world.

Wow! That must have been fun indeed. And very nice boots too. I love the aesthetics of 12cm stilettos. Especially in boots. They are the perfect height for stilettos. Any higher seems to ruins the lines - at least for me - but 12 is truly elegant. Well done for lasting the day. I can’t. My calf muscles seize up in knots when I wear my 12cm stiletto knee boots. I’m sure it’s a matter of practicing. It’s just that whenever I wear heels I always seem to reach for my 8cm block heel boots first. Well done on a day in stilettos! And 12cm to boot (so to speak!)

Some time ago in another thread, the presumedly long discussed and possibly resolved issue of what constitutes a stiletto heel surfaced for yet another round of unnecessary debate and comment. I posted that although I love stilettos, I could not imagine that I would ever wear a pair of such heels out and about, let alone to work/the office. I believe that I had legitimate concerns regarding how appropriate they may be for a professional environment and the possibility of breaking a heel while simply walking from place "a" to place "b." Well, much to my surprise, all of that changed today as I wore a pair of 12cm stiletto ankle boots to the office for the first time. June 19th is a holiday here in the states and I expected that just about "everyone" would take off on the 20th for an extended weekend. Given that I still do not have a substantial amount accumulated time to take away from my job beyond holidays and weekends, taking a day off now would have a direct impact on travel plans for the remainder of the year. Thus, I decided not to do so and head in to the office for the day despite how much I just wanted to stay in bed this morning. As I recognized that very few other people were probably going to head to the building, I started to warm to the idea of wearing a pair of very high stiletto ankle boots to the office for the day. I saw this as a "test" to see how I enjoyed it and determine if there were going to be any "problems" if I did so. I decided to wear a pair of very long trousers as to cover almost all of the heel and a simple top for the day (and yet, is was still houte couture). In sum, the experience of wearing such heels was incredible. As 12cm is the very limit of what I can reasonably handle, it took me some time to get the mechanics of it down so that my cadence was smooth. I had to remember to stand up straight, bend the knees a bit, and walk at a much slower pace so as to take longer strides. Although, I more or less "had it down" by day's end, I think it I still need a bit of polishing/practice. An errand followed the end of the work day on the way home and once I got into my place, my knees were feeling it but everywhere else was fine. Needless to say, I immediately started planning the next time when I will be wearing a pair of similar heels to the office. In all the experience was utterly intoxicating! So yes @mlroseplant you were correct in your prediction that I would eventually be wearing stilettos to the office! A note on the photo - at lunch, I felt the need to get out of the office as reviewing dozens of pages of intricate financial documents can only be fun for so long. I walked over to the small park across the street and sat on a bench for a few minutes to clear my mind. The mere fact that I was out in a place were the world could see me wearing my stilettos is that to which I can find not adequate words to properly describe. For some reason, I continue to have issues of posting photo to the original post....

I decided to get myself a new pair of trainers and return to running as a means of getting/staying fit. And so I went shopping, checking out all the online sports shops and running-shoe shops with their vast ranges of styles. Every time I saw a shoe whose colour I liked - soft pastels or some interesting shade of colour - they were invariably women’s, with sizes running inky up to a UK8, far too small for me. I looked through hundreds of pairs. The mens were always black, dark blue, dark grey or else some hideous neon shade. Nothing subtle, nothing soft, no pastels, no pale blues or violets - not that such shoes were not made, only that they were not made in anything larger than size eight. Such colours or shades are perceived as feminine. It was infuriating. I’m sure I can’t be the only male who wants an expanded colour palette, just as I am sure there are plenty of women who have feet larger than size eight. And at least some of those must wish they could buy heels and/or trainers in nicer, more interesting colours. How nice it woukd be for manufacturers to show a bit of initiative and stir out of their ruts.

Yes, high heels aren't the most comfortable, but I wasn't talking about walking a marathon in them... I was talking about asserting yourself by wearing heels, even for a few minutes.

Ahhh, the price we pay for the green stuff.

For sure, there has to be a balance between fashion and comfort. 7.5hrs is heels is amazing, my feet would hurt after being in Nikes for 7.5hrs.....

EdeeMe assertiveness is really CONFIDENCE. Don't waste your time on heels that are "not very comfortable". If every step is an "ouch" you will look like a clown. I have been standing (and walking) in heels for over 8 hours a day this summer, and my feet are not happy at about 7.5 hours in AND that's in my comfortable heels.

Hello everyone! Looking for reasons to wear heels, I found 4, here's the first: assertiveness: A natural way to assert yourself You dominate the world around you when you're taller in stature, so cheating with a high heel is totally accepted. It can also help you in the professional world, even the master of the art, Christian Louboutin, says so in an article. You choose the height, the color, the shape and the brand, all for a different visual appearance, according to your own choice, to stand out from the ordinary and to show off your mood of the day. Even if it's not very comfortable or practical, it's terribly feminine and you've decided to wear it, so... you wear it! It's your choice, and you've made it. Some feminists cry “scandal” when they see only the uncomfortable aspect, but they should also realize this asset to assert themselves.

I just have received those beauty. So comfortable. I love.

I did not pull the trigger for a few reasons. The ad was not a local ad. Shiiping would have been involved, provided the seller was even willing to ship. I just happened to be searching for something else, and they popped up. Plus, once I found out their price new on Amazon, I realized the seller was asking way too much for hers.

You and the outfit look fine. I like you, try to find new ways to pose. I am not a good picture taker, so I look for any help I can get. I have seen may picture of women with the cross foot pose.

Nice that the conversation could be so matter of fact, not strained.

Jim102, I like you, like to wear black boots. I have many pairs of knee boots and booties. Some leather and some patent leather. Some big block heels and some narrower heels. No stilettos. I only wear them in the winter, spring and fall. Otherwise, I'm wearing pumps or sandals, this time of year of course, with heels. Happy Heeling, bluejay

Nothing was mention about a man wearing heels. Mostly about wearing heels, brands, types, ...

I wouldn’t say you love of high heeled boots is unique - plenty of people like stiletto boots. I’m glad to hear you are giving them another shot and by the sounds of things, enjoying it. I am quite fond of high heeled boots myself, although my collection is fairly modest - about seven pair or so, but very nice ones. At any rate, welcome to the forum

Sounds like an interesting time. Was the talk purely about heels and the challenge of wearing them, or did they offer views on men wearing heels. They obviously were comfortable with talking to you and would seem to be supportive.

Hi everyone. It's me, Prima. I've avoided joining any interwebs groups for decades, but lately I felt the need to reach out to see if there are others that share the same unique love for high stiletto heeled boots as I. It was only a few months ago that I was having a conversation with my cousin after purging my closet that day of items from a past lifetime. I told him that I was sad to see some of my favs from the '90s and early 2000s bagged up for the local donation box. Especially my stiletto heeled boots 😭. Out of curiosity and for nostalgic giggles, he asked to see the bag of clothes and laughed when he saw all the stiletto heels that poked holes through the plastic. I laughed with him and told him that I decided to no longer wear extremely high heels now that I am nearing 50 and avoiding unnecessary health risks, but it was fun while it lasted. We continued to laugh about our past lives which revealed many things that we had in common from classic movies and old animated cartoons. At the end, he convinced me to keep my boots and other outfits for a fun project that he and I could work on as part of our bucket list. But I told him that he had to store my old clothes at his place so that my husband doesn't give me any excuses when it is his turn to purge out all the junk that he is still hanging on to 😜 Fast forward to today, and here we are. High stiletto heeled boots in perilous action! So I am excited to interact with you all and perhaps I can shed a new perspective in this love that we all have for high heels ❤️ Bye for now, Prima

That's so sweet nice! I do not own all the boots above. Just two almost. Rest are what I like the most. Anyway I am so much in love with those heeled boots

Still waiting for the heels show above. I only write in this space when I get new shoes or when some unusual thing happens. The last few days I have been at a statewide convention with 300+ people. I wore three different heels, by Steve Madden mules/wedges, Vince Camuto mules, JS knee highs. I must have had over 20 conversation with women about heels in the last 2.5 days And not the usual 'I can't wear heels" types. Although one woman told me use to wear high heels until she had a baby and her feet swelled. Last night at a 'party', one woman asked me if my feet were sore (she had seen me in heels for at least 14 hours) - "No." Many of these conversations were more than "I just love your shoes", some lasted 20+ minutes and continued during the following days. And I saw a lot of heels as well.

I have many black boots. And other colors boots to. In fact wore my knee high faux suede Jessica Simpson's today over my faux leather pants. Had a talk with a woman this weekend that only wears black high heels. She loved the heels I had on, she only wished they were black. And we both wear size 10.

Boy o boy, they are beautiful! I'm so envious

Hello everyone ! I've been a high-heeled shoe enthusiast for years. As a photographer who loves to showcase feminine beauty, I was sometimes disappointed by the shoes worn by the models who came to the studio. So I bought several pairs of 12cm heels in different sizes to give them something feminine to wear. Then I wondered why some women liked to wear heels and why some men, like me, liked women in heels. I started by watching documentaries on the subject, I read books, I informed myself and then, to share this knowledge, I created a blog. My ex-girlfriend was my photo model, posing in the heels I'd bought. I can't help but look at a woman when she's wearing heels, so I include them in every one of my photo shoots. Later on, I drew a few pairs, just for fun. And now I'm wondering whether I shouldn't embark on the adventure of having them made in Italy, just to see if my tastes are shared. I still have to create a brand, launch a crowdfunding page... I'm not here to promote myself, just to share discussions on that most feminine of accessories: the high-heeled shoe. I'm looking forward to sharing my ideas, thoughts and emotions on 12 cm of happiness !