SwtPam Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 I went out with this really cute guy last weekend for dinner. He's a real gentleman, soft-spoken, respectful, but I'm still a little unsure. There's a park across from the restaurant, and when my date asked if I wanted to take a walk, I said "Okay", even though I was wearing a pair of mules with five-inch spike heels. I don't mind walking in them because the soles are thicker and good-quality leather--soft to my feet but solid to step with. They also cradle my feet nicely. All-in-all not a bad pair of heels for a stroll around the park. But, it wasn't my feet that worried me after we got about half way around the area. We were standing together, looking at a fountain, when this fellow looks down, sees a dark-colored beetle about the size of marble; it was crawling across the cement by our feet. "Would you mind stepping on that?" he asked politely. Without another thought I said, "Oh, okay", put my shoe sole on it, shifted my weight and heard the intruder "crunch" under my step. I don't like bugs and they don't bother me, so I just did it without another thought. But then he said, "I find that SO sexy!" Now, THAT comment did worry me a bit. I've never heard a guy say something like that--it was so sexy when I crushed an insect under my shoe. Several times since this happened, he has told me how beautiful I look in heels--my legs, feet, etc.--and how sensuous it was when I squashed the insect. I'm not so sure about this guy now. What do you think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roz Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 There are lots of shoe related fetishes, and crushing is just one of them. It has been discussed before, there is a topic called "Crushing - I'm trying to understand" which might explain a bit about this fetish, but at the end of the day, that's what it is - a fetish. Personally I don't "get it", same with a lot of fetishes here like having your shoes locked on, but most fetishes (including even just wearing heels) boil down to simple domination. There isn't anything to be worried about. If it is a fetish that you're not comfortable with, explain it to the guy, I'm sure he'll understand. If he doesn't, and you're not interested in crushing things (I wouldn't be, I wouldn't have crushed that beetle for example!) then perhaps he's not the man for you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
audreyk Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 I agree with Roz. It seems harmless enough, although not for organisms of the insectoid variety. But if you're not comfortable with it, I would probably let him know or just move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggnog Posted September 13, 2008 Share Posted September 13, 2008 I don't seem to have much luck with guys, but it I do agree with the last two to post. If you aren't sure how to feel about this, I'd say talk to the guy and then do what will make you comfortable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehighheelsgirl Posted September 13, 2008 Share Posted September 13, 2008 I mean its not really a big deal...a lil weird maybe but not that big a deal...but if ur uncomfortable with it it I'd try to talk to him first....and if that doesn't work ....move on Lots of guys have fetishes, I guess maybe this is a lil more odd, but as long as its not harmful I don't see the big deal (unless ur a bug I guess!) Jen Yes, I do walk in these Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwtPam Posted September 22, 2008 Author Share Posted September 22, 2008 Well Ladies, I decided to stay with him, and we've been having a wonderful time together. He's a real gentleman and treats with with respect--and romance (love it!) Yeh...like some have said, the crush thing really is not a big deal. In fact, I've begun to step on some other things for him--it's just a turn-on, like if he were turned on to my nylons, skirt, panties--and high heels, of course. In fact, I kinda enjoy this crush stuff--gives me a bit of a power rush. I've always enjoyed mild forms of dominance. Like I've said previously, that's part of the reason I wear heels--stand taller, and I like the way my "spikes" press holes and dents into certain things I walk and stand on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeggyNPumps Posted September 22, 2008 Share Posted September 22, 2008 SwtPam, You have gotten a lot of wonderful advice and interestingly you have decided to continue. Maybe you two are meant for each other. I am sure he is nice and romantic <who doesn't want that> and you kinda enjoy it - the crushing stuff. Do you mind a few questions? You have my curiousity peaked. With all that said, I would be thinking about setting strong limits on what you will and will not do. Best of luck, Peggy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwtPam Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 Thanks for the advice: setting limits. Don't we have to do that with lots of things in life--eating, money, work, etc? But, yes, I know what you mean, especially with a fetish. If things get too weird, I'm not that attached to cut things off, believe me. I enjoy being a bit dominant, and crushing something under my high heels adds to the pleasure. But no way am I going to let it go too far. What do you think "too far" would be in this fetish? I've got my opinion, but curious to hear yours. Thanks again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I'm not sure how you could label a bug as an "intruder". I could never bring myself to deliberately crush the life out of any small beast for pleasure. I can't understand that. Neither would I wish to spend my time in the company of someone who did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeggyNPumps Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 SwtPam, Your last response filled in many of the blanks in your story. If you truly enjoy being a bit dominant, then I say go for it, have fun, enjoy. I have just a little experience with this but I drew the line at the requests to use my heels on him, other than the usual carressing of the inner thigh or calf. I wish you well on your adventures. Take care, Peggy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwtPam Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 Yep! I agree. Excess = Defect. And sometimes even a little of something is too much. But insects are insignificant to me. "Sicko" -- Depends on your values. Golden showers and scat are a pleasure to some, but may be "sicko" to me (I can't even stand being in the next stall to some gal whose p--p makes my eyes water, let alone have her do it in my face--now that's "sicko" for me!) "Ya, but you're crushing an insect to death!" True...but they have no significance--I'm not referring to the ecology of plant Earth here. And Animal Rights -- don't freak out! I have limits. This won't lead to dogs and cats. And no "trample" fetishists need call. I'm a BBW and would probably injure or kill any guy I would stand on barefooted, not to mention wearing my spike heels! The only casualty of my spike heels have been wooden flooring and linoleum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmc Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 <moderator mode> Please don't go into specific detail about crushing living creatures -- many members consider this subject to be abhorrent. If one believes life is precious (and we do), how can one condone the violent destruction of life for mere titillation? </moderator mode> Have a happy time! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwtPam Posted September 25, 2008 Author Share Posted September 25, 2008 If one believes life is precious (and we do), how can one condone the violent destruction of life for mere titillation? Sounds good....As long as YOU and anyone else who objects to stepping on bugs, etc., for "mere titillation" is not one of those hypocrites who believes that abortion is a choice for an unwanted pregnancy or an acceptable method of birth control, believing that killing a baby by having its skull crushed and its brains sucked out is fine as long as it's legal. I'm just sooooo dam*ned tired of hearing all these righteous hypocrites defending animal rights but saying it's okay to kill human babies. I'm not saying that YOU do; in don't mean to insinuate this. Unfortunately, there are those who love animals (I do too), but do not treat unborn babies and old people half as well. Okay....I'll put on my white gloves, cross my legs properly, make sure the silver is set by correct table ettiquette, and shut up. At least until I detect more self-righteous hypocricy being spewed out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sendra45 Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Sounds good....As long as YOU and anyone else who objects to stepping on bugs, etc., for "mere titillation" is not one of those hypocrites who believes that abortion is a choice for an unwanted pregnancy or an acceptable method of birth control, believing that killing a baby by having its skull crushed and its brains sucked out is fine as long as it's legal. I'm just sooooo dam*ned tired of hearing all these righteous hypocrites defending animal rights but saying it's okay to kill human babies. I'm not saying that YOU do; in don't mean to insinuate this. Unfortunately, there are those who love animals (I do too), but do not treat unborn babies and old people half as well. Okay....I'll put on my white gloves, cross my legs properly, make sure the silver is set by correct table ettiquette, and shut up. At least until I detect more self-righteous hypocricy being spewed out. ****** Mod Mode****** I dont really care what you are tired of and how you are going to behave. lets just get things straight here. do what you want, but dont post it here. I think that is crystal clear. any problems PM me. Dont post it here. right lets get this thread back on track. The angels have the phonebox. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwtPam Posted September 25, 2008 Author Share Posted September 25, 2008 You are right about one thing--this thread has drifted way off track and it's time to close it. And let me also make it very clear that any negative things I've said about persons are NOT pointed at anyone in this forum. As far as posting goes, I'm not into censorship. Giving an answer to another person's judgement about your behavior or my behavior regarding our use of footwear is, in my humble opinion, appropriate for this forum. For example, if you were a man who likes to dress up in women's clothing, or simply wear women's high heels, and someone says that your behavior is "perverted" and "abnormal", then you have every right to answer. My point in the last post is that I detest hypocrisy. For me the hypocrisy comes in when someone makes a judgement about you, me or another that his or her use of high heels is morally wrong or sexually perverted because they get sexual titillation by stepping on something. I agree that insects should be the limit, but I am not going to put down another since I do not stand on higher moral ground than you or others in this forum. As much as anyone may wish to pretend otherwise by masking it with an aire of sophistication and somekind of intellectual investigation, this is a shoe fetish site, and shoe fetishism often includes pornographic attraction and sexual addiction. If anyone, especially a man, tells me I am morally deficient by what I enjoy doing with my high heels, and then he spends hours on a computer, or acts out his addiction to high heels in ways that deprive his wife or children of his time and affection, then that man is a hypocrite (and I'm not saying that this applies to anyone here). Wives who suffer as victims of husbands with sexual addictions would find the term "hypocrite" too kind and might prefer a term like "slug." I have every right to post on THIS site when someone implies that my use of high heels is not morally correct or mentally disturbed. I will not take moral judgements from any animal rights activist who supports abortion; or any teacher, coach or clergy who is a pedophile; persons who have sexual turn-ons that are considered "strange" or "abnormal" (e.g., men dressing in women's clothing); or sex addicts in denial who act out with shoe fetishism and then tell me MY use of footwear is "wrong." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dancer Girl Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Strange but not scary at least. I wish I had someone to kill all the bugs around here. Sheryl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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